MejiLoyon:
If you stay around egbeda holla me. By the time I fuel you with beer and obow depression go japa.

You think too much. You need to calm down

MejiLoyon:
If you stay around egbeda holla me. By the time I fuel you with beer and obow depression go japa.

You think too much. You need to calm down

JOACHINpedro:
You get hobby at all?

sammysage:
Yeah, mostly reading and jogging.

Juell:
Firstly, I'll recomend you try reaching out to your siblings. You can reach out to your former classmates on Facebook. You'll need to make an effort to make friends especially at this stage of your life. Then going for counseling sessions will really help a great deal.

Onyi22:
You need people like me around you

JOACHINpedro:

Take your jogging to the field. You will in time begin to socialize with guys there

Cold141114:
This is just me in another place......... We can become friends bro but i am still undergraduate

posty56:
what you need is a way to improve yourself confidence, participate in social activities or join a group

sammysage:
My Siblings don't really have my time again...I have tried several times to reconnect. They don't bother to call back. Same thing with my former classmates. They're too busy to reply my messages. I don't really blame them, cos I wasn't close to any of them back then in school. I have been considering counseling for some time now, but I don't really know how to go about it, as the practice isn't really that common in Nigeria.

sammysage:
I can say I have suffered from depression most of my life. And speaking of life, I have never really had one.

I grew up in a strict family background, though from a broken home. I can't really say me being the way I am was the fault of my dad due to the fact that my other siblings turned out well.

I'm very quiet to a fault, don't talk much. Always prefer my own company. I always get jealous and feel bad when I see people around me flowing well with each other. I have tried to make friends to no avail.

I have never had a close friend. Although I have had series of romantic entanglements that never seemed to last more than months. My girlfriends always ends up leaving because they feel i don't love them or want them around. Which is most times not the case, I just have trouble expressing my love to them. I stopped dating for more than 8 years now, I have been single since then. I am 30 years old currently, yet I am still single. I have so far lost the courage to even walk up to a girl or maintain a conversation with a girl online.

I'm really depressed. I am all alone. I have no friends, no love. And no close family ties as I'm not close to my siblings. Nobody calls me or chat with me. I'm all alone.

I have no job, never had a job in fact. Graduated since 2014, yet no job. I always flop at the interview stage not for being incompetent but for the inability to express myself coherently. Speaking with people I don't know tends to make me uncomfortable, tense and twitchy. I really don't know what to do. I have mainly survived on freelance jobs online which really doesn't pay much, but enough for my low key lifestyle.

I am highly depressed and lately thoughts of just ending it all has been entering my mind. I have tried various self helps, but nothing seems to be working.

I really need a life, but I just don't know how to go about getting it. First I need advices. I need a job. I need friends, close friends I can mingle with. Friends willing to call and check up on me. Friends to motivate me when I'm down and depressed. Friends to drag me out of my shell and never give up on me.

I need people around me or else I might just get mowed down by depression and end it all. I know most of you here would say suicide is not the solution, yeah I know that...but sometimes it just feels so easy to just let it all go.

Please come to my rescue, I would really hate to follow that path.

P.S I need a job, where I won't be placed on the hot seat at the interview stage. I don't mind the pay. I just want something doing, something that takes me out of the house everyday. A job that keeps me so busy that I don't have the time to entertain suicidal thoughts. A job that gives me the opportunity to meet and mingle with people and with time help me pull out of my shell.

Please if you can help in any way, directly or through recommendations. It would go a long way. I'm Lagos based.

sammysage:
There isn't really a field around where I stay. I jog on the Express road.

Juell:

You're right about counseling practice in Nigeria. I think it'll be good if you can talk to your pastor, because they also serve as counselors and can help you on tackling the issues from spiritual perspective also.

NairalandSARS:


Social anxiety disorder.
Buy paroxetine 20mg and watch your life change.

sammysage:
I'll welcome your friendship. But to be honest what we both need as friends are people so totally different from us or we stand the risk of bringing each other down.

JOACHINpedro:

Then try and organise a jogging group in your area. It shouldn't be hard sha, just tag along with responsible people that also jog. Check on them whenever you wana go jog. From there you will make jogging buddies that most times end in friendship.

sammysage:
Thanks. Can you suggest a few for me?

Fidelismaria:

sounds like you living
the dream



are you on the spectrum?
I honestly don't have an idea what you're talking about.

SweetCunt97:
Simply join a church like winners but not depressing one like Deeper Life sha

sammysage:
Okay. Thanks. And when I join winners, what next?

posty56:
like choir or fellowship,

SweetCunt97:
You'll socialize, join a department. Their music and prayers will uplift ur spirit. You'll definitely meet people there