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simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.


Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

Openbusiness:
Oga listen to wise and mature advises here and learn. See let me tell you, you're not weak, you are toooo weak and that's why the 2 of them can boldly conspire to do that thrash an take your kids and leave. How you handle this matter now will determine whether such a thing will repeat itself continuously. Don't ever beg anybody or your wife family. Dem don see you finish. Women need strong hand, they need a man that can put his foot on the ground and show them say he get craze for head if you try rubbish. Just go and report to the police anti-kidnappjng unit, that you left for work and when you came back your wife and her mother have kidnapped your children, want to go and use them for rituals, and let the hardened police go after them, and deal with them, then let them charge them to court, in the middle of the crisis, they will have sense by force when they are detained and go through shit in the police station. After dey don show Dem pepper for station, then at last minute withdraw the case, because na Dem go they beg you at that time to let una settle. I can bet it with you, that will be the last time anybody among them will try that rubbish with you and carry your children to unknown place and run. See your children are girls, that's how very soon your wife and her mother will program their mind to hate you and poison their hearts against you, and condition their thinking to see daddy is only useful as an ATM machine they can extort and dump. I pity 6ou, you have allowed a lot of weakness to grow on you too long and that's why your wife can be treating you like shit after all the sacrifice and good you have done. You better correct yourself now or else las las, na those 2 women go conspire to kill you and inherit your shit for themselves. My baby mama wanted to try such rubbish one time, that she will carry my children and go, told her point blank, see you can go wherever da fxck u wanna go, I don't give a sheet, but my children stays and ain't going nowhere. If you try to sneak my children and run when I'm not around, forgerrit, unless you run out of this country, I will find you and beat you into hell fire, I'm ready to go to jail because of it. I don't joke with my sons. One bastard girl will now say she wan carry dem run, hmmm, she can never try it no matter how angry she is, because na her obituary be that. When her family was misbehaving, I told dem to fxck off, do dey think am a weak man that a woman will be controlling? I told dem if dey try rubbish with me, I no dey hide my own, I go find dem go their family house and give dem d trouble dey are looking for, give dem so hoooot, they will buuuuurn . Since dat time, d family sef dey behave their selves, dey caution d girl say dis ur guy get craze for head o, abeg no dey follow am drag before he go break ur head. See, you have to let a woman know your do's and don't. If she cross the line, punish her immediately, no time for pity party. If you show weakness in how you handle this matter now, i can bet you from now on, maybe every 2 or 3 months, any small matter, you will be coming home to see that your children have disappeared again and they will teach them to grow up hating you. Wake up! And be a real man

Righteousness89:
Make a police Report!
Also inform Family elders...

After that Calm down and use this time to seek GOD'S Face on your family....

Something is wrong somewhere!

I Believe the Greatest solution is the one that GOD gives..

Use this period to knock on Heaven gate for your Family Matters..

Personal Times as these produce results!

I Pray For you that GOD Almighty have Mercy on your Home and restore the Love and Joy that in your Home in JESUS Name.... Amen

coputa:
marriage is not all about mill and boom,reading books,it,s a school you go through successfully with :wisdom,courage and perserverance.

Openbusiness:
OP you are very funny oh, so because someone accused you of cheating, and even sef, if you actually cheated, nobody has the rights to take your children and run. That's the height of weakness, where a woman has so much confidence she pulls a crazy stunt like that without fear because she already knows how mentally weak a man you are, and you ain't gonna do shit about it. No bloody woman can try that rubbish with me. I had older sisters when growing up, so I understand women well, but I had elder brothers too and thank God my first born was a no nonsense guy, so I learned a lot from him how you respond to a woman fxck up. The guy no dey waste time, omo, if ma sisters do anyhow, na correct beating straight, he no dey waste time, he go don beat dem well well before my mama and papa come to d rescue. Sometimes if na only 4 secs sef, d beating go enta before ma mama take 6 steps reach there. You don't tolerate shit from women or else they will make it a habit. None of my sisters could misbehave while we were growing up, not because of my mom or dad but because of my firstborn, the guy no give dem chance at all. Come back home late, omo if he hear, na better slaps go follow, slaps wey heavy, wey if he land for face na for ground d girl dey go. Mom would step in to protect but she always used my firstborn as a discipline weapon, she go tell dem, if you misbehave I will call your brother for you. Omo everybody go arrange demselves. Cuz d guy doesn't fxck around. If he handle u, 1 week ur body go feel am. Popc sef no dey even worry again, cuz my firstborn was up to the task of discipline in our house. So me too I was always a no nonsense guy when I grew. Even my sisters, they know my do's and don't. Don't ever try to slap me, no matter how angry you are, cuz if you slap me I will slap you back 10 times. If you angry, just insult me all d crazy insults u can think of, no problem, I won't cross d line or react to you more than words, but if you try rubbish and wanna go physical, omo forget say u old pass me oh, so far u be woman, just respect urself or else I will treat ur fxck up live and direct. I was raised to respect woman, so I won't go beyond my boundary to be trying to disrespect women any how or look for their trouble anyhow. I won't do such. But I was also raised that you got to put a woman in her place, cuz everytime she will always be trying to cross the line and do what she not supposed to do. The only woman dat can try any rubbish with me and get away with it is my mother. Anything she do, I go just take am like dat cuz she is my mother and I know the hell she went through to ensure her children didn't suffer. So she has a free pass forever. No matter what she does, I can only forgive and move on, and continue to love her. But no other woman has that privilege. So don't come around me acting crazy and think there won't be consequences. Taking my children and run is the height of crazy. I will fxck u up big time

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

golddare:
Always read before you response, where did you see mill&booms ? Did you even read @righteousness89 comments that I advised he should follow? So you mean books on marriages are not irrelevant?. Always read and assimilate before you throw banter.

Openbusiness:
For all the men out there, LISTEN and LEARN. Matters like this is why YOU SHOULD NEVER DO A COURT WEDDING. Do church or traditional but never do a court wedding. A court wedding gives the woman the upper hand in legal ligitation if matters like this arise. The court system is programmed to favor the woman. But if you didn't sign any court papers, then you have the upper hand. So all that Ikoyi registry trips society keeps pushing men to go and put pen on paper, guy you are signing away your rights and advantages. Don't do it! You are putting yourself in legal chains at the benefit of the woman. A court wedding is a NO-NO. But only wise men will understand. The society has been programmed over the years to keep men foolish. Women have used their bottom power to manipulate the system in their favor, so you have to wake up and avoid the loopholes like court wedding that will keep you enslaved. Check am well, who usually pushes for court wedding? The woman. Because when you sign those court papers, you just transferred a lot of legal powers into her hands that she can fxkp u up with anytime. Na una Sabi oh, if u like go and do court wedding.

Openbusiness:
For all the mentally weak men out there, that your wife or baby mama will be using sex as a weapon against you whenever they are angry or feel like. When a woman sees sex as a weapon and sees sex starving you as a punishment, then it clearly shows she sees you as a weak man. Let me tell you, if a woman uses sex as weapon against you don't hide your feelings or thoughts, if she denies you sex, just tell her point blank you will get the sex with another woman, don't even tell her you will go outside and get it, tell her to her face you you bring the girl home and fxck her in her presence. Her brain will re-format and she will start behaving herself. But this will only work if she knows and see you as a strong man that always keep his words, that always do what he says sharp sharp. You start losing value in the eyes of a woman when your words don't mean anything to her again, when she sees your words as mere bluffing that you can't do anything. when a woman starts seeing you as a man that doesn't do what he says, then your words stop to carry weight and she sees you as a weak man. Be a man that when you speak, your words will be ringing in her head that my guy means business, he doesn't joke around with what he says, if he says he will fxck me up he will do it, so let me behave myself. She will never use sex as punishment against you again. Cuz you have show her the equation, and she go reason am say na she go lose by the time you start bringing different girls home. Her eyes go clear, she will behave herself and treat you with respect. Never forgo your respect for any puci, never ever!

XXXXTENTACION:
Nothing is more important than family. We don't give up on family even though they make mistakes. Brace yourself up find a way to bring her back home with your kids.




after all marriage and tolerance is like 5 and 6.

Martinez39s:
Lol. Don't flatter yourself. I didn't just have the strength to argue.

BABANGBALI:
correct talk from a correct guy. The guy to soft like akamu jare. I'm even suspecting that he might not be the biological father of those children. I ate soft guys. Vickyrotex abi kini mo wi?

VickyRotex:
Are you a carnivore

coputa [b:
post=91015885]What you read about marriages in books(other people experiences and fiction) are never applicable in real life situations,[/b]I did'nt throw banters.

BABANGBALI:
Abeg leaf me jo

Stephenomozzy:
Marriages don't end just because one of the people talks to a third party (People will usually talk to others for different reasons, miscommunication/misunderstands, among others.

Marriages don't end just because a wife complains to her mother

It's not forming love; It's being matured and making efforts to clarify issues. If after all your effort she is still bent on staying away. Then you're justified in whatever action you choose to take

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

Arewa1408:
If i were you, i will start looking for a second wife and send her a message that if she doesn't tell me the whereabouts of the kids, i will report to the Police straight up. However, please get yourself another wife quickly. There is no way she will come back to the same house, she will be coming in as a co wife if it's me. However, this is your side of the story. You know in your heart if there are other things ure not telling. I am only judging from your own narration.

Ohemababy:
Really. If the kids are just 2years old and a one month old she should leave them with the father?

Obynolee:
I may be talking to a single guy anyway

Stephenomozzy:
Why do you all have this notion that single guys can't possibly know anything about marriage?