Danielhouston:


There’s no way I’ll talk about life in Germany and not talk about the gay people. They are a huge part of Western society and they are visible. People can choose to ignore that topic but anyone coming into Germany should be aware that gay people are prominent here and they are very visible. They love openly and have rights.

I am also aware that there are gay people reading my thread and I’m happy about it. That is why I try to provide them with information as well, including Asylum information. I believe in equality and everybody must be carried along. Whether or not it offends other people, I don’t care. I will keep talking about them when I need to.

I also don’t care if anyone has suspicions about my sexuality. I am a hetero man and I’m sure of myself. I have a lot of gay friends and nothing has changed. I used to be homophobic when I was in Nigeria but living in Germany has changed that conditioning. I have become more loving and accepting of everyone. I have also learned to live and let live. This month I will be attending gay pride with my friends, to support them. There is no room for hate here.

Whether anyone likes it or not, gay people are here. They are your boss at work, your doctor when you’re sick, the guy at the bar, the waiter in your favorite restaurant, the visa officer at the Foreigners office, your professor, your lawyer when you’re in trouble. You cannot avoid them.
You can hate all you want and that hate will eat you up. If you attack them, you go to prison.

So yeah, I will not stop talking about them on this thread whenever necessary. All humans should be treated with equal dignity, regardless of their sexual orientation.

You be correct man.
I discovered something, many homophobic people suddenly drop their homophobia once they step abroad. Meaning that no one is born homophobic, we learnt to be homophobic from our religious and cultural believes.

Danielhouston:


I believe this. There a lot of gay escorts who are straight and do it for the money. Some of them got introduced into it. They are not romantically attracted to men and they have girlfriends. They just engage in sexual activity with other men, get paid and move on. They treat it like a job. A lot of them are Nigerians and they will never tell you.

I don’t judge, I just advice them to be careful with their health. What I don’t like though, is when they have girlfriends or wives. If you want to have sex with men, live your life, but don’t put your bullshit on any woman. It is wrong to deceive a woman who loves you. I hate that. Some of them have infected innocent women with HIV.

I know 2 people that do the escort work abroad. One is gay and always visit Germany, he's even married to a German man and the other one is straigh, but does gay for pay on the coded level.
They making mad money.

frankmoney:
you are doing a great job man keep it up . I have a question , what's the chances of someone with a PhD getting a job in germany i.e if the PhD is done in Germany ? Also chances of becoming a lecturer in an English speaking University in germany ?

Thanks

I believe I’ve answered this question before. You can get a job with a PhD of course, even if the PhD wasn’t done in Germany. About becoming a lecturer, you can become anything you want. I’ve never seen a black lecturer here but that doesn’t mean there aren’t. To be an employed lecturer, you’d have to be able to speak German, even if you’ll be teaching in English. Except you want to be a visiting lecturer.

vhuqnl:

I know 2 people that do the escort work abroad. One is gay and always visit Germany, he's even married to a German man and the other one is straigh, but does gay for pay on the coded level.
They making mad money.

That marriage is another thing I was going to talk about. A lot of straight guys are married to gay men here. They do it to get a passport. Some gay guys who are German citizens, agree to marry their straight friends to help him get a passport. They don’t have sex with them or want anything from them. They just do it out of kindness.

Even if you’re married to a gay man, you get the same rights as everyone else. The procedures for obtaining a passport are the same. There is no indication on your residence permit or passport that you’re married to a man or woman. Nobody will ever know who you’re married to, unless you tell them.

The government does occasional checks at your residence to know if the marriage is real. They check for personal belongings like clothes, toothbrush, pictures together, just anything that indicates you live together. Sometimes they don’t check.

There are a lot of older German gay men here, looking for desperate African guys to marry. I don’t feel sorry for them because I see it as a business deal. They take advantage of desperate Africans who are in need and in return, the Africans get a passport.
Some of them start crying “he doesn’t love me, he’s using me...blah blah blah” mutherfvcker what did you expect? He’s not gay and you went to attract him with a passport. Of course he’s giving you sex and in return you’re giving him a passport.
That is one way many escorts have gotten valid residence in Germany.

dualprince0280:


brotherly, u are a Superman. I was just enjoying ur write-ups right from d start,decided not to comment,not until u start d relationship sections. Sir,pls,elaborate how a responsible naija man, gets serious German lady for love n marriage. as body no b firewood. kind regards.

I don’t know what you consider “responsible”, but if you mean independent, you can get a wife by looking for them like everyone else. You definitely won’t find your dream wife in the club here, if a happy marriage is what you’re after. This is not Nigeria where the girl can change. A club girl is a club girl and that’s what she’ll always be, even after marriage. Women here do what they want to do.

One way I’ve seen a lot of guys do it, is in the church. The thing is, when white people believe in something, they go hard for it. Any white girl you meet in the church, she’s there for Jesus and she takes it seriously. I know lots of Africans brothers who found their wife in the church and they’re still married, with kids.

However, just because you find her in the church does not mean she’s stupid. If you’re fake, she’ll know. If she can’t trust you, she won’t marry you. She’s still as German as possible. If you break her heart, she will drop that bible and deal with you. Even if they’re deporting you, she won’t beg for you. So try to be genuine with your intentions.

You can also meet them at school while studying. They don’t have to be Germans. There are many nationalities in Germany and if marriage is your goal, it shouldn’t matter where they’re from. Just don’t tell them you’re looking for marriage. That will scare them off.
Just find a girl you like, get into a relationship and never talk about marriage. After some time, you can bring it up. Also accept her decision. She may need time to change her mind.

Girls here are not marriage oriented. They just want to fall in love and go with the flow. If you’re desperate, they will see it and run away. When they fall in love with you, nothing can discourage them. Not even family members or friends. They’re ready to cut off the whole world to be with you.

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I don’t know what you consider “responsible”, but if you mean independent, you can get a wife by looking for them like everyone else. You definitely won’t find your dream wife in the club here, if a happy marriage is what you’re after. This is not Nigeria where the girl can change. A club girl is a club girl and that’s what she’ll always be, even after marriage. Women here do what they want to do.

One way I’ve seen a lot of guys do it, is in the church. The thing is, when white people believe in something, they go hard for it. Any white girl you meet in the church, she’s there for Jesus and she takes it seriously. I know lots of Africans brothers who found their wife in the church and they’re still married, with kids.

However, just because you find her in the church does not mean she’s stupid. If you’re fake, she’ll know. If she can’t trust you, she won’t marry you. She’s still as German as possible. If you break her heart, she will drop that bible and deal with you. Even if they’re deporting you, she won’t beg for you. So try to be genuine with your intentions.

You can also meet them at school while studying. They don’t have to be Germans. There are many nationalities in Germany and if marriage is your goal, it shouldn’t matter where they’re from. Just don’t tell them you’re looking for marriage. That will scare them off.
Just find a girl you like, get into a relationship and never talk about marriage. After some time, you can bring it up. Also accept her decision. She may need time to change her mind.

Girls here are not marriage oriented. They just want to fall in love and go with the flow. If you’re desperate, they will see it and run away. When they fall in love with you, nothing can discourage them. Not even family members or friends. They’re ready to cut off the whole world to be with you.
very comprehensive, tthanks

Buh like seriously, let's learn how to mind our business .

If anyone is gay/escort how is it affecting you. A theif judging an escort, a fraudster judging a gay

vhuqnl:

Choke on your opinions, they are worthless.
Na hell you go still end, so stfu. You sanctimonious holier than thou.

Relax bro. People have always had different opinions about prostitution and as much we should not judge people for what they choose to do with their body, we should accept that those choices come with some backlash.

Also, not everyone will accept gay people. Some parents don’t want their kids to be gay and it is what it is. Even as accepting as Germany is, there are Germans who don’t like gay people. Infact, as a gay man in Germany, you are more likely to be attacked by an European and Arab, than an African. If you think Nigerians are homophobic, wait till you meet African Americans.

We should continue to educate and show love. If you’re an ally of the gay community, continue to show love and promote safe spaces for them to be themselves. Religion is a part of people’s lives and we cannot force them to accept homosexuality. The laws are not there to force everyone to accept gay people. Laws are made to ensure that gay people are protected and treated equally. All opinions are welcome, as long as it is not hateful.

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Danielhouston:


Relax bro. People have always had different opinions about prostitution and as much we should not judge people for what they choose to do with their body, we should accept that those choices come with some backlash.

Also, not everyone will accept gay people. Some parents don’t want their kids to be gay and it is what it is. Even as accepting as Germany is, there are Germans who don’t like gay people. Infact, as a gay man in Germany, you are more likely to be attacked by an European and Arab, than an African. If you think Nigerians are homophobic, wait till you meet African Americans.

We should continue to educate and show love. If you’re an ally of the gay community, continue to show love and promote safe spaces for them to be themselves. Religion is a part of people’s lives and we cannot force them to accept homosexuality. The laws are not there to force everyone to accept gay people. Laws are made to ensure that gay people are protected and treated equally. All opinions are welcome, as long as it is not hateful.

He's a bully and an homophobic one at that. By my upbringing, we don't tolerate physical bullies, how much more a cyber bully.
Why will he quote me and be judgmental about my post? He (leo2sexy) should roll his opinion, get KY jelly and rub it on, spread his legs wide enough and shove it deep down his homophobic axxx. I care less.
No offiencees

Zeinymira:


And you think your smelly opinion/thought counts?
Na you go tell me where to raise my kids or what to do for them?

Mtcheeeew. Whatever that's getting you angry can be fixed by licking sugar, so you don't have to be bitter and be running around with words you hardly comprehend.
P.S: I will not reply your next mention. I don't want to derail this beautiful thread.

......and I am still worried about the impact of such society on children. You can burst that vein now

vhuqnl:

He's a bully and an homophobic one at that. By my upbringing, we don't tolerate physical bullies, how much more a cyber bully.
Why will he quote me and be judgmental about my post? He (leo2sexy) should roll his opinion, get KY jelly and rub it on, spread his legs wide enough and shove it deep down his homophobic axxx. I care less.
No offiencees

Nigerians can talk sha. I don laugh tire. The way they come up with words eh...

UrFears:
Buh like seriously, let's learn how to mind our business .

If anyone is gay/escort how is it affecting you. A theif judging an escort, a fraudster judging a gay

Na u go mind dem. Falz talk am, everybody be fuxking hypocrites. Hell fire candidates judging fellow hell roomate. Kikikikikiki
Nobody should quote me again else, na to call oga banner to ban all of us. I choputas not!

the last time I posted here, it was hidden. Things got a bit rough and I will like to be careful this time.
We can't all pretend that being gay, bi, vegan attitudes or the lifestyle in Berlin is normal.
This people doesn't look normal to me, it's a society of dysfunctional families and also the bad effects of civilization and as a student of psychology I understand the impact of this on people's behavior and lives (people getting married to animals....it's CRAZY).
Guess, craziness is part of the ingredients of life.
I am accepting of all cultures, I choose the ones that favor me and what I believe in. At the same time, I let people enjoy their lifestyle choices as far it's not affecting my own life. vhuqnl, you can't impose your views on others. Let them be, not everyone must like you cos you're gay or not.

Danielhousten I must commend you for the beautiful work you're doing here, your writing is so detailed and interesting as I can literally imagine and picture myself in various locations, scenarios, and engaging in various activities that you've elaborated on so far in Germany and I must say kudos.
I wish some other people can come up with topics as detailed as this about countries like Canada, Australia, uk, USA, e.t.c

Ladies and gentlemen ( and those in-between)

I know Nigerians are blessed with quarreling and anything associated with it

you guys MUST NOT reply every mentions...it's not among the 10 commandments.

Say your point and that's it... No need forming senior advocate for nairaland.

Back to the thread...

Danielhouston you are a gifted writer... Maybe you should try writing a book about your experience in Germany... It may be a best selling.

I would love if you could write a bit on the political structure in Germany (that's if you have any idea on it)

I really want to know what's fueling there socialist economy.

Thanks.