Isokoboy:
What i feel you should also add... Is your qualifications...some of us may not be financial buoyant... But could help with job ..if will come across some

Iam a graduate of sociology. I was sewven Hoping I could get a teaching job to sustain me and my family

GboyegaD:


I wish we all understand the bolded. One shouldn't bother about whoever that doesn't want one's choice(s).

it's hard not to bother when one's life literally revolves round ones family. Family is meant to help each other out and I have tried to prove it to them all to no avail

SweetCunt97:
The families are all on a "I told you so" mode. Was really bad going against family, love is sweet and all but family support is also important.@Op will be best you drop ur location, qualification and perhaps account number.

BA Sociology
Kwara state

214 662 5372 U B A olamilekan

NerdyRudeGyal:
Idk what you should do but I hope you figure it out. I wish you good luck.

Amen

hakeemhakeem:
Bro I really fell your pain don't mind the caretaker talk to the landlord nobody can throws you out like that

it was the landlord that gave me 3 months grace although with the right calculation I have exceeded my rent with 4 months

Mineisgrace:
I feel for you. I have been in a situation before. When your parents don't consent to your Union, don't go ahead no matter how in love you might be

I am starting to regret it and think alot that isn't supposed to be thought about.

jesmond3945:
Op you made the right choice. Don't ever allow your family to guilt trip you. Your wife's behaviour is normal, there is a baby to feed. Your familyThis is emergency bro. Launch out and hustle and God would see you through.

I mentioned it in my post that I stay out late just to avoid unnecessary fights. No man wants to willingly stay outside late at night.
I have been trying to save to start a business.going to Kano to buy grains and bringing it down her to sell but as a family man it's hard to raise a capital and still feed your kid and wife. I figured being self employed is a more stable job thank working as a contract staff that can be layed off any moment

Hmmmmmm this lif I wish I could help. Different people different problems

TheOtherRoom:
I mentioned it in my post that I stay out late just to avoid unnecessary fights. No man wants to willingly stay outside late at night.
I have been trying to save to start a business.going to Kano to buy grains and bringing it down her to sell but as a family man it's hard to raise a capital and still feed your kid and wife. I figured being self employed is a more stable job thank working as a contract staff that can be layed off any moment

I was also looking for a means to start this business.its the most profitable. Try and look for a way to start t this. It's the only business that can never collapse sofar your shop was not buggled or burnt. I am also looking for a helper to assist me even if I will be paying back little by little

TheOtherRoom:
she has not left my house she has started misbehaving to me. What now happens if she goes home with my child?

Have you heard of FIVER?

Your family deserting you may have affected your self esteem to get money. Stop thinking about them.

You came alone and will leave alone.

As for your wife's rudeness it is only an effect- treat the cause which is your finance.

Also you did not do your wife a favour marrying her without parental consent she did too..... so!

Do everything legal to get money o so you donot lose your wife and kids.

Go to business section and see what skills you can gather

I don't understand why you guys always run to nairaland whenever you think you needed money. When things were rosy,we didn't see you. Also what happened to your family members, siblings,friends and acquaintances on your contacts? None of them could help you raise that peanut? But it's nairalanders that should give you their hard earned money cos?
I don't care of what you said is true or not,stop begging on the internet,it's a scam itself. Live with what you have,or sell your shoes or clothes or jewelry or TV or whatever. Either go to your family members or friends or don't beg on nairaland.
All begging posts should be deleted and the posters banned,rubbish.

Since then, my wife's mother used to support us even though her family isn't that bouyant. My own family has at no time even risen to help me in any way. I am being treated like an outcast.

I commend your wife’s mom for helping you guys. God bless her

This one just had to throw his wife under the bus because he wants to beg.

TheOtherRoom:
Iam a graduate of sociology. I was sewven Hoping I could get a teaching job to sustain me and my family

coming from a home that once passed through your stage,I can see my dad's experience in your post. The landlord insisted we leave even after offering half pay. I was very Young then but I could see the anguish in my mother. Although it's more than 25years now the memories is still fresh. I pray you find more help than you are looking for.

teaching job? That's like jumping from frying pan to fire. Sticck to starting a business instead.

BLUELemon:
I was also looking for a means to start this business.its the most profitable. Try and look for a way to start t this. It's the only business that can never collapse sofar your shop was not buggled or burnt. I am also looking for a helper to assist me even if I will be paying back little by little

Nairaland chief begger. I didn't know you are this wise

In the name of whoever you serve, go back to your parents and apologize. If you have to go there with your wife and your child, please do. You don't have a marriage until you and your spouse make peace with your parents. This shouldn't stop her from going back to her father's house until you have a place to call your home and a sustainable source of income. Only you can rewrite your story.

TheOtherRoom:
she has not left my house she has started misbehaving to me. What now happens if she goes home with my child?

What about her? What does she do?

TheOtherRoom:
BA Sociology
Kwara state

214 662 5372 U B A olamilekan

You live in Ilorin? I hope you're not a pastor's son and hope your wife is not a daughter to one of these strong Ilorin Imams/Alfa's with 7 feet beards? If this is the case, then be prepared to live and survive independent of your parents. Both parents may never forgive you. Ilorin is not Lagos or Los Angeles. There are no liberal parents there.

TheOtherRoom:
she has not left my house she has started misbehaving to me. What now happens if she goes home with my child?

Is she a full time house wife?

TheOtherRoom:
Iam a graduate of sociology. I was sewven Hoping I could get a teaching job to sustain me and my family

Can you drive?

@op. the foundation was shaky from the beginning. you took her in when you were not ready just because you impregnated her. you didn't make peace with those that could rescue you just because luv got into your head. if indeed you want to swallow your pride, instead of seeking for help here, let the lady and your innocent child go to her parent while you hustle, then you send her stipends pending the time you gets your shit together. by so doing, the burden on you would be less. right now, you need someone to back you, don't back someone else(yoruba proverb).

Acidosis:


You live in Ilorin? I hope you're not a pastor's son and hope your wife is not a daughter to one of these strong Ilorin Imams/Alfa's with 7 feet beards? If this is the case, then be prepared to live and survive independent of your parents. Both parents may never forgive you. Ilorin is not Lagos or Los Angeles. There are no liberal parents there.

hahahha at 7ft beard but truly. the guy is in for it. This could only explain why both sides have abandoned them.

Hmm, let's your wife stay with her mum, and look for job. Though you might lose your wife to someone else but you have no choice unless your parents allow her to stay with them.
Note:: Do not ask for money, ask for job, if you're given money today, will they be giving you every day. There are alot of people that can get you employed here, but asking for money could be a big turn off for them.
Update your post with your qualification.

Mariangeles:


What about her? What does she do?

cc ishilove she is an ND holder. Not yet working she's learning fashion designing

Ishilove:

Can you drive?

no but I am a fast learner.

TheOtherRoom:
no but I am a fast learner.

Okay, although the position requires an experienced driver. If i see any other position I will be sure to let you know.

Ishilove:

Okay, although the position requires an experienced driver. If i see any other position I will be sure to let you know.

thank you for the effort.i really appreciate

Now I understand because your present ordeal started from what happened in the other room. This is why I encourage young men to close the other room,lock it with keys until you are fully ready to open it.
May you get the help you need mrtheotherroom

I'm sorry i still have to refer to the beginning in my response. Its not really for you, but for those about making the same mistake. Some of us have been there, done that. So, the wokeness flying around don't move some of us.

You got it wrong right from the beginning...
1. You dated someone you were certain you would have problems marrying. Never date anyone you can't marry. Anything can happen with that fling. Some errors could take few mins, hours, days or months to rectify, others, take forever.

2. You impregnated her. Life is about choices. Pregnancy didn't just miraculously happen. You both worked hard at it, and you got it. Refer to advice in (1).

3. When you get married, (contrary to the woke generation), you're not only marrying your spouse, you're marrying the family. Marriage isn't a drive through. It should be a life time contract. Thank goodness for divorce, as it comes to the rescue for mistaken marriages - nevertheless, the scars remain, most times. So, your problem has always been there from the get go, it only became obvious, when you lost your job. Like Acidiosis advised, go back to your family.

4. I repeat, marriage is not a joke. Young folks, sex is not a joke. There are repercussions for your careless actions, and it could be lifetime. Be careful out there!!!

FirefliesSun:
Nairaland chief begger. I didn't know you are this wise

I don't like the way you people are calling me beggar. If I was rich will I beg?? Think about it. It's on fair. Please help me if you can. Sterling Bank 0 07 20 53 91 0

BLUELemon:
I don't like the way you people are calling me beggar. If I was rich will I beg?? Think about it. It's on fair. Please help me if you can. Sterling Bank 0 07 20 53 91 0

Seriously, I just had to comment.
This is someone else's post. Don't derail the thread. You are always on other people's post begging.
Why don't you open your own thread.
For how long do you want to continue begging?
I think you need to get something doing no matter how small. it will really help you.
Nobody is insulting you.

As you make your bed, so you will lie on it. Send her to her parents. Go and stay in your family house and hustle first.