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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by shadrach77: 8:02am On Aug 11, 2020

rasheedatt:
I am freaking out about this, My boss asked me out on a date which I think is innapropriate but I love my job and i was looking for a loooong time before i found it so I will be damned if i give up.

I was very kind and told him there is zero interest here so i wouldnt want to waste his time. He told me I should quit the job or accept him and he will increase my salary.

I told him to give me a week to think about it.

What should I do?

The bitter truth is that you should quit the job cause it's a loose-loose situation. If you say yes he will eventually sack you if you have a boyfriend or when he gets tired of you

Then his wife will eventually get to know cause nothing is hidden under the sun and some women can be very possessive so you don't want to risk your life just to satisfy your boss.

Then he may just be threatening you just to see what your reaction will be but if he doesn't recall you after the sack, God who has seen that you made the right decision will reward you with a better job

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Bossman25(m): 8:11am On Aug 11, 2020

I shock wahlai.....
See comment!......
There you have it........

bigcee:

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Cousin9999: 8:12am On Aug 11, 2020

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by magicminister: 8:20am On Aug 11, 2020

Wolgrace:
You forgot both are not co-workers, so the boss' suppose threat to make her lose her job is not as the same as to make her suffer.

Since the world don't revolve around him, he can't stop her getting job else where. So, she is at her liberty to walk out willingly.. People quits or changes job liberally and willingly for many reasons, even this type of case inclusively.. So, she should not manipulate and abuse the liberty she has without using excuse and sympathy cards..

-Ask, what's her own decision? It's about her, not the tempter..

Well, with due respect, i can't really reason with you looking at the fact that your way of thinking is just appalling and backwards!
Since you are comfortable with women getting sexually harassed at work under the threat of job loss, i wish the same on you. You will be sexually harassed by someone more powerful than you! They will hold your means of livelihood over your head until they poke their dick in your anusss..... Then you can tell us your decision! Will you go into the teeming unemployment market where you are not guaranteed a job till you die or will you just get a lube and shine up that assssshole for some penetration!!

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by magicminister: 8:24am On Aug 11, 2020

Zzor:
Stand your ground and quit if he insists,God will not leave without a better offer.These men and their randiness everywhere

They really know who they try it with!
My younger sister was sexually harassed by her lecturer back then.
Kept pestering the 17 year old girl for sex and actually made her fail her class twice.

Ended up going to school and connecting with my guys and lets just say, the lecturer is still unemployed right now.
The one time we crossed paths, he literally crossed to the other side of the street out of fear.

and then i was poor oh! Imagine what i would do if it was now!

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Abbeylanre15(m): 8:27am On Aug 11, 2020

hitekk:
hmm. tell him that all the people you dated in the past died mysteriously and since then you decided not to date any guy again to avoid losing him.

I will still sack her if I'm the boss. I don't want ogbanje in my office

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:29am On Aug 11, 2020

magicminister:
They really know who they try it with!
My younger sister was sexually harassed by her lecturer back then.
Kept pestering the 17 year old girl for sex and actually made her fail her class twice.

Ended up going to school and connecting with my guys and lets just say, the lecturer is still unemployed right now.
The one time we crossed paths, he literally crossed to the other side of the street out of fear.

and then i was poor oh! Imagine what i would do if it was now!

I had the same experience as your sister with a very randy lecturer,i involved my dad quickly and he borrowed sense and kept his distance,its very bad,i don't know why some men behave this way

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by louiziana(m): 8:31am On Aug 11, 2020

Nobody even asked if she is in a serious relationship or has a husband, I just pity her lover as she has almost fallen for the offer.

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Wentworthorg: 8:39am On Aug 11, 2020

Decline. No two ways about it

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by adebayo4uc6h6: 8:43am On Aug 11, 2020

hitekk:
hmm. tell him that all the people you dated in the past died mysteriously and since then you decided not to date any guy again to avoid losing him.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by TheKingIsHere: 8:48am On Aug 11, 2020

rasheedatt:
I am freaking out about this, My boss asked me out on a date which I think is innapropriate but I love my job and i was looking for a loooong time before i found it so I will be damned if i give up.

I was very kind and told him there is zero interest here so i wouldnt want to waste his time. He told me I should quit the job or accept him and he will increase my salary.

I told him to give me a week to think about it.

What should I do?

Get a small recorder and record the discussion between you and your boss forcing you to sleep with him. Make sure you get it on video too.

Please don't sleep with him no matter what.

If he dates sack you, use it to sue his ass and make millions.

#commonsense

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Mires: 8:48am On Aug 11, 2020

Nigerian Senate will not come and passed a bill on work place sexual molestation and dating of subordinates.

If it is against academics, they will be fast. I don't know why we found ourselves in the sector that is poorly paid, despite all the mid night reading, yet the society looks at us with bad eyes.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Ade3131: 8:49am On Aug 11, 2020

Wolgrace:
I do always say double mind is a fervent and loyal partner of evil. You already conceived in and made up your mind while looking for licence card from the nairalanders to achieve it. "I LOVE MY JOB BECAUSE I HAVE LONGTIME BEEN SEARCHING FOR A JOB." Lolzzz, what a lamba code! A code to justify your sexual act with him for job security right..?

The escape route out of your double trap is to stand upright and run away through the exit door right behind you. He is a simp, and will use and dump you at the expense and risk of your job..

Your job is not totally secure by falling to his ploy..

@Rasheedatt

Take this advise very close to your heart and take it with you for the rest of your life.

Having an affair with your boss isn't a guaranty that your job is secured. The fact that you're employed to fill that role should arose suspicion in you. Definitely someone was relieved of that role before you're asked to fill the void.

By the time he's done and tired of your Hot pot, he'll look for someone else and fire you. It's that simple. He did the same to the lady holding the post you occupy before you're employed and he will do the same to you too. So at the end, which job is it that you're claiming to love and trying to protect?

If you wanna have a fling with your boss, do so with the clear conscience of being promiscuous yourself and not hide it under the guise of being lured to promiscuity by your boss bcuz it sure takes 2 to tangle and we all know it. Either way my dear, you'll still get sacked whether you allowed yourself to be laid or not, you'll be laid off or retired one day. It's not your father's company.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Maobichek: 8:57am On Aug 11, 2020

rosy1992:
Don't involve yourself in what you will later regret.

. Hmmmm!!! Once she starts, she won't stop oh! A man can't be satisfied when it comes to sex. I know what it mean to be jobless but she should ask herself if it really worth it, thank you.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by adisabarber(m): 9:13am On Aug 11, 2020

rasheedatt:
I am freaking out about this, My boss asked me out on a date which I think is innapropriate but I love my job and i was looking for a loooong time before i found it so I will be damned if i give up.

I was very kind and told him there is zero interest here so i wouldnt want to waste his time. He told me I should quit the job or accept him and he will increase my salary.

I told him to give me a week to think about it.

What should I do?

He will sack you when he's done

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Herlleymann: 9:16am On Aug 11, 2020

Doing it doesnt guarantee your job. You may still lose the job, after you have lost your vagina too. You will also become a topic to him and his friends if you do it.

Standing your ground may make u lose yoir job, and at the same time, may appeal to his reason, and make him leave your matter. That is if he still have an oita of human reason in him.

If he has an ummarried brother or nephew of your age that you know, contact that one to give u a bail out if he feels like. He should just tell his uncle that he likes u and want to consider you for something serious. It MAY make him leave u. Even if you have to pay the brother to say that on your behalf

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by EbaDiamond: 9:17am On Aug 11, 2020

From the indication, the end of your job there is imminent.
If you say No, you may lose your job
If you accept with him, you may still lose your job in regret or pieces
So, the decision is yours to take. I pray, may the lord guid you in the right part and decision.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by zakkxx: 9:24am On Aug 11, 2020

If you don’t like him quite and God will give you a better job. But if u love your job tell him you don’t believe in sex out side marriage because u have been hot a lot. Because I suspect he is after your body not real love.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by UDUJ(m): 9:28am On Aug 11, 2020

goshee:
All these your questions are inconsequetial, is he the sole owner of the business, if yes date him and keep your job. Forget all these hypocrisies unless you can do without the job

Well said.

At blue boldfaced, that's what she has to decide herself. Cheers

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by max57: 9:35am On Aug 11, 2020

If you are a believer, pray and also ask your pastor to pray for you too whatever you declared should be established in Jesus name.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by SirTenu: 9:36am On Aug 11, 2020

Accept him and becom sex michin

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by SirTenu: 9:49am On Aug 11, 2020

UDUJ:
Points to consider in your decision:

1. How long your job search was before getting the job
2. Do you enjoy your job and feel fulfilled in it
3. The type of person your boss is - is he one that never takes no for an answer or one that is considerate and can see reason with you
4. Is it a one man business and he is the owner? If not you can always complain to HR if the company has an HR department
5. Is your boss married? If he is then this is a NO NO
6. Is your boss unmarried?
7. Is your boss good looking and do you find him attractive?
8. Does your boss have an history of dating his employees? (you can ask questions to find out about this)
9. Are you ready for a fling (office romance)?

You see how I laid out these points. You need to think deep and make your decision. We cannot make this decision for you.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:28am On Aug 11, 2020

magicminister:
Well, with due respect, i can't really reason with you looking at the fact that your way of thinking is just appalling and backwards!
Since you are comfortable with women getting sexually harassed at work under the threat of job loss, i wish the same on you. You will be sexually harassed by someone more powerful than you! They will hold your means of livelihood over your head until they poke their dick in your anusss..... Then you can tell us your decision! Will you go into the teeming unemployment market where you are not guaranteed a job till you die or will you just get a lube and shine up that assssshole for some penetration!!

I've respected your time and attention without insult. If that's your way of handling matters, you are off track.

WHO IS BACKWARD BETWEEN US? You want us in the faceless forum to bash and prosecute her boss unknown to us when she is looking for a way forward out of indecision?

Focus on her, not the unknown boss.

E.O.D.

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Torie8(f): 10:29am On Aug 11, 2020

Quietly:
Doesn't make sense. Do you think he is a Kidd, to take that for granted.. You better wakeup. Jo.

What if it happens and he dies mysteriously

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by SweetestIfy279: 10:30am On Aug 11, 2020

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by ruffkenny: 10:43am On Aug 11, 2020

The funny thing is that if u allow him to do once,he is gonna demand for more and finally he will still discard you las Las when he has had his fill,so does it make sense to give it to him in order to save your job? HEY NO!! cos u will still loose the job u are trying to keep dear,once this kind thing has entered,keep your pride, respect yourself and take a walk..except u are ready to be his sex object and an object of manipulation..

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Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Budoski: 11:03am On Aug 11, 2020

hitekk:
hmm. tell him that all the people you dated in the past died mysteriously and since then you decided not to date any guy again to avoid losing him.

boss already said she is going to loose her job so,this death idea might not work

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by rasheedatt(op): 11:06am On Aug 11, 2020

magicminister:
They really know who they try it with!
My younger sister was sexually harassed by her lecturer back then.
Kept pestering the 17 year old girl for sex and actually made her fail her class twice.

Ended up going to school and connecting with my guys and lets just say, the lecturer is still unemployed right now.
The one time we crossed paths, he literally crossed to the other side of the street out of fear.

and then i was poor oh! Imagine what i would do if it was now!

big man help me with my blog nau

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by Abayor7: 11:54am On Aug 11, 2020

hitekk:
hmm. tell him that all the people you dated in the past died mysteriously and since then you decided not to date any guy again to avoid losing him.

She'll still lose the job

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by SweetDipBenny(m): 12:30pm On Aug 11, 2020

bigpicture001:
Is it dating he wants or just nacking..?

plenty nacking indeed

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by oodua1stson: 12:39pm On Aug 11, 2020

hitekk:
hmm. tell him that all the people you dated in the past died mysteriously and since then you decided not to date any guy again to avoid losing him.

you get sense die grin

Re: My Boss Wants To Date Me. What Should I Do? by ehmmy11(m): 12:43pm On Aug 11, 2020

rasheedatt:
big man help me with my blog nau

of all the comments and advises here today it's this one you choose to reply even off the topic because you see him as a big man Becos he pledge some money on a post somewhere

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