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genkins:
Better.. Now let her stick to marriage counseling as her core niche. It's only in Nigeria and America that motivational speakers and counselors are called pastors

Good point...

Truer words have never be spoken like this....

addexx:
What pains me is the fact that you must think you are right after typing this dog poo. Step down from which pulpit? The one that you built for her abi. How is teaching about marriage unscriptural? You know how many homes that her ministry has saved from the gates of hell. How many lives she has impacted and brought into the light. No. All you are concerned about is her gender. You have swallowed too much religion that makes you even choke on your own hypocrisy. You don't have a personal revelation of the bible so stop judging people based on what you think or what your pastor tells you is wrong or right.

It won't cost you too much to study the Bible yourself and pray for understand cause the Bible is of no personal interpretation. Read it yourself I dare you to and maybe you'll see the light and God willing let go of your pride and apply it. If I am wrong call me out directing me to the scripture if not then I pray you repent and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. Women have their part in the ministry and it is not by heading a church. And I stand to on the authority of the gospel of Christ that if all that I've ever heard that woman teach is what her teachings are centered on then what she has done is to hasten the decent of her hearers/audience to hell unless God him self provides a means of escape. No man who is sincerely searching for the truth of Gods word will tell you he found it there all you will find there 'I repeat' is a man centered religion. The gospel is not about it, its about God. For you to even think that because she built the pulpit therefore owns it, tells me you don't have basic understanding of the workings of God's word.

wany:
Leave the clueless dude, they are so pained a lot of women are becoming woke.making their own money which gives them a degree of power and self worth,this a black Nigeria guy can never digest while sitting.sad its only going to get worst.cause the traditional woman is going extinct.

We keep hearing women are now making their own money everyday ... yet there entitlement personality remains constant.
The fact is we all know huge part of the so called made money in a ladies account are from men (admirers), mr macaroni geng.
women are woke indeed, no wonder we have so many of them on coderuns & escort services. whatever becums d thread we men have nothing to lose .. olosho & baby mama is a welcum development.

Juliearth:
Feminism is defined as political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes. While this may sound fair and just, I am not in tune with it because equality is injustice. Equity is more like it. Equity entails allocating responsibilities to an individual or a gender (as in this case) based on strength. For instance if you give a five meter ladder (equality) to three men of different height to climb or stand on, the tallest of the three men would have more advantage than the shortest. But giving each men a ladder that corresponds with their height (equity)would make them have the same view.

Even God is not an advocate of equality, but equity and that was why he made man the head and the woman the neck; He made man the general overseer and the woman, the manager.

Stop playing dumb.
Feminists are simply the majority who call themselves feminists. Period.

A group can't be doing a bad thing and scamming us with a good definition of people that don't really exist in real life.

saaphiere:
* You disrespected your husband in such a way that the man has forgotten his surname.
* Do not have African marriage. Don not have American marriage. Have bible marriage.
* Honour your husband. He may be short as a bottle. You saw him like that before you married him.
* Do not marry a man you cannot respect.
* The greatest need of a man is not sex. He can get it from any idiot called prostitute.
* The greatest need of a man is not food. He can get it from any restaurant.
* One of the greatest need of a man is respect (public respect).
* Wake your husband up with love songs.
* Stop disgracing your husband in the presence of the children.
* Stop repeating the mistakes that your mother made.
* Come down from your pinnacle.
* If you treat your husband like a king, he will treat you like a queen.
* If your Christianity does not work at home, don't export it.
* Bring some sanity into your marriage.
* Once in a while, pause. drop everything.

---

* When last did you take your wife out?
* Don't tell me to respect you if you cannot even take care of your wife and children.
* You are so lost in your business that you don't have time for your wife.
* You can't admire your wife.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HnaQ-lp56Mc

hmmmm

good.


but she needs to preach Jesus
having said this things.



a home without Jesus is a broken home.



a life without Jesus is a lonely lifeless life.


for without me (Jesus) ye can do nothing

pocohantas:
Naija men after reading this be like;


“Pastor Funke...”

are you still coming tomorrow night

sexylassie2:
I agree ooh, mama preach.

I promise to support my man only if i see he has sense.

Why are you in a relationship with a man "without sense" in the first place?

na we dey bleep this woman Toto self

Too much sauce

Twelfthman:
The old societal model was:

A young woman would trade her youth and fertility
exclusively to only one man, and he in turn would be the workhorse and take
care of her when she gets past her prime. This was a great incentive for men to
work, become men, and get married. You got a prize, a young beautiful loyal
wife. In theory, as we know life isn't perfect. She does him a favor early on
by being a virgin/exclusive and later he does her a favor by staying and
supporting her instead of leaving her for a younger woman. They both get a prize.

The new societal model is:

Women LovePeddler around and waste their youth and fertility on Chad/Tyrone,
get walled out, get STDs, lose their ability to pair bond, rapidly accelerate
their aging process with excessive alcohol and fast food, and have no loyalty
to any man. What sensible man would pay top dollar for something 30 other men
got for free? The incentive for men is gone. You don't get a prize anymore. You
get a parasite with an entitlement mentality that’s looking to take your resources
and then some. Before you even say “I do” at the altar, she’s already plotting
how to financially rape your ass in family court when she divorces your sorry
ass in a few years. Why do you think she’s smiling as she’s walking down the aisle?
A woman’s main reason for getting married is to get a divorce.

You're expected to pay a premium price for a used up, beaten
up, soulless woman from the bargain basement bins of some store in the hood
with the morals of an alley cat, an in denial, freak of nature, pathologically
delusional, self-esteem deficient, morally bankrupt, bottom dwelling, blood
sucking, inhuman, creature of the night, bitch on wheels, spawned from the seed
of Satan, and a boil on the buttocks of the world.

When she dies, the last living reminder of hell will be gone
from the face of the earth.

She has kids from Chad/Tyrone or both, personal credit card
debt, no assets, school debt for a worthless degree in liberal arts or gender
studies, no cooking skills and no desire to learn any, no fiscal responsibility,
an overly banged vagina, and a pet you’ll be expected to take care of as well.

And you're supposed to be happy about this opportunity to
lick up the scraps from the floor.

The so-called good men she wants and can’t find are out
there. They just don’t want her at the table because she has nothing to bring
except financial and emotional pain. When women say, "Men are only after
one thing". Meaning sex. My question to them is, do you have anything else
to offer. Crickets is all I hear. Which means even they don't believe they have
anything else to offer.

In addition, she also has great expectations you’ll do
everything for her, make her feel better, and provide an unrealistic
unsustainable lifestyle she feels she deserves because she read about it some
feminazi magazine article that hates men.

All this while she cheats behind your back with the “bad
boys” she really wants while you’re at work paying all the bills to feed this
little parasite.

Women don’t “love men”, they love what men can do for them. Where
are all the great art works female artists have created, inspired by their love
of men?

Men are not afraid of commitment or marriage…. Men are
afraid of getting divorce raped in “family court.” It’s just a bad deal and
there’s nothing in it for men except the chance to be financially ruined for
the rest of your life.

If you were thinking of going skydiving and knew that three
out of four parachutes failed, and you had already watched your friends jump,
some successfully, others not so. Would you be willing to take the chance that
you're going to be the exception and get the one parachute out of the four that
is going to work?......... I mean they all look so pretty and smell so good and
feel so soft to the touch and they are offering you the thrill of a lifetime if
you would just let one of them wrap itself around you and make that commitment
to attach yourself to it and jump...... would you still take that chance?

But… but…. Look how pretty the parachutes are, smell their
lovely fragrance, touch and feel how soft they feel, they beckon you to try one
of them on, please try me on and let me wrap myself tightly around you and see
how good I feel to you, I’ll hold on tight and snug to you, I am not like the
others, honest I am different, I’ll work.

Well….. would you do it? Would you take that chance for the thrill of a lifetime?

Yea, that sounds like a good deal if I were a slowpoke, is this the line I stand in to lose half my sh!t?

Good luck with that.

Men are waking up and realizing this system is defective and
toxic. Women's sexual liberation, feminism and the birth control pill, have
ironically dis-empowered women. They are throwaway sexual objects now more than
ever.

"Feminism did NOT free women from the chains they
thought they had. It freed MEN from the chains they had no idea were
there."

~ Arch Stanton ~

genkins:
Better.. Now let her stick to marriage counseling as her core niche. It's only in Nigeria and America that motivational speakers and counselors are called pastors

The real pastors are the counsellors sef. Pastor means "shepherd", and that's exactly what counsellors do, they teach.

Women won't like this. Truth is bitter . people just want to hear what soothes them

Taiwojon:
hmmmm

good.


but she needs to preach Jesus
having said this things.

a home without Jesus is a broken home.

a life without Jesus is a lonely lifeless life.

for without me (Jesus) ye can do nothing

Thank you. This is the issue I always have with most of her messages. As good and practical as they are, they sound like motivational/counselling talking points rather than something that is purely of the Kingdom that is meant for the pulpit which exalts the name of Christ. What shall separate us from the love of God? Shall tribulation, or trials, or marriage teachings separate us?

I understand that everyone's ministry is unique but the specifics of a ministry can not be more important than the Giver- Jesus Christ.

anochuko01:
The real pastors are the counsellors sef. Pastor means "shepherd", and that's exactly what counsellors do, they teach.

And what are the Teachers supposed to do? Counsel?

matthewbrian150:
[s]

My Word !!!....How can you type such trash..
I am baffled. Please go through what you typed again.

Sense is relative,a mad man sees sane people as insane and thinks of himself as the sane one ,if you see it as trash ,I cant help you with that ,only you can ask for redemption for your perception.

Kormex:
You are wrong. Read your Bible very well.

What's wrong

Twelfthman:
The old societal model was:

A young woman would trade her youth and fertility
exclusively to only one man, and he in turn would be the workhorse and take
care of her when she gets past her prime. This was a great incentive for men to
work, become men, and get married. You got a prize, a young beautiful loyal
wife. In theory, as we know life isn't perfect. She does him a favor early on
by being a virgin/exclusive and later he does her a favor by staying and
supporting her instead of leaving her for a younger woman. They both get a prize.

The new societal model is:

Women LovePeddler around and waste their youth and fertility on Chad/Tyrone,
get walled out, get STDs, lose their ability to pair bond, rapidly accelerate
their aging process with excessive alcohol and fast food, and have no loyalty
to any man. What sensible man would pay top dollar for something 30 other men
got for free? The incentive for men is gone. You don't get a prize anymore. You
get a parasite with an entitlement mentality that’s looking to take your resources
and then some. Before you even say “I do” at the altar, she’s already plotting
how to financially rape your ass in family court when she divorces your sorry
ass in a few years. Why do you think she’s smiling as she’s walking down the aisle?
A woman’s main reason for getting married is to get a divorce.

You're expected to pay a premium price for a used up, beaten
up, soulless woman from the bargain basement bins of some store in the hood
with the morals of an alley cat, an in denial, freak of nature, pathologically
delusional, self-esteem deficient, morally bankrupt, bottom dwelling, blood
sucking, inhuman, creature of the night, bitch on wheels, spawned from the seed
of Satan, and a boil on the buttocks of the world.

When she dies, the last living reminder of hell will be gone
from the face of the earth.

She has kids from Chad/Tyrone or both, personal credit card
debt, no assets, school debt for a worthless degree in liberal arts or gender
studies, no cooking skills and no desire to learn any, no fiscal responsibility,
an overly banged vagina, and a pet you’ll be expected to take care of as well.

And you're supposed to be happy about this opportunity to
lick up the scraps from the floor.

The so-called good men she wants and can’t find are out
there. They just don’t want her at the table because she has nothing to bring
except financial and emotional pain. When women say, "Men are only after
one thing". Meaning sex. My question to them is, do you have anything else
to offer. Crickets is all I hear. Which means even they don't believe they have
anything else to offer.

In addition, she also has great expectations you’ll do
everything for her, make her feel better, and provide an unrealistic
unsustainable lifestyle she feels she deserves because she read about it some
feminazi magazine article that hates men.

All this while she cheats behind your back with the “bad
boys” she really wants while you’re at work paying all the bills to feed this
little parasite.

Women don’t “love men”, they love what men can do for them. Where
are all the great art works female artists have created, inspired by their love
of men?

Men are not afraid of commitment or marriage…. Men are
afraid of getting divorce raped in “family court.” It’s just a bad deal and
there’s nothing in it for men except the chance to be financially ruined for
the rest of your life.

If you were thinking of going skydiving and knew that three
out of four parachutes failed, and you had already watched your friends jump,
some successfully, others not so. Would you be willing to take the chance that
you're going to be the exception and get the one parachute out of the four that
is going to work?......... I mean they all look so pretty and smell so good and
feel so soft to the touch and they are offering you the thrill of a lifetime if
you would just let one of them wrap itself around you and make that commitment
to attach yourself to it and jump...... would you still take that chance?

But… but…. Look how pretty the parachutes are, smell their
lovely fragrance, touch and feel how soft they feel, they beckon you to try one
of them on, please try me on and let me wrap myself tightly around you and see
how good I feel to you, I’ll hold on tight and snug to you, I am not like the
others, honest I am different, I’ll work.

Well….. would you do it? Would you take that chance for the thrill of a lifetime?

Yea, that sounds like a good deal if I were a slowpoke, is this the line I stand in to lose half my sh!t?

Good luck with that.

Men are waking up and realizing this system is defective and
toxic. Women's sexual liberation, feminism and the birth control pill, have
ironically dis-empowered women. They are throwaway sexual objects now more than
ever.

"Feminism did NOT free women from the chains they
thought they had. It freed MEN from the chains they had no idea were
there."

~ Arch Stanton ~

I stopped reading when I got to the bolded, obviously you are not in touch with reality and this is not an article meant for Nigerians ,so next time you want to copy, look for something we as Nigerians can relate to ,ok? because this is obviously the rant of a pained western man. Please help me tell Mr Arch Stanton ,that the opposite is obtained with Nigerian women,he should try going Nigerian, he can never go wrong. Also tell him that our Nigerian sisters will never emaculate him because we see oyinbo as a good catch


And one more thing, are we still on this virginity thing? , didn't you see the statistics for rape and child molestation during lockdown alone?

dhardline:
No matter the amount of do's and don't you preach a heart that has not been renewed can not work out this things that is why what you are 'preaching' is not the gospel but a cosmetic man centered teaching. Please ma, step down from the pulpit you are not supposed to be there and not just you but also all women who call themselves pastors and all preachers of 'prosperity gospel' . The Bible you teach from does not permit it but you ignore its teaching for the sake of your pride and introduce psychology and motivation. Giving men hope in their sins and proclaiming men to be safe when they are close to eternal damnation. This is part of the reason men make gest of the gospel of Christ.

Where in the bible that doesn't permit women to preach? You guys should go back to bible, read whole and not a part that a disciple told people of corinthians"

The author and finisher of Christian faith said ......go ye to the world (inside the world so many churches inclusive.) and .....preach the gospel to all nations, who is Paul to command every woman to remain silent in the church?


Are women remain silent in ur church?

A female chorister stands up in the church and sings song that sends message to the congregation! Is that not preaching?

Stop teaching what you urself have little understanding about.

angelfallz:
Wrong question. You should have asked, "Has feminism improved the family culture in countries where it is thriving?"

More and more western menare running from marriage.

Why marriages have decreased in the U.S.
https://qr.ae/p1raad

My friend ended up married a girl thinking she exposed just like this attacking she-dog on nairaland , the marriage didn't last up to 1 year


My friend moved on and re married , now with 2 kids,but for the feminist! She remains single as ever, 5 years counting and now 34 yrs.



All those claiming they can't respect man usually end up single mothers and shoulder the responsibilities of kids. Go to single mother group on fb and see Wailings. I hardly pity them.

Ladycewhy:
What caught my attention is "stop repeating the mistake your mother made" now is pastor trying to tell us women of old made mistakes? .And here I was thinking the bar for marriage was set by the tolerant ,non-voicing, obedient,do whatever I say ,women of old


You see I stopped taking these preachers serious the day a female preacher said " if you are the bread winner ,go out win the bread and bring it for daddy to share" lol Daddy that doesn't have hand to win bread but has hand to share. I was nearly tempted to ask her if she forgot that a man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel, but make e nor be like say I dey rude


These are the same women who will think just because you choose to stand up for yourself and not be used as a bought commodity ,you are not virtuous enough and will go to hell fire .


Notice how the woman gets to give something invaluable,that cannot be quantified, "respect and honour" while all the man needs to do is take his wife and children out .

Be a breadwinner doesn't mean others are not working, but God gives such person privilege to get more money above others.

But when a man is a bread winner, as its common in society, the woman will claim entitlement mentality, "I own my husband mentality" she will even chase away husband family.

NB. Woman like you usually end up as a single mother.

Go to single mother group on Facebook to see rants!

pocohantas:
Naija men after reading this be like;


“Pastor Funke...”

Hian, Una go kill person with laugh for Nairaland.com

IamWonderful:
Marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin and have at least 90% guaranteed happy home if you aren't an idiot

Oga I know many virgins who their husbands ran away from...

Nauttyprof:
Not moved by any of these. Teach people the Bible or give a Bible based teaching on marriage, every other thing will fall in place.

We just need to move from the era of head and exciting teaching to what does the God of the Bible says.

3In the same way, teach older women to be ·holy [reverent] in their behavior, not ·speaking against [slandering; gossiping about] others or enslaved to ·too much wine [excessive drinking], but teaching what is good. 4 Then they can ·teach [train] the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be ·wise [sensible; self-controlled] and pure, to be ·good workers at home [devoted to home life], to be kind, and to ·yield [submit] to their husbands. Then no one will be able to ·criticize [discredit; malign; blaspheme] the ·teaching God gave us [word of God]. Titus 2:3-5

Based on the referenced passage above, she is doing exactly what the Bible told her to do, teach the younger women how to relate to their husbands. Secondly, I think she is qualified to speak on the matter because she is a teacher of the word and an older woman.

Mutemenot:
Pastor pastor, always preaching what they dont do. Dont be surprised she wakes her husband with hot slap

See person

My thoughts exactly...
Wives ought to learn to be "respectful"

pocohantas:
Ironically, some of the feminists I know are doing their men well. It is you guys with non-feminist gfs creating threads upandan.

“What I saw in my gf’s phone. I am fainting.”

“My gf is smelling of condom, what do I do?”

“I bought her phone, now she is no more picking my calls.”

I don’t know what is the problem. Maybe you guys have your definition of feminism muddled up or there is something you are not telling us.

No, it is you vagina people that present feminism in a bad light

pocohantas:
Ironically, some of the feminists I know are doing their men well. It is you guys with non-feminist gfs creating threads upandan.

“What I saw in my gf’s phone. I am fainting.”

“My gf is smelling of condom, what do I do?”

“I bought her phone, now she is no more picking my calls.”

I don’t know what is the problem. Maybe you guys have your definition of feminism muddled up or there is something you are not telling us.

.
Bro this is about marriage not boyfriend and girlfriend.

byinks:
Oga I know many virgins who their husbands ran away from...

Pigs cannot keep diamond.

ojuu4u:
Where in the bible that doesn't permit women to preach? You guys should go back to bible, read whole and not a part that a disciple told people of chorhintians"

The author and finisher of Christian faith said ......go ye to the world (inside the world so many churches) and preach the gospel, who is Paul to command every woman to remain silent in the church?


Is women remain silent in ur church?

A female chorister stands up in the church and sings song that sends message to the congregation! Is that not preaching?

Stop teaching what you urself have little understanding about.

You have directly told me that the whole scriptures is not the word of God(to you) and hence not your standard in deciding what is right or wrong so you cherry pick the ones that are good for you and ignore the rest. I hereby end this discussion with you.

Shizzyguy:
3In the same way, teach older women to be ·holy [reverent] in their behavior, not ·speaking against [slandering; gossiping about] others or enslaved to ·too much wine [excessive drinking], but teaching what is good. 4 Then they can ·teach [train] the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be ·wise [sensible; self-controlled] and pure, to be ·good workers at home [devoted to home life], to be kind, and to ·yield [submit] to their husbands. Then no one will be able to ·criticize [discredit; malign; blaspheme] the ·teaching God gave us [word of God]. Titus 2:3-5

Based on the referenced passage above, she is doing exactly what the Bible told her to do, teach the younger women how to relate to their husbands. Secondly, I think she is qualified to speak on the matter because she is a teacher of the word and an older woman.

No, she is doing what she wants her audience to hear. Bible based teaching is what this Bible verses talk about or address and not share your own view all in the name of trying to trend. Tell me what part of this talks about men being able to get sex else where even from prostitute.

We have derailed from letting people know what the Bible truly says and we begin to give what we have thought or cooked up ourselves. The Bible itself addresses all issues and can build up any individual. The Bible remains the focus, not what we think or know.

dhardline:
You have directly told me that the whole scriptures is not the word of God(to you) and hence not your standard in deciding what is right or wrong so you cherry pick the ones that are good for you and ignore the rest. I hereby end this discussion with you.

I doubt if you can read well and understand content there in. Give it someone to read and explain what I wrote for u, because it's not ambiguous.