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Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by NoToPile: 5:20pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
sisisioge: Lool you are really vexing on behalf of this your friend, I know how annoying things like this can be |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by addictiv(m): 5:36pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
For men it's better if he stays within his class or at most a step lower. For women it's better if she stays in her class or goes a step higher. But but jumping classes eg upper class jumping middle class and going for lower class takes a toil on both partners cos each social class has a different orientation and sense of reasoning. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Nobody: 6:51pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
Mariangeles:You don’t have to make assumptions. You know you are already biased, so you are more likely make unfair judgements. I wanted to give her a chance, like I would anybody. And I did. But sometimes, you realize you have made a mistake only after taking the step. I won't go into the details, but yeah, I gave her a chance. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Nobody: 6:55pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
Mariangeles:No, I don't feel I'm better than her. Some of your questions are not even questions because they have no real answers. "What is [my] substance?" That's not a question. You are just getting philosophical. What's your own substance, if I may ask? 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Saintmary(f): 7:03pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
kukusdot:If you're concerned about social ladders, you are not in love, so, stop deceiving yourself and keep to that line, find a person that best suits your goals and leave that girl for her type joor. 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Saintmary(f): 7:04pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
kukusdot:Pity is not love. Let her be abeg. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Nobody: 8:23pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
kukusdot:Not everyone can understand u, I know exactly how u feel and I'm sure few other people here do also. Y not just focus on that? Remember if u weren't like that person u are quoting u wudnt end up this way. Now u know better Social class is about values and standards, ur thinking faculty wudnt just be on the same level. If u know fully well u can't cope, make the best decision now. U will both save yourselves time and energy. It's not about u alone, you are helping the babe too, many people wudnt just see it that way. Wen it comes to marriage, social class is essential. This is reality not movie addictiv:If I av to break it down, u'l see reasons y a step lower or higher might not even be advisable (tho more likely to work). Ppl sud just learn to stay in their class, it pays, they wudnt just realize. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by zedegit: 8:43pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
annex1: Hahaha. Flesh and blood didn't reveal this to you. Lol at shifting goal post. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by zedegit: 8:48pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
This song would be good for teaching gym classes. Bukatyne, ishilove, sisioge etc register for classes. Meanwhile playing song * Up and down and up and down Up up down down... |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 10:02pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
gbami: There are many factors involved in a lady not wanting to marry or date down. It is very easy to bruise a guy's ego when you are higher than him. And that might make the lady constantly walking on egg shells. I once shared here how I had a date with a guy that I had been talking to. I drove to meet him while he took a taxi or public transport because he didn't have a car. We wanted to move from our meeting point to where we were going to hang out. Do you know that this guy refused to enter the car? We had to walk down there in the hot sun. It was sooo obvious that he was uncomfortable with the fact that I drove and he couldn't just let me drive him. We didn't see after that. Some guys cannot handle it. Who wants to keep apologising for being up if you are with a guy that has a big ego. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by oweniwe(m): 11:05pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Where is ladies dey see all those useless guys sef? There are many humble, nice and hardworking guys out there... Why is it only egoistic, womanising, gold diggers una dey see? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 11:54pm On Aug 23, 2020 |
oweniwe: You are right. The guy I met next would either offer to drive or recline in the passenger's seat while I drove. He was not petty and was perfect. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by saucecode(m): 12:26am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1:See this beautiful scripted nonsense,u think is only infants dat full nairaland bah. She says women dont marry down because they dont want to bruise guys ego, whu are you kidding wit this rubbish talk? . Women dont marry down simply because of self interest nd greed and wanting a better life than the one you were living as a single girl, simple and short!!!!! Just look at how u re trying to paint one angelic model of women as people who are considering the ego of a man before dating him, well except you mean ego as in chuba ego billi billi 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 1:43am On Aug 24, 2020 |
saucecode: I don't get your point. But your comment is noted. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by saucecode(m): 1:58am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Enn na, hw will u get it? pretending is part of female nature. Sometin dats as clear as day light,u have suddenly develop sight problem 8 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by NoToPile: 6:34am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1: This is the major issue and thats why some ladies wouldn't want to marry a guy they earn more than ((doesnt matter if its a little difference) even if they are within the same class. E.g Guy earns 100k, lady earns 150k both are from the same average family - they are within the same class but the fact that she earns slightly more is a big issue to some (let's say a large percentage of Nigerian) men. Why inconvenience your self and the lady simply because you do not want a woman to drive you I don't gerrit. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Nobody: 6:47am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1:This part cracked me up seriously. He obviously has self-esteem issue. Sorry about the walk dearie, thank goodness it was walk not trek.
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Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Nobody: 6:56am On Aug 24, 2020 |
oweniwe:They are the most common here. When u are not in a sane society, what do u expect? I agree with you tho, there are still reasonable guys, but if u were a lady u'd understand they are not as many as u said. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 7:27am On Aug 24, 2020 |
saucecode: Your obvious bias/prejudice for women is written everywhere and is covering up the sense you would have made in your comments. As I said, your comment is noted. 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 7:37am On Aug 24, 2020 |
NoToPile: Yes, even in the same class or range. Years back also, my colleague from a different branch and I were supposed to hang out after work. He came all the way from his branch. When it was time to leave and he realized I was going to drive him, he was embarrassed. He cancelled o and said another time. I was just amazed The guys on this forum won't agree that this is a major issue for them. Instead one is there cancelling comment. I am not saying all guys have that inflated ego but it is very common. I finally met one that was not threatened by the "small car" that was causing wahala. 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 7:42am On Aug 24, 2020 |
sherylbakky: He did have issues. And he actually ended up secretely marrying a mentally challenged colleague from a very wealthy family. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 7:42am On Aug 24, 2020 |
sherylbakky: He did have issues. And he actually ended up secretely marrying a mentally challenged colleague from a very wealthy family. |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by saucecode(m): 7:50am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Yes na, it's bias &prejudice 2 say dat women only marry up because they want a better life dan before and dont wanna suffer, not because of one nonsense consideration of hurting a man's ego Yu ppl shud keep deceiving urselves wit big big english Dis is y I like ybaby, if it's her now she will say it as it is, not dis ur yeye diversionary stories to prove wat sef, dat u dint marry man because u had a car or u still married down, which one? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:25am On Aug 24, 2020 |
Would one who genuinely loves his or her partner bother much about class? As long as both partners understand themselves, why should economic status be an issue? I also wonder why people date who they feel they cannot marry, especially since economic status is something that can easily be detected when we meet and interact with people. 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Ndipe(m): 9:25am On Aug 24, 2020 |
Happiness is and should be one of the key factors in a relationship. So, if you are happy with her and both of you are compatible with each other, marry her. You never know, at times, both of you could be each other's helper and succeed in life. Success doesnt happen overnight. Having a midas touch is stuff of fairytales. kukusdot: 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 9:32am On Aug 24, 2020 |
saucecode: Your opinion has been duly noted. You are even one of those childish ones that cancel comments . At least you have one more comment to cancel. 5 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by tosinhtml: 9:40am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Every thing you said is true, First I want make a statement that there is nothing wrong with "low self esteem" in certain situations. It simply an integral part of life depending on the event & also changes with time & maturity. There are also extreme cases where a Guy can be completely stupid, which your case was clearly an example of. I wouldn't want to suffer my date by allowing her walk when she has a car. Makes zero sense! A man needs different things to boost his confidence, Self esteem is usually tied to something of substance, people may deny it all they want. It may be looks, money, personality, talent, exceptional intelligence etc. You need to have one else you would just be living a fake life with a fake self esteem. A lady smart enough would soon realise & move on. I agree with you & I don't recommend a lady marrying a guy who earns less, for his own sake. 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by saucecode(m): 9:40am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Nah unu way, wen u vagina ppl have notin else to say, its to age shame or broke shame dat is d next step Mafren clear road jor wit ur tori abt hw women dont marry lower men because his ego wont take it. Only u & ur fellow v ppl can convince urselfs of dat crap wen everyone including u ppl know the real reason 3 Likes
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Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 9:54am On Aug 24, 2020 |
tosinhtml: That's the truth. But some people do not understand or agree with my comment. Some men cannot handle a woman being seemingly higher one way or the other because they will get offended at every little thing and attribute it to her status. Meanwhile, there are still guys that don't get bothered or threatened by a lady because they themselves are confident. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by saucecode(m): 9:58am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Keep quoting urself. every time,dat same username will jst jump out of hibernation 2 support u & ur opinions . Anyama 2 Likes
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Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by Ybaby: 10:09am On Aug 24, 2020 |
ImaIma1: He is the slow type. 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying Down Or Marrying Up by ImaIma1(f): 10:25am On Aug 24, 2020 |
Ybaby: Thanks for the heads up. Though I figured it out when he concluded that I am the same person as tosinhtml 4 Likes |
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