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Maliqcious:
You said something pecular which is you just saw the real her. How do people use that line got me wondered. Yes women pretend alot but i think You wrong here. Women are baby in nature they would misbehave. From My calculation that woman feels you have money. I guess she too was scared with your uproar. Sending her packing is because of food 700 is wrong. Talk to her make her know what's in and out trust me. You would be a happy man. Lemme tell you a woman who carries your baby loves You. Don't be a simp. Love is a warzone don't expect it to be rosy even with your millions real wife gives love, peace and headache(dramas). Thanks

Those who later killed there husband nko?

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

U caused all these bro. Use condoms, una no go hear. that ur baby mama was never ready for marriage. She is still in her flexing phase. the best thing u can do now is send her back to her mom but ensure u send her money sha. To be honest, sending her away sef won't be easy and it would likely attract more hatred. so far that child is alive, ur baby mama would have access to u even if u re-marry

mrcelebrity1:
Guy, I feel your pains but I must be very honest with you that I am going through worse your situation. just please be calm and try to learn how to make yourself happy first, your life and your happiness first before anyone else.... My wife has not spoken to me for weeks because she demanded for huge amount that i do not even have, despite the fact that she knew i'm just recovering from sickness..

For business or what?

Not all baby mama are worthy to be a wife . Her mama has said it all. She didn't give you a wife .Sent her packing to her mother's house and give your self rest of mind .

UjuJoan2:
But he is taking responsibility for the child . . Why should he also take responsibility for the woman?

Ooh well, whatever you say though!

Yes, he should keep taking care of his child and stop expecting the Nigerian married woman sufferhead from a babymama he isnt married to.
There's no indication that the money she's asking for isn't for the baby needs...the Op had started out his narrative by admitting he is a reckless spender who pleases others instead of his immediate responsibility. Why is the woman asking for better conditions for their child and not basking in self induced poverty riling you up so much?
You really think him expecting a pot of soup for 700naira is taking care of her? I'm not sure why you're being such a pick me but try and learn not to be too comfortable with poverty...stop bragging with poverty sis...

Bluntguy:
You are seeking for advice now because you don't have money in your pockets at the moment. Once you receive your pay now, she will welcome you home warmly and you will forget you ever asked for advice concerning her.
Now here is my advice:
Be patient till the next payday, you will soon smile again. Olodo!!!

Namesake, well done ooo..
You just said it exactly the way it came into mind.

I hope you see this.
My advice is you go your separate ways and be there as much as you can for your daughter..the mere fact that she got a child for you don’t mean you have to marry her and to be fair, you already tried to be a man and live with her but if it’s not working out..you move out and go your separate ways..

Let her go back to her parents' house, stay there and take care of your daughter while you send her some money each time you get your salary. This will provide you the time and space you need as a ma n to get things straight.

tunjilana:
Lol.
....scam

.....surrogate mothers leave the child and go....they have no benefit to reap

This one will stay and enjoy from the child when grown....so she shud get up and hustle with him for the future of the child....na she go still enjoy am pass....na dem two get the pikin biko

May your first daughter not will be impregnante by a man like OP and given N700 to prepare food.

Hypocrite!

plz leave that babe alone, if u impregnate a girl and u want to make things right but she is making life difficult for u let her go u have done ur best...she is not a wife material and cannot help u save and plan

Accept your mistake - bear your regrets and move on. what many posters may not admit is that it takes years of life experience to build character, it is not something you can just change with a pep-talk or counseling, the thief, manipulator and pathological liar did not start in one day and cannot change in one day. If you have that many years and the favor of "good times" in this harsh country... then stay there and bear with her in the interest of your child but know these TRUTHS

1: She will no quicker drop her child with her mother to bring-up if it comes to the worst,she is still young and there are many like her who hook-up and marry without letting their husband know they had a child until they are pregnant with his. (Manipulator)
2: She has "SEE-YOU-FINISH" and knows exactly what buttons to push to put you under her influence (Manipulator)
3: She thinks of herself alone and if she finds another man who is richer and as gullible, pliable and malleable as yourself - she will move on.

It is your life - you made the choices - you decide what is best... she won't change... kick her to the curb (with child)

For what her mother said is enough for me to send her out. Don't add to your problem by allowing useless people to stress you

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

But if your parents were never there for you, why not solidify your life before going to get a woman Pregnant and ending up in this entanglement with a poor child. Good luck sorting it all out. She will forever use the child she has with you to manipulate you.

things like this makes us think twice about this marriage thing

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

Lol, no be say i dey laugh you bro.. But sth is making me laugh sha especially the 700Naira part and empty kitchen.

On a serious note... You are close to one chance. The only solution to this problem is money. However, the bigger problem here is what if this money no come, or what if you are tempted to commit and they sack you. That is... What if the worst happens?

Well, pray money show up soon otherwise, after her maternity she may start seeing other men and that would be the beginning your end, thats if she is really a gold digger. If she is not a gold digger, she may be acting this way bc she thinks you are hiding money somewhere.

Call her, tell her that the pressure is getting too much on you and that she is not helping matters neighder is she understanding your predicament. That would she prefer to go back to her parents pending when you put your ass together so that both of you will have a happy home. Her answers will lead to your next action.

they say Love,Communisation,trust are theo main builders in a relationship,so communicate with her,know what she likes,what she wants,and how she wants its.sorry

merieam16:
I feel ur pain bro buh wat exactly do u want us to do

He wants ur advise. U could change his life forever. Everything ain't joke material

Archie30:
He wants ur advise. U could change his life forever. Everything ain't joke material

i later advise him hope he makes the right decisions

Happyguy201:
shut up if you don't have anything better to say . did you read what the op said or you just decide to type rubbish . . how would you feel if you come home and there is no food they already have the basic stuffs at home 700 naira can get meat and small thing to add on the soup . yeye women everywhere

all the best to u o. In this 2020. Person go dey drop 700 naira. Mind u, someone cannot just wake up and react like that. She must have been enduring it a while and she finally lost it. If he were responsible right from time, she would've reasoned with him. But from the beginning, na so so suffer and u want her to be smiling and happy. I repeat myself. Op Hustle harder and make money. So that financial issues won't break your home. If u think that leaving her is the solution. Sorry to say you're looking for even bigger trouble. I'm 80% sure the second will give u the same issue if not more. The only solution to your problem is hustle harder and earn your money. And motivate her to do somethings too to assist. This is the truest comment here. If u move to another with this same brokeness I just laf u. Sit down make money, do side hustle. Encourage her to make her own money too. Op hope you read this

Missyford31:
Lol silent treatment is the worst

Hmmmn... Really?

Masterdazhem:
Really sound advice

U sent me pm, I replied but bounced back

Send her away

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

sharpwriter:
Hmmmn... Really?

Yeah even wen I'm giving it I don't like it let alone beiyon the receiving end haha

Missyford31:
Yeah even wen I'm giving it I don't like it let alone beiyon the receiving end haha

That's true..... It is an emotional weapon more skilfully wielded by men

But I believe whichever angle that offence comes from (man or woman), the accused in the relationship should be able to apologize to the complainant in order to foster a healthy and happy relationship.

sharpwriter:
That's true..... It is an emotional weapon more skilfully wielded by men

But I believe whichever angle that offence comes from (man or woman), the accused in the relationship should be able to apologize to the complainant in order to foster a healthy and happy relationship.

True. My man n I don't last long not talking we miss each other too much. Isn't often we argue. We are good at being able to apologize n move on.

Missyford31:
True. My man n I don't last long not talking we miss each other too much. Isn't often we argue. We are good at being able to apologize n move on.

Very great, and good to hear. I wish you continual peace and healthy relationship.

Juliearth:
Blessed are you amongst other men to know your wife's true colours. Marry a woman that can support you through thick and thin... Is she handicapped? What is stopping her from setting up a small business to support you? That you didn't have the best childhood experience doesn't mean you should be a dunce and a fool for love.

You have a child with her, you can cater for that child's wellbeing, but that doesn't necessarily mean marrying the mother of that child, especially since she has shown traits that you cannot cope with. Work out an arrangement with her to go back to her parents' house. Your mother can cater for your daughter for the time being...



You also need to work on your cheerful giving spirit. You are not God, stop playing God in people's lives by trying to help them. Learn to hear from God before helping and you should also know that there is a factor called "the rainy day". If your savings culture was topnotch, you may not have resorted to taking loans to pay rent and other things... People take loans for investments and not to sort liabilities. There is a video by pastor Smart Adeyemi. Its on giving. I would implore you to look for that video and pay heed to the content.

God bless you sir. What a good read

sharpwriter:
Very great, and good to hear. I wish you continual peace and healthy relationship.

Thanku.

ElegantWoman:
At 31 u are allowing one daughter of jezebel ruin ur life.If u are saying the truth then U wil end up losing ur life at a very young age if u dont cut off from her..
I am a woman too and I hate when some ladies behave in this manner..If she is fed up with the relationship then she should quitely walk-away than putting up all this heartless atitude..I am a very independent woman and i am so proud of myself because of the self respect and confidence i posses.No man can ridicule me..We should support them not frustrate them..I believe in making my own money instead of waiting or putting pressure on a guy for source of livelihood..Its high time the ladies pick themselves up and make something for themselves instead of always relying on the man..In the western world,u hardly see a lady putting all her burdens on a guy in the name of love because out there, almost all of them are up and doing and they are doing gr8..
Op u beta reconsider the whole scene and fix it b4 u loose it...#craziest part of the world

Hello please do u kindly have nyansh?

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

I don't want to comment but I just have to drop my own 2 cents. What sign are you waiting for again?
Firstly the lady is not someone you can marry. Her attitude says it all
Secondly her mother already told you that she did not give you wife
Thirdly this lady accused you falsely by calling her mom saying you are beating her
Is it until she fake injury and tell police you did it? Separate yourself from her, send her away or you rent another house. But always take care of your daughter. If she is in school already, collect the school account number and pay school fees directly. If you send money to this type of women for your daughter upkeep I'm sure she will spend it

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

na wa o.

Bluntguy:
You are seeking for advice now because you don't have money in your pockets at the moment. Once you receive your pay now, she will welcome you home warmly and you will forget you ever asked for advice concerning her.
Now here is my advice:
Be patient till the next payday, you will soon smile again. Olodo!!!

I swear, your monicker fits U die.