Hello, (a bit of background) I live in the UK, my boyfriend is born in Zimbabwe but half Nigerian too. He’s lived in the UK since he was around 15/16 so about 6/7 years. We have been in a relationship for nearly a year; he is very very serious about me as far as I’m aware. He is always talking about our future; marriage, children etc. We are currently looking at flats to rent so we can try and give the “living together” thing a go and then eventually buy our own house together. He always talks about our future together and how much he can’t wait to live together etc etc as right now we have a long distance relationship as he lives in London and I live 2 hours away. It’s very hard for him to get away from his family because they are constantly ringing his phone to come home to do chores etc as soon as he leaves the house. He’s a very traditional African man when it comes to family and household stuff.

Anyway, considering he is so invested in our relationship and our future; he still won’t introduce me to his parents. It’s not like they do not know about my existence though however, as I have contact with his mother over text many times and she knows I am his girlfriend not just some female friend. I have met his older brother and we often all go out together and do things, so I have a good relationship with his brother. About a month into our relationship, my boyfriend was very insistent on meeting my family, so he has met my family already and often comes to my house and sits with them etc, so he has a good relationship with my mother and father. I’m just confused as to why he won’t properly introduce me to his parents as he has had many opportunities to and it’s not like I am a secret, as his mother knows of my existence, nor am I some “fling” since he is very insistent to move in and get married and have children etc. So I’m just confused as to why he won’t set it up already? I understand he can’t just bring home a girl it has to be a proper meeting but when he asked to meet my parents within 2 weeks I set up a meal and stuff and had them meet properly. Sometimes he tries to use his culture as an excuse but I have dated African men my whole life and most of my friends are African so I do understand a great deal of the culture and I have to constantly remind him I’m not clueless and he can’t try pull that card on me lol. I just really need other people’s opinion on this as I and many of my friends find it a bit weird. Thanks

Maybe you are not worth it...

He knows what he wants and u don't fit in....

Wicked truth

I don't see any need for the rush,
The guy is still taking his time to make sure things are in place before properly introducing you to his people.

Lh2704:
Hello, (a bit of background) I live in the UK, my boyfriend is born in Zimbabwe but half Nigerian too. He’s lived in the UK since he was around 15/16 so about 6/7 years. We have been in a relationship for nearly a year; he is very very serious about me as far as I’m aware. He is always talking about our future; marriage, children etc. We are currently looking at flats to rent so we can try and give the “living together” thing a go and then eventually buy our own house together. He always talks about our future together and how much he can’t wait to live together etc etc as right now we have a long distance relationship as he lives in London and I live 2 hours away. It’s very hard for him to get away from his family because they are constantly ringing his phone to come home to do chores etc as soon as he leaves the house. He’s a very traditional African man when it comes to family and household stuff.

Anyway, considering he is so invested in our relationship and our future; he still won’t introduce me to his parents. It’s not like they do not know about my existence though however, as I have contact with his mother over text many times and she knows I am his girlfriend not just some female friend. I have met his older brother and we often all go out together and do things, so I have a good relationship with his brother. About a month into our relationship, my boyfriend was very insistent on meeting my family, so he has met my family already and often comes to my house and sits with them etc, so he has a good relationship with my mother and father. I’m just confused as to why he won’t properly introduce me to his parents as he has had many opportunities to and it’s not like I am a secret, as his mother knows of my existence, nor am I some “fling” since he is very insistent to move in and get married and have children etc. So I’m just confused as to why he won’t set it up already? I understand he can’t just bring home a girl it has to be a proper meeting but when he asked to meet my parents within 2 weeks I set up a meal and stuff and had them meet properly. Sometimes he tries to use his culture as an excuse but I have dated African men my whole life and most of my friends are African so I do understand a great deal of the culture and I have to constantly remind him I’m not clueless and he can’t try pull that card on me lol. I just really need other people’s opinion on this as I and many of my friends find it a bit weird. Thanks

Because you are not take home type! Simple

emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell her?

Please don't

maybe he has wife he has already introduce to his parent

Elders over to you

The fvck
Niggarr!!

I will only comment when I'm sure at least one of the folks involved in this "wahala" is on this forum.

Till then I comment my reserve. OP go paste am for where you copy am back.

Where's my sk??

emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell her?

Not yet

Two things
1)He's not ready and probably over thinking the way his family would react but has plans for a marriage with you

2)You're probably not his last bus stop so he can't introduce you to his parents

Probably he isn't proud of you.

He probably thinks his parents won't accept you or the guy doesn't have plans for a future with you and will move on when he's ready.

Don't let meeting your parents deceive you it's just to win your trust that's if he doesn't have plans for you.

MrOjay1:
I don't see any need for the rush,
The guy is still taking his time to make sure things are in place before properly introducing you to his people.

Really?

The man dey enjoy him time for now while looking out for fresh meat.

I know say nah weytin you wan talk be that

This matter get as e be

But don't rush, he will still cum back

Your case tie wrapper

Maybe you're not worth it.... Maybe he sees your family on the high side and doesn't know how you will feel about him after meeting his family....

Maybe he's not who he truly is and might as well be a liar.... A common thing for we Africans...



But it's all about how you want it... If you really want to meet his parents.....You really have to table it to him and not us... He should tell you why he's not making that moves and why he was so fast about meeting your own parents....


People often lead by example... If I want to meet with your family...I'll be the first to take you to my family so you wouldn't have excuse about not taking me to your family as well...


I wish both of you luck....

He is just avoiding Nigeria parents wahala because introducing you is more like a closure,it would remain to pick wedding date.. So he is weighing his options so give him time.At least you do be living together soon so he can measure his compatiblity index with you.

Proofreading stage
this will make or breal time will tell

Timekeeper:
Maybe you are not worth it...

He knows what he wants and u don't fit in....

Come on

I think he's trying to be sure and convinced, the worst thing you can do to him is pushing him to do it on time, don't dare

uruba23:
He is just avoiding Nigeria parents wahala because introducing you is more like a closure,it would remain to pick wedding date.. So he is weighing his options so give him time.At least you do be living together soon so he can measure his compatiblity index with you.

Why would you introduce someone you are not willing to marry to your parents

emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell her?

Please do. Time no dey

Tajbol4splend:




Why would you introduce someone you are not willing to marry to your parents

That is why he is taking his time, long distance relationship isn't all that interesting especially when you can't preempt your partners reaction to certain events or issues. So let them live together first,hopefully they are súper compatible.

Hmmm...from the write up the guy is still a boy inside, you gat to find out his fear, coz wat I could decode from your write up is dat he is afraid of something or hiding something.
So wat you can do is to threaten to leave the relationship and watch his reaction,if he truly wants you am sure he will answer to your call if not he would behave like those white idiat and end the relationship...

Lh2704:
Hello, (a bit of background) I live in the UK, my boyfriend is born in Zimbabwe but half Nigerian too. He’s lived in the UK since he was around 15/16 so about 6/7 years. We have been in a relationship for nearly a year; he is very very serious about me as far as I’m aware. He is always talking about our future; marriage, children etc. We are currently looking at flats to rent so we can try and give the “living together” thing a go and then eventually buy our own house together. He always talks about our future together and how much he can’t wait to live together etc etc as right now we have a long distance relationship as he lives in London and I live 2 hours away. It’s very hard for him to get away from his family because they are constantly ringing his phone to come home to do chores etc as soon as he leaves the house. He’s a very traditional African man when it comes to family and household stuff.

Anyway, considering he is so invested in our relationship and our future; he still won’t introduce me to his parents. It’s not like they do not know about my existence though however, as I have contact with his mother over text many times and she knows I am his girlfriend not just some female friend. I have met his older brother and we often all go out together and do things, so I have a good relationship with his brother. About a month into our relationship, my boyfriend was very insistent on meeting my family, so he has met my family already and often comes to my house and sits with them etc, so he has a good relationship with my mother and father. I’m just confused as to why he won’t properly introduce me to his parents as he has had many opportunities to and it’s not like I am a secret, as his mother knows of my existence, nor am I some “fling” since he is very insistent to move in and get married and have children etc. So I’m just confused as to why he won’t set it up already? I understand he can’t just bring home a girl it has to be a proper meeting but when he asked to meet my parents within 2 weeks I set up a meal and stuff and had them meet properly. Sometimes he tries to use his culture as an excuse but I have dated African men my whole life and most of my friends are African so I do understand a great deal of the culture and I have to constantly remind him I’m not clueless and he can’t try pull that card on me lol. I just really need other people’s opinion on this as I and many of my friends find it a bit weird. Thanks

Perhaps he is taking his time to further sure you are both compatible 100%... Just my opinion!

Hmmm

Let me be blunt.

I have 2 ladies.

A is Beautiful, a single mother, has a swimming pool in her house and CARS..... yet she washes my bedsheets + toilet vs

B is like 25 years. Beautiful. Never married. But that's the end. Not useful for anything.

I told B that I never see her and marriage in the same sentence. Whereas with A, there's no extent to which I don't spend on her...no lengths to which i can't go.

it will end in tears

MrOjay1:
I don't see any need for the rush,
The guy is still taking his time to make sure things are in place before properly introducing you to his people.

I understand the “no rush” however like I said it’s not like his mum doesn’t know of my existence, what I look like etc etc. I have met his older brother already and he approves of me from what he has said to my face so I don’t get it lol.

wisest10:
Hmmm...fromnthe write up the guy is still a boy inside, you gat ti find out his fear, coz wat I could decide from your write up is dat he is afraid of something or hiding something.
So wat you can do is to threaten to leave the relationship and watch his reaction,if he truly wants you am sure he will answer to your call if not he would behave like those white idiat and end the relationship...

Many time I try to leave but he always come back like I haven’t just broken up with him lol. He does everything in his power to communicate our issues and work it out between us so it’s not like he doesn’t have respect for the relationship. I always feel like he is hiding something but he always proves me wrong; I have never caught him out. His mother knows about me, we speak over text occasionally so it’s not like I am “hidden” or a secret do you get me? I just find it strange how he was so insistent on meeting my family but when I press about his he has excuse and tries to throw the “our cultures are different” card in my face