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Very weak man. You know the truth a d you choose to deny it. Stay until they eliminate you . I guess you are sure the kids are yours. Sorry.

Your wife is in an entanglement

Honestly I pity men that don't meet their woman as virgin, I pity some men more whom their wives have many ex before marriage, imagine what they must have used the pussy you stressed yourself to pay the bride price to do before you have the used


I can't marry a used lady, never will I wish my enemy to marry a used lady, I don't see any sense in paying Bride price of non virgin lady



is a shame for men to pay bride price of a non virgin lady, help our ladies value their dignity. say no to non virgin lady


say no to used lady

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

your wife is already sleeping with men outside.
what evidence do you need again.
you have two options
1. stay in that marriage and die early. or
2. Walk away and start another life.

Hmm, you need prayer both you and your wife.
Galatians 6:7 KJV
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Christ is coming soon.
Repent

Chydo63:
Op, i understand what you're passing through especially, because kids are involved. You're considering what would happen to the kids incase of a divorce and she's feeling she can get away with all the atrocities but, you need to do what'd restore your Sanity even if it means kicking her out. I know You're hampered because of finances, work and pray to be up again and then do the needful.
Truth is more women are adulterous now because of bad economy and social media.

They are adulterous because they lack fear of God in their lives. Let's get it straight.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge;
1 Get online and search how to read your spouse WhatsApp messages or look for a tech person.
2. Trail her or have someone you trust do that for you.
3. Before you begin be sure you want to know the truth and if the truth hurts are you prepared for divorce...
4. Stop going home on monthly basis, Ibadan is not far to lagos, it was because Adam left Eve that gave room for devil.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

You have to be careful of the way you accuse your wife of I fidelity. I read your post and to me they are not enough to accuse or judge her.

I am a sales person and I know what it means to manage client. The truth is if you don't trust her, let her change her job or do something else. You can't destroy your marriage because of 'you think'

A lot of people giving you an advice here are jobless, they don't know what it takes to manage their self talkless of customer.

Please if she continue the job, take time to understand her job, act intelligently to catch her red handed before you act.

It doesn't worth it to destroy your marriage on assumption.

[quote author=LexzyBillz post=93623130][/quote]So how many people did your wife knack before things became stable?

[quote author=abbeynism post=93622669]If you can find a way to install secret app to record her calls and track her messages. It is better to have strong evidences before confronting her.

This is how a weak man react exactly. He is not confronting her she is cheating but confronting her to put an end to meeting an ex and conversing with an ex. Just react and not keeping quiet when you heard something, that makes you a weak man that cannot manage his home. You are not confronting her with cheating accusations but letting her know you are aware she is meeting an ex. The moment you see something unfamiliar just react and not nurturing the wounds silently allowing more damages.

GuyWise101:
Madam you are blessed.

Amen.

It's painful that most advices won't solve the issues because the wife is on NAIRALAND

Install on her Yoruba Anti-adultery Device (YAAD).

The problem you refuse to solve today will still be there always and tormenting your emotions. So deal with it once and for all.

the fact that you have kids is the only thing there if not ... I for advice you to free her ..so I would say focus on your kids and also remember NO HUMAN BEING is worth your happiness!

also without knowing you I can guess you are a predictable guy ... daddy daddy good guy guy ....women hate that shit... become unpredictable for a change ..

women are fixers they love to fix things ... give her something to fix... start having female friends ... don't cheat but hang with em ... come home and leave unexpectedly with a " I am coming " cruise and even if she asks where you dey go just keep saying the same shit haha .. it starts to mess with her mind and she go dey try figure you out .. you son give am work be that ......

kai this ogogoro strong oooo 43 %

when where was I ... my brother the lord is your strong.

Wao! You make sense,am having a serious problem with my marriage too. I got your comment

Hmmmm... There is this married(with kids) ex that has been calling/texting me for past 9 years that she loves me bla bla.........
Unfortunately for her, I don't do married women and I don't go back to my vomit!
There is SOMETHING with MOST ladies and their ex....

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Purchase a ring door bell/ camera bulb and install secretly in her office and at home

golddare:
Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge;
1 Get online and search how to read your spouse WhatsApp messages or look for a tech person.
2. Trail her or have someone you trust do that for you.
3. Before you begin be sure you want to know the truth and if the truth hurts are you prepared for divorce...
4. Stop going home on monthly basis, Ibadan is not far to lagos, it was because Adam left Eve that gave room for devil.

I agree with you but for number 4. A woman that will cheat on you will cheat on you whether you are there or not. It is impossible to be with her 24/7 likewise the reverse...

...she saw that it was good to the eyes, good for food and one to give knowledge and she did eat...Actions are the end product of how we internalize information received. Consequently 2 persons can receive the same information / external stimulus, one will cheat and one will not...

sorry man, intensify ur investigation and catch her red handed or hack her watsapp or Facebook account.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Stay away from Nigerian women

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

You need to find a way to catch her red handed, monitor the chats and communication, i for help you run am as tech geek i no that side but you need to be sure beyond a reasonable doubt to give a verdict and a discussion right now won't be or should not be in your mind, why?

Because you have fought and had this discussion with her severally in my opinion that is not someone who is going to listen, if you do that it is going to be come tight because she is going to be aware that you are on the look out so don't.

I can explain how to do the detective work but first read this one.

owo8184:
Thanks but if you asked me before now, I will tell you she's not a cheat. We dated 6yrs before marriage. I took her virginity at the age of 27. I think she's been influenced by social media.

That's what I have been saying. Marrying a woman does not guaranteed a successful marriage. It would only make a man pussy-whip.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

you said it all by saying that she dated a man when you people have misunderstanding .so your wife is a secret runs woman, what you need now is to talk to her & monitor her because a big problem is coming

oloyedprince1:
If he uses magun and the man that slept with the wife die.... If police kan carry you what would the court charge you for...

Why police go carry the man?

From the look of things, she started misbehaving even before your marriage. Enough reason why you should have called off the marriage. The two of you need counseling.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Be alert and wait until u have something concrete, she is definitely cheating..

How can my wife tell me a guy is asking her out, won't u bluntly tell the guy u're married, and block him if he persists.

Brother ,see you want the truth .she no fit change and nothing kills faster than a cheating wife ..her infidelity puts your lives and that of your kids at risk ..just patiently wait and catch her again ..have a concrete evidence ,just jejely walk away..she WILL NEVER STOP CHEATING!

Before you make any move to confront her;

1, you have to be clean: make sure you ain't a cheat as well.

2, You need an air tight evidence so she won't able to leak her way out of the accusation. Pipe more effort on intelligence gathering.

3.don't let her decode that she's being suspected. Else, you will blow the fuse. Play the ostrich.

4. Have it at back your mind that she could be innocent of the charges. Be fair to her.

I personally can't throw shots at your wife or either tag her a cheat. Fair judgment are passed after hearing from both parties and acute examination of evidence.

Above all move for peace. Nobody wins when the family feuds

Man to be honest with u, your wife is cheating on u. I will advice you police her movement, is not going to be easy but u have to do it. If u eventually find out please do not fight her or her lover just quietly walk out of the marriage and take your children along with u because her ways may influence your children's lives negatively.

Palema007:
Your foundation was faulty. While dating/courting she got intimate with a guy, you guys settled and got married. Did you make sure she cut off the guy before marrying her?

See, while I try as much as possible to be forgiving, two things I don't take is betrayal and cheating. While I may let go of the former with precautions i cant the latter. Cheats don't change! Let no one tell you otherwise, except the person gives his or her life to Christ sha.

Your two things are very important, can't forgive them either. A cheat will always be a cheat, same with a betrayer

Enter your war room and pray. Have your bath twice a day and try to look nice. Pray and fast for 40days,something will change.

owo8184:
If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly

Guy, try to catch her face, to face.