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Tadeknkeepcalm:
I did not spot any mistakes in your post (asides shorthand).
I do not have any advice. But one advice I'll give you regarding seeking advice on nairaland: DON'T LISTEN TO THE FEMINIST AND THE REDPILLERS. They will destroy your marriage before even stepping into it.

Carteroz:
Helo peeps
My wife and i did our traditional wedding sometime last year and we wanted to do our white wedding this year in the month of may but due to this coro issue we shifted it to October.
The place she works in owerri refused to transfer her to the state im staying..we have been staying apart all these while cox her family was bent on we must do white wedding before we start living together..she called today that her company has agreed to give her a commercial job which will make her cover some other close towns but sometimes it will take her a day or two days outside my state
She called me to ask for my opinion
The fact is we need the money cox the pay is good however im good on my own but i dont want my wife idle,it might be cool for now but the question is can i handle this?
Whats ur take on this
Sorry for the errors,English no be our papa language

Carteroz:
Helo peeps
My wife and i did our traditional wedding sometime last year and we wanted to do our white wedding this year in the month of may but due to this coro issue we shifted it to October.
The place she works in owerri refused to transfer her to the state im staying..we have been staying apart all these while cox her family was bent on we must do white wedding before we start living together..she called today that her company has agreed to give her a commercial job which will make her cover some other close towns but sometimes it will take her a day or two days outside my state
She called me to ask for my opinion
The fact is we need the money cox the pay is good however im good on my own but i dont want my wife idle,it might be cool for now but the question is can i handle this?
Whats ur take on this
Sorry for the errors,English no be our papa language

Tadeknkeepcalm:
I did not spot any mistakes in your post (asides shorthand).
I do not have any advice. But one advice I'll give you regarding seeking advice on nairaland: DON'T LISTEN TO THE FEMINIST AND THE REDPILLERS. They will destroy your marriage before even stepping into it.

Tadeknkeepcalm:
I did not spot any mistakes in your post (asides shorthand).
I do not have any advice. But one advice I'll give you regarding seeking advice on nairaland: DON'T LISTEN TO THE FEMINIST AND THE REDPILLERS. They will destroy your marriage before even stepping into it.

DaddyRochie1642:
In the future, it's a Perfect Opportunity for her to Explore.... If you know you know

Petyr1:
Just 5 words- let her go for it
Thank your star that you found a hardworking lady and not the lazy type that will sit at home waiting for money

Carteroz:
Helo peeps
My wife and i did our traditional wedding sometime last year and we wanted to do our white wedding this year in the month of may but due to this coro issue we shifted it to October.
The place she works in owerri refused to transfer her to the state im staying..we have been staying apart all these while cox her family was bent on we must do white wedding before we start living together..she called today that her company has agreed to give her a commercial job which will make her cover some other close towns but sometimes it will take her a day or two days outside my state
She called me to ask for my opinion
The fact is we need the money cox the pay is good however im good on my own but i dont want my wife idle,it might be cool for now but the question is can i handle this?
Whats ur take on this
Sorry for the errors,English no be our papa language

Acidosis:
If you let her go, you will face many problems. If she quits the job, you will face many problems.

Weigh the problems and choose the most convenient to deal with it.

In whatever decision you choose, never allow anyone f00l you into the belief that money is the most important thing on earth.

ibrutex:
i want to reason from both side so you chose ...

a) If women are given too much freedom they will finally abuse the opportunity, staying out for a day or two not too good and you are too young to get high BP ..

b) If she is idle not good either , nobody wants a liability as a wife or if she can get something done around , you can discuss this out with her.

Truvel:
1. It's Not Suppose To Be A Must To Do D White Wedding B4 Both Of U Can Live Together, Since U Av Done D Necessary Things. I Don't Know Why D Parent Are Stressing U Financially. Anyway, If U Can, Do So. 2. Which Pay Is Good? Her Own Company Or Urs?

bukatyne:
If I understand you,
1. You and wifey currently live apart in different states
2. Your wife's place of work has agreed to transfer her to your state however, she might work two days max outside your state

Now:
1. Where would she stay or sleep when outside your state?
2. What is the job routine like? On the days she is in your state, what is her proposed schedule? What is the distance between your house and her place of work?
3. Is it a job that when you close for the day, you are done or you work round the clock? (I suspect any job that has to do with sales/marketing is usually round the clock though flexible.
4. Is it easy to get another job in her line of business? Is her role specialized to the company?

The answers to the question would determine the next steps.

And new husband, have a general mindset shift from 'Can I handle this' to 'Is this the best for my family? Does this align with our goals?' It shifts your decision making process from selfishness to selflessness, the hallmark of a thoughtful husband.

Carteroz:
u got it right...its more like marketing and its not just 2 or 3 days outa my state ...it might be more pending on the demand of goods or less ..she might stay a whole month without going or might go more than once in a month it depends...however i cant answer all your questions cox she has been working far away i don't know much about it but it has been all on trust...

Carteroz:
Babe dey my house dey send nude to another nigga ...fear woman

Carteroz:
They have fish brain cox matter how smart they play we can still use marriage trap them to play mumu..hahaha[color=#006600][/color]

Carteroz:
yea u re right,have endured staying afar from her for a year now but thats what the family wants and i followed it..they re too Christian for my liking but all that will end in october...however i was referring to her pay...90k per month

bukatyne:
On second thoughts, I think you are just trolling after going through your profile.

On July 2nd 2020, you said this:


And this on another thread:


Is it this wife that was with you in July or was she the one you were referring to as 'trapped by marriage'?

Anyways, good imagination and people would pick something you have from the thread.

bukatyne:
How can you make a sound decision or have an intelligent opinion if you don't know all the details?

What do you guys talk about if you don't know the basics of her job routine? This is not a matter of trust or lack of; it is a matter of intimacy and communication.

Biko you need ALL the facts before you can make a concrete decision that works for your family.

Truvel:
Is D 90k Better Dan D Pay She Was Receiving In Owerri?

Carteroz:
hehe...this is nairaland people say whatever they wish to get the topic going.
This is not an imagination however my wife is not the first girl i dated i was talking bout my past experience

Carteroz:
same amount..its the same company

bukatyne:
On second thoughts, I think you are just trolling after going through your profile.

On July 2nd 2020, you said this:


And this on another thread:


Is it this wife that was with you in July or was she the one you were referring to as 'trapped by marriage'?

Anyways, good imagination and people would pick something from the thread.

crackhaus:

Carteroz:
Helo peeps
My wife and i did our traditional wedding sometime last year and we wanted to do our white wedding this year in the month of may but due to this coro issue we shifted it to October.
The place she works in owerri refused to transfer her to the state im staying..we have been staying apart all these while cox her family was bent on we must do white wedding before we start living together..she called today that her company has agreed to give her a commercial job which will make her cover some other close towns but sometimes it will take her a day or two days outside my state
She called me to ask for my opinion
The fact is we need the money cox the pay is good however im good on my own but i dont want my wife idle,it might be cool for now but the question is can i handle this?
Whats ur take on this
Sorry for the errors,English no be our papa language

Carteroz:
this work requires her moving with a guy cox its a company car,however they told her they will give her a car of her own later on...imagine knowing ur wife is moving around another with a single guy and my wife is beautiful...know my fears and