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Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by tunize(m): 4:39pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Marry her if you feel she is cool the only prayer you should be praying is she should remain a good wife to you after marriage. Who good don good, who nor good nor good! |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Blackmann001: 4:40pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
op.ppl must meet people somehow... That ur uncles introduced her doesn't mean its a bad set up...... Intact.the best gal I ever met was wen I went to buy recharge card.... So if sh is cool..y not? |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Crownstar01: 4:41pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
toprealman:Yes, that's one of them. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by fineboynl(m): 4:43pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
I hope you don't go through what the Ghanaian pastor is going through in America. ask yourself do you really love her? or you are just considering the better living? I think their lies your answer. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by jubrilELsudan: 4:45pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
YOU ARE VERY STUPID TO EVEN ASK US THIS DIRTY QUESTION. 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by abbey621(m): 4:45pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Yankee101: I don't know about anywhere else but in the USA if you have not completed your residency you can't practice as a doctor, the board won't even certify you and without board certification your medical degree is useless. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by WhyAWhy(m): 4:48pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
You have an interesting story and I will table a few action plans for you. 1. Take a trip to USA or let her come down to Nigeria for a short trip - You will understand each other's mannerisms and perspective to life better with a short trip. 2. You are both in the age where everyone believes you should be married or popping out babies so there is a tendency for people to link you up so that your sole focus is planning a life together- DO NOT fall for this. You have to get to know each other without the bias of settling together (tough call). 3. Does she have a student loan and how much? This is the kind of financial burden you may have to bear. 4. Who else knows her apart from the people that introduced her. What are her facebook posts/Instagram/Twitter/Whatsapp stories and shares like. You can easily build up a profile based on this. 5. Where do you guys plan to settle if this pans out well. It is incredibly hard to just "move from Nigeria" and start practising medicine in the USA. I have several Nigerians as family friends who have not been able to get into the Medical System in USA after finishing Medicine in OAU and postgrad in USA. You have tons of difficult exams to write and a very competitive application process that puts people who schooled abroad ahead of you. It is still easier to get into the UK system by writing IELTS, Plab1 and Plab2 in that order. Like several people have said, you are both coming from different backgrounds and have probably imbibed different idealogies and perspective about life. Marrying across the pond is a very big gamble irrespective of race. You therefore have to carry out a lot of due diligence. Marriage itself is a gamble but there are so many obvious things you can iron out before you decide on settling with a partner I wish you all the best bro. 3 Likes |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by marylandcakes: 4:50pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
gaius01: Is the Op getting married to be able to control her? |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Yankee101: 4:51pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
abbey621: An MD is a medical degree. See my last post. Not all doctors practice in clinical settings. There are epidemiology jobs, data managers, others branch to do masters in HMO courses to manage hospitals etc A resident is also a doctor in training and is referred to as an intern in yr 1 and resident in subsequent years. They are called doctors in the hospital, assigned doctor functions,, paged as doctors in emergencies.. Facts are not subject to your opinion |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Regex: 4:51pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
pansophist: Kai... Oil deh your head. I have been waiting for your comment on this issue. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by LordKO(m): 4:52pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
An environment doesn't inherently change someone's ethical leanings. I wager more than 99.5% the people who've given you advice are either subjects of their host countries or haven't crossed the shores of Nigeria. Know thyself and make sure you're going into equity with clean hands - if real marriage is your target with her - then hack her mind and know her true character. If her ethical leanings align towards conscientiousness, marry her, provided that you're ready to stay conscientious. Don't base your interest in her on material things or what you intend to gain from her; rather, base it on your continual ability to cheerfully maintain and sustain her core interest in you, because that's the surest way to have a wife who'll move mountains for you. Meanwhile, discard her if you observe any trace of self-absorption in her, even if she doesn't mete out such against you at the moment, because she'll definitely do in the near future, unless you derive pleasure in servility. Don't mortgage your liberty because of paper, because you can easily get one at a cheaper rate with your liberty intact. 3 Likes |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by madjune(m): 4:55pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Crispels: My brother, if you like, go marry akata. Go ask Nigerians wey marry Nigerian babes born there how far? One morning she go wake up begin shout Black lives mata for your head. Dem no dey tell person. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Happy2020: 4:56pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
I always laugh at these usual closed minded Comments from people that have never traveled outside of their state let alone to another country. A women is a women, with exceptions. Nigerian women are most likely to fake love because they see that you Can benefit them in some way and American women will most likely be more independent, so if you are an insecure man who wants to always have 100% control over someone, look elsewhere. Nowadays a marriage is a partnership not a Nigerian dictatorship |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Nobody: 4:57pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
daddymummy: I use to think that i am the only one that observes these character in naija girls. So there is someone else that sees these bad nature of nigerian girls. Men in naija are only interested in sex with our ladies to the extent that they dont observe these useless nature of our girls. But after our men marry naija girls and their desire to sleep with the wife wanes,their eyes will now open and they will see the woman as she is. Then they will start having quarrel and trouble with their wives. They will start hating the woman. If our men can look beyond the woman's body and his desire to sleep with her,he would have seen her true nature. It is only after marriage when the woman's body no longer drive him crazy,that is when he will be shocked to discover the evil nature of his wife. So men must look beyond her physical attributes.When you no longer desire her sexually after marriage,what should remain and sustain the marriage should be her good nature. But most men will only discover a prideful,self centered,badly behaved woman after the desire for sex has reduced in marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by marylandcakes: 4:57pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Like everything else in life, even if you are going to marry someone from the moon. Get to know the person very well, don’t be in a hurry, be realistic. Look more to the negatives of the person and see if you will be able to put up with them because most people have got loads of good sides which you should regard as a bonus Find out if you are compatible . Then you can make up your mind. Every relationship requires honesty and mutual respect as a foundation and every other thing is a bonus. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by RTSC: 5:06pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
AlfaSeltzer:lol |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by jaxxy(m): 5:07pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Trumptweet: It’s all about personality and perception. There are many ladies with groomed in the American ideology who don’t agree with every aspect and pick only the positives. So it’s based on her personality and how much sense she has. It’s an individual thing. Some gals like to learn/adopt bad things and some consciously like to adopt the good. Even here in Nigeria we see them acting and reacting. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Crispels(m): 5:08pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
madjune: Lol bro. I’ve been in the US for a while and I can tell you that Nigerian Americans are culturally different from Akitas. It depends on the personality tho but many of them(Nigerian Americans) do possess great qualities. The only BUT that you may have is that they are largely independent minded and they usually have high expectations - career, physical features, finance, spiritual life and stuff like that. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Crownstar01: 5:09pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
handsomebeauty8:Hahaha. A Nigerian girl would come to your house, finish your food and also expect you to give her money when she's living. What a bombshell! |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by RTSC: 5:09pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Yankee101:Anybody that watches Greys anatomy will know how american healthcare is structured. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by madjune(m): 5:10pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Crispels: I'm also in US, if not longer than you here. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by RTSC: 5:13pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Medical school- Internship(first year in a teaching hospital)- Residency- Fellowship- Attending Attendings are the top of the food chain. And it takes atleast a decade to become one. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by abbey621(m): 5:15pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Yankee101: The problem here is interpretation and not wanting to 'farabale', a doctor in training can be called a doctor but I was referring to the board. The board does not recognize them as doctors but rather doctors in training. In the USA, those intending on practicing as a medical doctor must pass USMLE Step 3 or COMLEX-USA Level 3 exam which comes after year one or two of residency. This is not an opinion but fact, all the jargon you wrote above about data managers and administartors has nothing to do with what I'm talking about, my stance is strictly for those that wants to practice as a medical doctor! Having a medical degree alone does not make you a medical doctor in the USA, any further argument can be done between you and your keyboard....PEACE! |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by A1money: 5:15pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Trumptweet: Invite her to Nigeria and introduce her to your parent, your parent will see the value of a good wife in her due to their experience if thoroughly she will make a good wife and it doesn't matter whether you wed in Nigeria or in US but pray about it and you will make the right choice yourself |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Sterope(f): 5:17pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Lmao. It is what you are. gaius01: |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by humilitypays(m): 5:18pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Trumptweet: Beware of arranged marriage, moreso as a young promising man, avoid it! The whole American girl thing may sound so posche and thrilling now, but trust me, you will regret it later in life. You are a medical student, you can relocate abroad and work if that's your so wish in life...all you need to do is study well and write IELTS, write PLAB 1 and 2 which you can pass easily if you are bright student. I can't remember failing any exam as a student and even as job applicant, so you can do it. Don't plan to use a woman to cross over abroad cos it always end in regrets. The girl is already an Americana, you a full blooded Naija boy with pride won't condone her excesses in marriage. You can have a plan to relocate to UK, from UK to Australia then US if you so wish to live permanently abroad. UK is easier for doctors from Nigeria to migrate to for work....US is more difficult. If you must marry a girl abroad, be the one to meet her yourself....and make sure you are absolutely in charge cos their head is always leaking relaxer due to excess freedom and women right over there. In case you wanna know, I turned down like 3 of such arrangements from relatives and friends who thought they wanted to help me cross over to US through marrying a US citizen, and today, I can proudly say I am more successful than most of my mates living in the US whether as a Doctor, Nurse or whatever job they do there and I can travel to most countries on my own....I have peace of mind, I am an employer....I work at my own schedule, I rule my world....no woman to tell me any nonsense of how she helped me cross over to America like America is wealth. So think twice......your future is slightly bright as a medical student about to graduate, all you need now is focus and dedication and the world is yours, forget women for now, you will be their hero soon!! 4 Likes |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Crownstar01: 5:19pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
OP is lucky. Mine, an Ethiopian-American damsel insisted I must come to the States. Covid-19 ruined me. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by humilitypays(m): 5:25pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
Crownstar01:How is he lucky You think marrying an American citizen makes you rich or what Most times, it doesn't end well at the long run due to their wild upbringing and extreme feminism practice over there. Use your head, you can be as rich as you desire even in Nigeria.....just pray for God's grace and favor and then fold your sleeves and work, trust me, its just a matter of time and you will be wondering that was this how easy it is to make money and I was killing myself over money in the past There are riches everywhere in the world. Nigeria even have more riches to be made because there are plenty untapped opportunities waiting for smart people to explore. Yes traveling abroad is cool, but don't mortgage your happiness, freedom and future joy for it 3 Likes |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Posh2018: 5:27pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
sorepco: Girls back home are equally very bad and dangerous. Check her personality and ideology. If good and promising, you might want to try. But chances are 95% that she will want to be in charge and sees it as normal. Note divorce in US is as simple as breaking up of girl friend and boy friend. The guy normally suffers for it. Why all these marriages sef? With all the wahala |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Crispels(m): 5:30pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
madjune: So, what makes you think that Nigerian American girls despite their educational and career achievements, their Nigerian heritage, family values and the likes are not different from the people you compared them with? |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by Crownstar01: 5:33pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
humilitypays:There are excellent American girls with proper upbringing. My friend married a damsel who graduated from MIT and both are doing pretty well. Life doesn't stop in Nigeria. You've got to move. I know what I want in life because I am an educated person. Girls(not all) in Nigeria are also morally bankrupt. |
Re: What Are Advantages & Disadvantages Of Marrying Nigerian Girl Born In America? by bezimo(m): 5:35pm On Sep 14, 2020 |
nexta007: So true |
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