This is going to be long one.

I'm hopelessly in love with this girl I met back on sec school.
She talked to me at first and we immediately clicked it's as if we knew each other for ages.
Fast forward 2 months later I ask her to be my girlfriend after I had noticed she felt the same for me, she'd try to kiss me but me being a shy person and suffering from extreme social anxiety back then secondary school even with my good looks I was still very very shy.
Anyways she turned me down, I asked her why and she had no reason, I respected myself and didnt ask anymore.
The next day she started ignoring me, I swear it torn my heart to see the way this girl would snub me, 2 days later she came back begging and I forgave her we went back to being extremely close she'd tell me everything even her personal family matters which I found very weird.
Fast forward half a year later, we're so close most think we're dating and even herself would tell me she talks to me and often forgets I'm not her boyfriend.
I try again and ask her out, She rejects me again telling me she fears when we break up, we would stop talking even tho she still talks and relates well with her EX whom bad mouthed her publicly and she'd like us to get married instead of dating (This honestly pissed me off and I found it extremely difficult to communicate with her)

Presently now (almost a year )we don't talk, I deleted her number so as to get over her.
Truth be told i can't stop thinking about her and it's driving me mad, i recently came across a video and some photos of her online and it just originated those feelings for her.
I'm hopelessly in love with this girl and I'm sick of it.
All I ask is for advice, how do I move on?
I'm a person of that values self respect ALOT and i can't bring myself to talk to her after she turned me down TWICE.

P.S She even told me she had a crush on me, so it honestly left me confused when she turned me down the second time.

You love her but don't want to marry her??

I am not understanding

BornSnner9:
You love her but don't want to marry her??

I am not understanding

No.
She said she would prefer we got married instead of dating because she fears we would stop talking even tho I pointed out she still relates with her ex.

Who want to move with a guy that bear that moniker?

Nna eh! No qualms
This is so unsophisticated
Don't be a simp, bang other kpekus
And most importantly, always take mushin weed (it helps)

Enudapan:
Nna eh! No qualms
This is so unsophisticated
Don't be a simp, bang other kpekus
And most importantly, always take mushin weed (it helps)

If you read what I wrote then you know I'm nothing like a simp.
When she turned me down, I didn't ask her out again and she came back begging for my forgiveness.

It's just that I have fallen so hard for this girl.

Just use her bad attitude/character to suppress the feelings each time d though crossess her mind from u ll write her off from our mind.

I'll advise you to take sniper
Maybe the orange or apple flavor

be there crushing when she is getting laid elsewhere

akaahs:
Just use her bad attitude/character to suppress the feelings each time d though crossess her mind from u ll write her off from our mind.

That's the problem.
She's almost perfect in terms of character, her only problem back then was she had this habit of snubbing but apart from that her character was perfect.
She even said I was her exact type of guy, so when she turned me down it created a temporary kind of hatred towards her within me.
Now after seeing her pictures and video, i can't stop thinking about her

Failure44:

No.
She said she would prefer we got married instead of dating because she fears we would stop talking even tho I pointed out she still relates with her ex.

oh ok..

Truth is some relationship are best at friends level..

Failure44:

If you read what I wrote then you know I'm nothing like a simp.
When she turned me down, I didn't ask her out again and she came back begging for my forgiveness.

It's just that I have fallen so hard for this girl.

Don't ask her out again, let her ask you out.

dingbang:
be there crushing when she is getting laid elsewhere

I honestly don't care.
That's her business.
I just wanna get over her.

BornSnner9:
oh ok..

Truth is some relationship are best at friends level..

Bro
If you have ever fallen in love, you would know it's impossible to remain friends with that person.

Decimus:
Don't ask her out again, let her ask you out.

Well we don't talk again since I deleted her number and temporarily blocked her almost a year ago.

Failure44:

That's the problem.
She's almost perfect in terms of character, her only problem back then was she had this habit of snubbing but apart from that her character was perfect.
She even said I was her exact type of guy, so when she turned me down it created a temporary kind of hatred towards her within me.
Now after seeing her pictures and video, i can't stop thinking about her

When she said you are her exact type of guy, what she meant was that you are not her type.
Leave her alone and move with other babes.

Decimus:

When she said you are her exact type of guy, what she meant was that you are not her type.
Leave her alone and move with other babes.

I have tried moving towards other babes but non of them have gotten my interest the way this girl has.
She's intelligent (something that's hard to find in our ladies these days)
Beautiful
Naughty and everything else

If you are old enough and ready for marriage you could try again, some ladies love persistence and the love chase from the guy and will not give in until you pressure enough, but you must apply caution to know when you are being foolish and therefore withdraw . study her to know if she is doing shakara or she seriously don't want you

But if you are not ready for marriage face your front please

Failure44:

Bro
If you have ever fallen in love, you would know it's impossible to remain friends with that person.

lol.. You may not understand, see love fades over time.. by the time you break up and perhaps you guys stop talking to each other.. you'd realise it's a stupid feeling "love"

Failure44:

I honestly don't care.
That's her business.
I just wanna get over her.

from the way I see it, you can't ..

Failure44:

Well we don't talk again since I deleted her number and temporarily blocked her almost a year ago.

If you are still interested in her, unblock her number. But don't give her any attention.

goodmorning40:
If you are old enough and ready for marriage you could try again, some ladies love persistence and the love chase from the guy and will not give in until you pressure enough, but you must apply caution to know when you are being foolish and therefore withdraw . study her to know if she is doing shakara or she seriously don't want you

That's something about me I already stated.
I value self respect highly, I find it extremely difficult to chase a woman some girls have actually told me straight up about this but I just can't.
I honestly wanted to try to communicate with her again but my pride wouldn't let me do so.
I'm just sick about how I feel about this girl.

Decimus:

If you are still interested in her, unblock her number. But don't give her any attention.

Yes, I unblocked her number and wanted to try to talk to her but couldn't. My value for self respect wouldn't allow me.
Sometimes I wonder
It's been a year, would this girl still have those feelings for me?

xband:
Who want to move with a guy that bear that moniker?

LOL
I made this NL account a year ago because I failed jamb after studying so hard and I was extremely depressed.
Thankfully I'm now a medical student.
I just use this account from time to time.

small boy small girl paroo bi this now .... ur age mate here will advise you ...

BornSnner9:
lol.. You may not understand, see love fades over time.. by the time you break up and perhaps you guys stop talking to each other.. you'd realise it's a stupid feeling "love"

Tried this but the feelings won't die.
I have only crushed on 3 girls in this life and after like 3 months the feelings went away for 2/3 of those girls but this 3rd one, I just don't know why I can't get over her.

Failure44:

That's something about me I already stated.
I value self respect highly, I find it extremely difficult to chase a woman some girls have actually told me straight up about this but I just can't.
I honestly wanted to try to communicate with her again but my pride wouldn't let me do so.
I'm just sick about how I feel about this girl.

Well social media has solved some part of that problem, you can reconnect with her and start by charting as friends level, leave relationship and romance out first until you have established a connection with her

It will end in tears

goodmorning40:


Well social media has solved some part of that problem, you can reconnect with her and start by charting as friends level, leave relationship and romance out first until you have established a connection with her

Honestly I'm thinking about this.
Trying to talk to her again maybe it'll help me get over this madness called love that I feel for her because the distancing isn't helping.

1beat:
small boy small girl paroo bi this now .... ur age mate here will advise you ...

I'm waiting for them.

Failure44:

That's the problem.
She's almost perfect in terms of character, her only problem back then was she had this habit of snubbing but apart from that her character was perfect.
She even said I was her exact type of guy, so when she turned me down it created a temporary kind of hatred towards her within me.
Now after seeing her pictures and video, i can't stop thinking about her

Then deal with it in ur mind, since u can't help or control d situation. Try as much as possible to distract ur mind when her though crosses ur mind.

akaahs:

Then deal with it in ur mind, since u can't help or control d situation. Try as much as possible to distract ur mind when her though crosses ur mind.

True, I just hope school resumes too so my mind will be occupied again.