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I need advise cos I'm just so confuse right now

My fiancee want me to come and see her family cos of pressure. She's been on my neck since last 2 months.
That's not even the problem.

The problem is the funds I intend to use to go see my bae parents(travels expense , gift buying and Co.) is from my budgeted salary this month end.

I've started setting a new biz for mum since last month, and intend to complete the business with my salary this month.

Bae has been giving me attitude unlike before untill I come. To her it's as if I'm only playing her heart. But deep down in me I love her.


I'm very confuse right now...

Should I choose to set up my mom business or postpone?

Pls advice

See Bae's family next month...

mom first.. fiance family no go run.. you can always visit them..
Just explain to bae

mom first.. fiance family no go run.. you can always visit them..
Just explain to bae

BornSnner9:
mom first.. fiance family no go run.. you can always visit them..

Just explain to bae

My brother thank you. At times one's head will be full.
To be a man no be beans

Attend to your mom first,then your fiancee later,why is she so desperate?are you very rich?

Settle your mom's business first

Are you very rich?? someone is asking (Na them) run oh

Zzor:
Attend to your mom first,then your fiancee later,why is she so desperate?are you very rich?

Thsnks, I'm just a normal average guy

WaterPurifier:
Thsnks, I'm just a normal average guy

ok just make sure you hustle more so that you will be very rich.

Settle mom. Marriage can wait. First come, first served

This thing called love is a balancing act between commitment with your spouse and devotion to your family.

I dare to say that one of the hallmarks of a matured man is his knowing how to juggle the ball skillfully.

Are you going to marry your mum at the end.

Since you are setting a business for your mum nothing stops you from visiting, it is not like your mum wont need your finances again even after visiting.

There is something i dont understand about African parents, your job is to progress in life not to be sponsoring them with finances, they need to be able to also set up themselves also, which one is depending on a son to setup things, that is how families get broke

WaterPurifier:
I need advise cos I'm just so confuse right now

My fiancee want me to come and see her family cos of pressure. She's been on my neck since last 2 months.
That's not even the problem.

The problem is the funds I intend to use to go see my bae parents(travels expense , gift buying and Co.) is from my budgeted salary this month end.

I've started setting a new biz for mum since last month, and intend to complete the business with my salary this month.

Bae has been giving me attitude unlike before untill I come. To her it's as if I'm only playing her heart. But deep down in me I love her.


I'm very confuse right now...

Should I choose to set up my mom business or postpone?

Pls advice

ur mum

thebosstrevor1:
Are you going to marry your mum at the end.

Since you are setting a business for your mum nothing stops you from visiting, it is not like your mum wont need your finances again even after visiting.

shey after visiting gf she wont need money again shey

thebosstrevor1:
She is not supposed to be depending on a son that is also just setting up his life.

thats what parents are about, they train the children so the kids will take care of them. dont know where u getting ur logic from

thebosstrevor1:
It is poor parents mentality simple.

A kid is starting to organized his life, why should the parent now see him as a cash cow.

If they had worked hard when young, they wont be depending on their kids for survival, they will allow him to build his own life.

okay

WaterPurifier:
I need advise cos I'm just so confuse right now

My fiancee want me to come and see her family cos of pressure. She's been on my neck since last 2 months.
That's not even the problem.

The problem is the funds I intend to use to go see my bae parents(travels expense , gift buying and Co.) is from my budgeted salary this month end.

I've started setting a new biz for mum since last month, and intend to complete the business with my salary this month.

Bae has been giving me attitude unlike before untill I come. To her it's as if I'm only playing her heart. But deep down in me I love her.


I'm very confuse right now...

Should I choose to set up my mom business or postpone?

Pls advice

The truth is that for your girlfriend, to be too desperate, it's most likely she's seeing someone else or strong considering someone else, and feels if you see her family she would be mentally stronger to resist the other guy( mind you this mindset wouldn't work), I will advise you sort your mom first, especially if she has the potential to manage a business, after that, select a definitive date with your fiancee to go see her family.

I will advise you to observe your fiancee, there's more to the picture, how is someone your fiancee and you haven't met her family, I don't know why you took that risk.

thebosstrevor1:
It is poor parents mentality simple.

A kid is starting to organized his life, why should the parent now see him as a cash cow.

If they had worked hard when young, they wont be depending on their kids for survival, they will allow him to build his own life.

Also he wont be in this dilemma

k

Ia

WaterPurifier:
My brother thank you. At times one's head will be full.
To be a man no be beans

To me ooo, secure what needs to be secured. It doesn't mean u re putting her ahead of mum. My two cents.

rexcharlie:
u've said it all... To be a man u gat close eye on sm family member's needs at a point just to progress ur life... Go and visit ur girlfriend family then setup mom finally with ur nxt pay... But mk sure you keep something wey go sustain u and mum till ur nxt pay.. U are not growing any younger bro

Yes, I have side hustles sustaining me aside salary, just that salary comes in bulk you know one can plan with it

thebosstrevor1:
Are you going to marry your mum at the end.

Since you are setting a business for your mum nothing stops you from visiting, it is not like your mum wont need your finances again even after visiting.

There is something i dont understand about African parents, your job is to progress in life not to be sponsoring them with finances, they need to be able to also set up themselves also, which one is depending on a son to setup things, that is how families get broke

U re very wise and 21 first century dude, tomorrow Na the same mama go dey mount pressure she want see her grandchildren before she dies.

akaahs:
To me ooo, secure what needs to be secured. It doesn't mean u re putting her ahead of mum. My two cents.

Exactly my bae really love me but me sef don too play her head.

I love her and she does too. Her type is rare to find these days.

Mum isn't going no where, I need to plan n start my own family.

akaahs:
To me ooo, secure what needs to be secured. It doesn't mean u re putting her ahead of mum. My two cents.

Thanks for this

akaahs:
U re very wise and 21 first century dude, tomorrow Na the same mama go dey mount pressure she want see her grandchildren before she dies.

I tire for Naija parents. I'm feeling the pressure already

rexcharlie:
u've said it all... To be a man u gat close eye on sm family member's needs at a point just to progress ur life... Go and visit ur girlfriend family then setup mom finally with ur nxt pay... But mk sure you keep something wey go sustain u and mum till ur nxt pay.. U are not growing any younger bro

Na real close eyes oo, else you'll keep spending for families. It never ends

WaterPurifier:
I need advise cos I'm just so confuse right now

My fiancee want me to come and see her family cos of pressure. She's been on my neck since last 2 months.
That's not even the problem.

The problem is the funds I intend to use to go see my bae parents(travels expense , gift buying and Co.) is from my budgeted salary this month end.

I've started setting a new biz for mum since last month, and intend to complete the business with my salary this month.

Bae has been giving me attitude unlike before untill I come. To her it's as if I'm only playing her heart. But deep down in me I love her.


I'm very confuse right now...

Should I choose to set up my mom business or postpone?

Pls advice

Pls settle mumsie first before bae. God bless u

Stephandesward:
The truth is that for your girlfriend, to be too desperate, it's most likely she's seeing someone else or strong considering someone else, and feels if you see her family she would be mentally stronger to resist the other guy( mind you this mindset wouldn't work), I will advise you sort your mom first, especially if she has the potential to manage a business, after that, select a definitive date with your fiancee to go see her family.

I will advise you to observe your fiancee, there's more to the picture, how is someone your fiancee and you haven't met her family, I don't know why you took that risk.

She's not desperate, she's very patient. Na me dey control things as I like. But he don too much

WaterPurifier:
Exactly my bae really love me but me sef don too play her head.

I love her and she does too. Her type is rare to find these days.

Mum isn't going no where, I need to plan n start my own family.

Nice one, u have my blessings.