₦airaland Forum

eejo:
I asked this same question during one of our Village meetings some years back. Elders in the meeting answered my question that the fault is from the Man. The Golden rule never disrespect your family or discuss negative things about them to your Wife in the name of love.

U Are Right, D Fault Is 4rm D Man But Not Always 4rm D Man. But Most times 4rm D Woman. If U Read My Previous Posts, I Said Dis Women Who Were Loving & kind To D Man's Love Ones Or Family Members, Suddenly Change Attitudes Or Become Hostile To Dem, Some Even Succeed In Turning D Man's Heart Away 4rm His Love Ones Or Family Members. His Brother Can't Visit Him Because Of D Wife, His Sister Can't Do Dsame because Of D Wife, Etc. I Know In Some Cases D Men Contribute To D Problem By Telling Their Wives Things Dey Shouldn't Av Told Their Wives.

Truvel:
Ur Story Is A Little Different Cuz It Has To Do With Crime. D Girl's Mother Was Killed, She Was Hurt & Forced Into Marriage But Dis Has To Do With Married Ladies Who Tend To Be Hostile To D Man's Family Except Hers. When U Love A Man As A Lady, U Av To Love His Family Or Love Ones Too.

Thank you so much for this.. I decided not to continue cos I don't see any correlation .. I really don't understand how a lady ll 'claim ' to love a man and still not want to love nor tolerate his family.. If she can't love and tolerate them ,then she has got no business in that man's life..Marking territory indeed in a man's life she barely 'jamed/met'..SOME WOMEN JUST LIKE WAHALA...

LikeAking:
because their husbands are weak men.

And their hus relatives are jonzing.

Very true

Blessedassuranc:
Thank you so much for this.. I decided not to continue cos I don't see any correlation .. I really don't understand how a lady ll 'claim ' to love a man and still not want to love nor tolerate his family.. If she can't love and tolerate them ,then she has got no business in that man's life..Marking territory indeed in a man's life she barely 'jamed/met'..SOME WOMEN JUST LIKE WAHALA...

Thats the reasons why men should beat their wives.

Especially when she is jonzing.

Kick her out of your life.

Try your best to make you relatives great,

Change their lives so that their ugly wives will respect their relatives.

when u say a man"s relatives..what relatives are u talking about?
are u talking of the man"s parents and his siblings or u talking about his far distant cousins
for me i didnt grow up with my far distant cousins so i am not that too close to them and if i marry even me myself wont be too happy if dem try chook their head into my marriage.now for my immediate family as in my parents and then my two brothers we are close.We the way we grew we dey mind our business but we love each other and we are close.If a woman i am with hates my parents and my siblings then dat na red flag..i cant be with such a woman.And for men who allow their wives to insult their parents i think such men need to stand and put their feet on the ground and call their wives to order.Any woman who just hates his husband"s ppl for no good reason is a bad woman and if u are a guy and ur girlfriend has such a trait ol boy codedly ditch her.

LikeAking:
Thats the reasons why men should beat their wives.

Especially when she is jonzing.

Kick her out of your life.

Try your best to make you relatives great,

Change their lives so that their ugly wives will respect their relatives.

Its not all relatives that are loving..there some relatives who might wish u evil.There have been cases where an uncle can even poison is nephew or niece.The ppl u shoud hold closely to urself are ur parents then your brothers or sisters..and wen i say brothers and sisters i mean ur blood siblings wey una get the same mama and papa.no go dey beat ur wife over some distant cousin who might even be at fault and she then voiced a genuine concern.

tobechi74:
What is so special in monogamous relationship? If monogamy is natural, why do we struggle at it? No one teaches fish how to swim? Why do we have books on how to avoid cheating? To answer this question,we look at what researchers revealed

Evolutionary scientist David Barish compared monogamy among various animals.

Only 9 percent of mammals practice monogamy

29 percent of primates are monogamous

Before westernisation, 86 percent of indigenous society are no monogamous

Overfamiliarisation with a partner kills a woman libido

30 percent of women have extra-marital affair despite being happy with their marriage.

The numbers are against monogamy. One advantage of monogamy over polygamy is the assurance of a mate for every male. No group of wealthy powerful men can marry off all the women leaving the non powerful men single.. AThe spread of Christianity could be be a dominant factor. Monogamy offers an exclusive sence of ownership each woman on the man rather than having to share him with other women.

Monogamy restricts each party from love and sex with another. Are these two not one of the sweetest feelings? Limited my experience of them should be seen as punnishnent and not something to jubilate to.

In casual friendship, my friend could have other friends beside me and I am cool with that. But in monogamy, It is me and me alone. Any attempt to share love and sex with another is considered cheating. A woman should only love one guy but she can share her love among her children equally. Why can’t she love six men equally? Is this not hypocrisy? It means the heart is capable of loving many but man Jealously choose to limit it to one. In some cases, we argue over what constitutes exclusive acts? Holding hands, seeing one another naked,sharing a bed, kissing etc.

Before we say monogamy is natural, think again.
https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/08/the-monster-we-feed/

don't worry you will understand how it feels when dem chook preek inside your wife toto for your presence

lefulefu:
Its not all relatives that are loving..there some relatives who might wish u evil.There have been cases where an uncle can even poison is nephew or niece.The ppl u shoud hold closely to urself are ur parents then your brothers or sisters..and wen i say brothers and sisters i mean ur blood siblings wey una get the same mama and papa.no go dey beat ur wife over some distant cousin who might even be at fault and she then voiced a genuine concern.

When it comes to women mata,you must put them wia dem belong.

She has no right to mistreat anybody.

They are very naughty o.

Their medicine na very hot slap in repeat.

Dump her ass.

LikeAking:
When it comes to women mata,you must put them wia dem belong.

She has no right to mistreat anybody.

They are very naughty o.

Their medicine na very hot slap in repeat.

Dump her ass.

the man don suppose see such a character during the time wen dem dey date d lady so im suppose cut her off during courtship level.Anyway some men dont know their left from their right.You can imagine in this day and age a pastor go approach a guy telling him that God told in a vision that he must marry this sister in the church and even though he is not attracted to such a woman like a zombie he will obey the pastor .so tell me why wont such a man be manipulated by his wife and why will such a wife even respect the man"s family.

Blessedassuranc:
Thank you so much for this.. I decided not to continue cos I don't see any correlation .. I really don't understand how a lady ll 'claim ' to love a man and still not want to love nor tolerate his family.. If she can't love and tolerate them ,then she has got no business in that man's life..Marking territory indeed in a man's life she barely 'jamed/met'..SOME WOMEN JUST LIKE WAHALA...

Good, U Av A Point.

I think people should learn to respect them in the house

lefulefu:
the man don suppose see such a character during the time wen dem dey date d lady so im suppose cut her off during courtship level.Anyway some men dont know their left from their right.You can imagine in this day and age a pastor go approach a guy telling him that God told in a vision that he must marry this sister in the church and even though he is not attracted to such a woman like a zombie he will obey the pastor .so tell me why wont such a man be manipulated by his wife and why will such a wife even respect the man"s family.

You used the right word manipulation..

That lady will never value that man.

The family of the guy matters. Some families don't readily accept the lady as part of the family but rather act like she's an intruder.

But there are families that are very good one with so much love to go round. A relative of mine is married into one of such families. She and her husband's sisters are quite close that she knows things about her sisters inlaw that their brother doesn't even know. She even begs them to come and stay.

And it's better to maintain your lane when you meet the ones that are not willing to extend the privilege of family to you.

lefulefu:
when u say a man"s relatives..what relatives are u talking about?
are u talking of the man"s parents and his siblings or u talking about his far distant cousins
for me i didnt grow up with my far distant cousins so i am not that too close to them and if i marry even me myself wont be too happy if dem try chook their head into my marriage.now for my immediate family as in my parents and then my two brothers we are close.We the way we grew we dey mind our business but we love each other and we are close.If a woman i am with hates my parents and my siblings then dat na red flag..i cant be with such a woman.And for men who allow their wives to insult their parents i think such men need to stand and put their feet on the ground and call their wives to order.Any woman who just hates his husband"s ppl for no good reason is a bad woman and if u are a guy and ur girlfriend has such a trait ol boy codedly ditch her.

I Mean Majorly D Man's Parents & Siblings.

Truvel:
I Mean Majorly D Man's Parents & Siblings.

any woman that dislikes ur parents and ur immediate siblings cant be a good wife for u nau.if u want to live long dont wife such a woman

LikeAking:
Thats the reasons why men should beat their wives.

Especially when she is jonzing.

Kick her out of your life.

Try your best to make you relatives great,

Change their lives so that their ugly wives will respect their relatives.

No ooh oga .. I don't support beating . i never saw my dad do that. but he was always in charge. I just love my dad for that.He treated both families as good as equally. In issues like this, never allow a woman have the final say. NEVER.. A manager is different from a CEO according to my dad. Though i m a female, i learnt all these from him and i grew up to find out that they were true But unfortunately my brothers did opposite and got their bodies burnt.. They had to come back like prodigal sons

eejo:
I asked this same question during one of our Village meetings some years back. Elders in the meeting answered my question that the fault is from the Man. The Golden rule never disrespect your family or discuss negative things about them to your Wife in the name of love.

like i told my woman, " don't ever say evil about ny family, don't ever support me in a dispute with my family also I'll need my space from your family and my family will give you your space". all these were stated as a ground rule

lefulefu:
the man don suppose see such a character during the time wen dem dey date d lady so im suppose cut her off during courtship level.Anyway some men dont know their left from their right.You can imagine in this day and age a pastor go approach a guy telling him that God told in a vision that he must marry this sister in the church and even though he is not attracted to such a woman like a zombie he will obey the pastor .so tell me why wont such a man be manipulated by his wife and why will such a wife even respect the man"s family.

D Truth Is Dat Most Ladies Don't Show Dis Character When U Date Dem, Dey Tend To Hide It Until U Marry Dem, B4 Dey Show U Their Tru Colours After Marriage. Unfortunately, If D Man Is Woman Wrapper Type, He Won't Be Able To Stop Her Or She May Influence D Man To Dance To Her Tone.

Truvel:
D Truth Is Dat Most Ladies Don't Show Dis Character When U Date Dem, Dey Tend To Hide It Until U Marry Dem, B4 Dey Show U Their Tru Colours After Marriage. Unfortunately, If D Man Is Woman Wrapper Type, He Won't Be Able To Stop Her Or She May Influence D Man To Dance To Her Tone.

guys always say this about ladies hiding their character during courtship but how true is this ? Is it not some guys i see their girlfriends slapping them in public or embarrasing them and the man will still be running after such a woman like a mumu .If u dating a lady initially yes she might hide her character but as she gets more comfortable she will show u her true colours once in a while.Its not easy to just bottle up ur true character just like that.The o.nly way she can succesfuly hide her character is when u just see a girl today and tommorow u talking of marriage without even studying her or na ur pastor or elder uncle bring woman for u to marry without u even dating her.If una date for some time as normal ppl dey do u will know the type of person she is.She is not super human to just hide her emotions.U can imagine a guy having a minor arguement with his girlfriend and the girl now brings out knife threatning to stab the guy or cut off his prick...If the guy still goes ahead to marry such a girl and anything happens to him then he should blame himself.

Truvel:
, If D Man Is Woman Wrapper Type, He Won't Be Able To Stop Her Or She May Influence D Man To Dance To Her Tone.

yea true.if the man is one of these weak women who allow women to control him his family life will be in a mess.Anyway such men hardly last long.After a time the wife might get tired of her weakling husband and get rid of him.Most times such men tend to die suspiciously and the wife will take over everything

Blessedassuranc:
No ooh oga .. I don't support beating . i never saw my dad do that. but he was always in charge. I just love my dad for that.He treated both families as good as equally. In issues like this, never allow a woman have the final say. NEVER.. A manager is different from a CEO according to my dad. Though i m a female, i learnt all these from him and i grew up to find out that they were true But unfortunately my brothers did opposite and got their bodies burnt.. They had to come back like prodigal sons

Times have changed.

Happy New Month.