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padi94:
You are in a relationship right?

Pls what else do you ask your boyfriend or husband for if not money... what else is your top need that he cannot provide. Say a thing that women want other than money

Sarita01:
What that man you quoted was trying to say is that not all men are the same,everyone have their own preferences.according to the points you've listed,Mr A might want a virgin while Mr B might not,Mr C might want a working class woman While Mr D might not,the problem is after encountering one or two men who do not have the same prefernces we tend to conclude that they're confused.as we all have different faces that's also how our thinking are different.

Sarita01:
Everyone wants money,it's not only for a specific gender. The problem with my gender is that we want money but we don't wanna work for it and the easiest way to cash out is to be in a relationship. Women loves to compete with one another,we envy and also admire other women who looks hot and dresses well and we want to be like those women,that's where the unnecessary request for money stems from.most women don't want to cut their cloth according to their size and their parents wouldn't be able to or would not like to spend on non essential things
But as a man,you want your woman to look smoking hot and beautiful,you want her to be like women you admire and wish to have,you need to spend money in Repackaging her.
There are things I would love for my man to give me money for,if I'm not able to afford it,I don't work,I'm still in school,there's only so much my parents can do like paying fees and feeding me.i want to make my hair,buy new clothes,buy toiletries and I'm not working,where do you want me to get the money from if not from my man.that's why the op asked apart from money what else can a man offer in a relationship.
A girlfriend does almost everything a mother does for her child,when you meet the right woman,saying a girl friend have nothing to offer is like saying your mom have nothing to offer to you which we all know its not possible.and if you want to show your mom you love her,you buy her gifts,you shower her with money.

StacyO:
I totally understood that But,in a scenario whereby the lady isn't able to settle with any of the Mrs and she must have slept with them during the whole relationship thing. What do you think will become of her? How will she be able to make up her mind to settle with one Mr when all of them want different things from her?

PUNAengineOIL:
Nigerian men are not confused, neither are the women too. You writeup is nonsense, you have no point and you made no sense.

Depression is real, please go and look for help.

StacyO:
I totally understood that But,in a scenario whereby the lady isn't able to settle with any of the Mrs and she must have slept with them during the whole relationship thing. What do you think will become of her? How will she be able to make up her mind to settle with one Mr when all of them want different things from her?

CosmicPhoenix:

what kind of badly written article is this?society will always view men and women differently when it comes to certain things,a man with multiple sex partners will be seen as a Spartacus,a sharp guy,a real nigga but a lady with multiple sex partners will be seen as a hoe,the confused op even said nigerian men dont want virgins as wives.

Iretii0511:
The problem with this writeup as is the case with lots of romance topic is generalization of people's opinion. Mr A may wants a full housewife for example while Mr B wants a working class. They are two different people with two distinct opinion.

This is why it's funny when I hear people say Naija girls are confused or Naija guys are confused. People with these line of thought should learn that as human, we have our distinct perspectives. Don't muddle up peoples opinion and then conclude that a group of persons are confused.

SegFault:
Even you agreed, but you know that this is hypocritical. But op, your article makes no sense at all.

Iretii0511:
We should learn to treat each other as unique entity. That way, there won't be any confusion to start with.
Ann, do you get me now?

placeofallure:
Synecdoche... Figure of Speech where you use a part to represent the whole.

StacyO:
Ann??

Iretii0511:
Thanks ma'am. I think I need to go brush up on literature.

fati2001:
excellent question b!

StacyO:
As written by ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

In as much as this post may be gender based, I'll love to indicate that it is equally PUN free.
Over the years,technology and western civilization changed our lives and we all tagged it the 21st century (smiles). This 21st century didn't only bring us closer to change but,it equally is robbing the good morals left in some of us.
After this whole write up,the main BIG question comes up.
Majority of guys I've come across always complain that their women cheat or have a high body count. This leaves me wondering how many body counts the guys in question might have. You go about complaining that Nigerian girls are all for the sex,hoes,sluts(I mean, all sorts of demeaning names). But,come to think of it,who actually created this hoes you always scream about??
Being a virgin in Nigeria is not an easy task,as a matter of fact, "it is a full time job".
I hear you guys take pride in comparing foreign girls with your Niger chicks. Do you know that an average foreign babe(your babe) sleeps around as much as she wants,until she's ready to get married??
But,I don't see you guys debating about this
Instead,all you do is paint your own pride black. Just to prove what exactly??

Then comes the sex vs money war;
You claim Nigeria girls have nothing aside sex to offer,what asides money do you have to offer?? (I mean money )
Sex as research says and I believe is something both partners enjoy in a relationship. Your girlfriend can never offer you her body for money. As a matter of fact, the only person I know that will offer you her body for money is a prostitute. And don't get me wrong,they render services which you have to pay for.

The worst part of this whole issue now is that;
You claim you don't want a virgin for wife.
You claim you don't want a deflowered lady for wife.
You claim you don't need a working class lady cause their problems will be too much to handle.
You still claim you don't need a full time house wife.
You always claim that Nigeria girls can't work for their money (am I missing something or you are missing something).
This only brought about the conclusion that NIGERIAN MEN ARE CONFUSED.

To the ladies;
Stop giving out your body to people that don't appreciate it,if you want to fvck around,do it cause you want to. Stop giving someone sex due to what they say or offer you. Channel that few minutes energy into something resourceful and useful.
Forget that you've deflowered, it was your choice anyway but,stop making it look like you're selling your body out for money.

You as a lady and you're a virgin,please hold on to it cause,it's rare to find one this days. Forget all the confused rants on the internet,men are dying to find your kind.
Don't let one confused human being confuse you.

To the men;
Come off it. You complain that the girls have entitlement mentality, they can't bring new things to the table. What exactly have you brought to the table??
For you to even know that all Nigerian girls are hoes only makes you a male whóre (You're practically cheap).
You are the ones creating this hoes you cry of.
A lady being your partner can never offer you sex!!
You don't pay a lady money for sex unless she is a prostitute!!






NB: The word "some" was used in this writeup though it wasn't indicated (no generalizations).


I'm not supporting any gender



NB: All that is needed is an ANSWER to the question,don't come here and start singing your normal lullaby.

Now the BIG question as regards the topic;
#whatexactlydonigerianmenwant¿

cc lalasticlala,Dominique

SirMichael1:
I reached the emboldened and I actually thought you want to talk about morality and how premarital sex is bad but you were actually advising people to choose their sex partners wisely. Well, guess I overestimated you.

StacyO:
Try to read elaborately or better still,enlighten me.

StacyO:
This your comment got me laughing.

StacyO:
Try to read elaborately or better still,enlighten me.

Camelot65:
And the "God-fearing" lady ends up having sex with the man

Liposure:
not as baffling as a lady looking for a virgin husband

Sarita01:
Everyone wants money,it's not only for a specific gender. The problem with my gender is that we want money but we don't wanna work for it and the easiest way to cash out is to be in a relationship. Women loves to compete with one another,we envy and also admire other women who looks hot and dresses well and we want to be like those women,that's where the unnecessary request for money stems from.most women don't want to cut their cloth according to their size and their parents wouldn't be able to or would not like to spend on non essential things
But as a man,you want your woman to look smoking hot and beautiful,you want her to be like women you admire and wish to have,you need to spend money in Repackaging her.
There are things I would love for my man to give me money for,if I'm not able to afford it,I don't work,I'm still in school,there's only so much my parents can do like paying fees and feeding me.i want to make my hair,buy new clothes,buy toiletries and I'm not working,where do you want me to get the money from if not from my man.that's why the op asked apart from money what else can a man offer in a relationship.
A girlfriend does almost everything a mother does for her child,when you meet the right woman,saying a girl friend have nothing to offer is like saying your mom have nothing to offer to you which we all know its not possible.and if you want to show your mom you love her,you buy her gifts,you shower her with money.

KidDarkness:
Why are you calling the mods?
Sex in a relationship is NOT compulsory. Chastity should be embraced.

padi94:
Pls complete this your statement, giving money is also not compulsory buying your own data should be embraced

Look Male and female whatever is transactional in this country Nigerian girls vagina na business center...
A typical naija girl with her attitude of collecting money before she open her legs if taken abroad will not be far from being a bawd, call girl, cocotte, courtesan, drab, hooker, hustler, sex worker, streetwalker, tart, LovePeddler...

Let the truth be said.

padi94:
Firstly that is not what makes my mum happy, hearing from me and whenever I visit her gives her joy... seeing her boy is what makes her happy.

Your now making a woman look like charity case, God knows I will never raise my daughter to have this kind of mortality, that her boyfriend owes her upkeep. This kind of mentality is alien to the whites, its Nigeriam girls that has made this their own concept. Stop making it feel like it's normal. Cos its not

Sarita01:
1.What are you saying,I never said money makes mother's happy I said if you want to show your mom appreciation and love,you buy her gifts. there's only so much words can do if not backed with action,
2. and why the hell are you comparing us with the whites,and how do you know how the white woman thinks,have you been with a white woman before,you judge everything based on movies you might have watched or what someone might have said.
3. The op asked a question and many men refuses to answer this question,as a man what can u offer in a relationship aside money?
4. if you decide to keep your money to yourself and she decides to keep her services to herself,what can couples offer each other in a relationship?
5. The way women view money as an entitlement is the same way men view sex,men thinks that once they're in a relationship with you,then your body is theirs to use as they want.
6. If men could change their entitlement mentality then women will also change,
7. I've seen relationships where the woman practically slaves for the man(cook,cleans,washes his clothes,fetches water,iron,give him sex whenever he wants)and the man will still open his big mouth and say she's too demanding. It's only in slavery where hard work and commitment isn't rewarded.
8. Some relationships are full time employment filled with stress,but very little gain.

SirMichael1:
I don't have time for male-to-female banters.

Powerfly:
You're a beauty to behold.. And you look way better than tiwa.. That's if you're the one @ ur_dp.

Sarita01:
What are you saying,I never said money makes mother's happy I said if you want to show your mom appreciation and love,you buy her gifts. there's only so much words can do if not backed with action,and why the hell are you comparing us with the whites,and how do you know how the white woman thinks,have you been with a white woman before,you judge everything based on movies you might have watched or what someone might have said.
The op asked a question and many men refuses to answer this question,as a man what can u offer in a relationship aside money?if you decide to keep your money to yourself and she decides to keep her services to herself,what can couples offer each other in a relationship?
The way women view money as an entitlement is the same way men view sex,men thinks that once they're in a relationship with you,then your body is theirs to use as they want. If men could change their entitlement mentality then women will also change,I've seen relationships where the woman practically slaves for the man(cook,cleans,washes his clothes,fetches water,iron,give him sex whenever he wants)and the man will still open his big mouth and say she's too demanding. It's only in slavery where hard work and commitment isn't rewarded. Some relationships are full time employment filled with stress,but very little gain.