Babysuccess02:
I actually don't support his actions but please you're still under his roof and I know it's not your fault. Please just try and do your best by coming home early.

If he no han gout with guys,him no go make make.

They wont show him rd.

Angelfrost:


Blame on his father??! At 26??!... Do you even know the meaning of 26?!!

No one... Not even an idiot, will blame anyone for whatever befalls a 26 year old adult, when he is not imbecilic or mentally incapacitated.

If any of my cousins come to live with me, I would never allow him or her stay out as late as 10 or 11pm to watch any match. Period.

They can do such in their parents home, not mine. Your home, your principle.

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

Don't judge this or something similar because your grand parents did it that way.

Even the God said in His Word ' come let us reason together.....'

My Dad beats me at 26, yes after my service year and waiting to get a job, I went for an offer I wasn't supposed to accept all because I told my self 'it is enough'. Left to another state where I had to live with a stranger before saving to get a place of my own. I later got a better job n left to a better place. All through my single time working I dare not go home cos I know the messages he was passing on phone would translate to beatings if I dare visit him. I hastingly got married to have a cover. And guess what, one thing lead to another this year, I visited my family house with my kids, and my Dad almost beat me again!!!!!

Stop there I had to shout, that if he try to heat me I will sue him, he knows i meant it and he stopped. That's an abuse, my dad will leave a mark on you when he beats you, this is a married woman, can he try it if my husband is there with him? How will my husband feel? and I was shouldering a responsibility and taking care of a sick relation, if he had touched me I would have fainted cos I was weak.

Under no guise should a child or an adult be abused, I have had the experience and I know what it means. Only God saw me through it, I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused, this almost destroyed social life, in the name of Church, Bible children are being abused daily even in the so called Christian homes, they have taken the responsibility from God. Spend time beating than praying for the children. Train your children with respect, they will certainly respect and regard you and your wishes.

If I hadn't shouted and he beats me, my husband will hear it, certainly, he will never regard him for life, in addition, the little children around will never regard me again. Tell me what that will bring to me in the long run?

My elder sister was beaten and disgraced at age 31, she became timid and hateful. Malicious and lived like an outcast. Look here, she is a Christian, she'd pray to forget but for years, she was bitter and kept malice with all my family members except me cos I wasn't there when it happened.

Stop judging a case like this with 'my grandma or grandpa did it this way, they were wrong.

I once forcee my son to brush his teeth and in the process, his tooth got removed, I laughed at him and the next time I picked up his toothbrush, I heard a voice rebuking me for hurting the boy and never saying sorry. Wow, I looked up and said am sorry, then hugged the boy and apologised to him with a promise not to force him again, till date, I don't force him, he do it by himself.

Parents should rather allow God to take charge than being abusive. Am not saying we shouldn't correct where necessary, never, we as children of God knows what He did to Eli. But beating and leaving marks on our bodies? That negatives God's Word, our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost now. Why beat till blood gush out, can that blood be replaced by us?

We should rather keep quiet on some things like this, or advise the party to pray and be settled on time.

If you train your children like your grandparents did, be sure to be a failure like they did, still flugging their married sons.

Fucsheetup:
Clown

Bleep you

Righteousness89:


A 40yrs Old under his Father care is a Child sir!

You Cannot be in your Parents house, feeding from your Parents and Live anyhow..

You shouldn't have talk on this bros. Did you think beating a man at 26 will make him come to his sense. It's better you are silent on this.

Organs:


Keep quiet, why is the dad not providing TV and subscription in the house? Nonsense. It is not people with your mindset he needs advice from. You yourself need a 20 year old to advise you so please keep quiet when men are talking.

If at 26, your priority in life is to drag subscription or remote control with your father or wander at night like a thief or cultist, then you should be ready to accept whatever befalls you. I'm not responsible for your irresponsibility.

And btw, I don't have issues with staying out or going wherever to watch whatever. Just don't go against the principles of your caretaker, parents or guardian.

If you come to my house at 11pm because it's your priority to watch a match at night, be rest assured you would sleep at the gate. Principle is principle.

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

Weaklins.

No wonda you are following religion.

Be strong.

Prechgold1180:
How can your team Liverpool beat your dad arsenal 3-1 and you expect ur dad to be happy with you
To make matter worse

You were busy singing Liverpool anthem

on this my bro it seems you are walking alone



Packout or man up

see this mumu...you think US and Nigeria are the same thing? some people even after moving out its not to go and be independent, they will go and be living with aunties and uncles all in the name of moving out

MrHandsome2013:
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Where do you stay in delta

Asb

Lawsaite:

You lost all my respect today.
If you are a good father, then you'd know that they are other ways to discipline than constantly using a whip, worse still on someone who has come of a reasonable age.
I was a victim and let me tell you, you certainly have no idea what it feels like.

To me if you're constantly whipping your child like an animal, it tells a lot about the upbringing you gave the child.
I know and have seen responsible parents, with stellar children.

Same thing happened to me @26
Mine was slap, he slapped me such that a mark appeared on my right cheek, I didn't like him before, but dat day I just detest him and moved out of the house d following day, till today I don't bear his surname again, but I played my part anytime I'm with cash.

I couldn't just fight him because he's my father, I wanted to, but I didn't, I just had to bring myself back, d worst part was when I got to my work place, pple who respect me a lot were just asking me how I got a mark on my face, but alas I couldn't tell them, save for one person.

Why did he slap me?
He slapped me because he gave birth to a baby and he was doing the naming ceremony and I refused to show up due to work and mostly I didn't vibe with him due to his character.

Pple wouldn't understand this unless they passed through it

Acidosis:



If any of my cousins come to live with me, I would never allow him or her stay out as late as 10 or 11pm to watch any match. Period.

They can do such in their parents home, not mine. Your home, your principle.

I agree with that... But, flogging a grown ass man??! Where does that even begin to make sense??!

Why not simply tell him off, and expressly warn him never to try that nonsense again, that a repeat will mean him sleeping outdoors??!... Why emasculate a grown man??!

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

Mchteeewwww

situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....

your dad would continue doing so until you dammn d consequences and react back..
was in your shoes years back.
at 21 my dad punished me in front of visitors including children for doing almost nothing wrong.
infact what I did that day was to leave the house when my mom's nagging became too much.
she reported to my dad that I left the house, besides u didn't come home late sef.
it continued until last year @age 23 when I finally reacted.
omo na so d man carry stick for me oo, my anger was too much I took the stick away from him but didn't do nothing.
but I just showed him the hard part of me that day, he tried again some other time and got a messier result.
Now attimes I feel sorry for him cos he knows he can't get me do things the hard way again, rather he begs me indirectly to do it which is something he should have learnt to do on his own but learnt it the hard way.
ill advise you hustle for something oo..
make sure I don't ask him for any penny yes any penny.
@that age of you still stay in your fathers house, it's understandable but if he's still the one funding your bills aside feeding, my brother you still got a lot to do too.

but next time he tries to bully you, no gree am.
it's not disrespect, it's you putting your dad's sense on track .

Baba you said it all. The escape velocity aspect is epic. Kudos

light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

no wonder you still lack training

Your father is Okra plant.
You sef na okra plant.
The different is that your own okra no fit pass your father's.

Righteousness89:


My Dear! You don't need all these talks !

What did I do Wrong? What do you mean by Banter!

Not necessarily wrong sir..
You are here as a light bringer don't end up comforming to the norms of Nairalnad if you allow you patience to be tampered with ....very soon heated arguments like these will not be the only things that will get people talking.... Nairaland has a way of turning a simple exchange of opinions into an argument filled with insults and abuse and such a thing is not something you should be found involved in.....
Lots of Nairalanders although some may joke about it silently await you comments on trending issues which mostly is a reminder of the coming of Christ...arguments like this could dent your reputation and cause you to conform to the way things are done among Nairalanders.....

We all have opinions sir and it's certainly not wrong for you to have yours...but looking at your reputation and the mission you have come to have on Nairaland...I advised that you pass across your opinion in love and tenderness....cancelling the post of other people is normally the trademark of trolls of which you are not.....pay the sacrifice of not comforming to Nairaland...God bless you sir..

In all of this, i have a question? There is this guy Righteousness89, that has a very stupid immature opinion and position and i can see some folks respecting the mumu guy and not coming out outrightly to call him out on his Buhari + Jonathan brain. Pls who is he for God's sake? is he a Mod or something?

people are not following the holy books.

is it written somewhere in the books that once you attain a certain age, you should resist your parents from beating you?

I wanna learn.

holyghost:
Ordinarily I won't comment on this issue but because many may have similar issues so I'll do some justice.

1 at your age you are way above such treatment unless your father did not do his job well in raising up properly. To punish or beat a stubborn child starts and end from 4years to 12years at worst 14years. Because by that age a normal and even a stubborn child must have understood life value and acceptable social balance (like not picking fights easily, pocket lifting stealing low life lies chasing after girls for sex, smoking, and folding or submitting to ego and peer measures of pressures like smoking, cultism, gang membership.
2. You failed to display maturity and self discipline in your manner and behaviour.

3. You are still a child in his eyes because you don't sit and discuss real issue like a man that you have become. But do have such time with your mom and get free food like a child that you still are.
What made you go watch match in viewing center? When you have so much to think about. If you work hard enough and with little luck you can achieve a viewing center your self. That should be your mentality at this age. "How do I own my business"

4. Go out to look for menial jobs, like laundry, labourer, Hawking small wares like fruits, stockings or whatever that sales fast in your state towns.

These are just small ways to stay active and earn pocket money while you hunt for a better Job or save enough to learn a proper skill or build a small business, like hair cut shop, small electrical shop even on wheel barrow or push-truck, all this you can start with as littles as 75k. And make like 1,500 to 2500 a day depending on your entrepreneurial skill and luck.
No one will lower you, unless you lower yourself when you have nothing to offer. So when you make your money be humble and know your limits and place in the society then demand your respect in like manner.

Go the right pastors for prayers and be prayerful yourself then face life like a man.
Like Joseph, Jacob, David, Solomon, they ware nobody but prayer and self discipline got them to the top. The same God, the same world, the same land, the same sun and moon nothing has changed God still do it for you and anyone with prayerful soul and self determined to grow and achieve.

Work, work, work, work hard for it! In fact work harder for it. Only when you have respect will you understand the value of been independent as the captain of your (ship/life).
God help you. Wake up early your morning start now!

Thank you..

Acidosis:



If at 26, your priority in life is to drag subscription or remote control with your father or wander at night like a thief or cultist, then you should be ready to accept whatever befalls you. I'm not responsible for your irresponsibility.

And btw, I don't have issues with staying out or going wherever to watch whatever. Just don't go against the principles of your caretaker, parents or guardian.

If you come to my house at 11pm because it's your priority to watch a match at night, be rest assured you would sleep at the gate. Principle is principle.

FEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

Kriss216:

That’s good.

You are 26, your father should accord you some respect. Flogging you like a kid should come with Resistance. You’re in your father’s house, when next your father misbehaves, tell him to move to his fathers‘ house.

Lol

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

Flogging a 26-year old man?
I don't want to sound abusive, but you're beginning to lose it....

Richy4:


I'm sorry about your case dear but sometimes it's better to eat mushroom in freedom than to eat meat in slavery..

In Op's case, I see it as bullying.. @ 26, what kind of correction was that.. What about ABC, I have warned you not to return late in the night, if anything happens to you, I will not bla bla bla..

Without some kind of stubbornness, he might still be flogging him at 40..

Correct
Na bullying o
Something that can even lead to hatred

otipoju:
In SSS 1 while playing soccer across the street, I saw my father coming and I fled to the house...a girl that I was toasting was looking at me from the balcony and they teased me about it.

I resolved this nonsense has to stop.Afterall I was not doing anything wrong by playing soccer after school opposite how house. Why should I be running from my father simply because he would beat for flimsy reasons.

After my WAEC at 16 years old, something happened and I knew for sure I done nothing wrong and I told him so. I resisted all attempts to beat me for one solid hour. Blocking, pushing away, holding but never hitting back in total silence until my ex soldier father was tired.

The next day I told him I am no longer a small boy, that outside the house I lead and give directives to people and he needs to show me my respect and correct me with words as I would not tolerate any man hitting me without consequences.

I became his greatest confidante after that. So your dad beating you at 26 is just a total no no. Tell him stop or you will be forced to fight him till you die.

I smell lies

@OP you have to step up your responsibility game

Angelfrost:


I agree with that... But, flogging a grown ass man??! Where does that even begin to make sense??!

Why not simply tell him off, and expressly warn him never to try that nonsense again, that a repeat will mean him sleeping outdoors??!... Why emasculate a grown man??!

I don't think the young man is grown enough to command some respect from his father.

His father doesn't see him as a grown a$$ man. He needs to work on himself. Remember his father isn't here, and no amount of epistles will make his father read this thread?


If he needs me to blame his father like everyone else has done, I can.

I'm so angry right now!... How much more docile could you be?

That you are currently unemployed, is not enough reason for your father to whip you. At the age of 26, that is totally unacceptable... If you think he's doing you all the favour by providing with accommodation, some other needs, think of this...HE IS YOUR FATHER! Doing you such favour is not out of place!

Now, i cannot imagine why a 26 year old guy would be allowing his father to flog him, just as he wishes... He told you not to keep late nights... Yeah! So what? That does not give him any right flog you like a kid! THAT IS DISRESPECT, ABUSE! He ought to show you respect, at least because you're an adult. He should actually expect to be disrespected back, if he fails to consider this.

The only person who can change his orientation is YOU. Since you've been overly submissive, he sees you as a CHILD, and would continuously beat you up. Henceforth, RESIST every effort he makes at having you beaten, even if you might appear violent!

AtoningBlood:


Don't judge this or something similar because your grand parents did it that way.

Even the God said in His Word ' come let us reason together.....'

I visited my family house with my kids, and my Dad almost beat me again!!!!!

Stop there I had to shout, that if he try to heat me I will sue him, he knows i meant it and he stopped. That's an abuse, my dad will leave a mark on you when he beats you, this is a married woman, can he try it if my husband is there with him? How will my husband feel? and I was shouldering a responsibility and taking care of a sick relation, if he had touched me I would have fainted cos I was weak.

Under no guise should a child or adult be abused, I have had the experience and I know what it means. Only God saw me through it, I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused, this almost destroyed social life, in the name of Church, Bible we were almost destroyed. Train your children with respect, they will certainly respect and regard you and your wishes.

My elder sister was beaten and disgraced at age 31, she became timid and hateful. Malicious and lived like an outcast.

Stop judging a case like this with 'my grandma or grandpa did it this way,

Parents should rather allow God to take charge than being abusive.

It is finished.... Imagine beating a Woman of age 31.. The aftermath is my PROBLEM.... It leaves scars... Even when you Cane a child for too long.. The child assumes you HATE him/her ... God knows once I marry my Wife, dem never born her PAPA or BROTHERS to touch HER... I revoked that license when I paid her BRIDEPRICE..

midehill:


Just ignore d guy Mr righteousness...

so its ok for a father to still be flogging his 26yr old son cos thats what your so called man of god is saying