udemzyudex:


Oh it's now only the guys that mess things up?

Try to be objective abeg.

victorian:
The day I saw her pictures with low cut, as In very low hair cut with a skinny face, I knew her marriage is about to come to an end. It's just a matter of time.

Her pictures then looked like a shadow of her once bubbly and fresh looks. And people were complaining how come she looks dry with an ugly skin cut. She said in a video that she's watching her weight and wants to feel healthy.

I just shook my head in disdain. I knew her husband must be very controlling and thats the last thing some women need.

I can never ever marry a controlling man. Never!

A suitor asked me last month, can I marry him? He's controlling and he knows with my looks, I won't be submissive.
I smiled and I told him, sorry I can't leave my carefree bf and marry you. I can't cope with a controlling man. And thank God my bf loves me the way I am. Marry someonelse.


Some men and Control is so out of this world!
Jeez!

MOnkeyBabe:
you people think it's nice forming tough. Don't tough it up breaking people's heart.you can tough it up at the Gym,BAR or elsewhere.im a Cool person too but I don't use that as an excuse to sound condescending.i just called out ladies for picking on broke guys you didn't see it

Dalby:


My happiness in all of this is KARMA!!!

You stay in the marriage o, and struggle to keep it or you bolt out of it for a flimpsy excuse or even a serious one. You and you alone will bear the consequences of your choices...l am not judging either party, but one thing l know be say then no dey teach person sense...

CSTRR:
Another man will go and marry a woman that has been pounded and injected with another man's DNA for seven good years.

millionboi2:
is not true

The girl I date always come back

Almunjid:

Bro. It's obvious that u didn't read and understand my comment well. From the way u sound, u don't seem to know the difference between legal marriages and common law marriages. In Europe, if u refused to do legal marriage, ur girlfriend (if u have any) would be considered as ur common law spouse (they also have some rights but not like ur legally married wife). Ur legally married wife is ur spouse and ur girlfriend is (considered as) ur (common law) spouse too. U can only decide not to do legal marriage to avoid feminists rigid laws.

What u don't understand is that, in Europe anything that brings man and woman together is referred to as either marriage or common law marriage. We can only call it any name we like, but that doesn't change the fact that it's a marriage. That's y ur girlfriend u live with and ur baby mama are considered as ur spouses.
Being in a relationship is being in an indirect or informal marriage.

Many can't afford formal marriage, so they go for informal marriage. Just like the person that can't afford original wears or clothes go for Okrika, but all na still clothes na abi?. Lol

Formal marriages favour women and their children more, while informal marriages doesn't favour women and their children that much. Majority of the products of informal marriages lack proper upbringing. They're the ones constituting nuisance in this world today.

Here in Africa, we copy the wrong things, most Africans avoid marriage in order to circumvent spousal responsibilities. What Europeans are running away from is not spousal responsibility or marriage itself, but the strict laws in marriage that flavors women more than men, that's y some of them marry other race especially Africans that doesn't have strict laws.

Till the end of time, human will continue to marry (legal marriages) no matter how few they may be. If u can't take the risk or afford it, some can.

peace!

Happyfela:
You can't be submissive to your man. You said it yourself. Abeg pls no marry make u no spoil somebody's son life pata pata

Benzemma:
This one marriage plane is crashing like this, Am even afraid to buy ticket. But wait oo, what could be the reason now?
Because I Know it can't be because the man refuse to give her money. When they tell young girls and boys that money is not a guarantee to happy marriage, they will not believe.

ibedun:


Look at this one oooo. Who told you all these lies?

Oga, marriage is not critical to life! And there is nothing like common law wife (in law), if you are not living together there is no legal status of any kind. In Europe men are refusing to marry......now!
Shortly from now it will progress to men refusing to have children.

ibedun:


Every man goes through this experience so you are not special.

lalasticlala:
Nollywood actress, Chacha Eke has announced the end of her 7-year-old marriage to Nollywood movie director and producer, Austin Faani.

Chacha Eke and Austin Faani's marriage produced 3 children.

Watch video as Chacha Eke announces the end of her marriage. She says she is 'done with the marriage'.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ef0daFThj8c

Benzemma:
This one marriage plane is crashing like this, Am even afraid to buy ticket. But wait oo, what could be the reason now?
Because I Know it can't be because the man refuse to give her money. When they tell young girls and boys that money is not a guarantee to happy marriage, they will not believe.

Almunjid:

There's nothing like common law marriages or spouses? Lol, Guy stop disgracing urself on social media. Google the phrase "common law marriage" or "informal marriage" and read more about it on Wikipedia.
U can be couples even without being legally married. A man was once ordered to pay his ex girlfriend 50k dollars monthly alimony.
https://www.nairaland.com/6111393/man-ordered-pay-ex-girlfriend

Hope you've learned something new today?


peace!

ibedun:


Rubbish, there is nothing like common law marriage I insist. You referenced a legal precedent in a court in Canada (biased as usual towards a woman) not an established law backing common law marriage. That judgement (interesting though) has been subjected to challenges and has not been upheld anywhere!

In the US and UK, and most part of Europe common law marriage is not recognised and you cannot seek remedy under a law that doesn’t exist.
That said the new laws regarding cohabitation are being established in SOME western countries where a man is living with a woman under the same roof and they have children together - that is cohabitation laws and associated remedies.

It won’t be long before men start to seriously fight back.

Also a man will be putting himself in danger by dating poor women. Men are already stopping that nonsense.

chival:


She said something about escaping with her life. That suggests abuse. Do not be quick to judge, at least until we all know the full story.

ogunsbanjul:
When your children grow up,they will ask you why leaving their father or why you're done with marriage as claimed by you now if it's true o. You can imagine after 3 good children. Single mothership is not a testimony rather unconsolable tears. May God help you to settle the crisis in your marriage and help you to overcome your marital challenges Eke Chacha because you're one of the actresses I love watching while acting movies

Almunjid:

U should have done scanned the articles carefully rather than just skimming through. Common law marriages has been abolished in MOST part of US not all parts. Go back and scan it again.
The fact that the term common-law marriage has wide informal use, often to denote relations that are not legally recognized, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Just like boyfriend and girlfriend, it's not legally recognized but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Most countries refer to common law marriages with different names e.g marriage like relationships, de defacto relationships, unmarried couples etc, read about common law in Australia and other countries.
Unmarried couples have legal rights in some countries while in some countries they don't.

You're contradicting urself, u believed common law marriage (which is often used colloquially or refer to by the media as cohabiting couples) doesn't exist, but Cohabitation laws exist in MOST western countries. How can laws exist on something that doesn't exist? U thought "cohabitation laws" are not meant for "cohabiting couples"? You've shot urself on the foot. Lol

Finally, u sound like a person who doesn't believe in marriage. You'd rather impregnate random women and continue to live ur life as a single guy all ur life, indirectly circumventing spousal responsibilities (which isn't gonna be healthy for ur children) than being responsible and committed. If u dislike legal marriages, then try traditional marriage.
A child who has both parents under the same roof can't be emotionally, mentally and psychologically compared to a child raised by a single parent (that's y most children raised by single parent especially single mothers are inhumane because they lack proper upbringing).
To give ur children what u lacked as a child is not by spoiling them with money, gifts and enrolling them into expensive schools, but by giving them the best gift (which is a good mother) and then a proper upbringing under marriage. Just the way we don't give up in relationships after heartbreaks, let's not give up on marriage for our children sake.
I wish us all the best!

peace!

ibedun:


You should have said you are pro-marriage from the beginning and be biased accordingly. My children are successful well educated professionals working in the “city of London” (in the financial district) and both are doing phenomenally well.
They were not brought up in the usual “marriage or family setting” and yes, I admit I enjoyed a single life for the most part of their life! But I was to meet all of their financial and emotional / social needs. They spent long periods of stay in my bachelorette house as they wished. 20 years later they are well adjusted, serious and focused. They are miles better than many kids who grew up in 2 parent homes!
A child that would be wayward and unbalanced would be, regardless of whether the parents are living together or not!

Almunjid:


All the adjectives u used in qualifying them (as successful, well educated, professional etc) doesn't stop them from suffering from mental, emotional and psychological problems due to ur absence in their lives. A child that would be wayward would be. But if a child would be "worst", a proper upbringing can reduce it from "worst" to "bad". Similarly, if a child would be "good", good upbringing would make me "better" or even "the best". The advantages of living under the same roof with both parents cannot be over emphasized (and all that can only be achieved through marriage).

U have lose a lot because there's nothing that binds u together with ur children, only the respect they have for u as a Dad. Like I said money, gifts etc doesn't help in curing their emotional, psychological problems (which they may not like to discuss with u) u came into their lives when their hearts were sealed and bind was already created with the Mum alone. That's reminds me of Actress Regina Daniel's father whose opinion about his daughter's marriage to Munir doesn't count. Lol

Ur children have lost a lot too because they were unable to learn many things from u due to ur absence. U must have had them when u were young, inexperienced, full of life and afraid of spousal responsibilities. I pray they don't follow ur footsteps. But their childhood experiences would definitely affect them.

The problem is that u still argue in support of the lifestyle u once lived. Marriage is not compulsory, it's for the mature minded people. It's like university and not everyone that will pass Jamb let alone be qualified to be admitted into university. I believed in the stage u are in life right now, it's a time u need a good companion and a life partner so badly to keep u company. If u don't have, it might eventually lead to loneliness, depression etc.

Lol, by the way, I'm not pro-marriage, but ur choice of words, prejudice and lopsidedness said a lot about u and that's y was trying to encourage u not to give up on marriage. Marriage is part of human culture, it will never die till the end of time.


peace!

ibedun:


Pure marriage bias!

Like I told you (do your research if you require) here in the UK, my children are well rounded, balanced, successful in their chosen career, recognised etc etc
I thank God (I am a Buddhist!)

There are so many failed unbalanced children who lived under one roof with both parents present. A child that would be wsyward and lost will be!

Almunjid:


Stop justifying ur self, u made mistake in the past that resulted to u having children out of wedlock and you're defending it as if u made the right choice. Anything ur children r today is not because of u but because of their mother who've always been there for them, if their mother was like u, she would have abandoned them too and ur children may have died, grow up in the street or raised in orphanage. I'm sure you're justifying urself just to make urself happy and guilt free because regret is not good for ur health.

People with ur type of mentality are the one advocating that human should live like (lower) animals (She-goats precisely). When a she-goat goes out, random goats sleep with her and when she gets pregnant, she takes care of herself alone. When she give birth she also single-handedly train and provide for her kids. The goat that impregnated her is some where chasing other she-goats (he have no idea what responsibility means). That's the kind of lifestyle you're supporting. This is worst, because some lower animals do have spouse and they live together to provide, take care of their offsprings and give them proper upbringing. People like u only get women pregnant and send them money, as if money is all it takes for proper upbringing of a child. U haven't been in ur children's life, so you've done nothing for them (the money u sent them was nothing). Here u are proud of them for making it without u (that is to say, you're actually useless after all). Do u think they're happy with u? They accepted u not that they're happy with u. You've deprived them of the joy of having a father in their lives.

The most painful part is that they may end up like u too. They won't be responsible and committed. They'll be impregnating and dumping women only sending them money just like u. because discipline, responsibility and commitment are the important things that only u can teach them, but u shirk them. While ur daughters (if u have any), might be having difficulty staying in a relationship with men.
Marriage is the only thing that makes men to take their responsibility with all pleasure. Out of wedlock most guys refuse to send their baby mamas money. After divorce, ex husbands refuse to take care of their children from ex wife.
When their mothers were unable to cater for them alone, they neglect the children and they become wayward constituting nuisance in the community.

I'm aware you're in evaluation period in ur life, when u evaluate ur whole life and count ur achievements. When u remember and be proud of the good decisions u made and regret the wrong ones. Ur children are definitely not part of ur achievement but their mother's great achievement in life.

No any levelheaded omosapian would be happy to have abandoned his own children for their mother (in the name of civilization) or encourage others to make the same mistake he made. Ur children may have made it even without u, but other people's children may not make it (as things are getting worst in this generation).

ibedun:


Get yourself checked out! Some psychological issues going on in your head! Pe le ooo!
Your mind is seriously warped, I bet your father abandoned you totally and you haven’t gotten over the hurt. A therapist will do!
Good luck and goodbye.

ibedun:


E pain am! Go and look for your runaway father before you kpai due to psycho-emotional pain! Who will marry you self?
Millions of men suffering in silence called marriage GOD FORBID!

Trayceey:
.. Men and their wahala sef. Infact this marriage is scam. I don't think I wona marry again. Just wona have kids

AIlahuAkbar:
who even wants to marry a filthy vampire sucker like you?

MOnkeyBabe:
you people think it's nice forming tough. Don't tough it up breaking people's heart.you can tough it up at the Gym,BAR or elsewhere.im a Cool person too but I don't use that as an excuse to sound condescending.i just called out ladies for picking on broke guys you didn't see it