JUICYPINEAPPLE:


You are funny

You dey mind the mumu.

Then you're not ready to get married. Remain single

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Biglittlelois:
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WHO AMONG THE MODES DO YOU SPREAD YOUR LEGS FOR They were so fast to your bidding.

"Fools have no pleasure in understanding...." Just quoting the Bible lol

Says our Bible mistress biglittlelois

Biglittlelois:



If you know this moniker well, you'd know I don't do silly banter with dingos, adios.

WORDWORLD:


But virginity and a good character does.

A good character does: Yes
But not virginity.

I suspect that you aren't married yet.

Curious345:
It's with a heavy heart I write you this story.
I am about to get married ,but the lady is not a virgin.

What do I do please ? Do i call off the wedding ?

Marrying a virgin is biblical and quarannical.
It's always been my dream. I thought I would be lucky in this dark world .
But alas I fell into that same web of distortion which I feared the most .

How can I marry a woman whose punna has been used to play PIANO by men of different shades?
Will God in heaven forgive me?

I always had this belief that if I marry a lady who is not a virgin, i am dishonoring my creator.

So what to do ?

If I call off this wedding at the last minute (I am seriously considering it ) can I still find a virgin lady to marry before December?

House ,I need your word on this imbroglio

This one is as foolish and stupid as the so called Sarz

shadeyinka:

A good character does: Yes
But not virginity.

I suspect that you aren't married yet.

Even at that, there is a POSITIVE role VIRGINITY plays in the pysche of men who happen to marry a lady that kept what is between her thighs only for that her lucky husband in marriage this we can't deny.

Preshieben:
any prove?

My eyes. They saw it happen. I saw ur long pucci too

WORDWORLD:


WHO AMONG THE MODES DO YOU SPREAD YOUR LEGS FOR They were so fast to your bidding.

"Fools have no pleasure in understanding...." Just quoting the Bible lol

Says our Bible mistress biglittlelois

I swr down. When it comes 2 dz females, d mods are usually hyperactive. There is a particular playboy amongst d mods shifting these females pants, i knw hz name bt i wont mention

SmartProf:
If a trivial issue like the virginity status of a lady is giving you sleepless nights and restlessness in this age & time then u ain't ready to be married yet & your psychological maturity is in doubt to handle marriage. I will advise you to look for some other distractions like playing video games and forget marriage till you are man enough mentally. When u eventually get the virgin lady u are so obsessed about after an ultimate search, let her virginity bring alongside all you need to make it big on earth since it appears you intend to use it to update your CV. E dey like say this one hear say virgin ladies na arch angels dem be..e go shock U.

virginity isn't a trival issue.
women who are chaste are always cherished

WORDWORLD:


Even at that, there is a POSITIVE role VIRGINITY plays in the pysche of men who happen to marry a lady that kept what is between her thighs only for that her lucky husband in marriage this we can't deny.

I tell you the truth. It's not like you think.
When you are unmarried,you'll probably think virginity is the most important asset to marriage. But after you're married, you'll crave for more deeper things like friendship, companionship, dependability, spirituality and sensuality. None of these is a function of whether a woman was a virgin at the time of marriage or not.

But still, if as a man, you have masturbated before, you don't have the tiniest right to demand that your girl must be a virgin.

Have you ever masturbated before?

NNU0000:
If marriages are to be based on virginity,majority of us will die single.

It's True But Doze Who Need Such Ladies Would Get It.

shadeyinka:

I tell you the truth. It's not like you think.
When you are unmarried,you'll probably think virginity is the most important asset to marriage. But after you're married, you'll crave for more deeper things like friendship, companionship, dependability, spirituality and sensuality. None of these is a function of whether a woman was a virgin at the time of marriage or not.

But still, if as a man, you have masturbated before, you don't have the tiniest right to demand that your girl must be a virgin.

Have you ever masturbated before?

"But after you're married, you'll crave for more deeper things like friendship, companionship, dependability, spirituality and sensuality."

What you have said above is very, very difficult to establish in a marriage if on the wedding night a man realises that all along he has been lied to by his wife of being a virgin, a virtue he cheerishes and finds as to be a fulfilment of his dreams.

Such a man will live with her with RESENTMENT. And with resentment, there be no craving for anything deeper affection. Infact the love dies immediately, heart ache and head ache sets in. Those who have fallen in such circumstances have many times ended up divorcing there wives at the long run, others starved her emotinally. This is a reality, with virginity fraud in marriage. There are so many perspective to this, it is even worse if you end up being a subject of mockery by men who know you and you know them and your path do cross on a daily bases and get to laugh at you because men will definately laugh for having had the best of your wife.

THIS IS SUBJECTIVE, AS FOR SOME MEN THEY DONT JUST CARE IF THEIR WIFE INFACT STILL SLEEPS AROUND UNDER THEIR NOSE EVEN IN MATRIMONY LET ALONE HAVE BEEN SLEEPING AROUND BEFORE THEN. DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS.

WORDWORLD:


"But after you're married, you'll crave for more deeper things like friendship, companionship, dependability, spirituality and sensuality."

What you have said above is very, very difficult to establish in a marriage if on the wedding night a man realises that all along he has been lied to by his wife of being a virgin, a virtue he cheerishes and finds as to be a fulfilment of his dreams.

Such a man will live with her with RESENTMENT. And with resentment, there be no craving for anything deeper affection. Infact the love dies immediately, heart ache and head ache sets in. Those who have fallen in such circumstances have many times ended up divorcing there wives at the long run, others starved her emotinally. This is a reality, with virginity fraud in marriage. There are so many perspective to this, it is even worse if you end up being a subject of mockery by men who know you and you know them and your path do cross on a daily bases and get to laugh at you because men will definately laugh for having had the best of your wife.

THIS IS SUBJECTIVE, AS FOR SOME MEN THEY DONT JUST CARE IF THEIR WIFE INFACT STILL SLEEPS AROUND UNDER THEIR NOSE EVEN IN MATRIMONY LET ALONE HAVE BEEN SLEEPING AROUND BEFORE THEN. DIFFERENT STROKES TO DIFFERENT FOLKS.

Checkout the highlights
1. @Red: the crime would have been the LIES not the not being a virgin. What of if she told you she has done it before, would you dump her even when she has ALL the qualities that would make a good and happy marriage with you?

Suppose she's the Daughter of the owner of COSCHARIS (Born Again Billionaire of Nigeria), would you reject her because she's not a virgin?

2. @Blue: This would be complete immaturity. On you wedding night, she CEASES to be a virgin and then so what!? Maturity is holding on to the things that could last till death do you part like character, friendship, dependability, spirituality etc. Even beauty fades with age. A spouse could get paralyzed or disfigureddue to an accident. No! Don't value the things that will give you PEACE for transient things.

Do you think every girl who is NOT a virgin is loose and wayward? No! There are many reasons why a girl may loose her virginity other than through waywardness
1. Born without a Hymen
2. Rape and Molestation (as a minor)
3. Immaturity from youthful exuberance.
4. Stupidity and gullibility in believing a Casanova. Some of them will even quote the scriptures to justify sexual immorality
5. Masturbation
6. Backsliding

I asked you a question which you didn't answer:
Have you masturbated before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.
Have you watched pornography before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.

What is the mind of Christ?

John 8:5-7:
"Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what say you? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said to them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."


Only Gods grace keeps one as a virgin till marriage in this complex world of ours. I don't despise virginity but it doesn't guarantee anything in marriage.

HotPoundedYam:
virginity isn't a trival issue.
women who are chaste are always cherished

That is true but the OP is unrealistically immature in his stance. Virginity has its advantage in marriage such as promoting TRUST in difficult circumstances BUT it doesn't guarantee a good marriage.

shadeyinka:

Checkout the highlights
1. @Red: the crime would have been the LIES not the not being a virgin. What of if she told you she has done it before, would you dump her even when she has ALL the qualities that would make a good and happy marriage with you?

Suppose she's the Daughter of the owner of COSCHARIS (Born Again Billionaire of Nigeria), would you reject her because she's not a virgin?

2. @Blue: This would be complete immaturity. On you wedding night, she CEASES to be a virgin and then so what!? Maturity is holding on to the things that could last till death do you part like character, friendship, dependability, spirituality etc. Even beauty fades with age. A spouse could get paralyzed or disfigureddue to an accident. No! Don't value the things that will give you PEACE for transient things.

Do you think every girl who is NOT a virgin is loose and wayward? No! There are many reasons why a girl may loose her virginity other than through waywardness
1. Born without a Hymen
2. Rape and Molestation (as a minor)
3. Immaturity from youthful exuberance.
4. Stupidity and gullibility in believing a Casanova. Some of them will even quote the scriptures to justify sexual immorality
5. Masturbation
6. Backsliding

I asked you a question which you didn't answer:
Have you masturbated before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.
Have you watched pornography before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.

What is the mind of Christ?

John 8:5-7:
"Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what say you? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said to them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."


Only Gods grace keeps one as a virgin till marriage in this complex world of ours. I don't despise virginity but it doesn't guarantee anything in marriage.

This is just plenty talk my dear brother it adds nothing to a man whose FULFILMENT in marriage starts with a woman of CHASTITY.

The question is what did she lie about? It's not the lies but what the lies is about. IF IT MATTERS NOT SHE WOULD NOT HAVE LIED IN THE FIRST PLACE. Even the most promiscuous of ladies lie when asked about their VIRGINITY status. Ponder again, why should a lady lie about her VIRGINITY status. Is that not enough to tell you that she is ASHAMED OF HERSELF?


If she told him the truth, it becomes a matter of choice by the man. If he shares your kind of mindset he may choose to settle for less if he doesn't share your mindset he moves on and search for FULFILMENT somewhere else.

The mere fact that most ladies lie about their virginity status tells you how IMPORTANT it is an issue even to them, I mean self esteem.

It is not immaturity on.the side a man by choosing to show a woman the exit door if living with her will cause him nothing but anguish. Every man with their standard. A woman will do the same if she finds out on her wedding night that her husband is impotent due to an accident. The analogy here is with respect to FULLFILMENT. Would people say is that how much you love Penis?



The bolded is a subjective conclusion. To those whose dream is to marry a woman of CHASTITY, a virgin wife, such dream coming true is a positive kick start to the marriage. A FULFILMENT of his heart, which such dream coming true opens his heart to his wife on a deeper level of acceptance and affection.

WORDWORLD:


This is just plenty talk my dear brother it adds nothing to a man whose FULFILMENT in marriage starts with a woman of CHASTITY.

The question is what did she lie about? It's not the lies but what the lies is about. IF IT MATTERS NOT SHE WOULD NOT HAVE LIED IN THE FIRST PLACE. Even the most promiscuous of ladies lie when asked about their VIRGINITY status. Ponder again, why should a lady lie about her VIRGINITY status. Is that not enough to tell you that she is ASHAMED OF HERSELF?


If she told him the truth, it becomes a matter of choice by the man. If he shares your kind of mindset he may choose to settle for less if he doesn't share your mindset he moves on and search for FULFILMENT somewhere else.

The mere fact that most ladies lie about their virginity status tells you how IMPORTANT it is an issue even to them, I mean self esteem.

It is not immaturity on.the side a man by choosing to show a woman the exit door if living with her will cause him nothing but anguish. Every man with their standard. A woman will do the same if she finds out on her wedding night that her husband is impotent due to an accident. The analogy here is with respect to FULLFILMENT. Would people say is that how much you love Penis?



The bolded is a subjective conclusion. To those whose dream is to marry a woman of CHASTITY, a virgin wife, such dream coming true is a positive kick start to the marriage. A FULFILMENT of his heart, which such dream coming true opens his heart to his wife on a deeper level of acceptance and affection.

I asked you a question which you didn't answer:
Have you masturbated before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.
Have you watched pornography before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.

Why was it difficult for you to answer these two questions?
ONLY a TRUE Virgin should require to marry a virgin!

How did you find out she wasn't a virgin?

Curious345:
It's with a heavy heart I write you this story.
I am about to get married ,but the lady is not a virgin.

What do I do please ? Do i call off the wedding ?

Marrying a virgin is biblical and quarannical.
It's always been my dream. I thought I would be lucky in this dark world .
But alas I fell into that same web of distortion which I feared the most .

How can I marry a woman whose punna has been used to play PIANO by men of different shades?
Will God in heaven forgive me?

I always had this belief that if I marry a lady who is not a virgin, i am dishonoring my creator.

So what to do ?

If I call off this wedding at the last minute (I am seriously considering it ) can I still find a virgin lady to marry before December?

House ,I need your word on this imbroglio

shadeyinka:

I asked you a question which you didn't answer:
H IPave you masturbated before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.
Have you watched pornography before?
If you have, then it is immoral to require a higher standard from your wife to be.

Why was it difficult for you to answer these two questions?
ONLY a TRUE Virgin should require to marry a virgin!

I didn't answer those question because those questions have no relevance in all SINCERITY to the core of what we are discussing. ITS A MERE DISTRACTION.

WORDWORLD:


I didn't answer those question because those questions has no relevance in all SINCERITY to the core of what we are discussing. ITS A MERE DISTRACTION.

It isn't.
If your girl lost her virginity due to masturbation what makes you different if you also have masturbated

Would you accept to marry a girl who lost her virginity due to masturbation? If Not, answer the question!

My brother just pack sand take cover the punna, so that e go be like virgin,if you no wan marry you no go de one place.

Biglittlelois:
This thread, men and their entitlement mentality, when the Bible was stating the characteristics of a virtuous woman, virginity was never [/b]mentioned(correct me if I'm wrong)

[b]Men, in all you do, seek and pray to meet your DESTINED partner, your own better half, your ride or die, your soul mate, one that will complement you and stay for life no matter what, that is all that matters.

You don't talk about entitlement mindset and men in the same paragraph.
And until you realize the biological setup of a man is different from that of a woman,you're going to continue to fight a futile battle.
If you're going to be honest in here, which I highly doubt, you going to openly acknowledge no woman wants an inexperienced man in the bedroom, a virgin. Likewise, no man wants a woman who have being pumped and dumped, and basically passed round like a bowl of meal in a public gathering.
No man wants a wh*re !

The way a man view virginity is not the same way a woman will ever view virginity
.
We're different !
Hormonally, psychologically,evolutionarily ,just name it, we're different.
That society is excusing women tendency to wh*re around, doesn't mean all men should put up with such attitude, especially when marriage is the in the picture.
Chastity, beauty and youthfulness are qualities men find attractive in women, different rules apply to men.
He wants a virgin, he should go for it.
He should not be shamed for establishing his own standards, because women do it everyday, and are praised for it.

You don't tell men what to do, when you don't even understand our masculinity.

Basically a woman who believes in the "special one" is telling men what to do, lol.

Finally, here's a Bible verse I found, it could be a help to you.

GLYCOLYSISS:

You don't talk about entitlement mindset and men in the same paragraph.
And until you realize the biological setup of a man is different from that of a woman,you're going to continue to fight a futile battle.
If you're going to be honest in here, which I highly doubt, you going to openly acknowledge no woman wants an inexperienced man in the bedroom, a virgin. Likewise, no man wants a woman who have being pumped and dumped, and basically passed round like a bowl of meal in a public gathering.
The way a man view virginity is not the same way a woman will ever view virginity
.
We're different !
Hormonally, psychologically,evolutionarily ,just name it, we're different.
That society is excusing women tendency to LovePeddler around, doesn't mean all men should put up with such attitudes, especially when marriage is the in the picture.
Chastity, beauty and youthfulness are qualities men find attractive in women, different rules apply to men.
He wants a virgin, he should go for it.
He should not be shamed for establishing his our standards, because women do it everyday, and are praised for it.
You don't tell men what to do, when you don't even understand our masculinity.
Basically a woman who believes in the "special one" is telling men what to do, lol.
Finally, here's a Bible verse I found, it could be a help to you.

Gbam! God bless ya bruh

shadeyinka:

It isn't.
If girl lost her virginity due to masturbation what makes you different if you also have masturbated

Would you accept to marry a girl who lost her virginity due to masturbation? If Not, answer the question!

How do you tell a lady who lost her virginity due to masturbation? Am not a gambler, I don't play the game of chance.

light099:
I feel your pain son, and you're not wrong to have thought it this way. It should be the exact pursuit of any man planning to get married to settle for the best and not for the less.
You're pursuing a noble cause that has been since those old days when a woman discovered not to be a virgin on wedding night brought shame to herself and her parents.
The sad news is, white cuckolds have defiled our noble tradition with their simpish western culture, this has turned most Nigerian men into staunch admirers of fairy used and over used pussies.
New generation of African men are gradually turning into sorry-ass cuckolds. Our rich tradition handed down to us by our forefathers is being thrown to the wind.
We now live in a generation where women gallantly take advantage of men. Men are the cash cows while bitches live large.

Except your parents honour your belief, I would have advised you to carry on with the wedding. Most people would see you as a psychotic and persecute you. It's hard pursuing such a noble cause in this kind of generation.
If you're lucky enough that she's not yet lost all her tightness or exceeded her elasticity, as not to retain your preeck or give you the needed grip for pleasure, just manage it that way and carry on.
Thinking about how her punna has been used to play PIANO by men would only add to the pain.
Although you might eventually get what you want but the odd is very high, probability of getting someone worse is higher. If you're not careful, you might end up with someone with a wider orifice. I would advise you to accept fate and move on.

...you might end up with someone with a wider orifice. You must be an engineering person to use such terminology for a v.agina

light099:
I feel your pain son, and you're not wrong to have thought it this way. It should be the exact pursuit of any man planning to get married to settle for the best and not for the less.
You're pursuing a noble cause that has been since those old days when a woman discovered not to be a virgin on wedding night brought shame to herself and her parents.
The sad news is, white cuckolds have defiled our noble tradition with their simpish western culture, this has turned most Nigerian men into staunch admirers of fairy used and over used pussies.
New generation of African men are gradually turning into sorry-ass cuckolds. Our rich tradition handed down to us by our forefathers is being thrown to the wind.
We now live in a generation where women gallantly take advantage of men. Men are the cash cows while bitches live large.

Except your parents honour your belief, I would have advised you to carry on with the wedding. Most people would see you as a psychotic and persecute you. It's hard pursuing such a noble cause in this kind of generation.
If you're lucky enough that she's not yet lost all her tightness or exceeded her elasticity, as not to retain your preeck or give you the needed grip for pleasure, just manage it that way and carry on.
Thinking about how her punna has been used to play PIANO by men would only add to the pain.
Although you might eventually get what you want but the odd is very high, probability of getting someone worse is higher. If you're not careful, you might end up with someone with a wider orifice. I would advise you to accept fate and move on.

...you might end up with someone with a wider orifice. You must be an engineering/physics person to use such terminology for a v.a.g.i.n.a

WORDWORLD:


VIRGINITY IS NO TRIVIAL ISSUE AT ALL. . ANY MAN WHO IS BLESSED WITH A VIRGIN WIFE WITH A GOOD CHARACTER IS THE MOST HAPPIEST MAN ON EARTH.
.

Tell them oo

shadeyinka:

Virginity is not a proof of godliness and character.

Neither is a sex driven person

WORDWORLD:


How do you tell a lady who lost her virginity due to masturbation? Am not a gambler, I don't play the game of chance.

So the question then still remains:
Have YOU masturbated before?
It's Just a simple YES or NO answer.

shadeyinka:

So the question then still remains:
Have YOU masturbated before?
It's Just a simple YES or NO answer.

The answer is a simple NO are you satisfied?

WORDWORLD:


The answer is a simple NO are you satisfied?

Ok!
Go find your virgin if that's the truth!