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Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 8:24am On Oct 10, 2020
I am a guy in my late 20s and lack self confidence in all aspect of my everyday life. It is really affecting me and I feel It is high time I sought for help. How do I overcome this shortcoming of mine . Advice needed .
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by MikeMicheal(m): 8:41am On Oct 10, 2020
To help you, what is the boldest thing you have done?

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 8:46am On Oct 10, 2020
MikeMicheal:
To help you, what is the boldest thing you have done?
I don't think I have done any
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Juliusmomoh: 8:46am On Oct 10, 2020
MikeMicheal:
To help you, what is the boldest thing you have done?
Good question..

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by MikeMicheal(m): 9:03am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
I don't think I have done any
This is not possible.
If you have to take your time to think, think well.
There must be something.
I am asking this question because the solution you seek, revolves secretly around that.

I can give you useless motivational words like everyone else, but honestly it will only be a waste of time as usual.
What works best is systematic and practical approach.

So, once again what is the boldest thing you have ever done?

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by ProphetofOdin: 9:11am On Oct 10, 2020
MikeMicheal:

This is not possible.
If you have to take your time to think, think well.
There must be something.
I am asking this question because the solution you seek, revolves secretly around that.

I can give you useless motivational words like everyone else, but honestly it will only be a waste of time as usual.
What works best is systematic and practical approach.

So, once again what is the boldest thing you have ever done?

OP, I think you should answer this question honestly, that's the only way anyone cN help you. You can't be at your 20's and not have done anything bold like deliberately break the rules at school etc.

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 9:15am On Oct 10, 2020
Coming out to answer a question in front of a large audience ..it wasn't easy tho.







MikeMicheal:

This is not possible.
If you have to take your time to think, think well.
There must be something.
I am asking this question because the solution you seek, revolves secretly around that.

I can give you useless motivational words like everyone else, but honestly it will only be a waste of time as usual.
What works best is systematic and practical approach.

So, once again what is the boldest thing you have ever done?
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Pancakeey(f): 9:22am On Oct 10, 2020
Okay most times confidence oozes from the outside.

So if you’re in your early 20’s and you lack self confidence maybe you feel there are people doing better than you or something.

I really don’t know.

Your story is too vague to draw a conclusion from

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by CyberEBOLA(m): 9:23am On Oct 10, 2020
OP stay motivated

"Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit."
e.e. cummings

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Romangalactic(m): 9:27am On Oct 10, 2020
Havin money can give confidence anywayundecided Try it
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by solz007(m): 9:28am On Oct 10, 2020
me self I lack self confidence but I'm working on my confidence tho!


Alayè! just put on a Black Shade & Don't Give a Fvck 'bout what people think or say¡

don't turn to weed/drugs for confidence it'll mess you up bruh'

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 9:28am On Oct 10, 2020
The problem is that I find it hard asking any lady o really like out in real time . I most times hide behind my keypad to do so ....not really happy about it ..it makes me feel less of a man ..in addition, l lack confidence in other aspects of life . I don't know how to face my fears .
Pancakeey:
Okay most times confidence oozes from the outside.

So if you’re in your early 20’s and you lack self confidence maybe you feel there are people doing better than you or something.

I really don’t know.

Your story is too vague to draw a conclusion from
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by solz007(m): 9:30am On Oct 10, 2020
Romangalactic:
Havin money can give confidence anywayundecided Try it



No Capp
Get Money, Dress/Smell Good
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 9:31am On Oct 10, 2020
The major problem is that I find it hard asking any lady I really like out in real time . I most often hide behind my keypad to do so ....not really happy about it ..it makes me feel less of a man ..in addition, l lack confidence in other aspects of life . I don't know how to face my fears







Pancakeey:
Okay most times confidence oozes from the outside.

So if you’re in your early 20’s and you lack self confidence maybe you feel there are people doing better than you or something.

I really don’t know.

Your story is too vague to draw a conclusion from
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by solz007(m): 9:33am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
This is the problem is that I find it hard asking any lady o really like out in real time . I most times hide behind my keypad to do so ....not really happy about it ..it makes me feel less of a man ..in addition, l lack confidence in other aspects of life . I don't know how to face my fears .



If it's girl matter just practice man..
just decide to talk to 2-3 girls in a day with the aim of getting their numbers.
start with girls you find less attractive from there you Level Up!


I can relate to your story bro.
I wish I can take this advice I'm giving sha
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 9:37am On Oct 10, 2020
I know how to initiate a convo ..my problem is finishing . Take for example , got a gal number and w chatted for so long , get to talk in real life and all. When it is now time for me to state my intentions clearly , won't be bold to do so. Going out with a lady and won't b able to tell her face to face how I feel. Instead, would rather go online to do so. .u get
solz007:




If it's girl matter just practice man..
just decide to talk to 2-3 girls in a day with the aim of getting their numbers.
start with girls you find less attractive from there you Level Up!


I can relate to your story bro.
I wish I can take this advice I'm giving sha
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Strika22(m): 9:41am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:

The major problem is that I find it hard asking any lady I really like out in real time . I most often hide behind my keypad to do so ....not really happy about it ..it makes me feel less of a man ..in addition, l lack confidence in other aspects of life . I don't know how to face my fears







I do think you overthink issues, which in my opinion makes you feel less of yourself. The worst thing someone is gonna tell you for asking or trying something is NO. You need to start being less afraid from take some obvious steps in your life.
Maybe you think, you are too ugly or don’t have enough money yet. Try Loving yourself over again, that will raise your confidence a little.

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Strika22(m): 9:44am On Oct 10, 2020
MikeMicheal:

This is not possible.
If you have to take your time to think, think well.
There must be something.
I am asking this question because the solution you seek, revolves secretly around that.

I can give you useless motivational words like everyone else, but honestly it will only be a waste of time as usual.
What works best is systematic and practical approach.

So, once again what is the boldest thing you have ever done?
OP, you haven’t given a reasonable answer to this question.
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by solz007(m): 9:46am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
I know how to initiate a convo ..my problem is finishing . Take for example , got a gal number and w chatted for so long , get to talk in real life and all. When it is now time for me to state my intentions clearly , won't be bold to do so. Going out with a lady and won't b able to tell her face to face how I feel. Instead, would rather go online to do so. .u get



Oh! I get your point. are you scared of rejection or what's the problem?? cause you're already cool/friendly with her there's nothing to be scared of, just tell her how you feel even if it's jokingly.


an alternative with the way y'all been talking & chatting you can express how you feel via your actions by just acting like her Boyfriend. Do stuffs a Boyfriend will do for his girlfriend but don't be too nice & needy! instead she'll be the one asking you

what's up with us!?
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 9:47am On Oct 10, 2020
Thanks for this ...u r ryt ...I feel I am not just adequate or not the favoured type...I just feel am cursed or naturally unlucky ..
Strika22:

I do think you overthink issues, which in my opinion makes you feel less of yourself. The worst thing someone is gonna tell you for asking or trying something is NO. You need to start being less afraid from take some obvious steps in your life.
Maybe you think, you are too ugly or don’t have enough money yet. Try Loving yourself over again, that will raise your confidence a little.
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Nobody: 9:54am On Oct 10, 2020
Dis is simple ,ma nigga,,,,,,,,,,


International man would like to know what makes you loses yaa confidence,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,shey it is your appearance,,,,,,,,,,,,, financial status ,,,,,, etc


Imma help you if you tell me exactly what makes you loses yaa confidence wink

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 9:58am On Oct 10, 2020
IYes , I am afraid .I am naturally friendly and can relate with people in general ..I don't know how to cope with rejection..this particular gal, we have gone out on three occasions yet haven't said anything in person ...I keep asking her out only on WhatsApp which will make me appear weak....still saw her yesterday and was just dere looking ...
solz007:




Oh! I get your point. are you scared of rejection or what's the problem?? cause you're already cool/friendly with her there's nothing to be scared of, just tell her how you feel even if it's jokingly.


an alternative with the way y'all been talking & chatting you can express how you feel via your actions by just acting like her Boyfriend. Do stuffs a Boyfriend will do for his girlfriend but don't be too nice & needy! instead she'll be the one asking you

what's up with us!?

Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 10:00am On Oct 10, 2020
I just feel am not adequate even when people around me feel I am adequate....I am not bad looking and don't think It is about my financial status .it is a problem from within ..u get
Fact1:
Dis is simple ,ma nigga,,,,,,,,,,


International man would like to know what makes you loses yaa confidence,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,shey it is your appearance,,,,,,,,,,,,, financial status ,,,,,, etc


Imma help you if you tell me exactly what makes you loses yaa confidence wink
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by JayromLye: 10:02am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
I just feel am not adequate even when people around me feel I am adequate....I am not bad looking and don't think It is about my financial status .it is a problem from within ..u get
DO YOU MASTURBATE? smiley

Let's start from there.
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 10:06am On Oct 10, 2020
Yes I do
JayromLye:
DO YOU MASTURBATE? smiley

Let's start from there.
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by solz007(m): 10:12am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
IYes , I am afraid .I am naturally friendly and can relate with people in general ..I don't know how to cope with rejection..this particular gal, we have gone out on three occasions yet haven't said anything in person ...I keep asking her out only on WhatsApp which will make me appear weak....still saw her yesterday and was just dere looking ...


asking her out on social media ain't cool.. did she accept your offer?
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by austine4real(m): 10:21am On Oct 10, 2020
Starts going out frst


Look straight into poeples eyes


Stop masturbating


Look into the mirror every morning and say I'm better than this , I have self confidence and boldness Tru the holy Spirit



Try to talk to strangers once in a while


Good luck

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Nobody: 10:21am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
I just feel am not adequate even when people around me feel I am adequate....I am not bad looking and don't think It is about my financial status .it is a problem from within ..u get



Hmmmm ,,,,,,now i get you,,,,,,, though I still know dat there's something dat makes you feel like dat ,,,,,,,


See the only way to get rid of it is knowing what makes you look lesser when you're outside,,,,,,, you can't tell me dat it's from within,,,,,,,,, so after knowing it then you gotta face it ,,,,,wink
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 10:51am On Oct 10, 2020
She was indifferent ..I am worried she will get disgusted by inability to do it face to face quote author=solz007 post=94793209]


asking her out on social media ain't cool.. did she accept your offer? [/quote]
Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Nobody: 11:30am On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:
I am a guy in my late 20s and lack self confidence in all aspect of my everyday life. It is really affecting me and I feel It is high time I sought for help. How do I overcome this shortcoming of mine . Advice needed .

Tip 1: don't give a fvck

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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by Pancakeey(f): 1:43pm On Oct 10, 2020
greatagain17:

The major problem is that I find it hard asking any lady I really like out in real time . I most often hide behind my keypad to do so ....not really happy about it ..it makes me feel less of a man ..in addition, l lack confidence in other aspects of life . I don't know how to face my fears

As if I knew this was the problem.
You’re shy.

Just have it at the back of your mind that whatever happens you won’t die. The worst is you’d get rejected

You just have to take a bold step. You can’t live in fear all your life

You’re just too scared to try things and maybe you’re too bothered about what might happen






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Re: Lack Of Self-confidence....I need help by greatagain17(m): 8:47pm On Oct 10, 2020
Thanks for ur time...[quote author=Pancakeey post=94799919][/quote]

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