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Powerfly:
Op. Tell her that when next she meets any guy., she should always tell them that her grand mother whom she grew up with tied her virginity to their village shrine, that the only way to break it is if she agrees to become the next Eze nwanyi. Tell her to tell anyone who is interested that like four guys have already tried and have died in the process.
Then as for her dad,
She should buy this
aboki pen knife and be going to bed with it.

ashawopikin:
She has a big nyash

Powerfly:
Op. Tell her that when next she meets any guy., she should always tell them that her grand mother whom she grew up with tied her virginity to their village shrine, that the only way to break it is if she agrees to become the next Eze nwanyi. Tell her to tell anyone who is interested that like four guys have already tried and have died in the process.
Then as for her dad,
She should buy this
aboki pen knife and be going to bed with it.

fattprince:
Writty writer that doesn't have any story on nairaland yet. Hope your first book wouldn't be about some men that are just bastards. You know there are good men, right? Like me, write about those ones.

Strange57:
lol am also thinking the person in the story is op

StacyO:
Which ways?
Her being every man's dream woman or her being a virgin.

You might be right though cause,to me this lady is close to perfection.

StacyO:
Please pardon the errors and try read through.
It'll be a very concise writeup.

A friend of mine is seeking for help with what she's going through and this is me trying to table it here for better advice.


Her first relationship last year August crashed due to her inability to add sex to the table.
Being a virgin,she just doesn't want to give in at all.
Now,her main problem is that every guy she come across wants to get in between her legs by every means possible and according to her, she have encountered 4 rape attempts from her close friends.
Even her dad is not spared from the temptation and keeping male friends(which has always been the best) is now a horror show. Their form of excuse is either she was "irresistible or was sending the wrong signs" She told me the last rape attempt was this afternoon by a very close friend. Her question goes thus 1) Is she possessed by some sensual spirit? 2) What do you think might be wrong with her?

Because as it stands now,she is depressed, bitter,suicidal and I won't lie, this is how feminism starts.
What do you think is going on? Your advice is needed, I don't want to lose someone this 2020
You can bash too if you want.

virginprincess:
That is the problem with most nigeria men, always want to have sex with any lady that is in a relationship with them, tell your friend nothing is wrong with her that how most men behave, even her own father is not left out, na wa o. tell her she will find her mr right soon.

StacyO:
Please pardon the errors and try read through.
It'll be a very concise writeup.

A friend of mine is seeking for help with what she's going through and this is me trying to table it here for better advice.


Her first relationship last year August crashed due to her inability to add sex to the table.
Being a virgin,she just doesn't want to give in at all.
Now,her main problem is that every guy she come across wants to get in between her legs by every means possible and according to her, she have encountered 4 rape attempts from her close friends.
Even her dad is not spared from the temptation and keeping male friends(which has always been the best) is now a horror show. Their form of excuse is either she was "irresistible or was sending the wrong signs" She told me the last rape attempt was this afternoon by a very close friend. Her question goes thus 1) Is she possessed by some sensual spirit? 2) What do you think might be wrong with her?

Because as it stands now,she is depressed, bitter,suicidal and I won't lie, this is how feminism starts.
What do you think is going on? Your advice is needed, I don't want to lose someone this 2020
You can bash too if you want.

Crownstar01:
How old is she?

ABOVEDELAW:
HOGWASH! WHY SHOULD AN ADULT GO INTO A SO CALLED RELATIONSHIP WHEN SHE IS NOT READY TO OFFER SEX, I MEANT WHAT IS SHE BRINGING TO THE TABLE, WHY COULDN'T SHE KEEP TO HERSELF UNTIL SHE FINDS HER MR RIGHT?

ABOVEDELAW:
HOGWASH! WHY SHOULD AN ADULT GO INTO A SO CALLED RELATIONSHIP WHEN SHE IS NOT READY TO OFFER SEX, I MEANT WHAT IS SHE BRINGING TO THE TABLE, WHY COULDN'T SHE KEEP TO HERSELF UNTIL SHE FINDS HER MR RIGHT?

StacyO:
She's in her early 20's

Tofeel1:
Werey, Soro soke!!!!....
We never finished end SARS you still dey compound issue for us.....
Simply say the truth, it's not your ghost friend but you....
Stop hiding like SARS

ThreeEyedRaven:
This is quite a difficult situation she found herself.
I'd say nothing is wrong with her but many things are wrong with the society. Many ladies has this strong sexual aura they exudes quite alright, Just as many men wants to fvck anything with a hole in-between her legs.
She can't avoid men till she gets married reasons because you don't just see a man somewhere and get married automatically. So there must be a relationship at first to begin with. Relationship is unavoidable except she wants be a nun. So she can't totally avoid men all her life as she doesn't know who the right person is, why she must go into relationship(or relationships in most cases)
My advice for her are
1: Clearly define what she wants for herself and SINCERELY stick to it.
2: Avoid being alone with men and don't give the wrong impressions to men either.
3: She also needs to clarify what she wants in a man (though not all can be achieved) but if no sex is part of it then it could be achieved. I understand there's hardly a relationship without intimacy ... And when those smooches and kisses starts the urge for sex is largely uncontrollable.
But discipline and sincerity of a clear purpose would see her through.

I'll tell you of a certain relationship I had while in my 2 and 300 level in school. She was a daughter of an MFM pastor. And so she made it clear to me there'd be no sex as she was a virgin and I respected her innocence (why, because e get as person go good reach even devil go defend am- you can ask uncle Job) when we had our intimacy I only played with her boobs and her clitts while she gave me BJ. It wasn't long before it dawned on both of us we're doing the right thing as we could satisfy eachother sexually without me deflowering her. And it got to hit us both that sex is over rated.

Bottom line is we understood eachother's demands and respected eachother and we got creative about it which is key in any relationship.

I think your friend can find a man who'd not only understand but accept and respect her for what she stands for.

ZIINI:
Na the babe jare she just dey use scope for us

StacyO:
I would love to write a big THANK YOU to those that gave their opinion,we have picked some and she's already working on them. Thanks once again and stay safe. If you do have more opinions,please don't hesitate to comment.
Gracias

StacyO: