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did they tie you with her? dumb that bitch... I will rather be alone and have my sanity than to be with someone that will lead me to my early grave

Tabasco23:
I can't hit a woman unless it's a kinky play but if It was my Nintendo switch and Acer predator worth 2k, only God can save me from what will happen....... But hold up just making sure did you cheat

hold up, are you trying to find a way to rationalize and justify her actions?!

even if I cheated with her mom, is that an excuse for her to raze all my belongings or cause me physically harm?

Soro Soke.

Blackmoran:
did they tie you with her? dumb that bitch... I will rather be alone and have my sanity than to be with someone that will lead me to my early grave

she is gone already.

PinkPill:
She's toxic.
Next time, look for someone responsible. You were attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

Don't go for just looks. Find someone that would give you Peace of mind.

noted. thanks

needanswer:
hold up, are you trying to find a way to rationalize and justify her actions?!

even if I cheated with her mom, is that an excuse for her to raze all my belongings or cause me physically harm?

Soro Soke.

no I'm not trying to justify her actions I just wanna know what made her angry, and I don't know what soro soke means

crackhaus:
I suppose the purpose of this thread was to make you appear like someone with a good level of self-control, yes?

Well, I will disappoint you... not because I want to talk down on you, but because I need to draw your attention to your very obvious cognitive dissonance.

What you have successfully proven here is that you are someone who can be taken for a ride, someone who can be exploited... And for the fact that you have somehow convinced yourself that you're a gentleman, makes you quite unable to see/observe it about yourself.

I have a good feeling that apart from this girl in the story, you are also surrounded by people who you seem to always let get away with disrespecting you – maybe your siblings, colleagues, friends, or neighbours.

My point here is, DON'T KID YOURSELF...
It is not self-control or maturity when you let people take a ride on you, it is a lack of worth... you simply don't value yourself enough.

I'm not going to say you should have hit her back, drew some blood, or help her lose some teeth... Fück no.
But you see, you should have made her pay for those damages in any way possible.

Besides, the fact that she even had the guts to do all of that destruction in the first place already tells me a lot about your kind of person and the type of relationship you have with her.
I understand that you are who you are, and everyone can't be a hard-nut BUT damnit develop some self-respect mahn...

The last time anything close to this happened to me in a relationship I was in (some time ago), we were not really fighting... just having one of those arguments that resulted in some pillow-throwing.
Then she mistakenly, I mean MISTAKENLY cracked the screen of my tablet PC.. and oh dear, she spent the rest of that day trying to make up for that blunder.

There are some things you shouldn't just tolerate, it's not about being calm or gentle... It's just common sense.

thanks, insult inclusive. I am not offended by the way, you have passed your message. but I'll like to draw your attention to something you missed on the way as you were doing your analysis.

notice how shell shocked I was from the experience, what does that tell you?

Yes it should tell you that this is A FIRST TIME INCIDENCE. It has never happened in my previous relationships but this girl is in a different kind of craze. If I still wanted in I could have still been with her and I'll do back by own but not physically, but in the end it will be a toxic relationship at best.

I am someone who respect myself and people respect me in turn, if she was a guy she would have got the other end of it. should would have though but God had other plans with that guy that saved the day.

Tabasco23:
no I'm not trying to justify her actions I just wanna know what made her angry, and I don't know what soro soke means

it means SPEAK UP.

I'll quote you if I intend telling the story.

needanswer:
thanks, insult inclusive. I am not offended by the way, you have passed your message. but I'll like to draw your attention to something you missed on the way as you were doing your analysis.

notice how shell shocked I was from the experience, what does that tell you?

Yes it should tell you that this is A FIRST TIME INCIDENCE. It has never happened in my previous relationships but this girl is in a different kind of craze. If I still wanted in I could have still been with her and I'll do back by own but not physically, but in the end it will be a toxic relationship at best.

I am someone who respect myself and people respect me in turn, if she was a guy she would have got the other end of it. should would have though but God had other plans with that guy that saved the day.

Glad you got the message, it's all that matters...

crackhaus:
I suppose the purpose of this thread was to make you appear like someone with a good level of self-control, yes?

Well, I will disappoint you... not because I want to talk down on you, but because I need to draw your attention to your very obvious cognitive dissonance.

What you have successfully proven here is that you are someone who can be taken for a ride, someone who can be exploited... And for the fact that you have somehow convinced yourself that you're a gentleman, makes you quite unable to see/observe it about yourself.

I have a good feeling that apart from this girl in the story, you are also surrounded by people who you seem to always let get away with disrespecting you – maybe your siblings, colleagues, friends, or neighbours.

My point here is, DON'T KID YOURSELF...
It is not self-control or maturity when you let people take a ride on you, it is a lack of worth... you simply don't value yourself enough.

I'm not going to say you should have hit her back, drew some blood, or help her lose some teeth... Fück no.
But you see, you should have made her pay for those damages in any way possible.

Besides, the fact that she even had the guts to do all of that destruction in the first place already tells me a lot about your kind of person and the type of relationship you have with her.
I understand that you are who you are, and everyone can't be a hard-nut BUT damnit develop some self-respect mahn...

The last time anything close to this happened to me in a relationship I was in (some time ago), we were not really fighting... just having one of those arguments that resulted in some pillow-throwing.
Then she mistakenly, I mean MISTAKENLY cracked the screen of my tablet PC.. and oh dear, she spent the rest of that day trying to make up for that blunder.

There are some things you shouldn't just tolerate, it's not about being calm or gentle... It's just common sense.

My own rule is very simple don't slap/punch/kick me and I won't slap/punch/kick you.

A female that behaves like a thug should be treated like a thug.

There's nothing gentlemanly about accepting abuse from women.

needanswer I'm sure you created this thread to receive applause for your so called self control. Let me ask you, what if she had stabbed you to death, I wonder who NL beta males would have applauded.

needanswer:
men are beasts, men are monsters. how many times do you hear this when a case of domestic violence is reported in the media? every time.

it's difficult sometimes being a man, I have known but now I have unlocked a new level. Not because it's that hard but because "nobody believes a man easily without very concrete proof(s)". even with hard solid evidence people still believe the abuser.

the bitter truth is this "a man is guilty until proven beyond and beyond and beyond every reasonable doubt and excuse that he is innocent, even before then some people want him jobless, homeless, broke and imprisoned".

while for a woman "she is innocent until very strong proof can say otherwise, then excuses like leniency, stress, mental disorder and all sorts can be made for her, for a pardon"

So I had a little argument with my babe. she gets physical, she blocks my way, speaks rudely to me, encroach on my space, pulls my shirt( it tears a little), my hair, slaps me all over Iike uncountable times all at ones.

I get she is angry but this is physical and emotional assault, she is an adult she should know, right?

her slaps especially really hurts me. my skin is stained red. but I manage to keep my cool. I'm no Lil frosh. I tricked her and managed to run outside to calm the atmosphere, she chases me but I outrun her. she can't keep up, so she goes back in.

come to think of it, I ran out of my own apartment, that I pay for? wow (it's a first experience for me)

I take 3 hours to go back. I believed by then at least she would be calmer and we can relate like civil adults do.

I get back and she is smiling. not the cute smile of hers o. I know something is up, I looked briefly around the apartment and everything looks normal. so I go back to the room where she is, trying to resolve our differences, that's when she drops the bomb. she tells me she poured water in all my electronics while I was away, she says it without remorse with a smile. I was taken aback. could it be true. I didn't wait for her to finish, e be like say this girl they craze? . I rushed into the living room. I switch on the led TV, Omo my tV didn't on o. my sound system too, ps3 wey I still dey manage no onetc nothing on.

God I couldn't describe the feeling, everywhere was suddenly hot, I was boiling. you know say this little witch follow me for back they laugh. mehn for the first time in my life I knew what it felt like to what to kill a person, cause in my head she was dead.

while I was still processing the shock and boiling, this little witch now made matters worse. my lappy way I get stuffs on, way I put for wardrobe this girl get mind put am for inside water. my heart first cut, I swear my eye red o and at the same time I won cry.

she come dey shout say make I do my worst, say make I kill am (person I never touch). that talk just they ring for my head, I no even understand how my head they do me that time, e just heavy. na my neighbor save me I swear. he heard all the noise from her the first time when I left and when I can back he heard her voice again. He just came around to be sure everything was fine. God bless that nigga.

naso he drag me out o, this witch still they follow us they shout make I do my worst.

any ways that was 2 days back.
I done they repair those I can afford to repair now small small and she is gone after much noise.

I pray never to see such a witch again.
cause of her I had to read about domestic violence again because I for kill person that day. It was while I was reading that I saw that 70% of WOMEN ARE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INSTIGATORS OR INITIATORS (they start the violent fight but they are the ones who usually suffer injuries) while men only initiate 30% of the time.

Information from that site shows that in relationships where both partners shows violent attribute, it is the women who will most likely be violent again in future relationships compared to the men and that men’s violent attributes are usually a one-time episode and not repeated in future relationships.

you can check our the website yourself https://www.coastallegalcenter.com/men-women-common-instigator-domestic-violence-cases/

please as we raise awareness for domestic violence against women and men, let's not overlook the fuel behind it -domestic violence initiators whether men or women. it may be your turn tomorrow.

Wasn't patient enough to finish up the message. Whether true or not, the owner of this story is a weak person and has issues with his self esteem. Need I put that he doesn't respect himself too.

Tabasco23:
I can't hit a woman unless it's a kinky play but if It was my Nintendo switch and Acer predator worth 2k, only God can save me from what will happen....... But hold up just making sure did you cheat

And so what if he cheated, is that license for him to be turned into a punching bag and have his properties destroyed?

Regex:
Wasn't patient enough to finish up the message. Whether true or not, the owner of this story is a weak person and has issues with his self esteem. Need I put that he doesn't respect himself too.

READERS are LEADERS, and not those who find it HARD to READ before giving an OPINION.

I don't have to roll in the mud with people of no esteem to gain their respect. That SH*T aren't my level, I rise above mediocrity and will continue to stay above it.

angelfallz:
My own rule is very simple don't slap/punch/kick me and I won't slap/punch/kick you.

A female that behaves like a thug should be treated like a thug.

There's nothing gentlemanly about accepting abuse from women.

needanswer I'm sure you created this thread to receive applause for your so called self control. Let me ask you, what if she had stabbed you to death, I wonder who NL beta males would have applauded.

Infact I wrote I lost control, my neighbor was the HERO of the day and not me! so try and get your facts right.

at the concluding part of my write up I made the point clear, I didn't share my story for your appraisal but to raise awareness about DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INSTIGATORS being equally damaging as DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ITSELF. so if you fall under any of these or you know anyone who does, call them to order.

needanswer:
Infact I wrote I lost control, my neighbor was the HERO of the day and not me! so try and get your facts right.

at the concluding part of my write up I made the point clear, I didn't share my story for your appraisal but to raise awareness about DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INSTIGATORS being equally damaging as DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ITSELF. so if you fall under any of these or you know anyone who does, call them to order.

thank you for your correction.

angelfallz:
And so what if he cheated, is that license for him to be turned into a punching bag and have his properties destroyed?

like I said I just wanna know why she was angry, usually for a woman to do something like that it has to be cheating I'm not justifying what she did fam

angelfallz:
My own rule is very simple don't slap/punch/kick me and I won't slap/punch/kick you.

A female that behaves like a thug should be treated like a thug.

There's nothing gentlemanly about accepting abuse from women.

need.answer I'm sure you created this thread to receive applause for your so called self control. Let me ask you, what if she had stabbed you to death, I wonder who NL beta males would have applauded.

Nothing at all, not even a tiny bit...

needanswer:
thanks, insult inclusive. I am not offended by the way, you have passed your message. but I'll like to draw your attention to something you missed on the way as you were doing your analysis.

notice how shell shocked I was from the experience, what does that tell you?

Yes it should tell you that this is A FIRST TIME INCIDENCE. It has never happened in my previous relationships but this girl is in a different kind of craze. If I still wanted in I could have still been with her and I'll do back by own but not physically, but in the end it will be a toxic relationship at best.

I am someone who respect myself and people respect me in turn, if she was a guy she would have got the other end of it. should would have though but God had other plans with that guy that saved the day.

i'm sorry, you being biased here. Domestic violence instigators shouldn't be spared irrespective of the gender

Liposure:
i'm sorry, you being biased here. Domestic violence instigators shouldn't be spared irrespective of the gender

yes I am biased, that's cause the law is biased. girl on girl violence is fine, same as boy on boy but boy on girl violence is a crime.

you don't want the "streets" of social media e-warriors to handle your case. you will be over even before you started. Lil Frosh is still the latest one, call him and ask him how it went.

needanswer:
yes I am biased, that's cause the law is biased. girl on girl violence is fine, same as boy on boy but boy on girl violence is a crime.

you don't want the "streets" of social media e-warriors to handle your case. you will be over even before you started. Lil Frosh is still the latest one, call him and ask him how it went.

how bout girl on boy

Tabasco23:
how bout girl on boy

now that's the same as boy on girl violence.

Tabasco23:
how bout girl on boy

now that's the same as boy on girl violence.

angelfallz:
My own rule is very simple don't slap/punch/kick me and I won't slap/punch/kick you.

A female that behaves like a thug should be treated like a thug.

There's nothing gentlemanly about accepting abuse from women.

needanswer I'm sure you created this thread to receive applause for your so called self control. Let me ask you, what if she had stabbed you to death, I wonder who NL beta males would have applauded.

Honestly, this has to do with someone battling with low self esteem and has no respect for himself. What if he was dead? See eh, he doesn't have any thing worth millions in his laptop. Imagine my laptop I use to code as a programmer is what a human who bleeds between her legs will tell me she poured water on... She's dead before she could say hi. Even before it gets to that stage, I'll end everything.

Respect is reciprocal: person weh talk this thing didn't go further to explain it.

It is not when you respect others that you will be respected. You have to respect yourself first before others could deem you fit for respect.

The nigga replied me, it wasn't worth going back n forth trying to prove no point.

needanswer:
yes I am biased, that's cause the law is biased. girl on girl violence is fine, same as boy on boy but boy on girl violence is a crime.

you don't want the "streets" of social media e-warriors to handle your case. you will be over even before you started. Lil Frosh is still the latest one, call him and ask him how it went.

I'll like to add that this fellow has not done bad and did what is best.

It's always easy to assume the best course of action when you are a third party or distant observer in situations like this.

I know many guys are raging why he couldn't unscrew her teeth and misalign her jaw because of what happened. The fact is that's a very easy thing to do even for weak men.

The poster is smart enough to handle it the way he did. That's what makes a man a man.

You could well argue and say he is a simp and all, but being a rational man you always put logic and reasoning before emotions. That's how civilization is built and reason men will always champion in all areas. It's a very weak minded thing to let emotion take control over rage that's a very feminine energy.

Some people won't really get the perspective right.

1) He has an images to protect (Job, family, future partner)
2) He could outdo things and lady could loose her life and he finds himself in jail.
3) Could be a waste of time for him


People don't care about what happened or who the instigator is. They only care after the fact and as a man you are guilty by default.


Destroying things because of rage is very weak, any low IQ person can do that - because it's just easy to destroy, no much brain cells required. Try creating something and you will see how challenging it is and being emotional and irrational will never get anything created or built.

See Lil Frosh, true we can't know what happened, but being weak and emotional made him loose his career over a mediocre heaux. All along he thought it was a very masculine thing to do was to panel beat the youngie's face and he was taking to court of public opinion (social media) and look what happened to him.

As this doesn't align to popular narratives. Guys please rise above your basic instinct, think thoroughly and think things through before you act. After God you are next in hierarchy of power don't fall beneath your emotions.

Your self control is top notch l praise you for not laying a finger on her because if you had done so omo you would have killed her,also,that lady is a witch don't let her in again

Doortun:
I'll like to add that this fellow has not done bad and did what is best.

It's always easy to assume the best course of action when you are a third party or distant observer in situations like this.

I know many guys are raging why he couldn't unscrew her teeth and misalign her jaw because of what happened. The fact is that's a very easy thing to do even for weak men.

The poster is smart enough to handle it the way he did. That's what makes a man a man.

You could well argue and say he is a simp and all, but being a rational man you always put logic and reasoning before emotions. That's how civilization is built and reason men will always champion in all areas. It's a very weak minded thing to let emotion take control over rage that's a very feminine energy.

Some people won't really get the perspective right.

1) He has an images to protect (Job, family, future partner)
2) He could outdo things and lady could loose her life and he finds himself in jail.
3) Could be a waste of time for him


People don't care about what happened or who the instigator is. They only care after the fact and as a man you are guilty by default.


Destroying things because of rage is very weak, any low IQ person can do that - because it's just easy to destroy, no much brain cells required. Try creating something and you will see how challenging it is and being emotional and irrational will never get anything created or built.

See Lil Frosh, true we can't know what happened, but being weak and emotional made him loose his career over a mediocre heaux. All along he thought it was a very masculine thing to do was to panel beat the youngie's face and he was taking to court of public opinion (social media) and look what happened to him.

As this doesn't align to popular narratives. Guys please rise above your basic instinct, think thoroughly and think things through before you act. After God you are next in hierarchy of power don't fall beneath your emotions.

Doortun bless you man! every line was a hit, back to back to back!

Erojepromise:
Your self control is top notch l praise you for not laying a finger on her because if you had done so omo you would have killed her,also,that lady is a witch don't let her in again

even if she comes back to apologize, which she will I'll be daft if I go back to her.