UjuJoan2:


So what are the things he does . . .

1. He gives me ANYTHING I ask. I know you'll think this is impossible, but my husband is the type of person that will use his last card to buy me an iPhone, just because I asked. He can never say no to me, he just can't. No matter how unreasonable the request, he just won't be able to say no. Even when we are quarelling and not talking, I would send him a message on WhatApp just to avoid talking to him . . . "I need to go to the salon, come and drop me off", he would still do it. I can't tell you the kind of confidence that gives me.

2. I am always right . . . Even when I'm wrong he still supports me. Whenever I complain about anyone to him, he automatically hates the person. It doesn't matter what happened, if you make me unhappy you become his enemy.

3. He supports me . . . Whatever I need to get to that next level, he provides. He doesn't get threatened, instead he pushes me to reach for the top. He thinks I'm the best, most intelligent and most gifted person on earth. I wish I could see myself through his eyes.

4. He lets me get away with almost anything. I can do almost anything and get away with it. To him I can do no wrong.

Let me stop here sha. . . .

Shortyy:
Nothing positive will come out of this thread.
The wives will come here to praise their husbands and how good they've been to them.
The single toxic and sadistic men will come and counter the posts calling it lies and labelling the husband a simp.

So I'll advice anyone who truly wants to marry not to come to Nairaland to seek validation, because it will end in tears for you.

If you've found someone you connect with, go ahead and do the do.

magkhan:
1. Prays for me and with me. I’m not the prayer type of person but his midnight prayers gives me joy.

2. Supports my career and education. Has no issues with late nights at work or out of town engagements.

3. Gives me ANYTHING I ask for even jokingly. I’m not demanding or unreasonable. I’ve never asked for a house because I know he can’t afford to buy me one even if he wants to.

4. Aside being a good husband he is a perfect perfect father I sometimes envy my kid�. He is also a good son and brother to his sister.

5. His sacrifices. Don’t get me started on this. He is the typical Igbo anambra man that will give his wife his car and use public transport.

He is not perfect but I married right.

Teespice:
I came here to read happy stories but alas, poco was right.

look at how they descended on uju's post like vultures.

make I waka abeg. I no get strength this morning.

UjuJoan2:


So what are the things he does . . .

1. He gives me ANYTHING I ask. I know you'll think this is impossible, but my husband is the type of person that will use his last card to buy me an iPhone, just because I asked. He can never say no to me, he just can't. No matter how unreasonable the request, he just won't be able to say no. Even when we are quarelling and not talking, I would send him a message on WhatApp just to avoid talking to him . . . "I need to go to the salon, come and drop me off", he would still do it. I can't tell you the kind of confidence that gives me.

2. I am always right . . . Even when I'm wrong he still supports me. Whenever I complain about anyone to him, he automatically hates the person. It doesn't matter what happened, if you make me unhappy you become his enemy.

3. He supports me . . . Whatever I need to get to that next level, he provides. He doesn't get threatened, instead he pushes me to reach for the top. He thinks I'm the best, most intelligent and most gifted person on earth. I wish I could see myself through his eyes.

4. He lets me get away with almost anything. I can do almost anything and get away with it. To him I can do no wrong.

Let me stop here sha. . . .

Fountainofyouth:
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This is funny, weird, and wrong, are you both Christians?

SmellingAnus:
have you ever cheated on him? I mean have you at least flirted with another guy before

nahzyla:


Abi oo,

@ujujoan2 Sorry about the attacks and bitterness you had to deal with because of my thread,
These nairaland men have mental problems.

They cannot see a female oriented topic without descending on it to destroy it and insult women.

UjuJoan2:


What has that got to do with anything?

SmellingAnus:
it's easier to answer No than than the question you asked... Obviously you have... Just to prove to some persons that a man can be so nice and gives his wife everything she wants yet she can still cheat on him...

UjuJoan2:


Wrong? That he stands up for me and won't let people take advantage of me?

What has that even got to do with Christianity?

Fountainofyouth:



No, wrong that he supports you regardless of how at fault you are

I asked if you both are Christians cos if you both are grounded in God, he wouldn't make someone his enemy simply becos the person offends you, hell, a human with conscience will look for ways to make amends instead of automatically making the person an enemy, it's funny, weird, and very childish, that is not love.

SmellingAnus:
it's easier to answer No than than the question you asked... Obviously you have... Just to prove to some persons that a man can be so nice and gives his wife everything she wants yet she can still cheat on him...

Fountainofyouth:



No, wrong that he supports you regardless of how at fault you are

I asked if you both are Christians cos if you both are grounded in God, he wouldn't make someone his enemy simply becos the person offends you, hell, a human with conscience will look for ways to make amends instead of automatically making the person an enemy, it's funny, weird, and very childish, that is not love.

SmellingAnus:
it's easier to answer No than than the question you asked... Obviously you have... Just to prove to some persons that a man can be so nice and gives his wife everything she wants yet she can still cheat on him...

mrblessed:
"Crass," "expedient," and "opportunistic" are some of the favourite and often repeated words of a Nairalandrer, who claims he has right to reject. Tell me who doesn't have the freewill to choose. Cheating is the least thing an emasculated man suffers in the hands of a "crass," "expedient," and "opportunistic" woman, because even if he gets to catch her right in the act, she will manipulate him as usual and make blame himself for being "insecure," or question his sense of judgment. If she can make her husband become an enemy to people who see through her games, imagine a scene where her husband is struggling to make sense of her manipulation. This is also called gaslight. Ladies are deft at using it to control and exploit men, and still posture themselves as hapless victims.

You can see how like-minded bimbos (someone actually used "blood-leaking mammals." No, no. That is borderline nasty) speedily lined up behind her, cheer her up, and howled aggressively at people who courageously picked holes at her discordant tales.

UjuJoan2:
I know I'm making a lot of people uneasy by implying that my life is perfect . . . .I'm sorry, I can't help it!!

If you are humble enough and ask me how I got here I will be happy to share . . .

TAGM:


You really came ready for these people. I pray you continue to experience marital bliss and happiness.

UjuJoan2:
I know I'm making a lot of people uneasy by implying that my life is perfect . . . .I'm sorry, I can't help it!!

If you are humble enough and ask me how I got here I will be happy to share . . .

RightToReject:



Only those who can't see beyond words and buy into your initial fables, which you've tried to mend in some of your subsequent posts, will feel uneasy - I'm sorry for the married women who do. However, don't allow any minnow deceive you here, disagreeing with you or any other person in an issue like this doesn't mean that one wishes you bad or hates you. If there's one thing I wish freely to everyone, it's a healthy marriage/relationship because I know the unquantifiable happiness one gives.

nahzyla:
Ujujoan2, stop replying these people that are suffering body pain because your husband treats you well.

Just ignore them, the truth is that Nigerians have normalized dehumanization of women that when a woman says her husband is kind to her and loves her, people find it hard to believe.

Women are typically supposed to be work horses that hustle outside the home and then carries housework on her head while being submissive to husband and super mom to kids. If the husband does not provide, she should double her hustle and support him until he decides to work, if he cheats she should lose weight and pray for him, if he does not assist at home it's clearly because she offended him or because she is not obedient enough so she has to increase her humility and please her husband so that he will treat her well.

That is how the average Nigerian man
expects married women to behave.

The funny thing is that they will NEVER ever take half the rubbish they expect women to swallow.

UjuJoan2:


Of course, it would have been easy to just say NO, but we are here to learn are we not?

So you think the fact that he does all those things for him means I should NEVER cheat? Meaning if he didn't, I have the right to cheat?

So if a man is NOT nice to his wife she has the right to cheat? What exactly is the excuse for cheating in a marriage?

I would think that if a husband is not nice to the wife she can reciprocate by also not being nice to him. I know a lot of things that women can do in their homes to make their husbands unhappy, and cheating is not part of it.

Also, a man can be nice to his wife and still cheat on her . . .

I think lack of dicipline is the main reason for cheating . . . . A man who has no self control will definitely cheat on his wife, even if he loves and adores her. . . and vice versa!

Not that I owe you (or any other person) an explaination, but cheating does not exist in my marriage. Even if my husband were not nice to me, I will just reciprocate by not being nice to him . . . I consider sleeping around the worst kind of self disgrace/shame, and I'm way too proud for that . . . . . . Plus I'm already past that stage in my life. So no, I don't cheat . . not because of him, but because of me!

RightToReject:


Stop projecting your small-minded husband and other men around you on other men here or elsewhere. Anyway, I already know that people with persecutory delusions aren't to be taken seriously. Most of us only associate with women of timber and caliber, not self-absorbing, crass, opportunistic, and delusional ones like you and your ilk.

Now face front and focus on small-minded people like you.

I doff my hat to conscientious women and men.

nahzyla:
Ujujoan2, stop replying these people that are suffering body pain because your husband treats you well.

Just ignore them, the truth is that Nigerians have normalized dehumanization of women that when a woman says her husband is kind to her and loves her, people find it hard to believe.

Women are typically supposed to be work horses that hustle outside the home and then carries housework on her head while being submissive to husband and super mom to kids. If the husband does not provide, she should double her hustle and support him until he decides to work, if he cheats she should lose weight and pray for him, if he does not assist at home it's clearly because she offended him or because she is not obedient enough so she has to increase her humility and please her husband so that he will treat her well.

That is how the average Nigerian man
expects married women to behave.

The funny thing is that they will NEVER ever take half the rubbish they expect women to swallow.

UjuJoan2:


Exactly!

Women need to define their own standards too, and never ever settle for less.

UjuJoan2:


So what are the things he does . . .

1. He gives me ANYTHING I ask. I know you'll think this is impossible, but my husband is the type of person that will use his last card to buy me an iPhone, just because I asked. He can never say no to me, he just can't. No matter how unreasonable the request, he just won't be able to say no. Even when we are quarelling and not talking, I would send him a message on WhatApp just to avoid talking to him . . . "I need to go to the salon, come and drop me off", he would still do it. I can't tell you the kind of confidence that gives me.

2. I am always right . . . Even when I'm wrong he still supports me. Whenever I complain about anyone to him, he automatically hates the person. It doesn't matter what happened, if you make me unhappy you become his enemy.

3. He supports me . . . Whatever I need to get to that next level, he provides. He doesn't get threatened, instead he pushes me to reach for the top. He thinks I'm the best, most intelligent and most gifted person on earth. I wish I could see myself through his eyes.

4. He lets me get away with almost anything. I can do almost anything and get away with it. To him I can do no wrong.

Let me stop here sha. . . .

nahzyla:
Ujujoan2, stop replying these people that are suffering body pain because your husband treats you well.

Just ignore them, the truth is that Nigerians have normalized dehumanization of women that when a woman says her husband is kind to her and loves her, people find it hard to believe.

Women are typically supposed to be work horses that hustle outside the home and then carries housework on her head while being submissive to husband and super mom to kids. If the husband does not provide, she should double her hustle and support him until he decides to work, if he cheats she should lose weight and pray for him, if he does not assist at home it's clearly because she offended him or because she is not obedient enough so she has to increase her humility and please her husband so that he will treat her well.

That is how the average Nigerian man
expects married women to behave.

The funny thing is that they will NEVER ever take half the rubbish they expect women to swallow.

nahzyla:


Abi oo,

@ujujoan2 Sorry about the attacks and bitterness you had to deal with because of my thread,
These nairaland men have mental problems.

They cannot see a female oriented topic without descending on it to destroy it and insult women.