Why do people keep saying mother's always poison the great of their children against the father? I want your honest opinion before sharing mine. I have a video on this topic, will be sharing it soon.

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kids spend more times with their mother and share little or no connection with their father.

This is another angle and I appreciate you sharing this.

Klass99:
Re-phrase that to read as, mothers poison the hearts of their male children against their fathers! That shit rarely works with female children.

One of my aunty's tried it with her kids, only the boys aligned with her. Her girls always shut her down mid-conversation whenever she started to malign their father. It was so bad one particular visit I pulled my cousin aside and asked her not to be rude. She should at least allow her mum to finish saying whatever she had to said.

My cousin turned her frustration on me as well and shouted, I already know what she's going to say, I am sick and tired of hearing it. I know my dad is not a saint but constantly telling me about his flaws and bringing up his past mistakes really pisses me off with her, I don't have patience for her drama today.

One of our neighbours where my family home is, also did the same thing my aunt was doing. Her boys aligned with her against their father, while her daughters were always at logger-heads with her. For some reason I can't explain, it is easier to manipulate male children that way, than it is with female children.

Because they are rarely around.

longetivity:
kids spend more times with their mother and share little or no connection with their father.

This happens mostly in families where fathers hardly have time for the kids. Where fathers place their jobs above their families.

Klass99:
Re-phrase that to read as, mothers poison the hearts of their male children against their fathers! That shit rarely works with female children.

One of my aunty's tried it with her kids, only the boys aligned with her. Her girls always shut her down mid-conversation whenever she started to malign their father. It was so bad one particular visit I pulled my cousin aside and asked her not to be rude. She should at least allow her mum to finish saying whatever she had to said.

My cousin turned her frustration on me as well and shouted, I already know what she's going to say, I am sick and tired of hearing it. I know my dad is not a saint but constantly telling me about his flaws and bringing up his past mistakes really pisses me off with her, I don't have patience for her drama today.

One of our neighbours where my family home is, also did the same thing my aunt was doing. Her boys aligned with her against their father, while her daughters were always at logger-heads with her. For some reason I can't explain, it is easier to manipulate male children that way, than it is with female children.

This is my story too but I don let mama know say, it’s my dad first because na him try pass, taking care of the family’s finances solely.

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Auladimeji:
The boys will later love their father when they grow up and start seeing what it takes to be a man

Absolutely.

Because men act like dictators and disciplinarian and mother's arevhis first love

True

Setting up your kids against each other as a father or mother is the worst mistake you can ever make as a parent Because when these kids grow and mature to know their left from Their right and to know your strength and weaknesses, they'll be able to tell who is lying or painting the other in a bad light among you 2 and if they find out you're the liar they'll never trust you again and anything you say about their father or mother will look like a lie to them and the day you're not lying they'll conclude you're lying because according to them "Na your way"

If you do too much or over complain about either the mother or father the kids will say leave our mother or father like that we like her like that and you will be seen as the bad person

You too put yourself in the child's shoes,how do you feel when someone is always badmouthing your father or mother e.g your father is a wicked man, your mother is a thief as opposed to your father I hardworking, your mother is kind.of course it's natural tendency to always love the person that says sweet things about your parents vis-a-vis the one who has something negative to say about your father or mother

Well I don't know whether to agree to this summise or not because it true in a way but not totally true in the sense which you're trying to put it. What do I mean?...

Now, it's not as if mothers outrightly Poison the children's mind agains their fathers but you know women tend to confide in their children (when they have come off age) and complain about what their father does sometimes to the children just so the children can console her. And some children might take such treatments from their dad ( against their mother) to heart and want to use it against their dad. So that sort of make it look like the mother has poisoned their minds. Which was why I partly agreed and disagreed a bit with the Ops' summation. Mothers do that a lot but in the light which I just pointed out. And it's no fault of theirs as the children are the next person to turn to for soccuour when Dad starts being grumpy.


The good thing is that we still try to love them both at the end of the day.

Auladimeji:
The boys will later love their father when they grow up and start seeing what it takes to be a man

True.....


At first you won't really see it cos the society tends to praise a woman when she breathes but for a man he isn't regarded as much.....

Later in life we begin to see how much our fathers tried and worked for us

Klass99:
Re-phrase that to read as, mothers poison the hearts of their male children against their fathers! That shit rarely works with female children.

One of my aunty's tried it with her kids, only the boys aligned with her. Her girls always shut her down mid-conversation whenever she started to malign their father. It was so bad one particular visit I pulled my cousin aside and asked her not to be rude. She should at least allow her mum to finish saying whatever she had to said.

My cousin turned her frustration on me as well and shouted, I already know what she's going to say, I am sick and tired of hearing it. I know my dad is not a saint but constantly telling me about his flaws and bringing up his past mistakes really pisses me off with her, I don't have patience for her drama today.

One of our neighbours where my family home is, also did the same thing my aunt was doing. Her boys aligned with her against their father, while her daughters were always at logger-heads with her. For some reason I can't explain, it is easier to manipulate male children that way, than it is with female children.

There's a lot of truth in this. Boys tend to take their mother's words hook line and sinker while the girls see through her, probably because they are also females and understand their mother's manipulations.

It even affects the boys when it comes to picking a wife. Their mothers can influence their decisions while the girls will most times stand their ground against her mother.

See men acting like victims instead of taking responsibility for not taking responsibility when they should have.

Mothers do not poison their children's hearts, children come to an understanding that you didn't live up to your expectations and responsibilities. No child resents a responsible loving father.

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I love all the beautiful contributions in here and I'm learning a lot. Thank you guys for taking out your time to explain or share your story.

Klass99:


Accurate observation.

You're a mother too, right? Abeg no try am with your own kids.

No. I will train them to be independent. They way my mum did for us. She used to tell us that whoever we pick to marry is our decision because we are the ones that will live in the house with them.