From your explanation, you are not in any fix, you already know the solution to your problem.

Never sleep with your wife again!!

Perfectsouth:
for a fact, she didn't connive with her brother... I will release evidences soon.. I thought she will change, I don't want my kids to go through the trauma of separation like I did.. I was trying everything to avoid a reoccurrence of what happened to my parent and since same thing happened to her, I thought she will change

I don't want my kids to go through what I went through, I don't want my kids to go through what I went through.....That's the stupid sh!t you've been deceiving yourself with. They are going through it already, they may go through worse if you don't break ties with that woman.
File for divorce and request custody of your kids. If you tell your story in court, the judge will gladly release your kids to you.
Your sentiments are ruining your life

Did you come to this world with children and how sure are you that you father the kids ?
2) Don't ever try any DNA test because, if you are "A" and the kids are "A" ,out of her 3 or 4 boyfriend's, "A" likely to be,tell me how now you father the kids,send her out before she send you to journey of no return or bless you with incurable and non curable disease.....

What did I just read?

You are very silly... You call yourself a religious person but you open eye marry sexual animal as wife...

You follow beauty marry woman and you are a simp for that matter. You can't do without her but you are using your children as excuse...

If no be say you no get brain you would have taken your kids away to where she can't find you and if she doesn't agree then leave the kids with her and move on.


What makes you sure na you get the children, mumu better go for DNA test and see if the prostitutes was lying to you.


Me I can never forgive cheating... Never! Anything that will make me keep a cheating woman then I want to destroy her life. I will never take back a cheating woman...


Even if she has 10 children for me... She can go to hell, die of hunger I don't give a fvck about cheaters

my frd,u dont av to shed tears over any lady!when one leaves,u get a better one!all u av to do is hustle more to get rich and ladies will be running after u!!

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

Sit back & relax, time, everything shall come to pass in due time.

She's not your problem. How businesses tumble and fumble in this country will make you think someone is behind it. Pray hard, work hard. Things will surely work out. And pls go and bring your family home.

I am so scared go have sex these days. I feel that road is too dangerous.

dearest broda, the best u could do now is to ensure that she gets her deliverance from every forces holding her captive no matter what, she is still ur wife for, for the fact that u married her legally, she remains ur legimate wife and hence, no body can change that, dont also forget that she has kids for u already, u must do everything possible to make she gets her deliverance, i thank GOD Almighty that u understand spiritual things very well

Op!!! U need to change your moniker to "King of all Simps" Haba!!!! After all the warnings!!! All the signs?!!! I hope & pray God intervenes in your life.

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

Go and check the DNA of your kids..

ststyreal:
Well, i remember an adage that says " birds of the same feathers flocks together". Which one come be your own. Any girl wey dey do wetin i no dey do, i no dey near her sef talk more of making friends with her.
Oga Op, the moment you noticed she is the club type and you no like club things why didn't you end the relationship immediately?
I do advice men, especially my own brothers, never you marry a woman because of her beauty, rather marry her because of her good character, look at her heart and her upbringing.
You see club girl, you go marry, which advice do you need again?.
Well, if you still want to keep your vow, take her for deliverance now abi?
Infact, i am out of advice for you because na you do yourself. But, kindly take care of your kids.
May God almighty come to your aid amennnnn...

O.p said he was carried away by her beauty

"I called her mom and told her, her mom was like, I should go and look for something good doing and forget about love for now."

There, I was going to give the same advice that your mother in-law had given to you. Look here, guy. Forget all that crap that you started to get revelations after fasting. Africans love to dwell in superstitions rather than face reality. The reality is already facing you but you chose to deceive yourself by believing that somehow your wife's entanglement with a Yahoo Boy is working against your destiny. Nobody here can give you a more useful advice than that your mother in-law already gave to you. The bitter truth is that you married a liability and it's costing you a lot. For so long as your so-called wife will not engage herself in productive work to assist the little that you're earning, your pocket will keep leaking (this is not a prayer.) I don't know why some men will never learn. And you even reeled off about how you had committed money at different occasions to assist your wife's brother pursue his own dreams, money that you, yourself, would have desperately needed to boost up your own crumbling business. Please wake up, no evil is working against your destiny but your own stupid mistakes.

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

this idea of staying in a sinking marriage because of "kids" is bullshit, from your narratives you are a responsible man who can do well by his kids,forget all you went through,quit the blame game,take custody of your kids and part ways with your wife,divorce is always an option.....marital vows should be kept only if your partner remains same and sane when you married her,sticking to such vows after going through damnable changes is a suicide mission, the best for yourself and kids should be your goal right now,remove her from your life before the damage becomes irreparable. ....marriage really is scary,but it sure shouldn't be endured.

[quote author=Perfectsouth post=96430898]Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..
[/quote my brother you have no problem but your problem is the more you don't want to get to problem the more you keep pushing your self into problem, first of all you get married to her simply because of her beauty not because of good character i can point out your many mistake but I will not go there for now, you are your own problem, because you failed to take a drastic decision,if you can take my advice, for now forget about your so called wife and the kid,stop seeing or sending money to them thank God you are in different state get your self working class single lady let her know your marital history and promise her the former will never come back to your life again but your kids will come back to you in future and make sure you stay with your words,in the cause of abandoning them it will get to a stage she will be tired of taking care of the kids and will be looking for you to take up the responsibility by this time around your kids would have matured a little bit and be able to decide who to leave with from there you gain their attention thanks.i hope men should learn how to marry not because of beauty and stop marrying jobless hole in the cause of love women don't love they only stay with you because you can take their responsibility little only stay for love.

Perfectsouth:
no matter what happens, those kids will never suffer their mother's sin....
Wish she could give me my kids but she is using them as her bargaining chip

Sir the best is to divorce. Even the bible said the basis for divorce is adultery and you have enough evidence. You're just the one giving yourself headache. Get custody of your kids then sue her and her brother to court. My 2cents

Op you got just what you wanted. Over and over the lady sjowes you signs she wasn't for you but you ignored them. You thought she will change. You thought you won't meet a girl who can Bleep you like her. You were 23 and she 21 and yet you didn't think you were too young to waste your time with a clubbing girl. A clubbing girl who sneaks out to club leaving you in bed alone. You dated here for a very long time not to know what you were going into. Leave your father out of your failure. Why are you blaming your father, are you saying your mom wasted her efforts training you? What would you have necomemif your mom didn't help you? Your mom did the mother and father Jon on you perfectly but you cos you are too weak to decide for yourself the kind of people to be with, you married a girl you already know was a LovePeddler. Even with all the signs and prayers you still slept with her.
I repeat, leave your father out of it. Stop looking for someone to blame your galir on instead of doing what you already know needs to be done. Your mom did a great job on you. Don't make her regret it.

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

I no dey like give people like this advice because their case is deeper than what meets the eye. Most of them have low self esteem which needy and manipulative women know how to take advantage of. They love needy women because it boosts their self esteem. They are many in Nigeria. Even if the end up with an independent babe, they will still look for a financially, emotionally needy woman to feel self worth. You can't advise their type. They are the same with women who like aggressive men who emotionally and physically abuse them. You can't give them advice.

Later they will come here to bash girls because of their experience with one.

And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him. [/quote]

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

And elder's advice, break all contact with her.

Law No. 10 of the 48 laws of power states;

Infection: Avoid The Unhappy & Unlucky
“You can die from someone else’s misery — emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.”

Call a family meeting and first divorce her the traditional way (return the bride price), and work out children arrangements. I am sure she can't take care of the financial and emotional needs of the children in the long run, as she need her time and freedom to ply her trade - olosho. Similarly her parents won't be able to cope with the children for long. So eventually, they would still come to you to help your children.

Double your effort in your trade. Go out more, advertise yourself more, reach out to old customers and colleagues instead brooding and feeling sorry for yourself. Your whole existence does not depend on anyone, definitely not on an ungrateful woman.

Very simple problem. Quit the marriage except if you want to continue living in poverty. Plan to take your kids from her and prayerfully get a new wife. Many good ladies are ready to marry guys with kids so not a problem.

Meh which kain wahala be this God , firstly I love your care towards your kids . God bless you . If you can afford a boarding house school fee and others for both kids . I think you should take them to boarding school . Don’t let such woman raise your kids , I Beg you with the name of God

First time I will read such an write up like this..


Eyi ga gan ni o

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

Sir the best is to divorce. Even the bible said the basis for divorce is adultery and you have enough evidence. You're just the one giving yourself headache. Get custody of your kids then sue her and her brother to court. My 2cents

@perfectsouth stop calling her your wife, she's our wife, general commodity.

Why are some men so weak...For God sake until the woman kill you before you get sense. Haba
Be a man for once now...what sort of weakness is this...I can't believe we have men like this oh...this is to pathetic.
Be man and divorce your wife. You married a prostitute for God sake.. b
Be a man...
On second thought abeg give me your wife name my trace her for FB... I would like to chop my own since obviously she's a generous giver..I might sponsor her kids too am sure she go fuc me wella.
#SMH.
Be a man or die stupid and have your kids trained by an olosho

Never you ignore the red flags before marriage. All I can tell you is this, keep in touch for the sake of your innocent kids. It only takes divine intervention for promiscuous husbands or wives to change, please avoid her like a plague before she ruins you completely, because from your narrative you sound like ' there is still hope for this love', and it's obvious you genuinely love your wife and family. You can only keep a spouse who really wants to be kept. Use your head!! It's quite unfortunate brother!! WHAT A BOMBSHELL!!!

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

OP, I know that I'm not married yet, but I must say you are a true living walking example of a simp. You know the answer/solution to your problems, you only want us to affirm it for you. Well, just do the needful and move on with your life.

Capiche!!!

90% of ladies are into prostitution, it could be coded or non coded prostitution. Their needs are insatiable ,de always compete among themselves. Best makeup best dress n shoes, best woman hair. N lots more.
Infact it will be more difficult for a lady to make heaven due to dere life style, everything is fake

You know the answers to your problem, coming here to inform us means you know.
Or you just want to confirm it, kai anyways run run run run, work and feed ur children she will never change ooooo, only if God touch her.

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

u just made me angry now.see u didn't do anything because of ur kids.u did it all cos that's the best u can ever be.stop calling your kids cos u didn't do anything because of then.you made all your choices cos of thats who u are.trying to right a mistake your father did just to make your own.and your son will say he wants to right your own mistake and he ll still make his own mistakes.if u need to bleam any body oga bleam yourself.i have a simple way of selecting women.i didn't even read all ur long story but once I saw that she goes to club,if it were me she would have slidded into being just my friend.

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