TheRealProphet:
she is doing her best in respect to helping our family. I might try vasectomy.

Don't try it do it and save your self before you allow ur wife to ruin it for you nah pikin u come born for life ...smh

TheRealProphet:
Condom sorry, I don't use that with my WIFE.

Withdrawal - I do that often.

Vasectomy - will try that if she don't calm down.

Vasectomy Reversal is not easy and straight forward. You better think twice.

Just like someone said, stand your ground as the man of the house. It is not in everything a man will be like "I love my wife and I don't want to offend her" Bro, stand your ground and she will forget baout it soonest.

gift2xl:
Wow! so people can still get erection at this season.

u don make me laff like mumu for market.just know say u no well atall.

Your concerns are legit OP. There really is no point in having children you are unable to care for.

Your wife's desire for another child is much more about the gender than another kid which is interesting. There's no way to know you will conceive a girl if you decide to go ahead with it.

I suggest you exercise patience with her and LISTEN to her. Not what she says but what she means. If you're spiritually inclined, you may pray for insight into what it's exactly about. It may be more than just another kid especially when she's emphasizing a particular gender.

However, if it's as ordinary as it is, you should speak with her. Let her understand your concerns and what the consequences are and what responsibilities she would have to make. If she agrees, I think you should support her. It can't hurt really.

Doing vasectomy is ill-advised. If she gets to know, it may not be pretty. Trust becomes an issue. There are complications to that thing too.

At the end it's between you two. If she's not bending, be the man. Make the sacrifice.
I have a feeling we'll be chopping chicken at the christening next year though.

All the best

nwaezeemmanuel:
The way folks here drop stupid conspiracy theories ehn

Na d man carry him family matter give us to wail in nah let d conspiracy begins

internationalman:
I suspect she's already pregnant with another man's baby, she wants you to be responsible for it by having sex with you and making you cum inside so as to contemporarily coincide with the pregnancy.

If I'm wrong, which I doubt you can go ahead and perform vasectomy

I fear una for nairaland oooh shuuuu!!

JidennaJason:
If you're truly the MAN of the house, stamping your authority shouldn't be a big deal to you.

Authority for where ? Abeg go rest

TheRealProphet:
Happy new month Nlers.

I told my wife that I don't wish to have another baby, because 3 is okay by me, but she insisted that she wants another baby, she has been on my neck for the past few days because of this issue.

We have 3 (three) beautiful babies already - 2 boys and a girl, which is ok for me. I ain't financially strong, and I don't want to bring any child into this world to suffer.

married and matured folks please help me out. Thanks

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I mean no disrespect but is your wife educated or enlightened. Does she not understand the times and seasons. Only adequate communication between the two of you will solve this matter. Make sure you meet her regularly but don't c** inside.

21cents:
lol baba you hit the nail on the head .

everytime I remember pampers, napkins and baby food money, I hold my prick for boxers and turn down any girl wey wan visit me. life too hard right now abeg.

Omo i go pack condoms yesterday

Na strong man dey born right now abeg

Nawa o. This life no balance at all. Hubby has been disturbing me to get pregnant for months now. I said, I'm ok with the 3 I have.

TheRealProphet:
she is doing her best in respect to helping our family. I might try vasectomy.

Try it please. And dont inform her about it.

Pls, if u know u don't want anoda baby, always use withdrawal method,we ladies are very smart, we know how to make it happen, without considering anything else.

thesicilian:
Go and sterilise yourself (vasectomy)

The real prophet if you are serious his is the way to go.




FINAL.!!!!!


Though I think vasectomies can be reversed these days

Telling her she would foot the doesn't always work

Prettychild:

If she insists on having another baby, tell her the nature of your finances, if she still insists, then tell her that she would foot the bill of the incoming baby!

armadeo:


The real prophet if you are serious his is the way to go.




FINAL.!!!!!


Though I think vasectomies can be reversed these days

Depends on how it is done. Some doctors can tie for Africa!

TheRealProphet:
This your question eh..are you married?

JidennaJason is not married yet, he's still asslicking and worshipping that international thief.

shedy03:

Ur case is different bro. Am happy for you.
Some of us badly want to have children or more children, yet it's not forthcoming. Put us in your Prayers.

I pray God grants you your heart desires.

Children are broke friends! Those 3 you had is enough. Woman reasoning can be myopic atimes.

vasectomy, Vasectomy...only if the shit is can be done without surgery.
I have considered it few years back.

If it's possible to produce a kind of oral contraceptive for men, someone can go buy from a pharmacy or hospital,it will help a lot.

Men need such contraceptive as soon as possible but .........

TheRealProphet:
She ain't pregnant bruv. She's not the bitc*ing type...she wants another gal, she said she wants it to be 2 boys & 2 gals.

... and if this turns out yet another boy, she hounds you for another...

TheRealProphet:
She ain't pregnant bruv. She's not the bitc*ing type...she wants another gal, she said she wants it to be 2 boys & 2 gals.

I wish my finances were better cos I am exactly at the same cross road.

The only difference is that my wife is not demanding the 4th child knowing it will make things harder. Hers is just a wish.
She says every girl deserves a sister. She is fond of her 3 sisters and wísh her daughter would experience sisterly love.

TheRealProphet:
I pray God grants you your heart desires.

Amen.
Thank you @therealprophet.

Op, ur wife is only fulfilling the scriptures: Go ye into the world be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth.

internationalman:
I suspect she's already pregnant with another man's baby, she wants you to be responsible for it by having sex with you and making you cum inside so as to contemporarily coincide with the pregnancy.

If I'm wrong, which I doubt you can go ahead and perform vasectomy

You just took the words right out of my mind.
The woman don go fire outside and wants the ignorant hubby to "top oil"

Chai!!! Women! See wetin I dey find na e person see dey do shakara. Hubby wants 5 I'm begging him for 4. And your wife wants more after 3? I wish na me don born the 3 sef I for just lock up ní.
Life nor balance

adanny01:


I wish my finances were better cos I am exactly at the same cross road.

The only difference is that my wife is not demanding the 4th child knowing it will make things harder. Hers is just a wish.
She says every girl deserves a sister. She is fond of her 3 sisters and wísh her daughter would experience sisterly love.

*smiles* she is an angel.

Tell God what you want as the head of the house, even if she lures you into raw deal, nothing will happen as per pregnancy

armadeo:


The real prophet if you are serious his is the way to go.




FINAL.!!!!!


Though I think vasectomies can be reversed these days

Already thought about that. Thanks dear.

TheRealProphet:
Condom sorry, I don't use that with my WIFE.

Withdrawal - I do that often.

Vasectomy - will try that if she don't calm down.

Okay, so you have been withdrawing all the while ko? Forget it, she's probably already pregnant. Withdrawal does not prevent pregnancy. And, you'd better not allow these nairaland boys sow the seed of suspicion into your marriage. It will germinate into what you never imagined.

If your wife really wants another baby, go ahead and have one more my son. The extra cost is not that much. When they're grown, you will be so so glad you had them and may even wish you had more than four. Trust me.

Whatever the case, don't go as far as having a vasectomy. If you're not concerned about possible life changes that may cause you, consider that the cost of the procedure can already foot some of the bills you're tryna run away from.