Jceeee:
Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) .

I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.

My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed.

I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her .

I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well.

I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people .

Finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.

Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen.

I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.

Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you .

please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do

You're a bad person. For the love of a man, you denied your own child. You deserve anything that comes your way.
Bad women like you give some men reason to insult the rest of us.

Ps: your husband is equally a bad man.
If you say you were Hot, no qualms but to do it raw, without condom, ah! Wicked people everywhere.

People are often too quick to Judge. Dear woman, you did wrong, I'm sure you know you did wrong. Having a conscience void of offence towards God first is the greatest thing. Don't rush in opening up to your husband since you know the kind of person that he is. Go through your pastor, open up to your pastor or leaders in Church who will help you out in the process of telling your husband.

Nimrod81:
Did you not notice that all the women in this family keep dark secrets.... Her mother kept that kind of secret from her father... She will still sleep with another man abroad now and find a convenient excuse...

Do you think it's easy for a married woman whose husband is away to stay 5 years without a man's touch?

Jceeee:
Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) .

I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.

My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed.

I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her .

I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well.

I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people .

Finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.

Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen.

I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.

Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you .

please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do

your toto dey scratch you abi?
aside your sister, the father of the girl will come for you
depression kill you there
no be your mate dey do reverend sister?

Madam dont worry too much bcus dat your husband also have been sleeping with small small girls
since you have the heart to open your legs for another woman's husband nust know dat other women too will sleep with your husband too

Madam dont worry too much bcus dat your husband also have been sleeping with small small girls
since you have the heart to open your legs for another woman's husband must know dat other women too will sleep with your husband too

better tell him the truth now all forever be a hostage to your sister

72Morale:
I pray everyday not to meet a creature like you till I leave this earth.

If you are a man reading this.

May almighty God guide and protect you from marrying an inpatient woman who will be wayward and unfaithful enough to sleep around, getting pregnant for various men and deceiving you by making you raise a child that isn't yours unknowingly.

May you never marry a woman who will be busy thinking about sex and diiick while you are busy suffering hard on how to take care of her and make her and your kids happy.

Am telling you bro marriage is not for the faint hearted after reading this story I became even more scared of women and marriage.

Dminister:
Na wa! Some women can't even hold body for 10 years. Love Machine could have prevented you from this mess.

Can you yourself hold body for 10 years?

JceeeeWhat you did was wrong.
The truth is.. Most people condemning you and calling you names would do same if found in ur shoes. Alot of them are living in fornication and are still cheating on their partners for no good reason.
S3ing that ur sins are fast catching up with u.. I'll advise you do the following..
1. Repent of your sins and confess them to God. Determine never to go back to them.
reconciliation with God is all that it takes to make peace with yourself. Then open up to your hurband..it's better he finds out by you telling him. Prepare to face the cmsequences because that's what sin does. But believe God for him to take control.

Firstly, you have done what virtually everybody considers evil as your case is different from that of your husband. Many men do stupid things for papers, yours was because you are obsessed with sex. But who says your sins cannot be forgiven?

I noticed you are troubled because of your sister's threat. But ideally, what you need is a remorseful heart. Refer to Psalm 51 vs 17 (God doesn't despise a contrite heart). So turn to God first my sister.

Next, prepare to seek forgiveness both physically and spiritually. First from God, please refer to John 8 vs 36. Then your father whom you have disappointed before your husband.

If your father forgives you, then he may lead the discussion to your husband, this is if your hubby respects your father. The physical preparation shouldn't be forgotten, it includes but not limited to - you have to become a better partner to your husband till he start asking you what is happening or what is worrying you.

I pray that you will receive the forgiveness which you are looking for because it is tied to your health and peace of mind. If God be with you, you will experience an abundant happiness and fulfillment afterwards.

For your sister, do not blame her as she sacrificed a lot for you. She simply cannot forever fight against the scripture and the law of nature in Luke 8 vs 17 - for there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out in the open.

My fellow nairalanders, let us stop judging them for it can be any of us. Though very bad but God can still make her whole again.

Hope to hear the success story soon.

In summary, you cheated on your husband. Not only did you cheat, you had a product of your cheating. Not only did you have a product of your cheating, you passed it to your sister. Not only did you pass it to your sister, she lied to her husband. Not only did she lie to her husband, you also lied to your dad. Not only did you lie to your dad, you now passed the child to your husband. Not only did you pass the child to your husband, you do not wish to compensate your sister by taking her own child. Not only are you selfish, you now want us to advise you on what to do.

Madam, please advise us on how to develop a dark and deep mind. You are worse than an assassin.

Hmm

just tell your husband the truth because one day he must surely know

Jceeee:
Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) .

I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.

My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed.

I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her .

I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well.

I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people .

Finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.

Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen.

I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.

Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you .

please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do

Super story. Sell to nollywod

madridguy:
Time registered: February 22, 2020

Nairaland is now a place where the admin hire writers to write different lies just to drag traffic

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Man, Nairaland is dead and buried!

This same story (exactly the same thing words for words) made front-page last year march.


So funny immediately I saw the topic, I knew that's what I would be reading and I wasn't wrong but this time by another monicker.


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Jceeee:
Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long some , I just don’t know what else to do

One day, one day he would find out. Please try to take care of your health in the meantime. High blood pressure is a silent killer

Tell him the truth. But make sure you have something to fall back on before telling him.

Jceeee:

Her father and his wife has relocated to Canada , When she was 2 , I had no contact with him since. Bringing her biological daughter won’t be possible because we had already done her a favour by bringing my daughter who’s my husband knows that it’s her child , I don’t think my husband would agreed to take another one because taking my daughter here has already caused a lot of problem in my husband family , they are not happy that he has bought my niece abroad while his sister children are still in Nigeria , my sister in law has stopped talking to me. I work and do everything for my sister child making sure she is getting the best education ever , still she is not satisfied and want her daughter to come abroad

Which one is your sister's child? Stop saying ur daughter which you had with another man is yr sister's child. For me I think your sister really tried for you to have accepted a child that is not her's and imagine the kind of family you have. Where all the females are liars including the mother. You have lied to ur husband, your sister did same to her husband and ur mum played her own part by lying to ur father. Chai what a family. I don't want to sound judgemental but just tell ur husband the truth, hope you don't attend church service.

SavageResponse:


Can you yourself hold body for 10 years?

Why not and if I can't I use condom

Bigger olosho, your younger sister big olosho and your mum the chief olosho. Like mother like daughters! Are u sure ur younger sister is your biological sister? Your dad need a DNA on you all cos I don't even trust your mother either. Descendant of JEZEBEL

This is seriously serious. Married woman sleeping with married man. It must have been a frequent affair to have forgotten using a protection. Just confess and free your conscience

Job2004:
People are often too quick to Judge. Dear woman, you did wrong, I'm sure you know you did wrong. Having a conscience void of offence towards God first is the greatest thing. Don't rush in opening up to your husband since you know the kind of person that he is. Go through your pastor, open up to your pastor or leaders in Church who will help you out in the process of telling your husband.

you and that pastor will not end well. Pastor kill u dia

[quote author=PharoahIII post=86869099]If ever there's a man in doubt as to the callousness and wickedness that lies buried deep in a woman's heart, look no further than this. Let me add quickly that even the devil himself cannot be this selfish and heartless. Now I understand why the devil is a man and not a woman, it would have been too bad, just too bad if he were a woman. It is a lot better to fill up a basket with water than to put your trust in a woman. [/quot

Just look at what you typed. Are you done demonizing the woman for having one child out of wedlock?

Did you see where the husband had, not one but TWO CHILDREN OUTSIDE Of course not. The only evil people are women. The saints are men.

All the above women-hating things you said about women is double on men. Learn how to think about people instead of lumping then as genders.

Learn to stop being a misogynist. It makes you post things that are so lopsided they make your readers question your intelligence.

If this story is true. The things to do are;

1. Give your life to Christ and plead for His forgiveness.
2. When forgiven, in fasting n prayer, commit the heart of husband and father into Gods hands before you tell them. After that,
3. Tell your father first and tell him to pray for you when he eventually forgives you.
4. After that, open up to your husband.

If you don't tell your father, and your husband eventually call him, things will escalate.

Don't look at the things that may happen, cos God will take control and it will all be ok with time.

After everything is resolved, don't get annoyed with your sister as she helped you in both ways. If you know what I mean.

I have read this story on nairaland before

Make the truth bare and face the consequence. Otherwise, you won’t like the end of this. Was your husband faithful for the 11 years he was alone, I doubt. Lie and cheating never helped anyone in a relationship. So tell the truth.

Am just too angry to say anything


women are wicked and the man didn't try at all .

Couples , pls stay together ooooooo...... distance marriage or relationship is a dangerous thing ooooo


o-hhhh am so angry

If i were your husband, if you tell me yourself, i can still gather the courage to forgive you which is very slim, after long of sidelining you and hoping you would not tow same path, but if i get to know by another mouth, that marriage is over and done with. You had unprotected sex with another man, denied your daughter, went ahead keeping it from me. Aunty, you are wicked personified! You had better find a way to tell your husband since you know him best, at least, you can still save your marriage if you go about it well. I really hate sexual infidelity, no matter the konji, find a way to relieve yourself with no other person having to see your nudity if your husband is far, than have unprotected sex, that is pure nonsense, you are not even scared of STD.

I don't know if anyone has told you this cause I haven't read the comments, your husband will definitely find either through your sister, mother or any other. TELL HIM YOURSELF.

Hhansome:
Hello ma'am. You are just an evil woman hiding under some fake moniker just to attract some fake sympathy on this forum. Unfortunately i'm going to say it the exact way without fear... How on earth does a mother deny her child? Not actually the man but a mother who carried her child of nine months. Save me the crap, you want to save your marriage! Did you not consider it before opening your stupid legs? Anyways i dont waste my advice on evil people... Check on next comments abeg.

@Moniker Pretenders like you always do the worst.

Not that cheating is ideal but 5years without intimacy is not 5months especially for a young lady.

@OP for the fact you spared the life of the innocent child, you will surely overcome this nightmare.

Here is my Advice to you:

1) Start working hard to secure a good job over there, once you become financially independent, incase the worst happens

2) if you can find a way and bring your sisters child over there in other to keep the secret, pls do so

3) A black Man always want to know the truth but don't have the ball to withstand it, telling your husband the truth now will cause you more harm than Good. He will Even doubt being the father of ur other kids.

NOTE: What is buried should always remain Buried.

Do you know the title of the movie I am watching on DStv? It is titled Big Fat Liar.

PharoahIII:
If ever there's a man in doubt as to the callousness and wickedness that lies buried deep in a woman's heart, look no further than this. Let me add quickly that even the devil himself cannot be this selfish and heartless. Now I understand why the devil is a man and not a woman, it would have been too bad, just too bad if he were a woman. It is a lot better to fill up a basket with water than to put your trust in a woman.

You made me laugh. No one can be as wicked as the devil himself because is the father of all wickedness. The bible says satan has been sinning since the beginning, and he is a liar and he is the father of all liars. Stop venerating the devil because of mistakes of someone.