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JovialJune:
What are you saying and what is the thread about?

A traditional man wants a stay at home wife because he likes it that way, and his authority cannot be questioned which is fine with the wife

A working class wife here is expected to submit and abide by the rules of her husband regardless of equal financial responsibility they both provide, and most times, she has no choice but to follow suit, because well, this is Nigeria

Now, in the abroad

A husband who brings his wife over there and sponsors her education and whatnot, still expects the wife to obey and abide by his rules regardless of her bringing 90% of her income, when she doesnt comply, issues start to happen whereby the husband will question himself as the man of the house, wife decides to use the law to her advantage, she realises she doesnt have to continuously be married to him hence divorce, he flips and becomes vengeful by killing her, or loses everything to her, becomes depressed and kills himself

Now, what is the root cause of the problem? The root cause is the inability of a typical naija man to tame his domineering persona cos he feels since he brought his wife over, therefore he owns her, their law doesnt give fvck about that, in other to be safe than sorry, why not see her as an equal, do things like equal like human beings and live peacefully, surely it shouldn't be that hard,

Pls focus on what the thread is about next time, I like intelligent debate.

mechie ọnụ!!!

vivsravine:
ABROAD SISTERS, STOP SHAMING US

How do I start this write up without offending those involved?

Trust me I don't care, because enough is enough of the nonsence you ladies portray over there and forget so soon how you started.

It's no longer news what most of our sisters do to our brothers in the name of marriage overseas is quite alarming.

The news is so hard to bear and you start to wonder who actual birth these type of women, who forget humble beginning.

A man leaves all the ladies in the countries they reside and comes home to pick you as a wife, sometimes they even forget about those good girls they had a life with before they left the country.

He sponsors everyting about you, gets married to you and starts a life with you over there, in less than five years you become wiser than the devil and you begin to act like assistant devil.

Many will have the nerve to call the cops on their husband's in the slightest provacations some of these men go to jail because of martial issues while some of these women become as selfish as cain and they won't give a hoot and many of our brothers lose all their properties over there.

You easily become authoritative because you feel you have arrived and you can't be talked to, many go to the extent of sponsoring their exes to their country of abode, others would build houses here in the country without the consent of their husbands, some will even buy cars and other properties without letting their husbands be in the know.

The records of domestic violence has increased amongst ladies who were picked from here to such civilised countries, they go there and feel they are now wild and cling to have ample rights to discern what happens and nobody can dare them.

Many of our brothers has been deported, some have lost their chances of ever going back to that country and even other countries, many deny them access to their children and finally others go about killing their husbands because of inheritance.

Stop this show of shame and retrace your steps home, stop this abuse you know you can never do back home, in as much as I don't support injustice of any kind, lets stop this bad behaviour and guard your homes.

So many brothers no longer value Nigerian women because of this act that has eaten into them negatively, its a dent on all ladies because even the good ones are now affected badly.

It's another season for them to come back home and pick a wife, you will be with him soon and you will be excited of relocating but immediately you get there, you become as wild as a cat and hunt like a leopard.

So sad, because of this acidious acts, our brothers now come home, marry us and leave us here to take care of the kids while they go hustle and come back intermittently.

Remember karma is a bitch you can win but you won't always win, the repercussions are always closer, nemesis doesn't miss its address and certainly vengeance is of God .

Make ammends now and retrace your steps, don't forget humble beginnings your character is your voice even in your absence it would speak for you.

Ahudiya speaks ©

You are pretty right and nailing the topic...

Beremx:
Women don suffer for nairaland. Is Nairaland promoting male chauvinism?

go back to Instagram

Pierocash:
I often say it. Nigerian women are the most wicked sets of women on earth. I read an article sometime ago about 10 different Nigerian women abroad,who where murdered by their husbands and are serving jail terms.

It is only a Nigerian woman you send to university she replies you with a new wedding card invitation.

Don't marry a black woman from Nigeria and relocate her abroad, marry her here,leave her here to take care of your kids. If you do otherwise, you either lose your life there,or lose your properties.

I tell you bro, when i find a woman to settle down with she is going to be a foreigner who we both share love.

Even as at that i would file up documents at the highest court that explains how the children should be handled including how my money should go

Akunatakasi:
I go soon recommend your ban.. watch and see.. I go call seun on phone to give you 30years ban .. always going off topic

You want to call my boyfriend to ban me on our forum, you will end up shooting yourself in the leg

OchoL:
I'm a woman that fears my own gender.

I pity all the young men in my family.. girls of nowadays are worse than Jezebel

The story of Nigerian women abroad with their husbands is somethingelse and any reasonable man, would not allow LOVE to push him to this trap and death thereafter. Something must kill a man they say, Woman is not in the list anymore. If worst come to worst, I will marry more and more; let them kill themselves by themselves.

Their mind is darker than CHIMNY of the olden days in Nazi Germany. Wicked and yet with reasons for the act. May God have mercy on them!!

To solve this, redpilled men have to confront simps first. Women are trend follower's and will respond to strong male leadership.

Grooming must start right in Nigeria***

Simps, feminist's, western copycats are all useless in building strong civil societies.

RedPanthar:
Zzor, stop derailing. Comment in response to the OP's comment

I doubt she has anything tangible to say!


Bact to the topic. The rights and entitlements women enjoy in the United states and some parts of Europe has made many of our Nigerian women residing in those places to turn to wild dogs. You hardly see or hear of Caucasian women carrying out such wickedness against their spouses.

Those entitlements are what Nigerian women of today are praying for here in Nigeria so that they can malign and gore men to their control whichever way they want but it can never work for them.

The write up is one sided.
Painted women as devil.

In reality its not like that.
A man that went home and took a wife abroad, when they reached abroad the man believed he is now the wife's God.

That's the basis of many problems.
The wife will fight back to liberate herself.

OchoL:
Empty rants again as usual.

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What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

Toks2008:
No be small thing be wettin ladies dey take their men eyes see o.

Hmmmmm! I don see enough no be the one wey dem tell me.

It is well.

Share experience jare....na wetin I wan read be that.

juman:
The write up is one sided.
Painted women as devil.

In reality its not like that.
A man that went home and took a wife abroad, when they reached abroad the man believed he is now the wife's God.

That's the basis of many problems.

If this isnt the truth!

Going abroad is empowering to women. The laws in western countries are pro-women. This empowers the women and they misbehave big time with such opportunity. Only the highly religious ones keep their sanity for fear of God. If you must take your wife abroad, think deeply about it and pray fervently. Because your best girl in Nigeria is likely to be your best enemy when she gets abroad. The truth is that majority of men who come home to marry or take their wives along after many years staying alone at foreign countries are responsible men. But their wives ruin their lives when they get abroad.

That's why there are a lot of women rearing kids in Nigeria for their husbands abroad. Guys have wisened up. A girl close to me has been going for endless vigils so her husband can bring her and her two kids over to Switzerland. For where? He comes back every two years impregnates her and jets off again. The funny thing is I took time to observe the girl here and her behavior 'get as e be'

Our ladies back home are looking for "

God fearing men" while our men's abroad are looking for "God fearing women. Pls evil doesn't pay and our foreign countries should amend most of this their laws. All lives matter.

olisaEze:
They’re not shaming us but only shaming themselves. More and more Naija guys are moving on to our more reasonable African sisters from other African nations than our ladies residing abroad.

It’s an emerging vicious cycle that is going to see our young ladies coming back to pick Nigerian husbands that’ll do the same thing to them till sense will finally reach their thick skulls. This life no get season 2, no time!

Well said.

As a man in diaspora seeking a wife, Nigerian ladies often look at me funny like I am wanting to marry them for papers. Meanwhile, my reason is simply becuasen of culture, to have a semblance of Nigerian family.

Asians, Indians, etc. Have no trouble marrying themselves here. They help to build thier communities, but our Nigeria sisters...

And the funny thing is that very few black women get attention from non black men. Na to find myself one african lady, move.

No time.

The ones that do it most are the nurses, once they start making more money than their husbands then troubles will start brewing. Although, I have seen naija guys do the same thing after being sponsored by their wives they will leave them to enjoy freedom. It cuts across both aisle but women do it more.

Men,

Taking your wives to a civil society means that you should begin to see them as worthy partners. Do not think you can be their master and God abroad, instead, work in a partnership, like marriage was intended to be.

Women, this abroad is for everyone. It is not gender specific. If you want to be in a society that values your contribution as a woman, you can make the move for yourself without waiting for any man that would continue to use that help as a chain on your neck. Do your thing biko.

Hmmmm, the op is fuvking right. Things are happening o, God will help!

Well it is good to learn from history than let experience teaches the hard lesson about women ruthless behaviors.

Mitsurugi:
That's why there are a lot of women rearing kids in Nigeria for their husbands abroad. Guys have wisened up. A girl close to me has been going for endless vigils so her husband can bring her and her two kids over to Switzerland. For where? He comes back every two years impregnates her and jets off again. The funny thing is I took time to observe the girl here and her behavior 'get as e be'

This is hilarious and makes sense as well.

OchoL:
I'm a woman that fears my own gender.

I pity all the young men in my family.. girls of nowadays are worse than Jezebel

You're a bobrisky.

vivsravine:
ABROAD SISTERS, STOP SHAMING US

How do I start this write up without offending those involved?

Trust me I don't care, because enough is enough of the nonsence you ladies portray over there and forget so soon how you started.

It's no longer news what most of our sisters do to our brothers in the name of marriage overseas is quite alarming.

The news is so hard to bear and you start to wonder who actual birth these type of women, who forget humble beginning.

A man leaves all the ladies in the countries they reside and comes home to pick you as a wife, sometimes they even forget about those good girls they had a life with before they left the country.

He sponsors everyting about you, gets married to you and starts a life with you over there, in less than five years you become wiser than the devil and you begin to act like assistant devil.

Many will have the nerve to call the cops on their husband's in the slightest provacations some of these men go to jail because of martial issues while some of these women become as selfish as cain and they won't give a hoot and many of our brothers lose all their properties over there.

You easily become authoritative because you feel you have arrived and you can't be talked to, many go to the extent of sponsoring their exes to their country of abode, others would build houses here in the country without the consent of their husbands, some will even buy cars and other properties without letting their husbands be in the know.

The records of domestic violence has increased amongst ladies who were picked from here to such civilised countries, they go there and feel they are now wild and cling to have ample rights to discern what happens and nobody can dare them.

Many of our brothers has been deported, some have lost their chances of ever going back to that country and even other countries, many deny them access to their children and finally others go about killing their husbands because of inheritance.

Stop this show of shame and retrace your steps home, stop this abuse you know you can never do back home, in as much as I don't support injustice of any kind, lets stop this bad behaviour and guard your homes.

So many brothers no longer value Nigerian women because of this act that has eaten into them negatively, its a dent on all ladies because even the good ones are now affected badly.

It's another season for them to come back home and pick a wife, you will be with him soon and you will be excited of relocating but immediately you get there, you become as wild as a cat and hunt like a leopard.

So sad, because of this acidious acts, our brothers now come home, marry us and leave us here to take care of the kids while they go hustle and come back intermittently.

Remember karma is a bitch you can win but you won't always win, the repercussions are always closer, nemesis doesn't miss its address and certainly vengeance is of God .

Make ammends now and retrace your steps, don't forget humble beginnings your character is your voice even in your absence it would speak for you.

Ahudiya speaks ©

I agree brother Ahudiya.

Men must startbtaking these women before deity to take her womb swear oath of good behavior and submission to his captainship. The man is authority and captain of that household. No miscreant sailor in the shape of wife should rock the boat while the captain is steering.

These yeye wives nowadays are useless. When im ready im going o village to find one i can control. Not all these oloshos that are as wide underneath as lagos ibadan expressway. They lack sense and their toto sef lack home training to recognize who captains the ship.

Take her before deity. No more bible oath. Shit

Cocao:
What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

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I dont get the slavery part. I havent seen one. What I have seen is a man taking decisions as the head of his family. If he takes his wife abroad to give her a better life should she make his life miserable by acting as the head? Why not divorce him and pay him back his financial investments? No,they won't. They would rather lie and call the police and act as victims,so he loses his properties to her and gets deported.


If you are such a man, won't you kill that devilish wife? I know you would and even barbeque his balls too

JovialJune:
Funny thing about these men abroad is that, they can take any bullshit from other women abroad comfortably, even if she tells them to do weird irritating things, they'll gladly do it, but if it's our naija ladies, they will be fuming from their mouth to the head, with smoke visibly coming out, lmao, you guys will be fine o.

Behave like. A married woman and don't be taken over like bitter feminists are. Whoever told you all and even most abroad guys takes any shits

juman:
The write up is one sided.
Painted women as devil.

In reality its not like that.
A man that went home and took a wife abroad, when they reached abroad the man believed he is now the wife's God.

That's the basis of many problems.
The wife will fight back to liberate herself.

Preach!

Cocao:
What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

Gibberish.

What happens to a Nigerian woman abroad is the case of what happens when you give a hungry policeman a uniform and a gun to patrol the streets - they will extort and abuse power!

Why is it that Indian & Chinese women don't do such when abroad? Despite how much these women earn, the value their culture and stay in their lane when it comes to domestic life. But Nigerian women? Power hungry, vicious and callous to the core.. any small power and they start displaying inbred witchcraft behaviour.

What gender is more culpable in child abuse and the maltreatment of househelps? ...this is to tell you what the average Nigerian woman is capable of when in a position of power.

Deep down, you yourself know the truth about female nature and will not take it lightly if someone does to your Male relatives what some of these women abroad do to our men.

Mitsurugi:
That's why there are a lot of women rearing kids in Nigeria for their husbands abroad. Guys have wisened up. A girl close to me has been going for endless vigils so her husband can bring her and her two kids over to Switzerland. For where? He comes back every two years impregnates her and jets off again. The funny thing is I took time to observe the girl here and her behavior 'get as e be'

Really?.

Oya gimme her number. She must be so lonely

JovialJune:
What are you saying and what is the thread about?

A traditional man wants a stay at home wife because he likes it that way, and his authority cannot be questioned which is fine with the wife

A working class wife here is expected to submit and abide by the rules of her husband regardless of equal financial responsibility they both provide, and most times, she has no choice but to follow suit, because well, this is Nigeria

Now, in the abroad

A husband who brings his wife over there and sponsors her education and whatnot, still expects the wife to obey and abide by his rules regardless of her bringing 90% of her income, when she doesnt comply, issues start to happen whereby the husband will question himself as the man of the house, wife decides to use the law to her advantage, she realises she doesnt have to continuously be married to him hence divorce, he flips and becomes vengeful by killing her, or loses everything to her, becomes depressed and kills himself

Now, what is the root cause of the problem? The root cause is the inability of a typical naija man to tame his domineering persona cos he feels since he brought his wife over, therefore he owns her, their law doesnt give fvck about that, in other to be safe than sorry, why not see her as an equal, do things like equal human beings and live peacefully, surely it shouldn't be that hard,

Pls focus on what the thread is about next time, I like intelligent debate.

You think you're sounding intelligent?
smh.

JovialJune:
Funny thing about these men abroad is that, they can take any bullshit from other women abroad comfortably, even if she tells them to do weird irritating things, they'll gladly do it, but if it's our naija ladies, they will be fuming from their mouth to the head, with smoke visibly coming out, lmao, you guys will be fine o.

God bless. You don talk am finish

some of us didn't get here via any man sponsoring us tho, so pls know the difference. every woman abroad isn't there bc one man helped her get there.

OchoL:
Empty rants again as usual.

The difference between women here and women over there is LAZINESS!

A woman abroad works and contributes just as equally as the man. Hence why they have grounds to expect contribution in domestic affairs from their husbands.

Unlike here in Nigeria where most wives are either unemployed, under-employed or self- employed in some petty 'business' shes hardly making any money in..
Wives here contribute so little to the financial upkeep of the household .. they think they are 'contributing' because they pay for their own sanitary pads, hair & nails lol.. they push the position of provision to a man... that is why husbands have been regarded as the 'head' for so long.

Majority of wives delegate their domestic duties to househelps, employing young girls to do their chores. So basically all they are is a decorated housewife who does nothing all day but maltreat their slaves househelps.

You can't expect equality with men in a society that you contribute little to no value too.

You are highly intelligent.

God bless you for this post.