₦airaland Forum

JovialJune:
I will add equality cos that is what they practise in the western countries, better don't deceive yourself otherwise.

vivsravine:
ABROAD SISTERS, STOP SHAMING US

How do I start this write up without offending those involved?

Trust me I don't care, because enough is enough of the nonsence you ladies portray over there and forget so soon how you started.

It's no longer news what most of our sisters do to our brothers in the name of marriage overseas is quite alarming.

The news is so hard to bear and you start to wonder who actual birth these type of women, who forget humble beginning.

A man leaves all the ladies in the countries they reside and comes home to pick you as a wife, sometimes they even forget about those good girls they had a life with before they left the country.

He sponsors everyting about you, gets married to you and starts a life with you over there, in less than five years you become wiser than the devil and you begin to act like assistant devil.

Many will have the nerve to call the cops on their husband's in the slightest provacations some of these men go to jail because of martial issues while some of these women become as selfish as cain and they won't give a hoot and many of our brothers lose all their properties over there.

You easily become authoritative because you feel you have arrived and you can't be talked to, many go to the extent of sponsoring their exes to their country of abode, others would build houses here in the country without the consent of their husbands, some will even buy cars and other properties without letting their husbands be in the know.

The records of domestic violence has increased amongst ladies who were picked from here to such civilised countries, they go there and feel they are now wild and cling to have ample rights to discern what happens and nobody can dare them.

Many of our brothers has been deported, some have lost their chances of ever going back to that country and even other countries, many deny them access to their children and finally others go about killing their husbands because of inheritance.

Stop this show of shame and retrace your steps home, stop this abuse you know you can never do back home, in as much as I don't support injustice of any kind, lets stop this bad behaviour and guard your homes.

So many brothers no longer value Nigerian women because of this act that has eaten into them negatively, its a dent on all ladies because even the good ones are now affected badly.

It's another season for them to come back home and pick a wife, you will be with him soon and you will be excited of relocating but immediately you get there, you become as wild as a cat and hunt like a leopard.

So sad, because of this acidious acts, our brothers now come home, marry us and leave us here to take care of the kids while they go hustle and come back intermittently.

Remember karma is a bitch you can win but you won't always win, the repercussions are always closer, nemesis doesn't miss its address and certainly vengeance is of God .

Make ammends now and retrace your steps, don't forget humble beginnings your character is your voice even in your absence it would speak for you.

Ahudiya speaks ©

Jamjoon:
That lady spoke facts. Sharia-obsessed fellows are responsible for the collapse of nijeriya...

It is on record & the world knows that this once promising nation was destroyed by sharia drunk mohammedans...

They mobilized all manner of evils to undermine Goodluck Jonathan. Today the same evil they arranged is consuming them, even the sultan has cried out.


Mozlems...

Ishilove:
Why do I need his consent to build a property with my own money?

generationz:
You are very correct on being loyal to your benefactor even when your benefactor treats you like thrash, because you are lazy or didn't have a way out earlier, be loyal. If he spent his money to upgrade you, he deserves returns and loyalty.


My question is this as you know several women who work hard for their money, so they are increasing daily. Why don't these men go for them? Why do they have to take a cub, feed it, cloth it and expect it not to use it's teeth to tear them apart when it becomes a lion?

Who is deceiving who? What do these men want really? What are they really looking for?

They become shocked at how foolish they were and how marriage is really an investment but they were blinded because their ego was being massaged by their young sweet thing they controlled with money. Some of them even were benefactors of rich black/white older women and finessed them of thousands to train and upgrade one sweet young beauty to their level only to be shocked when these women show them they have a way out.

Many hardworking ladies who can find themselves are single and languishing. Both African and African American.

You know what hurts, how these shame those ladies for having standards and tell them they'd be single forever.

If you can't marry a lady on your financial level, stop complaining when your little cub becomes a lion and tears you apart.

JovialJune:
What are you saying and what is the thread about?

A traditional man wants a stay at home wife because he likes it that way, and his authority cannot be questioned which is fine with the wife

A working class wife here is expected to submit and abide by the rules of her husband regardless of equal financial responsibility they both provide, and most times, she has no choice but to follow suit, because well, this is Nigeria

Now, in the abroad

A husband who brings his wife over there and sponsors her education and whatnot, still expects the wife to obey and abide by his rules regardless of her bringing 90% of her income, when she doesnt comply, issues start to happen whereby the husband will question himself as the man of the house, wife decides to use the law to her advantage, she realises she doesnt have to continuously be married to him hence divorce, he flips and becomes vengeful by killing her, or loses everything to her, becomes depressed and kills himself

Now, what is the root cause of the problem? The root cause is the inability of a typical naija man to tame his domineering persona cos he feels since he brought his wife over, therefore he owns her, their law doesnt give fvck about that, in other to be safe than sorry, why not see her as an equal, do things like equal human beings and live peacefully, surely it shouldn't be that hard,

Pls focus on what the thread is about next time, I like intelligent debate.

Sundrus:
woman wey go cheat on u or ruin ur life go do am irrespective of anything. Just pray make u meet the right lady wey get conscience & sense of good judgement. I know say such ladies dey, but them dey very few.

generationz:
You are still doing yourself if you choose that option especially with an exposed woman.

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

Hathor5:
I am enjoying my life already. Thank you though.

MrColdsweat:
This is why we say women are ungrateful. Men have been securing society long before the invention of money.

In the early societies, men would take turns in securing the perimeter of the villages from invaders and wild animals. And they get nothing in return.

If men didn't protect you women back then, baboons, gorillas and even dogs would have taken turns in defiling you women.

annyz:
My wife have been persuading me over the years so we can relocate to USA with our kids.
I trained her before we got married and she is humble.

What do you think

You are seeking advice from a lady...I pity your later story!

generationz:
You are very correct on being loyal to your benefactor even when your benefactor treats you like thrash, because you are lazy or didn't have a way out earlier, be loyal. If he spent his money to upgrade you, he deserves returns and loyalty.


My question is this as you know several women who work hard for their money, so they are increasing daily. Why don't these men go for them? Why do they have to take a cub, feed it, cloth it and expect it not to use it's teeth to tear them apart when it becomes a lion?

Who is deceiving who? What do these men want really? What are they really looking for?

They become shocked at how foolish they were and how marriage is really an investment but they were blinded because their ego was being massaged by their young sweet thing they controlled with money. Some of them even were benefactors of rich black/white older women and finessed them of thousands to train and upgrade one sweet young beauty to their level only to be shocked when these women show them they have a way out.

Many hardworking ladies who can find themselves are single and languishing. Both African and African American.

You know what hurts, how these shame those ladies for having standards and tell them they'd be single forever.

If you can't marry a lady on your financial level, stop complaining when your little cub becomes a lion and tears you apart.

martinsad:
Obviously you are from a dysfunctional and divided home. And probably you were raised in disunity by your parents.

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

Naikkie:
Why can’t the Nigerian men marry foreigners?
Problem solved: marry whom is domiciled where you are.

The messiah complex is the problem, you are looking for who to save and who will worship you.

Marry where you are, or the messiah complex is not endearing to women (all races) abroad?

The Nigerian woman who has nothing going for her becomes appealing. She becomes perceived as the most rewarding to ‘save’

Talkingoil:
I don't mean no harm, but this mentality may keep you single for a very long time.

annyz:
My wife persuaded me over the years so we can relocate to USA with our kids.
I trained her before we got married.

MrColdsweat:
You are the one deceiving yourself for terming misandry for equality.

Infact, I've gone through your comments and I must say that you're quite an expert at self-deciet.

generationz:
You are very correct on being loyal to your benefactor even when your benefactor treats you like thrash, because you are lazy or didn't have a way out earlier, be loyal. If he spent his money to upgrade you, he deserves returns and loyalty.


My question is this as you know several women who work hard for their money, so they are increasing daily. Why don't these men go for them? Why do they have to take a cub, feed it, cloth it and expect it not to use it's teeth to tear them apart when it becomes a lion?

Who is deceiving who? What do these men want really? What are they really looking for?

They become shocked at how foolish they were and how marriage is really an investment but they were blinded because their ego was being massaged by their young sweet thing they controlled with money. Some of them even were benefactors of rich black/white older women and finessed them of thousands to train and upgrade one sweet young beauty to their level only to be shocked when these women show them they have a way out.

Many hardworking ladies who can find themselves are single and languishing. Both African and African American.

You know what hurts, how these shame those ladies for having standards and tell them they'd be single forever.

If you can't marry a lady on your financial level, stop complaining when your little cub becomes a lion and tears you apart.

annyz:
Already decided years back.
We are still here doing great with our grown up kids.

Princedapace:
Well, u made a good point. The thing is. It is my money, right? I decide on where to spend it. The money I worked hard for, I want to use it to buy loyalty, right? Some humans know what they seek in life. Some have taken the risks in life just to make money and just want to use that money to buy loyalty. I really don't think it is wrong for those people. The wrong thing here is that someone deceived them that she will offer loyalty. And end up not offering it.

If only humans can be honest. Well, humans can't be.

As u rightly said, the men are now changing their plans. Most of them are no longer marring from home. Most of them are no longer taking ladies out of the country as they used to do. This year alone, I know four of my female friends who were ghosted by their supposed partner abroad and from the look of things, the guys were scared of marring such ladies who are struggling here and help them out with better future.

Why do we always blame men for everything? The ladies who pretended to be loyal just to get upliftment by a man are the ones to be blamed. Don't start what u can't finish. If u know u can't be submissive, there are countless of men who don't care about submission, go for them. Don't lie that u can be submissive all becus u want him to help ur life. No. That is naturally criminal.

What I do tell our men is this: they better forget about marrying our ladies. Many other men will marry them. Whites don't care about submission, right? White men will marry our ladies. They will after all, they don't care about submission.

So, I keep encouraging our men to settle with other ladies from Asia or East Africa. West Africa and Nigeria in particular tend to have ladies who pretend to offer loyalty just to get rescued by the man.

Also, I know three ladies including my ex whose husbands are based in Europe and left here in Nigeria. They are all scared of bringing them to Europe.

I think the men are changing their tactics too. It will only get worse.

Submission doesn't mean treated trashly. If nature wanted, nature could have made me white instead of black.

As for the made ladies. Many men also choose them. Many men are intentionally looking for ladies who have made it. No big deal.

I personally don't mind o. If u have money as a lady. I don't mind. Why? Because I don't mind to marry such a lady.

We can be equal for real. I don't control u, u don't control me. We are just married and married. I have right to do what I want, u have yours as well. We share bill 50/50. We share home chores 50/50 or hire a helper and jointly pay the staff.

I don't mind. There are many men who don't mind too. So not fair when u say men run away from the made ladies.

Also, these women can as well walk up to men and woo them into marriage. Sincerely, we are all equal and no big deal if the ladies keep wooing men too for relationship and marriage. Sincerely, no big deal. I think this is another part the ladies who are made should learn too.

captainamiedi1:
When ever I see guys coming home to marry, I begin to ask. Is it difficult to marry in their country of residence? What's the rationale behind marrying from your country?

WarriIntellect:
My uncle that is in Israel got married to a white lady over there,with 4 kids they are doing fine,after like 16 years of marriage......If it was a nigerian he got married to over there I'm pretty sure the marriage would have been over ....

MrColdsweat:
You are very much aware of the tendency of the average woman to be intoxicated,wicked and destructive with power.
Instead of looking for ways to sensitize your fellow women on the need to be the peace, backbone and resting place of her husband when she is in wealth, you decide to blame the man whose actions were done purely out of love.


Anything to blame the man.

Can you see how you stylishly created a divide to justify wickedness? So only broke women become lions when they have money? The financially stable ones are not lions too?

When will you women for once advice yourselves concerning your rebelliousness and disloyalty?


So, a man must not marry based on love, but the financial status of a woman?

What was the financial status of our grandmothers when our grandfathers married them, yet they enjoyed their marriages?

You people should continue looking for ways to justify wickedness. Our eyes are now open.

OchoL:
Gibberish.

What happens to a Nigerian woman abroad is the case of what happens when you give a hungry policeman a uniform and a gun to patrol the streets - they will extort and abuse power!

Why is it that Indian & Chinese women don't do such when abroad? Despite how much these women earn, the value their culture and stay in their lane when it comes to domestic life. But Nigerian women? Power hungry, vicious and callous to the core.. any small power and they start displaying inbred witchcraft behaviour.

What gender is more culpable in child abuse and the maltreatment of househelps? ...this is to tell you what the average Nigerian woman is capable of when in a position of power.

Deep down, you yourself know the truth about female nature and will not take it lightly if someone does to your Male relatives what some of these women abroad do to our men.

Mikehot:
I tell you bro, when i find a woman to settle down with she is going to be a foreigner who we both share love.

Even as at that i would file up documents that explains how the children should be handled including how my money should go

Amumaigwe:
She may go ahead and Bleep around if ahe wishes. Even the ones wirh their husbands right here do as much. As long as the children she rears are legitimately mine, no hassles.

generationz:
This statement makes it obvious you don't know why many men run from self made women.