JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

BRATISLAVA:


Well, as much as the OP gave a one-sided post, it must be said that he was not through in his investigation of Nigerian women abroad.

Most women, as many men will admit, are the ones interested in marriage. They usually stay put until they feel the man is cheating or irresponsible (usually they mean financial stuff). Men on the other hand need to be less domineering.

There's no way you will take a village woman to the city and she will not learn a thing or two. Most go for Nigerian women because they feel that with the culture they can make her "malleable". Some feel she owes them a while lot because they brought her over. I'm yet to see how a woman in the village forces men to take that decision.
So when you have someone willingly come marry you and you want to rule them, it doesn't work.

It seems that the genesis of the Nigerian men/Nigerian women abroad saga.

Best way to avoid all this is to act in love and equality. I think women will listen to men more if they try to come off their high horses a bit.

I'm sure your woman listens to you because you're egalitarian. If you went macho on her, you may get a different response.

vivsravine:

don't forget humble beginnings your character is your voice even in your absence it would speak for you.
Ahudiya speaks ©

bezimo:
The Nigerian women that behave this way are mainly igbo girls..bring them abroad..they become disasters you regret..

That's why as a abroad based guy trying to bring a home based 9ja girl over to Europe/USA or Canada as wife particularly is she is igbo..think 10 times about it..dont be carried away by her fake pretence of love.. once she comes over and see how the system favours women she will change to start giving you shit..too many cases to mention..

otipoju:


Its not always true. Equality is not king. The law favours women in many many cases and once Nigerian ladies understand that power they turn to something else with the influence of their friends.

I have a case where a Nigerian guy. Very gentle even though an ex military and has been on tour to Afghanistan. He pays ALL the utility bills, brought the girlfriend of 7 years and now wife to US and helped her get her first and current job, bought a car for the wife oo. One day , the wife siezed his car key in the precense of the guy's mum as he was about to go to work and told him she will not release it until he washes the plate he ate with. The wife works from home ooo. And this is a guy that does most of the cooking because the wife cant cook that good. How humiliating can that be for a man who bought the house 100% that he lives in.

I never chuk mouth for the matter because i dey wait for the right moment. But that girl go regret that thing wey she do...on God.

DEMZEE:


Relationship is subtly transactional sex

otipoju:


Its not always true. Equality is not king. The law favours women in many many cases and once Nigerian ladies understand that power they turn to something else with the influence of their friends.

I have a case where a Nigerian guy. Very gentle even though an ex military and has been on tour to Afghanistan. He pays ALL the utility bills, brought the girlfriend of 7 years and now wife to US and helped her get her first and current job, bought a car for the wife oo. One day , the wife siezed his car key in the precense of the guy's mum as he was about to go to work and told him she will not release it until he washes the plate he ate with. The wife works from home ooo. And this is a guy that does most of the cooking because the wife cant cook that good. How humiliating can that be for a man who bought the house 100% that he lives in.

I never chuk mouth for the matter because i dey wait for the right moment. But that girl go regret that thing wey she do...on God.

jornwhite:



Naa man wey wan suffer go suffer, the access point most women are using to subjugate men is westernization, they use words like gentleman & real men to manipulate men. be a gentleman n open the door for your queen, carry her bag naw or you don't love her.
real men give there wife whatever she ask for, money, luxury & gift spend it like Ned
romantic men take breakfast to there wife on bed mmm!

Buh till date we still don't know what a gentlewoman, a real woman and a romantic woman should do ... love naa scam

jajeri3216:



Thank goodness I'm not with a black woman(original preference is black) , my oyinbo partner is home doing the laundry and cooking as we speak, she doesn't see herself a slave but a trad,(Type trad Western women into twitter.) , I'll gladly do the same for her.

Bills are equal, everything is based on reciprocity not abuse of power.

Like other couples, we argue but no violence or police troubles.

Gifts fly both ways and lastly the relationship isn't based on our rich or poor status.


Compare the aforementioned attributes to an egotistical maniac from one village in Nigeria, wastes all the household funds on useless thing's, hates house choirs, love's collecting without giving, irresponsible child like baboon behaviour , who will call the police on you at the slightest provocation.

All these equality fights is only going to damage the black family as we see in black American.

Now tell me how I'm mentally damaged?

bezimo:


My white girlfriend of quite some years still goes into the kitchen and cook and serve me..offcourse cooking is not her strength but you can always see the effort..she has done that countless times and it didn't make her my slave...if na Useless 9ja girl she will be like I ain't your servant go cook and serve yourself..broke ass liability Oh!

EVILFOREST:

This is the UNDILUTED TRUTH.
Please start with my IGBO Sisters who suddenly become Emergency Nurses in the US, their pride is second to none, followed by Edo Ladies
My Family has suffered so much in their hands.
My Cousin who resides in Pasadena, California just left his Nigerian Fiancee for an Italian Lady.
He told me he better suffers such from a White Lady than our black sisters.
Many Men are single here.
They are busy saving and investing wealth in Nigeria.
The moment you bring up any Topic that has to do with traveling back to get married, they start avoiding you. Some Men have deliberately decided not to bring their wives to the US.

One told me his wife in Nigeria can go ahead and prostitute if she likes, provided his kids back home are his biological kids.
This is a Man in his Late 50's.
MEN have woken up.
We are not Happy !

RedPanthar:



It's because the men there are simps


The home work ladies do on abroad guys if I spill it here the table go break finally


I'll chip in this two cents. While mehn are sipping, your so called ladies here take your pictures entire details to all spiritual houses and play the perfect game to get what you can offer before they transform.


While the ladies do serious underground work on males. Men just marry them out of feelings with no diligent checks and y'all think it won't end in tears


I know coded places times and acts I Don catch many so called posh chicks.


Spits. I'm disgusted remembering some sef



Abeg males abroad do through due diligence. Don't ask me how here biko


Most ladies are walking shrines and oracles and herbalists that's why you can't hate peace at time with them. It's a game they planned and executed to innocent naive men

Ishilove:

Why do I need his consent to build a property with my own money?

bezimo:


Wow..desperate Nigeria ladies going diabolical to secure abroad guys.I heard something like this..didn't know it's this terrible.

jajeri3216:


Exactly, this oyinbo girls will go to YouTube to learn naija meals and cook it as a treat.

So far she cooks efo, asaro, beans, yam, ogbono, and these naija girls are using feminism to be irresponsible.

I tire oh

jajeri3216:


Exactly, this oyinbo girls will go to YouTube to learn naija meals and cook it as a treat.

So far she cooks efo, asaro, beans, yam, ogbono, and these naija girls are using feminism to be irresponsible.

I tire oh

DamZik:
Because he is your head. He has authority over you.

DamZik:
Because he is your head. He has authority over you.

bezimo:
The Nigerian women that behave this way are mainly igbo girls..bring them abroad..they become disasters you regret..

That's why as a abroad based guy trying to bring a home based 9ja girl over to Europe/USA or Canada as wife particularly if she is igbo..think 10 times about it..dont be carried away by her fake pretence of love.. once she comes over and see how the system favours women she will change to start giving you shit..too many cases to mention..

ziondaughter247:


My dear oooh! Na wetin I dey reason before i saw your comment! They are regarded as low-life nothings over there. 5th class citizens noni

deleSayo:



It's definitely dominque - a raging feminist who can't stand women who aren't part of the crew. she should tell Seun what 'rules' your comment broke..

Newman20:



I would like to focus on the bolded.


In our culture, even though it is hard to admit, the woman is generally seen as the person who is owned or dominated by the man. Even though you and other feminists view it as "misogyny" you have to admit it has kept the peace in our society.

Now, what the OP wants is for women abroad to submit to their husband's authority (most likely because her boyfriend abroad refused to take her with him or something ). But the truth is that it is simply not possible. The reason being that women abroad are generally supposed to be independent unlike our own system where women are supposed to submit and be taken care of by the man (even though this isn't needed cause they have their own talents to enable them succeed on their own) this creates a power tussle between the husband and wife abroad where the husband wants his wife to be submissive and the wife wants her husband to accept this lifestyle. This often results in unsavory situations such as the husband killing the wife wife taking the husband's properties etc.


Now, back to your bolded statement. It is utterly wrong because as long as Nigeria remains a nation with cultural history women and men will never be seen as equal thus killing the OP's hopes. In addition most (Nigerian) women who say women and men should be equal are hypocritical and still submit themselves to men knowingly or unknowingly due to our country's history.


Finally, I think that the easiest way to avoid situations like the husband killing the wife in abroad nations, is for the husband to marry in Nigeria and keep his wife there because as long as she goes with him ( depending on whether or not they have a predetermined agreement with each other) there will most likely be either a conflict or a divorce.



Count yourself lucky to have received information from the one and only Newman20.

Newman20:



What was the comment about?

Mitsurugi:
That's why there are a lot of women rearing kids in Nigeria for their husbands abroad. Guys have wisened up. A girl close to me has been going for endless vigils so her husband can bring her and her two kids over to Switzerland. For where? He comes back every two years impregnates her and jets off again. The funny thing is I took time to observe the girl here and her behavior 'get as e be'

deleSayo:


na hin be dis:

DamZik:
I have seen two examples of this before but I think it is degrading to women. Our ladies be no longer have dignity again. It's a shame.. How I wish wives could remain submissive to their lovers either home or abroad.

deleSayo:



It's definitely dominque - a raging feminist who can't stand women who aren't part of the crew. she should tell Seun what 'rules' your comment broke..

Newman20:



What was your comment about


Also see my comment where I bodied jovvialjune.