jajeri3216:
To solve this, redpilled men have to confront simps first. Women are trend follower's and will respond to strong male leadership.

Grooming must start right in Nigeria***

Simps, feminist's, western copycats are all useless in building strong civil societies.

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

JovialJune:



I will add equality cos that is what they practise in the western countries, better don't deceive yourself otherwise.

juman:
The write up is one sided.
Painted women as devil.

In reality its not like that.
A man that went home and took a wife abroad, when they reached abroad the man believed he is now the wife's God.

That's the basis of many problems.
The wife will fight back to liberate herself.

ziondaughter247:
Nairaland men and their usual inferiority complex rant! So because you brought your wife over, did you bring her to heaven! Many of you useless men dish out a lot of shit to your Nigerian wives, half of these you can't even try with with foreign women! Honestly it is saddening to read this these kind of useless rants everyday. Travelling abroad is no biggie nowadays! You are not doing anyone a favour, if you want to marry from over there do so and stop insulting Nigerian women. Many of you obviously came from disfunctional homes where your father beat and was controlling your mothers.

I am so glad at the way you #AlphaApes go to jail abroad! Yes, you think you can take your uselessness from Nigeria to developed countries. they will just treat your fuckup! In all the countries(western) countries that are doing so well which you #AlphaApes are running to, have gender equality. In some of them, the women are even the presidents/prime ministers. But checkout retarded and backward Africa and Middle east, the useless men have nothing to offer except shouting respect, submission etc. The average Nigerian woman is really sick and tired of you apes. You have lost respect and relevance the world over, hence the regular rantings on nairaland. I can assure you that most of these AlphaApes cleaning toilets abroad that came home to marry women, did so because they are looking for who to bully and subdue. They take the poor lady abroad and start mistreating her, because they feel that they own her and they did a big deal bringing her over. Any lady that wants to relocate and still believes that she needs and AlphaApe to do it for her is a nicoompoop. There are serveral countries one can relocate to now and it's as simple as ABC, you can do it yourself. Lol. Gone are the days when travelling abroad was such a big deal. As long as you take your useless behaviour outside, they will keep treating your Bleep up and throwing you in jail. Bunch of nothings! Empty vessels.

Mitsurugi:
That's why there are a lot of women rearing kids in Nigeria for their husbands abroad. Guys have wisened up. A girl close to me has been going for endless vigils so her husband can bring her and her two kids over to Switzerland. For where? He comes back every two years impregnates her and jets off again. The funny thing is I took time to observe the girl here and her behavior 'get as e be'

luminouz:


Really?.

Oya gimme her number. She must be so lonely

generationz:


Lol, its easier said than done. When you know the woman you are sending your hard earned money to is sleeping around while you labor in the cold, how can you have peace of mind?

BRATISLAVA:


Rearing kids, you sound like she's an animal in a pen.

No matter how much you keep her away, she will still cheat on you and eat your money. You are free to cheat on her abroad, too. You aren't hers and she can't yours. Everyone is happy with the illusion. Next.

Mitsurugi:


I don't have any other term to define it except rearing, which is what it really is. It's not marriage. But the guy is just scared based on stories and cases. Worst case scenario if he returns to Nigeria and finds out she's cheating, he just takes his kids and leaves her. This is how it rolls in Nigeria.

Hathor5:


Imagine advising married couples to live separately and even not considering the wife's opinion but treating her like a child who has to stay put the way you decide she should. A good husband will always consider his wife's well-being, her feelings, whether she feels lonely or not in his absence, her sexual gratification, her need for company etc. Let me not start with the children who only get to see their fathers for 1-3 months a year.

Your kind of mentality is why many married people suffer and smile. It's not the place you choose to reside or not reside, it's the kind of attitude you people think is normal. With this kind of mentality you should never get married in the first place.

UwaMmebii:


Hmmm marry her here, leave her here so that another man will be fucking her? Nah I will rather marry a black America there

BRATISLAVA:


Filing documents. So you want transactions but yet claim you want love. The only reason you need a document is because you can't be faithful, and you can treat a woman right. If you did both, no woman would want to divorce you.

It will be interesting to see you treat a foreign woman the way you treat a Nigerian woman with your unrealistic expectations and hate and domineering mentality. Let's see if she will stay.

afroxyz:
It is only nigerian women that this bullshyte is predominant. Forget all that talk about being trained to be submissive in nigeria. Asian women are also trained to be submissive, yet they stick to their husbands when they go abroad. Why naija women own come different.

Princedapace:


But not all men do o. Why if I may ask?

I don't have problem sharing chores o 50/50.

Ishilove:

Why do I need his consent to build a property with my own money?

afroxyz:
It is only nigerian women that this bullshyte is predominant. Forget all that talk about being trained to be submissive in nigeria. Asian women are also trained to be submissive, yet they stick to their husbands when they go abroad. Why naija women own come different.

JovialJune:



I wonder where you see in my write up that my sons will be taught to worship women? Where exactly?

If my saying I'll teach them how to treat women right means worship, then I have no words for you, seeing as you are a woman.

generationz:


Some want to cheat in peace. A woman who contributes equally must also have a say in how things are run compared to a woman who is dependent on you for even the breath she breaths.
Some men can't take that. They feel it emasculates them. They want to go as they please and so what they like so they marry liabilities and provide everything not to feel guilt.

Mikehot:
I would be going into estate business abroad soon, its not about me not being faithful, infact i am one guy that doesn't get freaked by sex let alone cheating because of it.

I want a one that can love me for me, i don't go for her financial status, but the reality here is that so many women here see no big deal with a man that brings a woman abroad only for the woman to frustrate him because the law can bend to her.

I don't mind giving my woman my wealth but is she loyal?

Is she married to you because she can bring up any flimsy excuse and cash out on your sweat with one other guy?

BRATISLAVA:


You sound ridiculous, because you think women are dogs that need to follow a lead. This is part of the damaged mentality most young men have been brainwashed into. When you discover that you can't control another human you would've made peace with reality.

BRATISLAVA:


Even if you tell them, they won't stop thinking they hold the keys to another person's life and destiny. When denied that degree of control abroad they begin to cry. All these abroad marriage issues stem from the man unable to accept that the woman is a person with a functional brain, her own separate desires, and her own self-sufficiency.

Scout60:


It is never equal but rather it favours women especially during divorce.

A man can lose his house just by shouting at his wife but a woman can shout at a man over there still walk him out from his house or even call cops on him. Z it equality? The woman dictate who the man gives money but the woman can give anyone she likes money or gifts, equal?

I am not praying for but pray that such things doesn't befell your brother.

jajeri3216:



Thank goodness I'm not with a black woman(original preference is black) , my oyinbo partner is home doing the laundry and cooking as we speak, she doesn't see herself a slave but a trad,(Type trad Western women into twitter.) , I'll gladly do the same for her.

Bills are equal, everything is based on reciprocity not abuse of power.

Like other couples, we argue but no violence or police troubles.

Gifts fly both ways and lastly the relationship isn't based on our rich or poor status.


Compare the aforementioned attributes to an egotistical maniac from one village in Nigeria, wastes all the household funds on useless thing's, hates house choirs, love's collecting without giving, irresponsible child like baboon behaviour , who will call the police on you at the slightest provocation.

All these equality fights is only going to damage the black family as we see in black
Now tell me how I'm mentally damaged?

Mikehot:
somebody asked why the basic stuff a woman does in her father's house becomes slavery in her husband house?

It doesn't. But in his father's house, was the man subjugating his sisters? You see, in the face of oppression, there will always be rebellion. Everyone should treat everyone well. Most women do it in their fathers houses because their brothers do it, too.

Even in Naija you have cohabiting relationship it is even the girl that is eager to come to the guy place to do chores (in anticipation of been iyawo)

Yes, they're desperate to be married. Not all girls. The desperate ones, or the ones who think that is the way to snag a man.

Is cooking for the family, dishes if no helper not the responsibility that we Africans have gracefully embraced for centuries?

Where then are these slavery activities (is it wife beating that is already outlawed).

You need to see the comments of men on this thread. Some women are used to rear children(yes, like animals), emotionally used to satisfy the insecurities and bitterness of some men. Slavery occurs when one partner is not accorded their full human rights, and has to live on the terms of another. You sound like you have grown past the stage of wanting to dominate women's lives.

African men so care for their wives they didn't allow them extra burden beyond house.

Not anymore. They want them to bring money and handle the house.

How exactly is the man controlling his wife life, can there be two captains in a family ship?

You want the woman to be making decisions on behalf of the family or what.

If she has a brain, she can make decisions. What did she go to school for? Why was she born if not to live as a human being?

Alot of the time decisions are actually deliberated on by both sides, it is abnormal if the man perspective happens to be better.

The best perspective should hold.

Middle East women are thriving in their marriages abroad because they don't think like African women who loose their culture because of a white man culture

They aren't thriving. They are enduring. I dare you to interview any 20 such women honestly. Pretend you switched bodies with a woman from the ME. Now, pretend to enjoy not having freedom and not having an escape from it because your cultural society will give you back lash. Remember how happy women in Saudi were once they were allowed to drive? You can't tell me they were happy not driving because that is their culture. They simply couldn't escape it.

Mitsurugi:


Bros you sure? You know see say I say 'e get as she be'

Toks2008:


How many i wan begin narrate?

This is why guys don't want to risk bringing any lady over cos of stories that will definitely touch.

Many guys have killed their wives cos of this madness. See make we just leave the matter as e be.

I even have a childhood friend that we went to Uni together... He has cried tire.

RedPanthar:



I wonder o. I usually sit down to think this over if I'm the only one who notices. If it's family they enjoy cooking. If it's marriage they say it's slavery. Mehn Don suffa