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Zzor:
Don't be carried away by his proposal, that's a red flag, any guy that dish out insults easily must also be very toxic and violent, he's just hiding that side of him for now. Don't rush into something you might regret.

First time I'm agreeing with you on this platform. 2020 is really a weird year

Leave the idiat and come to daddy

Better run for your life cos trust me, it will get worse after marrying him. Werey dey try disguise for now.

Ditch him. He will someday in the marriage beat the hell out of you and your papent too. People with anger problem don't change.

ekemma55511:
Ditch him. He will someday in the marriage beat the hell out of you and your papent too. People with anger problem don't change.

Exactly people with anger issues don't change

frozen70:
You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

Seconded

He has no regards and respect for you,

How the hell did he have the guts to insult your parents? Naaaa.

MarvelouzB:
Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

Then ditch him asap, he isn't worth it.

The tendency of a man that has a very hot temper or anger issue hitting a woman is very very high. I'll advice you to put the marriage on hold ooooh in other to avoid premium tears/regrets later. No matter the level of anger insulting your parents is the height of it. So who nor dey regard your parents nai wan regard you? Think, and look before you leap nor let love blind your senses. "I don talk my own."

JovialJune:
Seconded

He has no regards and respect for you,

How the hell did he have the guts to insult your parents? Naaaa.

That's why I said it takes madness to correct nonsense attitudes

frozen70:
That's why I said it takes madness to correct nonsense attitudes

True.

Zzor:
Don't be carried away by his proposal, that's a red flag, any guy that dish out insults easily must also be very toxic and violent, he's just hiding that side of him for now. Don't rush into something you might regret.

Op please listen to this advice at least she made some sense today

JovialJune:
True.

Thanks for acknowledging that

Zzor:
Don't be carried away by his proposal, that's a red flag, any guy that dish out insults easily must also be very toxic and violent, he's just hiding that side of him for now. Don't rush into something you might regret.

Money is power, she might not likely leave because of the economy power she is enjoying,
No man will respect a woman that only offers him her wet fountain just like women doesn't cherish broke boys,
She is not added any value to him shikina.

MarvelouzB:
Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

What value are you adding to his life apart from your wet fountain?
He sees you as a liability, liabilities are not respected anymore ❌❌❌

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

my candid advise for you is that you should not conclude too soon......like my kind of person....I get angry easily but it doesn't linger in my heart.....I might say something's you don't like but I don't mean them....it's just like that...the aspect of him insulting your parents though.....but as for me...I say some things that I don't mean sometimes and my wife should understand that...

frozen70:
You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

you are a big fool......which kind advise be this.....I don Sabi ur type......



one eleribu spotted.

The ways some ladies and woman comment here is amazing... I want ladies or woman to know that,nobody is perfect..That is y,I don't believe in love,it makes you to be fool..Op try to understand your partner,if you think right and left and it's not good for you...let him go..peace of mind is better than this and that..

martius101:
you are a big fool......which kind advise be this.....I don Sabi ur type......



one eleribu spotted.

Only fools like you can detect one

collinsuchendu:
Kindly shut up and swallow all the insults sis.. he might be testing you or do you want to end up in shiloh? but if you should retaliate by insulting his parents back and I happen to be the dude.. sorry to say this, I'll try my utmost best to make your miserable life a living hell.

Be tolerant.

uche you don Bleep up. you forget that the only person we hurt in life is ourselves.

frozen70:
Only fools like you can detect one

at least u admitted.

Zzor:
Don't be carried away by his proposal, that's a red flag, any guy that dish out insults easily must also be very toxic and violent, he's just hiding that side of him for now. Don't rush into something you might regret.

You're obviously not going to rest until every lady becomes like you..

MarvelouzB:
Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

What type of insult exactly does he say about your parents , does he say your parents are poor or what exactly.

martius101:
at least u admitted.

You made me know that you are a fool, why won't I admit it ?

collinsuchendu:
Kindly shut up and swallow all the insults sis.. he might be testing you or do you want to end up in shiloh? but if you should retaliate by insulting his parents back and I happen to be the dude.. sorry to say this, I'll try my utmost best to make your miserable life a living hell.

Be tolerant.

Common sense is not common.Mtcheeew.

MarvelouzB:
Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

Believe me, that man will never change! Forget it...... he will only gets worst with time. This is the time for you to start thinking deeply and looking for alternatives before someone turns you into a punching bag in the name of marriage domestic violence isn't something a woman should experience. A fail relationship is better than a failed marriage.

END THAT RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW.
Take this advice from an experienced person and a counselor.

MarvelouzB:
Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

MarvelouzB:
Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

My dear , look for your man.
You haven't found him yet.

martius101:
my candid advise for you is that you should not conclude too soon......like my kind of person....I get angry easily but it doesn't linger in my heart.....I might say something's you don't like but I don't mean them....it's just like that...the aspect of him insulting your parents though.....but as for me...I say some things that I don't mean sometimes and my wife should understand that...

You must be Yoruba.

You guys plays with evdrything and don't see insults as anything.

For us Igbos, we are too sensitive to words.

MarvelouzB I think thats a big red flag, he might turn violent after marriage, na so e dey start... no one is Perfect tho. if this abuse is one you re ready to live with, for the rest of your married life then all the best, though i dont advice such.


Is he God-fearing I strongly doubt it.

I honestly think that for your mental health and self worth you need a break in that relationship atleast to re-evaluate things to avoid perpetual bitterness in you marriage... If its giving you cause for concern now, then its probably a big deal an issue for you.

Seek for God's guidance in the path you re about to tow, above all always pray for a truely God-fearing spouse if you want to enjoy your marriage and have peace of mind atleast. Best wishes.

That guy is an idiot for disrespecting your parents who have done no wrong to him. I am shocked you are contemplating on leaving an uncultured beast, who wouldn't pretend to possess a semblance of respect for you and your parents before marrying you off. Walking away is something you should have done a long time a ago, because the only reason he has not laid his hands on you is because of distance. He will certainly turn you to a punching bag when you become his wife.

Please kindly ignore those telling you to emulate his unsavory behaviour and become an idiot like him. No. You have to show decorum and maturity by taking a walk away from his toxic, insensate, and hateful self.