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Nazgul:
I never said you applauded her? I said do you expect me to applaud her? I was actually referring to myself.

Angry at you over what? I'm not angry at you I'm just pissed off with the aggressive way you tend to attack males and defend females not minding if they're right or wrong.

What makes us morally sane is our ability to condemn wrong things and applaud the right ones. When you take side you become biased in your judgement.

Even if such woman meets you physically, you must look her straight in the eye and condemn her actions, don't try to justify what she did with the regular notion of men are also cheats, and if he was the one who did it won't she forgive him?

What is wrong is wrong and can never be right no matter how hard you try to justify it.

Oya, go and crucify her yourself if you're that pissed at her actions. Like I said, I'm not here to do it.

I'm not justifying her actions neither am I condeming it. I'm neutral.

Someone who already knows she did wrong does not need me telling her so. The rest of you would do a good job at that. She needed an advice which I gave her. The man obviously wouldn't take her back on normal grounds so I told her to beg and see if she can allowed back to be with her kids. This issue is why I told her that if kids weren't involved, I wouldn't even advise her to go back which is true. He doesn't trust her and marriages dwindle when trust is broken.

What else did I say that caused you to go off lid that first time?

Quality20:
Thee man shd forgive n overlook. It seems d wife was just overtaken by situations and vibes beyond her control. U can't expose a weakling to such a strong n continued temptation and not expect her to shake. He shd examine himself very well,is he doing all he is suppose to do for her? And besides, how certain is he that she was gonna b shagged? Did he find a dick inserted in her or what? As far as I'm concerned d lady is not guilty of adultery period!

You are sick

RisenPhoenix1:
Ok. I'll make it easy for you. What was the point of saying he has trust issues if not to apportion part of the blame to him? How else was it relevant here?

@the bolded. That is the point exactly. To your way of thinking, she's a woman so she has a right to cheat. It's not condemnable when women cheat, only when men with 'trust issues' suspect them of cheating.

Did my first comment say he has trust issues? Yes or No?

She doesn't have the right to cheat. Never implied it. She did wrong and she knows it. I don't need to throw stones at her anymore.

Sixfeetbelle:
Oya, go and crucify her yourself if you're that pissed at her actions. Like I said, I'm not here to do it.

I'm not justifying her actions neither am I condeming it. I'm neutral.

Someone who already knows she did wrong does not need me telling her so. The rest of you would do a good job at that. She needed an advice which I gave her. The man obviously wouldn't take her back on normal grounds so I told her to beg and see if she can allowed back to be with her kids. This issue is why I told her that if kids weren't involved, I wouldn't even advise her to go back which is true. He doesn't trust her and marriages dwindle when trust is broken.

What else did I say that caused you to go off lid that first time?

It's well...

Sixfeetbelle:
Aunty, this is hardly the place for you to get the advice you need as more people would be far interested in throwing stones than in rendering help.

My advice: go back and beg him. You have to for the sake of your kids. Since you didn't do it, perhaps you can convince him of your loyalty. You might need your parent's intervention so you have to talk to your mother to help you. The sooner, the better is probably best. And once you come to beg, try to keep to your word. Second chances are relatively hard to come by.


However, a different side of me wishes you were more independent and that kids weren't involved so I can advise you to leave the marriage for your own mental well-being. Marriages are hardly the same when trust is broken. And your husband didn't have much of it for you even before this incident. That he planned something like this for you shows he never trusted you and someone like that will never trust you even if God himself came down to swear for you.

Wow. And somehow, the man is blamed for all this. Just wow!

Sixfeetbelle:
Did my first comment say he has trust issues? Yes or No?

She doesn't have the right to cheat. Never implied it. She did wrong and she knows it. I don't need to throw stones at her anymore.

I quoted you. And bolded that part. Check it.

See problem.

Regex:
I quoted you. And bolded that part. Check it.

Why are you wasting your time quoting her. Bible say from abundant of heart speaketh mouth. She's has exact character with the interest of the person she's protecting. So no need arguing with her. That's who she is.

phemy36:
Why are you wasting your time quoting her. Bible say from abundant of heart speaketh mouth. She's has exact character with the interest of the person she's protecting. So no need arguing with her. That's who she is.

Thank you for pointing it out.

Regex:
Wow. And somehow, the man is blamed for all this. Just wow!

He doesn't have trust for her means she probably gave him reason nah. Would a married man set this kind of trap for his wife out of the blues? No be wife wey don cast dem dey set trap for?

Read to understand, please. No need for emotional people jumping on my mentions.