Who comes first, your mother or your wife?
Many men struggle with the issue of who to put first – their wife, or their mother.
We’d put our money on the fact this has been an issue since the beginning of time… and a contentious one in many households and families.
As it stands, both wife and mother have their places in the life of a man, of course.
But, the question remains, why has this caused so many complications in marital and family relationships?
Let’s me look at how you should go about choosing between wife and mother.

Freestainworld:
Who comes first, your mother or your wife?
Many men struggle with the issue of who to put first – their wife, or their mother.
We’d put our money on the fact this has been an issue since the beginning of time… and a contentious one in many households and families.
As it stands, both wife and mother have their places in the life of a man, of course.
But, the question remains, why has this caused so many complications in marital and family relationships?
Let’s me look at how you should go about choosing between wife and mother.

Am not saying this because am a woman oh, the fact is that the Bible says that the two shall become one and that what God has join together let no man put asunder, so I believe the wife comes first but the woman must respect the mother because mothers are irreplaceable.

Who did I know first

My sweet and adorable mum comes first, second, third, fourth and fifth in my life before any woman in this world!



I can have another wife but I can't have another mother. There's 99.9999% chance my beloved wife will disembark me when things go south, but my mum will always be there for me till death.

Goldp5988:


Am not saying this because am a woman oh, the fact is that the Bible says that the two shall become one and that what God has join together let no man put asunder, so I believe the wife comes first but the woman must respect the mother because mothers are irreplaceable.

If you're forced to shoot between your husband and father, who's getting the bullet?

Be frank please.

Nigeria mentality and poverty is the reason why you're asking this questions, your mother should be with your father while your wife stays with you with piece and less interference from parents.

Mother are not supposed to make their children a source of income and attention if not for poverty.

I don't know how many times well to do parents visit their children that are married to make trouble

Your mom comes first anyday anytime, your mom can never leave you and without her you won't be where you are today, your wife is someone you alievated from poverty to be a baby machine she has not done a single thing for you except to ask you for money and be a fodder and can leave you. Your mom and kids are always before your wife.
If I had a gun to shoot between a wife and my mom I'll shoot the wife without thinking twice I can always get another wife but not another mom

Any man choosing his mother above his wife is mentally imbalanced,and naive.

Mother and wife don't occupy the same place in a man's life.

Wife first mother second.

If you want peace of mind and long life you must put wife first
If you want katakata for your marriage put mother first

Even my mother will choose my wife first . once you marry, ur wife and family becomes your number 1.

Who I know first

For reasons best known to me, I'll choose N10M over a Nigerian wife!

Kamdil:
Any man choosing his mother above his wife is mentally imbalanced,and naive.

Mother and wife don't occupy the same place in a man's .

Wife first mother second.

goodmorning40:
If you want peace of mind and long life you must put wife first
If you want katakata for your marriage put mother first

And your wife can choose to shoot her dad instead of you if she was forced to? Don't be a mumu you can always change wives but your can't get a new mom

Lightangel65:
Your mom comes first anyday anytime, your mom can never leave you and without her you won't be where you are today, your wife is someone you alievated from poverty to be a baby machine she has not done a single thing for you except to ask you for money and be a fodder and can leave you. Your mom and kids are always before your wife

Your mom gave birth to you to complete part of her assignment on earth, but can't give birth to your children to complete part of your assignment of having children, so your wife is very important.

correctyourself:


Your mom gave birth to you to complete part of her assignment on earth, but can't give birth to your children to complete part of your assignment of having children, so your wife is very important.

Your mom spent all her life for your sake tending to your every need, your wife is just someone you married for children. So you would throw away all your mom did for you for a bitch who sees you as a bank, I wish you never had a non cause you don't deserve one.

I hate any discussion that entails comparing these two, they are both important in their own ways and there roles cannot be underestimated, if you are lucky to have the two on your side, then count yourself lucky

My wife first but nevertheless my mom will always be dear to my heart

The truth is there is only on female on earth that would love you no matter what and that js your mother

Honestly this ''mother and wife'' question keeps popping up. You will never see comparison between ''father and wife''. ''Idealy, every mother was/is a wife and every wife will become a mother'' So why the competition between women?

correctyourself:
Nigeria mentality and poverty is the reason why you're asking this questions, your mother should be with your father while your wife stays with you with piece and less interference from parents.

Mothers are not supposed to make their children a source of income and attention if not for poverty.

I don't know how many times well to do parents visit their children that are married to make trouble

You make sense.

A mother that respect herself will not see her daughter-in-law as rival BUT as her own daughter.

Also, a wife with self-respect will not take her mother-in-law as rival BUT sees her as her own mother.

If the two women can know their place, the man only need to assert little effort to maintain the balance.

Instead of doing the right thing, they'll rather make a mountain out of a molehill. That's why this question keep popping up every now & then.

Lightangel65:


And your wife can choose to shoot her dad instead of you if she was forced to? Don't be a mumu you can always change wives but your can't get a new mom

don't tell me this crap! And emancipate yourself from this flawed orientation of changing wives but can't change mother.

If you marry a knife instead of a wife,you can change your knife the way you like.

We are talking about wife here not knife. My wife is part of my life,an inseparable soul mate. So why will I change her for my mother.

Lightangel65:


And your wife can choose to shoot her dad instead of you if she was forced to? Don't be a mumu you can always change wives but your can't get a new mom

Obviously you're a kid
Someday you will understand

Lightangel65:


Your mom spent all her life for your sake tending to your every need, your wife is just someone you married for children. So you would throw away all your mom did for you for a bitch who sees you as a bank, I wish you never had a non cause you don't deserve one.

Someone gave birth to her, how much did she pay?

correctyourself:


Your mom gave birth to you to complete part of her assignment on earth, but can't give birth to your children to complete part of your assignment of having children, so your wife is very important.

Any woman can become his wife nd bear him children but can any woman be his mom?, hell nah.

ur point is invalid, mr.

correctyourself:


Someone gave birth to her, how much did she pay?

Do you think ladies ever love their husbands more than their parents? Bro ask a lady

goodmorning40:


Obviously you're a kid
Someday you will understand

You are the kid cause you aren't wise enough to see the obvious yet. let me guess you are not over 25 yet that's why

Kamdil:
don't tell me this crap! And emancipate yourself from this flawed orientation of changing wives but can't change mother.

If you marry a knife instead of a wife,you can change your knife the way you like.

We are talking about wife here not knife. My wife is part of my life,an inseparable soul mate. So why will I change her for my mother.

Answer my question would she chose you over her parents

Yhur wife obviously..

Kamdil:
Any man choosing his mother above his wife is mentally imbalanced,and naive.

Mother and wife don't occupy the same place in a man's life.

Wife first mother second.

well done

I dunno y this debate always comes up..there shouldn't be any comparison really..
Your mum is your mum and your wife is your wife .They both should be loved and they should strive to be one happy family with each understanding it's boundary. Parents have kids and wife and the love is able to go round without aportioning which should come first or second..

No

Lightangel65:


You are the kid cause you aren't wise enough to see the obvious yet. let me guess you are not over 25 yet that's why

You are very bitter towards women because you have suffered in their hands now you think they're all wicked, no they are not they only prey on your foolishness and so your wife will deal with you with this your foolishness of placing mother over wife.

Many of the so called red pillers here are simps and don’t reason logically.

Firstly, mother and wife can’t be compared because the are two different identities. As a man, if you place your mum above your woman, you’re a simp and you’re still a simp if you place your woman above your mum. Most men are too illogical to decode the fact that the mother in-law - wife rival could be a result of the wife’s immaturity, the mother in-law’s immaturity or the man’s immaturity but from experience, I believe it’s as a result of the man’s immaturity.
Mind you, you’re still a simp if you can’t put your mum or your wife in their respective places.
Respect and take care of your mum and your dad.

On no account should anyone dictate how you run your home be it your mum or her mum.

You’ve forgotten the fact that the moment you get married, your life is in your wife’s hands and vice versa.

Finally, a wise woman keeps her home