judedwriter:
Marriage is built on love. Initially it's all about physical attraction, but love is what sustains marriage.

Just like bees are attracted to honey, your partner's physical appearance draws you to him or her, but your ability to love your partner despite all their flaws, takes time, even a lifetime!

I wouldn't advise you to enter any marriage until you have learnt how to love your partner really very well. Marriage is full of risks and ups and downs. It's not about infatuation or physical attractiveness.

If love substain relationship then people won't be divorced

isthatso:


Marrying for love is a major reason many mnarraiges collapse. You need to enter a marraige with a clear head. if you marry a compatible partner chosen with a clear head you will grow to love each other. if you marry out of love you will ignore the danger signs that will come back to haunt you.

He who has ear.....

My brother the older you get the less likely you will fall in love.
Just marry your spec and pray you tolerate the person as time goes by.

If possible marry someone you can tolerate, leave love alone

@op don't take advice from women when it comes to relationship or marriage... Be warn

thebosstrevor1:


If love substain relationship then people won't be divorced

People divorce when love takes the exit door.

Hisincrease:
No.
You can love when you marry.
Forget all these fall in love stuffs. Marriage is by calculation and God's grace.

Calculation people....
Calculate well. Love comes with good calculation.
If a guy has all u want, love don start be that. As long as there is sexual chemistry.

Love is not blind

judedwriter:


People divorce when love takes the exit door.

Nope, people divorce when communication has died completely

descarado:

U can't date someone u don't love

Yes, I can't. Why are you surprised?

Well it all depends on the both of u

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

whyteteeth:
I am 30 this year and it has always been my dream to marry @ 30 or before 30. But the truth is I haven't been able to fall in love with any woman for years now. I do have sex. And I have women in my life from time to time yet I am not in love with any of them.

Now the real issue is this, I stumbled on an article in this forum days back that says that an arranged marriage is the best meaning that without being in love with your spouse, you two can still have a successful marriage, and I have been giving it a thought.

With this premise, Should I just marry and then maybe love can grow over time or should I keep waiting till I fall in love before I marry? I seriously need your advice please..

No I don't think so.

Speaking from my own point of view, I thought I would have to fall in love first before getting married.

I don't even know how the so called love is supposed to happen.

descarado:

Nope, people divorce when communication has died completely

Can there be love if there's no communication?

Lol, somehow all the hypocrites are on vacation.

A man is having sex with numerous ladies but let a girl breathe and they'll all come calling her names.

Nigerian men are the world's biggest hypocrites.

Brownpeanut:


No, he isn't. He's this kind of guy that thinks money is all that matters.

Hmmmm...okay...the age and timw we live in has shown that money matters at least 90 percent for any modern marriages to work

You don't need to love a girl to marry her. You will realize that the less you love a girl, the better you understand her and what she really needs and you will make her understand you better too because most of the time you will always speak you mind.

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

Big lie

no, don't look before jump ooo

Brownpeanut:


No, he isn't. He's this kind of guy that thinks money is all that matters.

Spoilt rich kid or workaholic hustler?

Brownpeanut:


Yes, I can't. Why are you surprised?

Because u are not telling yourself the truth

What is your definition of love?

Your moniker is f so I assume you are a female so let me ask u as a female what makes you love a man?

RisenPhoenix1:
No. In fact, falling in love must be the single greatest reason why so many marriages end up in divorce. This is because when you love, you close your eyes to her faults and still go ahead to marry. By the time your eyes open after one or two children; as they surely will; all the faults will just hit you gbam in the face. You will then either divorce, start cheating, or live out the rest of your life in an unhappy and dysfunctional marriage. It is far better to go into marriage with open eyes; i.e. no love blinding you. That way, you choose wisely.

Of course the above advice is obviously only for men, since women never marry for love but enter marriage with open eyes, and are always fully aware of the man's faults before they marry.

Will OP listen to this advise....Life no need deception...

Ikjosh04:
Love is commitment, understanding the value, the worth, the importance and the significance of a person to God, to me and to society.

To get married look for attraction and compatibility, then love who you are attracted and compatible with.

Aswearugaaad

Joshu this is great advice, man.

Pelxmiye:


Hmmmm...okay...the age and timw we live in has shown that money matters at least 90 percent for any modern marriages to work

Money matters, but there are other things, too.

Aileexa1:
I dont believe in love before marriage because we humans tend to have a flawed perception about love.
Let me just say physical attraction. That's is what I will call the love we claim to feel.
Now, it is a matter of decision. A decision you might not be able to do. If you are not physically attracted to a woman strongly before you get married to her (as you are in this case), you would have to make the decision to love her. Yes, I said make the decision to love her. Love here is a conscious effort. To love her is to accept her despite her flaws and trying to make her a better person. And it is quite hard to do this for someone you aren't attracted to. On the other hand, what if its when you get into the marriage that you see someone who you have great attraction for??
Humans like sweeter things and love as it is isn't always sweet but attraction is. Why? Because love stays when all things fall but attractions falls when problem stays.

Ask yourself this question. Why do you want to get married? Do you want to fulfil a societal obligation or because you want to start a family or because you want to build love in it's purest form.

May God help you.

Bolded is so true ma’am..

There’s nothing like love at the beginning. Physical attraction couple with lust and human natural feeling are those things that do gum people together..

Love doesn’t happen between people who are not good friends or good companions. Relationship is a journey and it’s later down the road, after you 2 already walked the journey to a stage that nature will eventually develop or break things..

If nature finds you too compatible, love will set in..

If nature finds you too not compatible, something to make breakup happen will evolve..

Abeg fall in love oo. Don't go and marry somebody's daugther and make her life miserable. Please fall in love abeg.

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

Most of our parents marry like that and stayed married for many years.

Farki:


Spoilt rich kid or workaholic hustler?

Yeah, kind of rich, spoilt, and arrogant.

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

Regina Daniel's nko?

It only takes a special grace of God for a successful marriage, love or no love ...God's love can only bind you two and make it work

Stop deceiving yourself,there is nothing like love these days.If you are waiting for a woman to love before you marry,you will wait tire.Just find one that understand and at least gainfully employed.Do not go for any jobless girl,that is the worst thing that can happen to any struggling man in this era.

Brownpeanut:


Yeah, kind of rich, spoilt, and arrogant.

You made the right choice

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

You ought to have used "shouldn't" instead of "can't"! But then, what does it really mean to be/fall in love with someone?

jericco1:
My brother the older you get the less likely you will fall in love.
Just marry your spec and pray you tolerate the person as time goes by.

If possible marry someone you can tolerate, leave love alone

bros you just said the most important thing in marriage is tolerance that's what sustains the marriage, love would fade with time, just marry someone you can tolerate her excesses, you both are compatible to an extent cause you can't be compatible all round & she's submissive then you are good to go. Love alone can't sustain a marriage