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In this world that we are living in some things seem like the norm but I don't think because everyone is doing it that makes it normal. I'm from a Christian background and according to my Bible we were instructed to flee fornication and that it's God's will that we abstain from fornication but there are challenges that comes with this command. In these present day only very few people can boast of being sexually pure(i.e abstaining from fornication, pornography, masturbation, smooching, caressing etc). My new year resolution is to stay sexually pure but challenges are:

1.Dating a lady without sex: this is an issue somehow because some ladies will start thinking you are a fool or an impotent and they will start to want to be benefitting from you free of charge although you are not having sex. I think only very few ladies will cooperate with someone who wants no sex before marriage. Some will even say sex will strengthen the bond of the relationship.

2. She might leave you for another guy that is willing to pounce on her which might be very painful especially if you like her a lot. Some will compromise and engage in the fornication and guess what the relationship will still end with the lady monkey branching to another guy.

3. Your friends see you as an anomaly because you don't want to have as many wild sex as they are having.

4. You'll have to master the art of controlling and channeling sexual urges. There will be times when a lady is alone with you in a room and all your body and mind is screaming touch! touch!! touch!!! just run for dear life i.e flee

5.You risk being single for a long time.

I want to have a clean slate this year what about you?!

In this world that we are living in some things seem like the norm but I don't think because everyone is doing it that makes it normal. I'm from a Christian background and according to my Bible we were instructed to flee fornication and that it's God's will that we abstain from fornication but there are challenges that comes with this command. In these present day only very few people can boast of being sexually pure(i.e abstaining from fornication, pornography, masturbation, smooching, caressing etc). My new year resolution is to stay sexually pure but challenges are:

1.Dating a lady without sex: this is an issue somehow because some ladies will start thinking you are a fool or an impotent and they will start to want to be benefitting from you free of charge although you are not having sex. I think only very few ladies will cooperate with someone who wants no sex before marriage. Some will even say sex will strengthen the bond of the relationship.

2. She might leave you for another guy that is willing to pounce on her which might be very painful especially if you like her a lot. Some will compromise and engage in the fornication and guess what the relationship will still end with the lady monkey branching to another guy.

3. Your friends see you as an anomaly because you don't want to have as many wild sex as they are having.

4. You'll have to master the art of controlling and channeling sexual urges. There will be times when a lady is alone with you in a room and all your body and mind is screaming touch! touch!! touch!!! just run for dear life i.e flee

5.You risk being single for a long time.

I want to have a clean slate this year what about you?!

In this world that we are living in some things seem like the norm but I don't think because everyone is doing it that makes it normal. I'm from a Christian background and according to my Bible we were instructed to flee fornication and that it's God's will that we abstain from fornication but there are challenges that comes with this command. In these present day only very few people can boast of being sexually pure(i.e abstaining from fornication, pornography, masturbation, smooching, caressing etc). My new year resolution is to stay sexually pure but challenges are:

in this world of today the reason why most people are sexually active is because of mass indoctrination and the bombardment of people with information that fornicating is good and healthy. the TV and all forms of media have the abiity to affect the sub concious mind thus the result is a high level of debauchery in the current society. its all part of social engineering at work.

1.Dating a lady without sex: this is an issue somehow because some ladies will start thinking you are a fool or an impotent and they will start to want to be benefitting from you free of charge although you are not having sex. I think only very few ladies will cooperate with someone who wants no sex before marriage. Some will even say sex will strengthen the bond of the relationship.

if u understand that you have "some" women that are parasitic, then just avoid them as your belief dictates. you cant blame the women that turn out like this, women are lead by their feelings and incetives. whoredom and freebies are being rewarded in todays society, so majority of women will choose that path in life. avoid the ones you mentioned in your number 1 post. you really cant save the world, work on your own circle of influence, any one that is willing to come into your space (world) that you create. then you can influence or change their perspective.

She might leave you for another guy that is willing to pounce on her which might be very painful especially if you like her a lot. Some will compromise and engage in the fornication and guess what the relationship will still end with the lady monkey branching to another guy.

if she leaves then she belongs to the street. as a man there is nothing we can do about another person's actions. this is beyond our control. if she wants to monkey branch then help her out the door and shut it. it will hurt but we move. get another girl. a man that gives in to sex because a lady demanded that of him is low value because he could not stand his ground when the sh1t test came.

Your friends see you as an anomaly because you don't want to have as many wild sex as they are having.

get better friends, also dont just be a man that just opposes society norms without being strong. for example if you wanna say no to sex then you better be making money, or be having an athletic physic or be intelligent. you must have something that backs your confidence when the emotional blackmail attacks come.

You'll have to master the art of controlling and channeling sexual urges. There will be times when a lady is alone with you in a room and all your body and mind is screaming touch! touch!! touch!!! just run for dear life i.e flee

agreed. also try not to put yourself in that situation of being alone with someone or being with friends that encourage what you are actively trying to resist, its counterproductive.

You risk being single for a long time.

if the type of women you described is what in available in society. then stay single whats the big deal. if you dont want to be single, then avoid the red flags that you stated.

Why are you people especially christian always talking about sexual sin as if it is the greatest sin in the world? Is only Jesus that is not the seed of a man in other words he didn't come through sex. All others human being in the past and presently came through sex, so it's totally laughable when we try to denial our existence, listen sex has been ingrained in our DNA, so you see no matter how hard you try to avoid it will till end in failure, you can denial your existence understand that, God's purpose for sex was for procreation.

(Now look at this irony of life, you eat food because you want to stay alive right, if you don't eat food you will starve and eventually died right
but i hope you are aware that sometimes we eat food not because we are hungry but because of the sweetness or deliciousness of the food. )

Such is sex, at times we do it not because we want to procreate, but for the sweetness of it,

Change your narratives about sex, it is not the world greatest sin, (The world greatest sin now is greed) embrace God grace for the forgiveness of sins because nobody is perfect in all angles of life, you may learn how to control your sexual urge but you may not learn how to control your greed, you may not have greed but you have sexual sin, it is pari passu, same goes for all social vice

Since sex is for procreation, and you are not yet ready for that, channel your energy to creativity that is the opposite of procreation, and you will cure your sexual urge, bombard your mind with creativity thoughts engage yourself on creativity environment and you will see that sex will be of less important in your mind

@poster above

Sex is not the greatest sin but,it is still as bad as it is.

In as much as you enjoy the 5-10mins of pleasure,the consequences that follow are nothing compared to the enjoyment therein.

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@poster above

Sex is not the greatest sin but,it is still as bad as it is.

In as much as you enjoy the 5-10mins of pleasure,the consequences that follow are nothing compared to the enjoyment therein.

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