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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 9:04pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
The truth of the matter be say as Africans sometimes certain families from certain regions of our beloved country value gifts more than the person presenting it.. We tend to take advantage of our traditions and stretch it to the limits.. So therefore if the girl i intend to marry comes from such a family then I will do it for love. Gifts of different shapes and sizes on each single visit to win their heart.. Then she should not complain when she is expected to do my laundry, all house chores, prepare my meals hot and fresh on a regular, open the gates of Jerusalem whenever i want to even when we are not yet legally married . If not the next gift she and her mother will get will be devil's beans soaked in water overnight. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by britiko: 9:04pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
oluwaseyi0: I just weak for the entitlement mentality and she's quoting d scripture out of context. Seriously, these are the type of people that frustrate anyone involved in their lives by comparing them with others and leading them into shameful acts like stealing and rituals all in the bid to satisfy their cultural and self centered attitudes. God forbid... 11 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Dminister(m): 9:05pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
My brother jakpa from poor family and family that always wants to feel entitle. Rich people don't look what you bring. Only poor hungry people expect you to visit them with provisions or even money so that they can cook rice on sunday 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Mayeldah(m): 9:05pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Stop quoting Bible out of context. A man's gift (Talent, skills) makes room for him... There is no difference between you and Op. Leeches everywhere. 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sweetcho: 9:05pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: How long have you been dating? Has he ever met your mother before? Has he ever brought something along with him for your mother before? It is indeed a red flag if you dont be careful and marry someone like that when you marry him the whole burden of care for the kids school fees and feeding them will fall on you and you alone, like the sad women i see on that nigerian judge show |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by toolovely(m): 9:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
If its the first time he's visiting the house,it's somehow but if he's been going to your house, there's nothing wrong 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by comtem2011: 9:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
descarado:Are you sure you are not from my family? Cos, that's how my people treat their in-laws. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ceeceeuwa: 9:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
UnBanEbenezer:All the female in your family are stupid and will remain miserable for the rest of their lives. Amen! If you cannot be civil with discussions, then fvck off my mention! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Regex: 9:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stonecoldcafe: 9:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: This is what they say when they tell you guys to protect your relationship and remind you how family members (no matter how loving) can sometimes be the cause of your marital/relationship woe. So dude visited without a gift not even wine, big deal, no one is perfect, hin nor kee person. You are supposed to speak to him in correction/love and not belittle him or fan the flame of anger. If you has handled it tactfully, he will then call and sweet talk your mum n plan for a follow up visit where he will try to right his wrong. On that occassion, you MUST be home. Finish NB-this is fiance and not boyfriend. Leave that silly small girl behavior of cutting phone on a man. That is disgusting behavior. And for that you should apologize. So do not disrespect a man like that again. Now place a call to him dear ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ceeceeuwa: 9:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Gideon110:Spit on your dead body! Ozu! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 9:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle:Going by your standards, you have failed because you suppose to carry gifts to any person you visit whether neighbors, all weddings. You didn't give gifts in all your visits but you want all your visitors you give you bread...you try 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by EngrEgghead: 9:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: I am happy you said he brought something the first time he came. Your fiance wasn't wrong when he came the other time without anything. Maybe, he never had but he still showed courtesy and respect by coming to see his would be- in laws. The mistake you made was that you should never have supported your mum. My wife has supported me uncountable times when I go visit her parents. There was a time l wanted giving 5k to them. My wife "cornered" me quickly and added another 5k to make it 10k. So, l know what I am talking about. If you are certain the guy is great with some good prospects, please swallow your pride and apologize to him. Please forget the bullies online. I think they're just there to distract and make you lose focus. Stay blessed. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Regex: 9:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Acidosis: It was not the first time he visited. He has visited before. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Danenergy: 9:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I don't know about boyfriend and girlfriend...but as a bini man, if u are married..u don't go to visit ur in-law empty handed |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by OdenKelechi(m): 9:11pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: I'll take it you didn't see the part where op said he has visited before and with gifts. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by 15ssDRIVE(m): 9:12pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
extol1: Respect is number 1 rule of love engagement. Successful marriage depends on both partners... |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Abdogood(m): 9:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Courtesy demands you take a gift when going to an in-laws home especially in this part of Africa. No matter how little even if na cola and spirit. Little things like this portraits you in good light even if you bad self. In the first instants why will you go to ur in laws place empty handed who dos that. The reaction of the mother is normal. When you get to that stage you will understand better. Even if your in law is dangote, please a gift along. Mature people understands the power of giving gifts especially in the business environment. Also, your in law recieving gift item from you does no mean they are hungry or broke. This is tradition or courtesy. At least for the first time take a give along. Madam! If he feel he is too big to do little things like this free ham. Person wey value u and ur mother go come alone.... Cheers! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 9:14pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
The way I dey look una family so, una go get sense because the way you describe your mama ehn, na correct mother, not like some people ![]() CalliDora1: 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by luminouz(m): 9:15pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle: Bla bla.... How is my dinner coming? ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Annitakome(f): 9:15pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
[Pls I can't see where she mentioned that item wasn't her first time, can u point that out to me pls? Gosh! Bringing bread or even something as small as fruits when u visit, what's wrong with that, or how does poverty come into this? quote author=GayPontiff post=97809727] No offense o, but be offended all u want. You and ur mama need deliverance . Contact me for recommendations. If the guy marries u, each visit to your mum will now cost him a cow and a new house shebi? That he even went to greet her which is the highlight that deserves accolades suddenly gets swept under d carpet. U proceeded to hang up call on him. Now ur seeking justification publicly. If u want to enjoy ur marriage in d future when u don marry eh babes, no be everything momsi talk u go swallow. (((According to her it wasn't even his first visit and he did take something along the very first time. Una don see as person dey open door for wahala?)))[/quote] |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by kingchris30(m): 9:17pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
NoToPile:I love this |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 9:18pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Lashist: The Foolishness you inherited is what made you type this nonsense to me. The lady that falls for you would think she has gotten a reasonable person until your insanity starts manifesting the day you will visit her parents. Just make sure you take your drugs so as not to dey lick the plates used in serving you with your tongue. I know you will go empty handed and empty headed. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 9:19pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
luminouz: I will start ignoring you from now henceforth. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ibolord(m): 9:22pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Your mum must be an ex police woman 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by PartnerusIsBack: 9:22pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Bro, please take it easy on her. You can pass your message politely even in the height of provocation. You will earn my respect and that of others as well doing so. We can always disagree to agree later on. Thank you. TransAtlanticEx: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 9:23pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
WILLuKPquiet:Lol...oh so you have seen proof now and have decided to be stupid since nothing dey ur empty head. Imagine an elder insulting people's parents...i no go insult yours but I dont think ur parents would be proud of an idiot like you when they read how you say things without reading and understanding properly. Do your generation a favour and dont bore any child cus he will hate you as a son for wanting to pass your foolishness to him through your sperm. Udo ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Joezik(m): 9:24pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:. Chai ...things that don't matter ... Pele remain single because of gift 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by zealousayo(m): 9:24pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana:I hate it when people make hasty conclusions. What evidence do you have that the guy is Yoruba? What concerns Yoruba in this matter? In fact, it's people like you that make people hate Igbos. You will just be commenting like a primary school kid. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 9:24pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Lashist: Okay. I'll do that. I'll bring gifts for everybody I visit. You should endeavor to not take gifts with you when you visit anybody, no matter who they are to you. You don't want their entitlement mentality to manifest, do you? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by bayumyguy: 9:25pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Lady you better leave that guy cos such guys are stingy that is the truth. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Annitakome(f): 9:26pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Some of Ur comments shows how irresponsible u are, someone visit his would be in-laws empty handed, no bread no fruits and u all are here insulting her mum and making it look like it's poverty mentality? What's wrong with y'all really? That's just courtesy simple, it doesn't have to be every time he visits, however, we don't even know if that was his first time or not cus it wasn't specified, y'all should be respectful. Gifts can be given to by either of the parties involved, it's not a big deal. So u think u can date a rich girl and be completely compliant with her rules or just be taking from her according to some of u here, pls be responsible and stop seeing women as they are here to deprive u of Ur mother's breaks milk when all they is make life sweet and delicious to u. Bye for now. |
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