YourCoffin:
They ask first to know if the lady is a kidnapper, makeup artist or prostitute.

On a second thought what exacrly would a man be doing with a jobless girl?

missdivineprove:
A man is meant to be in charge. Whatever a woman have, is only to support her man.
But when the man begins to look for a well to do woman, it's an abnormality.

CHoccolaTE:
Op na today you know?

Men these days are lazy and gold diggers, their mission is to be completely useless in marriage, their wife go bring chop money and carry belle to bear kids that will answer papa name, all while balancing housework on her head and the only thing the lazy husband does is to go to work and come home and relax while waiting for obedience and submission from the same woman contributing to his feeding him and paying bills.

That is the world they are trying to create, a world where they do as little as possible in marriage while women work like Jackie and collapse from stress.

Pochettino:


Madam I don't understand you. Do you want them to marry liabilities?

Will u be proud and happy if your brother or son brought home a jobless girl for marriage? Tell yourself the truth. Or do u think only women have the monopoly of choosing the best?

Will u date a jobless man? Why are u even scared that a guy wants 2 know what u do 4 a living?

The problem with we women is we always want to eat our cake and have it but guys are wiser now.

That's why I got a job so no one will take me for granted. Maybe you should quit hustling on d streets and get a job so u can attract men of your dreams too.

Pochettino:


No it is not. For serious minded people, it is an effective way of knowing whether it is worth the effort.

Relationships are an investment. You don't expect me to invest my time, emotions and effort in you if you have nothing reasonable doing with your life.

missdivineprove:
I'm not of that opinion.

You guys are learning the wrong thing and it's very annoying

missdivineprove:
There's nothing controversial here.
Sometimes, I wonder why the question that pop up immediately you sight a lady is ''what do you do for a living''?
When has having a job, or business become a criteria for friendship?


Is that not an act of gold digging?

zedegit:


What do you call 'wrong thing'?


Gone are the days women depend on a prince charming to save her from her woes and Carter for all her whims and caprices as well as save her from poverty.

As economy hard, no sane man can take a gamble of marrying a woman that can't even contribute a Kobo to family upkeep.

Besides how do you intend to be a helpmeet if you don't work or have money to support his efforts?

missdivineprove:
Is that why the only thing he look out for is what you can bring (working class)

Jman06:
But a woman is meant to look for a well to do man?

Liposure:
you are getting it all wrong. See, querying a friend is not goldigging. Rather its getting to know her potentials and capabilities.

CHoccolaTE:


Why do men think housewives do nothing all day but watch television?
Dont they cook, clean, keep the house in order, pay attention to their children's welfare and proper upbringing than career women that are outside all day, morning till evening and when they come home they are too tired for their family.

Why do you think housewives dont have anything to discuss except Telemundo? They can tell you how your kids are keeping up and how things are faring at home if everything is running smoothly.

Men just hate women that is why they cannot see the value in things women do, they think raising children properly and keeping a home and cleaning and cooking every single day is meaningless because women are the ones handling those chores.

They think breadwinning is the only worthwhile chore because that is a traditional chore for men.

zedegit:


Can you marry a jobless man?

missdivineprove:
Having a job is important, but do you know some women make more money legally than some men? If that's all that matters.

missdivineprove:
Very true.

In asmuch as every adult must have a source of income to support each other, consciously looking for a working class lady (a lady entering marriage with loads of responsibilities: house management, child's bearing and up bringing) is an act of gold digging.

If you can't marry a jobless man, why then should a man marry a jobless woman?

CHoccolaTE:


It's not the same thing
In traditional African families husband has more to gain in marriage than wife, the only thing wives have to look forward to is the money their husbands provide
Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Women will suffer to carry pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women many of them said they dont get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

CHoccolaTE:


It's not the same thing
In traditional African families husband has more to gain in marriage than wife, the only thing wives have to look forward to is the money their husbands provide
Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Women will suffer to carry pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women many of them said they dont get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

mrjojo:


What is this? really?
Listen, Women have everything to gain in marriage, while men have little to non!

Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

What are you saying exactly? Husband gain children? really? how? when in reality, women are more interested in giving birth. And no one is putting a gun to your head to give birth, there women who don't change their surname nor want kids, This is 2021, not 1920 lady! prolong lineage? smh, when men of these days don't care about a child's gender and moreover the children oftentimes end up loving and caring for their mother more, so who exactly is "gaining"?
Lifetime cook and cleaner? again this is the 21st century, cooking and cleaner is practically nothing, anyone can cook, In fact I cook better than most ladies and it not even a big deal, cooking is a survival skill for everyone. Chefs and live-in help abound everywhere now. So cooking and cleaning has stopped been a big deal since, Are you expecting a woman to be paid for taking care of her own kids?? I really don't understand this argument.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Marriage is a partnership not some military rule or dictatorship, if you end up with a dictator for a husband then blame yourself.And a lot of married ladies suck up to their cheating husbands due to financial incapabilites meaning they don't have a choice. A person knowing you don't have a choice and no other means of taking caring of yourself without them empowers them. With your money, you can always to divorce a philandering husband.

Women will suffer to carry a pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

You can't blame men for this, this is nature, You can always decide to remain single and not pregnant. Men once upon a time were ok with taking responsibility for their family 100%, then you women started the feminism movement (treated the same way as men) now y'all are getting the treatment you have been clamoring for then again when it comes to responsibilities you want to take a pause on the feminism all of a sudden?

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women, many of them said they don' get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

Sex life getting terrible can't be blamed solely on the man When some women gt married and they turn themselves to something else, getting so dirty, unkempt, wearing adieu papa shirt everywhere in the house, etc see Men are moved by sight, and when the sight is different from what you got married to, this slowly affects the sex life. If your husband is not satisfying you then you have the right to talk about it and find a solution together, a lot of married people only have sex for procreation.

If the only thing you enjoy in your marriage is the money then you are nothing but a gold digger, you don't enjoy the company, the love, the laughter, and other things that come with been married.

Finally, in today's world, most men still provide up to 80% of the family responsibilities. Do you know why men have lower life expectancy compared to women? it's pressure and responsibilities.
They are more male Mechanics
They are more Male in jail
They are more male in the most strenuous of jobs
Between both genders, women are likely to be more likely favored, job-wise and otherwise.
Men have been marrying jobless women from time immemorial, with no complaints whatsoever, [b]Men are waking up and requesting support and little help now the whole world must hear it? [/b]How many of y'all will even look at a jobless guy twice??

missdivineprove:
Waking up? In the real sense, women already have lots to offer in marriage. So, I see no reason why a man should be expecting too much responsibilities from her.


Anyway, your points are well explained.

CHoccolaTE:


Why do men think housewives do nothing all day but watch television?
Dont they cook, clean, keep the house in order, pay attention to their children's welfare and proper upbringing than career women that are outside all day, morning till evening and when they come home they are too tired for their family.

Why do you think housewives dont have anything to discuss except Telemundo? They can tell you how your kids are keeping up and how things are faring at home if everything is running smoothly.

Men just hate women that is why they cannot see the value in things women do, they think raising children properly and keeping a home and cleaning and cooking every single day is meaningless because women are the ones handling those chores.

They think breadwinning is the only worthwhile chore because that is a traditional chore for men.

CHoccolaTE:


It is.
Majority of black men are gold diggers and very lazy that is why black race is so backward and the most disrespected race on earth. Because black men that are in charge of black nations have typical black man mentality of laziness and selfishness and wickedness.

Anyway let me not derail.

missdivineprove:
Waking up? In the real sense, women already have lots to offer in marriage. So, I see no reason why a man should be expecting too much responsibilities from her.


Anyway, your points are well explained.

zedegit:


If you can't marry a jobless man, why then should a man marry a jobless woman?

CHoccolaTE:


Which point did he explain well?

Make I reach house first I go settle down answer that man I dey inside uber

Just look at the lies men tell themselves that they get nothing from marriage and women get everything? In this africa?

And these are the so called logical gender ooo