₦airaland Forum

zedegit:
If you can't marry a jobless man, why then should a man marry a jobless woman?

apatheticme:
True!

If tables were turned, these same men will nearly die!!! Just leave these same men with the house chores they call nothing, let them cook, clean, wash clothes, while backing a crying child at the same time, breastfeeding another and still expected to bath the kids, change diapers cook, and still give mind blowing sex at night!!
Then you'll quickly realize that many of them are not just lazy, but are also damn fragile!

Half of the crap they dish out to women, they can't take!

Now imagine all of these in a working mom, who'll also go to work since morning, and pulls her weight whilst also bringing cash to the table, yet will still get home at night and enter the kitchen, care for kids, homework etc!

So what exactly is the man bringing to the table, seeing as a working mom is also making money and sometimes even more than the man??

Truth is, marriage pays men more than women! Especially in Africa!! The only people who will argue this are those yet to marry!

TrippleEEE:
Following your responses, I see you hate the male gender probably due to your childhood misfortune or a past experience of some kind. It's toxic. Try not to get married. And you've not met up to 2 percentage of the men in Africa.
Bless you.

mrjojo:
What are you saying exactly? Husband gain children? really? how? when in reality, women are more interested in giving birth. And no one is putting a gun to your head to give birth, there women who don't change their surname nor want kids, This is 2021, not 1920 lady! prolong lineage? smh, when men of these days don't care about a child's gender and moreover the children oftentimes end up loving and caring for their mother more, so who exactly is "gaining"?

Lifetime cook and cleaner? again this is the 21st century, cooking and cleaner is practically nothing, anyone can cook, In fact I cook better than most ladies and it not even a big deal, cooking is a survival skill for everyone. Chefs and live-in help abound everywhere now. So cooking and cleaning has stopped been a big deal since,

Marriage is a partnership not some military rule or dictatorship, if you end up with a dictator for a husband then blame yourself.And a lot of married ladies suck up to their cheating husbands due to financial incapabilites meaning they don't have a choice. A person knowing you don't have a choice and no other means of taking caring of yourself without them empowers them. With your money, you can always to divorce a philandering husband.

You can't blame men for this, this is nature, You can always decide to remain single and not pregnant. Men once upon a time were ok with taking responsibility for their family 100%, then you women started the feminism movement (treated the same way as men) now y'all are getting the treatment you have been clamoring for then again when it comes to responsibilities you want to take a pause on the feminism all of a sudden?

Sex life getting terrible can't be blamed solely on the man When some women gt married and they turn themselves to something else, getting so dirty, unkempt, wearing adieu papa shirt everywhere in the house, etc see Men are moved by sight, and when the sight is different from what you got married to, this slowly affects the sex life. If your husband is not satisfying you then you have the right to talk about it and find a solution together, a lot of married people only have sex for procreation.

If the only thing you enjoy in your marriage is the money then you are nothing but a gold digger, you don't enjoy the company, the love, the laughter, and other things that come with been married.

Finally, in today's world, most men still provide up to 80% of the family responsibilities.

mrjojo:
Do you know why men have lower life expectancy compared to women? it's pressure and responsibilities.
They are more male Mechanics
They are more Male in jail
They are more male in the most strenuous of jobs
Between both genders, women are likely to be more likely favored, job-wise and otherwise.
Men have been marrying jobless women from time immemorial, with no complaints whatsoever, Men are waking up and requesting support and little help now the whole world must hear it? How many of y'all will even look at a jobless guy twice??

CHoccolaTE:
Go and advice your fellow men insulting women left and right on this forum and writing unprintable words about them, calling them hoes. olosho, liability for no reason.
Keep your advice away from me.

CHoccolaTE:
Honestly
If not that men are just selfish and ungrateful bastards they will appreciate married women instead of coming online to tell lies because they can't acknowledge that women are useful and important.

CHoccolaTE:
Are you living in this Nigeria or you just enjoy telling yourself lies? No one is pointing a gun to give birth? In a country where a woman without kids is stigmatized and relatives will not let her rest, will keep giving her "tips" and "advice" on how to conceive because Nigerians are very traditional and don't understand marriage without kids? Or is it not the same Nigeria that family and even friends will keep advising the man to marry another wife if his wife cannot conceive because he needs to have kids and prolong his lineage? The same Nigeria where a man will have 5 female children and still keep trying for a 6th one because he hasn't gotten a Male child? Dont even bring your delusions here please, unless you don't live in n Nigeria you cannot pretend you dont know having children is something expected from women after marriage, whether they like it or not.



Self delusion on display again
Arguing just because he wants to be contrarian and peddling lies to make it look like men gain nothing from marriage
Do you live on Mars?
Oh, so men know how to cook so that means it's no longer a traditional rule for wives to be the house cook after marriage? You that typed this nonsense, after marriage tell your wife to not bother cooking for you at home. Tell her anyone can cook so you will be the one cooking all the food for yourself and your children so she should not bother doing it. Coming here to display self delusion. If a married woman opens her mouth to say she doesnt cook or take charge of chores at home in public she will be insulted, even of she is working class. Nigeria is still a backward and very religious society where people use scripture to determine wives roles in marriage, dont come here acting like you don't know it.


More self delusion, like I said in my previous response to you Nigeria is still a very religious society and men expect "submission" and "obedience" from marriage, both Christians and Muslims. People draw their beliefs and marital laws from religious books and both the bible and the Quran instructs wives to submit to husbands and let them rule over them. So dont even bring your lies here. An average Nigerian man will not set out looking for a wife to be equal partners with, they want a "humble" and "submissive" and "obedient" woman because they believe that's what God asked women to do for their husbands.
And no, women dont stick to cheating husbands because they are not financially empowered. That's just bullshit. Divorced women are stigmatized in Nigeria and mocked for not being able to keep their families together. Their female children suffer the stigma when they grow up because people believe they will not be able to stay with their husbands since they grew up in a broken home.




Hahahah
Men really hate feminism because of their innate hatred for females, every gender has their benefits and drawbacks, both males and females so no gender is equal or less than the other. This will always remain a fact whether it annoys males or not. And no, societal expectations will not allow ladies remain single and not have kids that will prolong another mans lineage, it's something women are expected to do even of its very unfair to them, women that dont kowtow to these oppressive societal expectations are stigmatized. Men didnt stop providing because women demanded feminism, offline, a way from Twitter nairaland, Facebook and social media generally, Nigeria is still a very religious and traditional society and people model their marital laws from religious books, Nigeria is still very patriarchal and biased against females and women are expected to be carry a lot of stress to be regarded as good wives. An average Nigerian on the streets will not see anything wrong with a woman working 9 to 5 and being the primary home maker and child carer but if a man says he works 9 to 5 and he is the one in charge of taking care of kids and the house his wife will be regarded as a bad or lazy woman.



Men have cheated on their very sexy wives before, Tiger woods cheated on his model and very beautiful wife with a lot of different beautiful women, beyonce as beautiful as she is, got cheated on by her husband. Males cheating cannot be blamed on women. If your wife is getting old and has stopped taking care of herself then talk to her and tell her to sit up and work on her appearance. The solution is not to cheat. I like how you ended your post by saying a lot of married people only have sex for procreation, the same you that said nobody is pointing a gun at women's heads and forcing them to give birth.
If a man starts cheating on his wife and keeping girlfriends outside he will definitely stop being interested in pleasing his wife in the bedroom or stop sleeping with her totally. No amount of discussion from the wife can change that.



When you get married, tell your wife to not do any single housework or spend any money for you because you only want to enjoy her company, love and laughter. You hear?
In Nigeria if a man stops providing for his wife she has nothing to gain from the marriage and that is just the fact.
Unless you live in America or any other western country where the men actually see their wives as equal partners and can cook for her and clean and wash her clothes for her everytime.




No they don't.
In every single corporate organisation you will find females there, sometimes in equal number with the males, in every single market place you find majority of the traders are female. In hairdressingsaloons, tailor shops, makeup artists, restaurants, event planners, caterers hospitality business, health institutions you find women there working to provide for their homes. Some of these women have husband that hide their money or only spends his own money sparingly because he expects his wife to take care of herself and the children. Nigeria is a very hard place to live in presently becaue of the state of the economy so its not possible for males to be providing 80% of family reponsibilities. Women have to work to help the family meet up and these women are not getting equal assistance with housechores in return.
It's either you dont live in Nigeria or you are just being willfully ignorant.




Why are more men in jail? Who put them there? Is it not because of their criminal activities? So why the fucck should women be made to suffer for it or pay for it? If a man does not want to work in strenuous or stressful jobs he should work a slow paced job instead, nobody forced them to do strenuous jobs or work as mechanics, there a lot of alternative jobs like medicine and white collar jobs. Dont blame women for men putting their own lives at risk.
The same men are the ones ruining things for everybody with their criminal activities, they rob, kill, rape, maim, kidnap, scam, etc. Majority of criminals and deviants are males. A woman cannot walk down the street at night or live alone because of fear of what a males criminal might do to her.
These are the same people claiming that women are inferior to them.

apatheticme:
[b]Many men, not all are selfish and ungrateful, yes! [/b]But majority of those who come here to write rubbish about married women and marriage particularly are not yet married!

Nairaland is just a place for them to catch cruise and feel important that they have an opinion, afterall it's an anonymous platform!

In the real world out there, many men respect the role women (especially the married ones) play in the circle of life and they accordingly help out when they can to make life bearable for the mother of their kids! Forget these ones on nairaland toxicland, they're kids still being fed by their mommas!

TrippleEEE:
You're surrounded by much toxicity an it's unhealthy. You need a different experience. Fellow men? Are they more than ten on this platform? Many of which might be teens who use 3 different monikers. Nairaland is not the real world my dear. And even if it is, you can do better than what you are doing as I see through the toxicity, you're smart.

CHoccolaTE:
Are you living in this Nigeria or you just enjoy telling yourself lies? No one is pointing a gun to give birth? In a country where a woman without kids is stigmatized and relatives will not let her rest, will keep giving her "tips" and "advice" on how to conceive because Nigerians are very traditional and don't understand marriage without kids? Or is it not the same Nigeria that family and even friends will keep advising the man to marry another wife if his wife cannot conceive because he needs to have kids and prolong his lineage? The same Nigeria where a man will have 5 female children and still keep trying for a 6th one because he hasn't gotten a Male child? Dont even bring your delusions here please, unless you don't live in n Nigeria you cannot pretend you dont know having children is something expected from women after marriage, whether they like it or not.



Self delusion on display again
Arguing just because he wants to be contrarian and peddling lies to make it look like men gain nothing from marriage
Do you live on Mars?
Oh, so men know how to cook so that means it's no longer a traditional rule for wives to be the house cook after marriage? You that typed this nonsense, after marriage tell your wife to not bother cooking for you at home. Tell her anyone can cook so you will be the one cooking all the food for yourself and your children so she should not bother doing it. Coming here to display self delusion. If a married woman opens her mouth to say she doesnt cook or take charge of chores at home in public she will be insulted, even of she is working class. Nigeria is still a backward and very religious society where people use scripture to determine wives roles in marriage, dont come here acting like you don't know it.


More self delusion, like I said in my previous response to you Nigeria is still a very religious society and men expect "submission" and "obedience" from marriage, both Christians and Muslims. People draw their beliefs and marital laws from religious books and both the bible and the Quran instructs wives to submit to husbands and let them rule over them. So dont even bring your lies here. An average Nigerian man will not set out looking for a wife to be equal partners with, they want a "humble" and "submissive" and "obedient" woman because they believe that's what God asked women to do for their husbands.
And no, women dont stick to cheating husbands because they are not financially empowered. That's just bullshit. Divorced women are stigmatized in Nigeria and mocked for not being able to keep their families together. Their female children suffer the stigma when they grow up because people believe they will not be able to stay with their husbands since they grew up in a broken home.




Hahahah
Men really hate feminism because of their innate hatred for females, every gender has their benefits and drawbacks, both males and females so no gender is equal or less than the other. This will always remain a fact whether it annoys males or not. And no, societal expectations will not allow ladies remain single and not have kids that will prolong another mans lineage, it's something women are expected to do even of its very unfair to them, women that dont kowtow to these oppressive societal expectations are stigmatized. Men didnt stop providing because women demanded feminism, offline, a way from Twitter nairaland, Facebook and social media generally, Nigeria is still a very religious and traditional society and people model their marital laws from religious books, Nigeria is still very patriarchal and biased against females and women are expected to be carry a lot of stress to be regarded as good wives. An average Nigerian on the streets will not see anything wrong with a woman working 9 to 5 and being the primary home maker and child carer but if a man says he works 9 to 5 and he is the one in charge of taking care of kids and the house his wife will be regarded as a bad or lazy woman.



Men have cheated on their very sexy wives before, Tiger woods cheated on his model and very beautiful wife with a lot of different beautiful women, beyonce as beautiful as she is, got cheated on by her husband. Males cheating cannot be blamed on women. If your wife is getting old and has stopped taking care of herself then talk to her and tell her to sit up and work on her appearance. The solution is not to cheat. I like how you ended your post by saying a lot of married people only have sex for procreation, the same you that said nobody is pointing a gun at women's heads and forcing them to give birth.
If a man starts cheating on his wife and keeping girlfriends outside he will definitely stop being interested in pleasing his wife in the bedroom or stop sleeping with her totally. No amount of discussion from the wife can change that.



When you get married, tell your wife to not do any single housework or spend any money for you because you only want to enjoy her company, love and laughter. You hear?
In Nigeria if a man stops providing for his wife she has nothing to gain from the marriage and that is just the fact.
Unless you live in America or any other western country where the men actually see their wives as equal partners and can cook for her and clean and wash her clothes for her everytime.




No they don't.
In every single corporate organisation you will find females there, sometimes in equal number with the males, in every single market place you find majority of the traders are female. In hairdressingsaloons, tailor shops, makeup artists, restaurants, event planners, caterers hospitality business, health institutions you find women there working to provide for their homes. Some of these women have husband that hide their money or only spends his own money sparingly because he expects his wife to take care of herself and the children. Nigeria is a very hard place to live in presently becaue of the state of the economy so its not possible for males to be providing 80% of family reponsibilities. Women have to work to help the family meet up and these women are not getting equal assistance with housechores in return.
It's either you dont live in Nigeria or you are just being willfully ignorant.




Why are more men in jail? Who put them there? Is it not because of their criminal activities? So why the fucck should women be made to suffer for it or pay for it? If a man does not want to work in strenuous or stressful jobs he should work a slow paced job instead, nobody forced them to do strenuous jobs or work as mechanics, there a lot of alternative jobs like medicine and white collar jobs. Dont blame women for men putting their own lives at risk.
The same men are the ones ruining things for everybody with their criminal activities, they rob, kill, rape, maim, kidnap, scam, etc. Majority of criminals and deviants are males. A woman cannot walk down the street at night or live alone because of fear of what a males criminal might do to her.
These are the same people claiming that women are inferior to them.

apatheticme:
Many men, not all are selfish and ungrateful, yes! But majority of those who come here to write rubbish about married women and marriage particularly are not yet married!

Nairaland is just a place for them to catch cruise and feel important that they have an opinion, afterall it's an anonymous platform!

In the real world out there, many men respect the role women (especially the married ones) play in the circle of life and they accordingly help out when they can to make life bearable for the mother of their kids! Forget these ones on nairaland toxicland, they're kids still being fed by their mommas!

CHoccolaTE:
Dont mind me jare, I get passionate sometimes, I know it's not all of them that are bad
Dem take feminism swear for me naim make me dey take things too serious sometimes

missdivineprove:
There's nothing controversial here.
Sometimes, I wonder why the question that pop up immediately you sight a lady is ''what do you do for a living''?
When has having a job, or business become a criteria for friendship?


Is that not an act of gold digging?