Jimmy231:
Abeg keep short waiting they sensitive for here

Argh,. See this one? Come and beat me now,. And it's actually shut not short,. Olodo!!

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.[/quote]

Pls dnt ever think of suicide is neva an option

Pple are here dat can help

If u do suicide u will be living more truama's dan u try 2 quech


Finally 4 d Name sakeof ur mother nd sibling

Shelumiel:
So where did her drinking habit get her...? It got her rape.

Who is suffering for it now? She is the one.

What was wrong in meeting in a public place? Nothing.

Can she sue for rape since there no witnesses? No!

Abi you wan help her sue?

You should hear the trash you are spewing.
Your own girlfriend, na public space you dey meet all the time?
You never shared drink with her before? Even if na Coke, why didn't you add substance to it ?

You see the truth yet you decide to put the blame on her for doing stuffs every other lady does without harm coming their way.

If truly she was raped, nothing justifies the boyfriend's actions and also, she should not be blamed for doing basics stuffs with her boyfriend.

If passengers are kidnapped while travelling, will you say why did they travel by car in the first instance?

Be reasonable!!! Peace.

CalliDora1:
I've always said it. All men are potential rapist. Girls beware of them. Trust them at your own peril.

Sorry for your predicament. Avoid them and stay safe.

One was itching to come to my house this weekend but I refused because I don't trust them even in my own apartment and because of that he went and unliked the pics I uploaded in my profile. I don't care.

Ndi Uchu.

Do you know how stupid you sound?

An independent survey also conducted in Africa by AE affirms the fact that Nigeria with a population of over 160 million tops the chart for cheating women. Corruption and a general distrust amognst citizens is largely responsible for this.

do you realize this pretty much causes men collectively to devalue women? We dont even know if the story is true or if the person telling the story is dating a gang member or a thug. Attracted to violent men.. we know nothing.

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

May almighty God comfort you Sis. Making it public may worsen the situation because bloggers always look for news like this to attract traffic on their blogs. My advise to you is to forgive yourself for trusting Him. May God almighty make it easy for you. Ase

prekumohtim:


Get that guy arrested now . Don't waste time. You could have gone to the police station with the semen. Let's kick against rape

Una sabi rush to advise sha...his semen on her body, at her place, after they were both high the previous night is to be expected. Baba fit even claim sey she was high and wanted it rough, what then is her defense?? No be to rush go station be the koko sha....

Girl9999:


I never told him no sex until marriage. I told him about my experience in University and we both agreed to have sex when I was ready; when I was emotionally prepared. We are just two months into the relationship.

Babe if you really need to get justice you need to act fast like someone suggested and if you can lure me into a conversation and make him confess it would save you some stress Cos now it’s your word against his and I’m sure you cleaned his semen of already let’s even assume we do serious forensic analysis in this country plus you need to go to the hospital to and get tested for STIs and STDs your bf is a loser and loose so he may be carrying some real diseases.

That aside this act is quite despicable and I ain’t sure this is the first time he would be raping someone so I would approve you reporting to the police you should also try and get a lawyer and some NGOs involved that can aid you getting justice so that the police won’t rubbish your case and sell to the highest bidder which they’re very prone to especially if your so called rapist bf is influential and rich...if you can’t give this fight your all don’t even start Cos the stigma would be too demoralizing if this gets out and the rapist still gets to walk.

Don’t have any suicidal thoughts it’s not the end of the end the world...things happen in life for a reason just make sure to avoid any compromising situation like this in the future.i feel your pain and I wish you well.

Lastly don’t take the words of people slamming you on here seriously there are loads of trolls on this platform,there are clowns and there are bitter,angry and sad ones too so if I were I would ignore their comments and cancel out the noise.Focus babe.Focus!

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Nl fiminnist jst full dis thread

Dayzzy:

You should hear the trash you are spewing.
Your own girlfriend, na public space you dey meet all the time?
You never shared drink with her before? Even if na Coke, why didn't you add substance to it ?

You see the truth yet you decide to put the blame on her for doing stuffs every other lady does without harm coming their way.

If truly she was raped, nothing justifies the boyfriend's actions and also, she should not be blamed for doing basics stuffs with her boyfriend.

If anyone got kidnapped on a road, will you say why did they travel by car in the first instance?

Be reasonable!!! Peace.

Oga I not justifying anything. Okay. I am only just saying all this could have been prevented if she took some precautions. Peace.

Girl9999:
I created this account to hide my identity. I'm in a very emotional condition at the moment. I've been crying since morning. I've not left my house, not even for church. I've lost the will to live, all because of what happened yesterday evening.

I've been dating this guy for two months. I thought he was a great guy. He was always nice to me, smart and hard-working. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 in University and it was to someone that just wanted to have sex with me. He lied about loving me. All he wanted was sex and when he had his way he abandoned me and dated another girl in my department. Since then I've had a fear of relationships, most importantly of sex. I vowed to only have sex with someone I was going to marry; someone I was certain loved me.

When I met my boyfriend, I thought he was the one. We vibed well and we were both in the same field of work. Everything seemed to click. I opened up to him about my experience and my decision to have sex only when I was ready. He agreed and said he was going to respect my wishes.

Yesterday he visited me at my apartment. This wasn't the first time he was visiting me. We paid each other visits all the time. This time he brought a bottle of wine with him. I prepared food, we both eat and he served us some wine. The last thing I remember is taking few sips and then everything else is blurry.

Next thing I am waking up by 8am this morning with a severe headache, cramped legs and a sore feeling around my vagina. There was something that looked like dried semen on my left thigh and some around my breast. I could also perceive the scent of his perfume on my body. He raped me. The man that claimed to love me raped me. I haven't spoken to anyone since morning, all I've been doing is crying. My phone has been on silent all day.

I want to report him to the police but first I want to look at his face and ask why he would do this to me. I already planned on having sex with him soon. Why couldn't he wait? I want to involve my parents and his parents as well but I don't want this news to spread and take a hit on my reputation. I'm confused about what to do.

Why are men like this? I feel defiled and violated. My mind has been constantly flooded with suicidal thoughts all day. If I make it through this, I'm done with relationships forever.

Don't kill yourself yet.

Get your revenge first.


That's the only way you can heal and move forward. For him to have gone to this extent means he's not an amateur in this. And if he's not an amateur, more ladies will fall into his trap, even your best friend or your sister may be a victim of his.

A documentary I watched on crime channel sometime ago once featured a guy telling the police how he was drugged and raped by a guy but nobody believed him. Do you know what? His rapist went ahead to rape and kill almost 30 people before he was finally caught. His name was Jeffrey Dahmer.

My point is: your rapist is not stopping anytime soon and, hence must be stopped. You must stop him. You need to get evidences of what he did to you, talk to your mom to help you, get help from trusted people and try to set this guy up. If all that fails, poison him.

Don't let a potential serial rapist and killer roam free.

Once he's caught and put in jail, or better, killed, then you can take your life.

This is wrong! So so Sorry girl for it's a very sad experience.

debbydams:
bae calm down o,, I understand everything infact i ws once in your shoe,, I got tired of cryinh i.console myself nd move on, nobody can make u happy pls make yourself happy,

if u want to cry � pls cry � cry a river build a bridge � nd get over it. The guy that disflowered me left me that same day after the sex.. I moved on ni, if I start typing what v bn tru in relationship u go weak,, be strong for yourself pls,,

I'm begining to understand why some feminist could be so brutal against males...sorry for ur experience

Dayzzy:

You should hear the trash you are spewing.
Your own girlfriend, na public space you dey meet all the time?
You never shared drink with her before? Even if na Coke, why didn't you add substance to it ?

You see the truth yet you decide to put the blame on her for doing stuffs every other lady does without harm coming their way.

If truly she was raped, nothing justifies the boyfriend's actions and also, she should not be blamed for doing basics stuffs with her boyfriend.

If passengers are kidnapped while travelling, will you say why did they travel by car in the first instance?

Be reasonable!!! Peace.

Thank you for putting it to him straight cause it seemed like I was doing a poor job at it.

Mutemenot:
Go n sin no more. Two times fvck isn't bad for a pussy. U are still a grade 1 American Benz

only 2times and she is complaining.u had the first one and you did not die,so this second one will not kill you,after all you are planing to give it to him soon before marriage.my dear just clean up and pretend as if nothing happened.such is life.because you will be tarnishing your image by telling people that you are been raped.
my dear,just take it easy,your engine is still parapara.

Bla bla bla,aunty move on pls,life goes on biko,when u enter a relationship, no b only the goodies dey sweety,as marriage is not a bed of rose na even relationship worst that one is a rock of rose. Pls move on or u report and let's read about head lines joor.

Shelumiel:
Oga I not justifying anything. Okay. I am only just saying all this could have been prevented if she took some precautions. Peace.

Caution till when? To what extent?

I hope say you no be my sister shaa.
Because your mumu get PhD.
He gave you wine, you're vowed never to sex until marriage , again you've vowed never to sex until you're ready .
But he fingered you, he has sucked your breast countless times . And maybe you have him a Mouth Action on the second or 3rd day of having met him .
Listen I have dated lots of ladies. And once a lady allows you come to her house ,cooks for you , bath and change in your presence , and allow you pass the night; that is Uhuru meaning say ,if Una never Bleep , then Una done dey do werin pass Bleep. Truth be told you're an extrovert and outgoing type . And you love sex too.

Going by your story ,you've been sex starved for maybe 6yrs since after you lost that virginity . So?

Wid wild thought are on you . And you probably had given him your body in diverse ways and only refused him penile penetration.

So it's your fault . You cannot eat your cake and have it.
Dude was just another lesson teacher .
Please treat him fine . Buy him some Scottish whiskey

Girl9999:


I never told him no sex until marriage. I told him about my experience in University and we both agreed to have sex when I was ready; when I was emotionally prepared. We are just two months into the relationship.

Sixfeetbelle:


I assume all your friends drug your drinks, hence why you would come up with this. Because you drink now means anyone is allowed to tamper with it? As if fruit juice can't be drugged.

Seriously, why would you meet your girlfriend in a public place? What for? Are you guys meeting for the first time or are you just casual acquaintances?

Like I said, you're steadily pushing the blame to her and you're not even denying it.

My problem with people like you is you never want to take responsibility for your actions. The lady is responsible for what has happened to her. And nothing will change that


She threw caution to wind all in the name of following the same ideals you have on dating.

and u are collecting his gift calling him Mr romantic,u don chop him now u have received his koboko

SeriouslySense:
I am so sorry, for your unfortunate experience.

Please go to the hospital to test for any infection.

Don't be suicidal, you will have better days. You have to be careful with the man you love. And don't be alone with them anymore, ask yourself why you seem to attract negative men, could it be something about how you choose them or think about them, notice your actions and what you are thinking, also notice their motivations, but it can be tricky, they know how to deceive, so try men who have long term goals.

you must study the characteristics to know what is dangerous to you, this is why you need a lot of communication and time try, going to public places try different scenarios, with family and friends, things will be noticed with time.

And be careful some men are irritated by virtuous women, don't show how principled you are, they may take it as a challenge to rape you.
Don't show how principled you are very much, some will think you are a virgin, and take it as a challenge.

What you need is someone who compliments you for who you are, not seeing you as a challenge, especially the younger men, looking for just fun.

Don't trust anyone anymore until they earned it, don't give in to demands but be polite, be friendly and at the same time notice motivations, be firm in your goals always, i see you are firm, i pray you find who is right for you.



Sister Don't cry anymore please, there are good men.

I had to take a screenshot of this.

Girl9999:
I created this account to hide my identity. I'm in a very emotional condition at the moment. I've been crying since morning. I've not left my house, not even for church. I've lost the will to live, all because of what happened yesterday evening.

I've been dating this guy for two months. I thought he was a great guy. He was always nice to me, smart and hard-working. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 in University and it was to someone that just wanted to have sex with me. He lied about loving me. All he wanted was sex and when he had his way he abandoned me and dated another girl in my department. Since then I've had a fear of relationships, most importantly of sex. I vowed to only have sex with someone I was going to marry; someone I was certain loved me.

When I met my boyfriend, I thought he was the one. We vibed well and we were both in the same field of work. Everything seemed to click. I opened up to him about my experience and my decision to have sex only when I was ready. He agreed and said he was going to respect my wishes.

Yesterday he visited me at my apartment. This wasn't the first time he was visiting me. We paid each other visits all the time. This time he brought a bottle of wine with him. I prepared food, we both eat and he served us some wine. The last thing I remember is taking few sips and then everything else is blurry.

Next thing I am waking up by 8am this morning with a severe headache, cramped legs and a sore feeling around my vagina. There was something that looked like dried semen on my left thigh and some around my breast. I could also perceive the scent of his perfume on my body. He raped me. The man that claimed to love me raped me. I haven't spoken to anyone since morning, all I've been doing is crying. My phone has been on silent all day.

I want to report him to the police but first I want to look at his face and ask why he would do this to me. I already planned on having sex with him soon. Why couldn't he wait? I want to involve my parents and his parents as well but I don't want this news to spread and take a hit on my reputation. I'm confused about what to do.

Why are men like this? I feel defiled and violated. My mind has been constantly flooded with suicidal thoughts all day. If I make it through this, I'm done with relationships forever.

Sorry Nne.

But if u dont want sex, Don't go into a relationship.

Dayzzy:

Caution till when? To what extent?

I do not understand your question. Be more clearer

CalliDora1:
I've always said it. All men are potential rapist. Girls beware of them. Trust them at your own peril.

Sorry for your predicament. Avoid them and stay safe.

One was itching to come to my house this weekend but I refused because I don't trust them even in my own apartment and because of that he went and unliked the pics I uploaded in my profile. I don't care.

Ndi Uchu.

All men are not potential rapist...real men don't rape

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

Hey... I want to reach U in private??

Girl9999:
I created this account to hide my identity. I'm in a very emotional condition at the moment. I've been crying since morning. I've not left my house, not even for church. I've lost the will to live, all because of what happened yesterday evening.

I've been dating this guy for two months. I thought he was a great guy. He was always nice to me, smart and hard-working. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 in University and it was to someone that just wanted to have sex with me. He lied about loving me. All he wanted was sex and when he had his way he abandoned me and dated another girl in my department. Since then I've had a fear of relationships, most importantly of sex. I vowed to only have sex with someone I was going to marry; someone I was certain loved me.

When I met my boyfriend, I thought he was the one. We vibed well and we were both in the same field of work. Everything seemed to click. I opened up to him about my experience and my decision to have sex only when I was ready. He agreed and said he was going to respect my wishes.

Yesterday he visited me at my apartment. This wasn't the first time he was visiting me. We paid each other visits all the time. This time he brought a bottle of wine with him. I prepared food, we both eat and he served us some wine. The last thing I remember is taking few sips and then everything else is blurry.

Next thing I am waking up by 8am this morning with a severe headache, cramped legs and a sore feeling around my vagina. There was something that looked like dried semen on my left thigh and some around my breast. I could also perceive the scent of his perfume on my body. He raped me. The man that claimed to love me raped me. I haven't spoken to anyone since morning, all I've been doing is crying. My phone has been on silent all day.

I want to report him to the police but first I want to look at his face and ask why he would do this to me. I already planned on having sex with him soon. Why couldn't he wait? I want to involve my parents and his parents as well but I don't want this news to spread and take a hit on my reputation. I'm confused about what to do.

Why are men like this? I feel defiled and violated. My mind has been constantly flooded with suicidal thoughts all day. If I make it through this, I'm done with relationships forever.

This is a terrible experience, and very dreadful to imagine. But the height of inhumanity are the response from some idiots who blame you for it. What has she done wrong? Loving someone and letting him know she doesn't want sex yet? If he can't deal then why not walk out of the relationship! Coming to think of it, 2 months is just too soon, you trusted him to even let him come with a drink and not pay attention if or not it has been opened before.

My advice for you is to let it go, take a morning after pill Asap and watch out for any signs of infection. Delete that Devil from your life, I promise you that you will be fine.
You have people who care about you, and I'm sure there are people who can't stay without you in their life. Think about your loved onces, no one can love you like yourself, don't hate yourself for not knowing this because you're human and we can't see through people.

All men can never be like this, there are so many good men out there! I know you don't believe this now but that doesn't mean it's a complete lie, there are men who would never hurt you not to mention doing something so evil to you. Lastly if you need someone to talk to, please feel free to leave a message on whatsapp ( number is on my signature) I hope you get through this soon, I'm really sorry.

I can't read all the comments...but have you taken post pill?...

I guessed you must have seen some small signs.
Had he asked for sex before?
Have you been showing him cleavages...?
Really I don't want to blame you...but you are not a virgin, what are you keeping... relationship these days are blind trials...

Don't let the experience kill you...better get back on your feet in time...and please don't kill yourself...sweeter things they this life...and you can only get them if you are still alive...

Shelumiel:
My problem with people like you is you never want to take responsibility for your actions. The lady is responsible for what has happened to her. And nothing will change that


She threw caution to wind all in the name of following the same ideals you have on dating.

Your ideals on dating is as skewed as the lines on a zebras skin. Please, continue your blame game in peace. I'm not even sure why I responded to you in the first place.

Hey ma'am calm down and get close to God your creator.You can't find comfort in the arms of man buh God. The earlier you realize this the better dear.God will heal you...committing suicide is a sin before God cos you didn't create yourself. You're strong baby girl, you'll overcome this just believe

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

OP

Since you been dun already plan to give him the kpekus on the 14th, he no fit wait, he rush collect am yesterday, you for still just let by gone be by gone sha o

After all, you both are "in" a relationship
That means, he's a boyfriend.


Just take am say "ur boyfriend slept with you".