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Sixfeetbelle:


Your ideals on dating is as skewed as the lines on a zebras skin. Please, continue your blame game in peace. I'm not even sure why I responded to you in the first place.

[/s] But those ideals are worth following since you know deep down that they will prevent such things like rape from happening. Peace

Sixfeetbelle:


Thank you for putting it to him straight cause it seemed like I was doing a poor job at it.

I just had to...i'm surprised at most comments here, it shows the extent injustice will thrive if these people should assume power in high positions.

Moreso, I have always hated people acting all perfect.
Everyone be like infallable superhuman when it comes to someone else's matter.

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

Why are you talking like this nau? Are you in this world for that demon? So why are you planning on taking your life, if your story is true?

Report the demon, get treated and talk to a counselor. You must have learnt a lot from the experience. Learn more from your mum and other right sources, ahead of your next relationship.

And never think or talk of taking your life ever again. You can't even create the life of a chicken, let alone yours. So respect the sanctity of life and stay wise always.

I understand how you feel and those feelings are legitimate. As shocking as this experience is to you, you'd even be more shocked to know how many baby girls, young women, and older women who had experienced rape one time or the other. But somehow, very many of them manage to heal. As for your feelings, you need more time to process them. While processing them, you should be aware that statistics has shown that 90% of those who attempt suicide and survive never try it again. What I'm saying is that you shouldn't take your life because as difficult as it seems right now, life gets better as suicide survivors say again and again that they appreciate life better after surviving suicide. You might say the same thing if you attempted it and survived; but there are no assurances that you'd survive. So, do your best to embrace life and focus on a few practical things:

1. Many Nigerian women now report rape more than before and there have been more convictions now than in the past. As emotionally turbulent as this experience is, it is still a crime. So, your boyfriend should face the music. If you don't report him and file charges, he gets away with it and he might hurt other young girls.

2. Admit that the rape occurred. Most victims find it difficult to admit because there is the tendency to assume rape is something that happens to others but definitely, "not me!" Once you admit, the healing can start.

3. Forget about the social stigma of rape. Our societies are evolving. You would be surprised about how much support you get.

4. Go to an accredited hospital and you'd be referred to a psychiatric clinic where such issues are handled. Don't worry it takes place at a psychiatric clinic. That's where most issues of mental health are treated. Even if you can't open up to a family member or friend, to protect your mental health, talk to a doctor.

5. I wish you all the best as you try to heal. Cry the more if you need to cry but be focused on your recovery. Also important, don't let a criminal get away.

Good luck

richmond500:
Some people don't need to be humans.

U see an unconscious lady and ur dik stand, raped her and left.

Jesus Christ, I don't care if I go to hell but if I see some persons with me in same chamber in hell, I will protest. Me as a fornicator can't share same hell with a rapist.
OP, u dont have to report him to any police.

Here is what u will do, try talk to him and ask why he raped u, make sure u have hidden camera or a voice recorder, record everything he said without him knowing it.
Find all those street touts, play the record to them and ask them to do whatever they feel with him, dont feel remorse no matter what happened to him after that.

Only God forgives people, u are not God, but it will be wise to send him to God

see Mumu advice...u don judge d nigga now now without hearing his side of story..if the hood kill him,E go make sense for u...the lady is mad and stupid if she no report am...no smoke without fire...if am ur grnd friend brother..d day u ask for her number wod b d day we and d hood for plank ur head

Take pictures for evidence , very important
Or go to the hospital , make sure you get evidence for what he did to you .

I often heard with rape comes trauma.... often for life. Never knew the depth of this statement until I got close with a few rape victims. To even mention it is like bearing one's soul. This guy is no ordinary rapist.... I wouldn't even call him a beast.... which beast have sex with another unconscious beast? This is the kind of guy that shouldn't even be allowed in a mortuary.... hopefully he doesn't work in a hospital environment. I am almost sure you are not his first victim..... and will continue to have his way unless someone stops him.
My advice is to go to the hospital to be checked and have the necessary evidence..... save whatever 'wine' was left or glass used... and immediately make a report to the Police. Why wait for explanation from him?... no doubt he will say he is sorry and the Devil made him do it. Why allow him to victimize others when you can do something about it?
If you do not want it to be a Police matter ...... take it to the street. The military is your friend in times like these .... friendship that can be bought. Arrange with them to have a physical discussion with the rapist.... they will know how to handle him. Just dont sit there crying and licking your wound for life..... it will not heal. Do something.

FreeSpirited:
You were dating him..doing I love you I love you...u are not a virgin, you go to his house, he comes visiting u too..u dint tell us how many times both of you have kissed and romanced...And how many times he smooched and fingered you of which u disallowed him from having sex with u....you gave him mixed signals...you are dating him, enjoying benefits of dating, collecting his money, but u are forming smart for him...
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I think that's why he used that format for you... otherwise, I doubt if he would have done that. You shouldn't have dated in the first place..you should only have maintain friends or bestie with defined friendship boundaries....
Imagine you saying u were planning to give him sex soon in your mind, that's suspicious of manipulation. The question is did you tell him this, that so so day o you guys will have sex as normal lovers do? You sexually frustrated him and he felt cheated, cos you are not even a virgin, he probably thinks you are fvvcking somewhere, so he resorted to that means, however traumatic for you....If you are not ready for sex..don't go and date bad boys who are not simps...who kiss you, press ur boobs..finger u...but u don't allow preeq..cos u are still counting time...you were playing him...then he played you...I dint say rape is the best way to handle ur situation...but
That's the way I see your story.......which u deliberately leave some details

Shut up Mr narcissist.A man doesnt own a womans body,only narcissitic men rush intimacy with women.Imagine drugging woman to sleep with her is the height of his sadistic nature.The guy has no self control and soul.

See gal I don't really comment on diz very platform ,but for the fact I just finished watching a movie dat reminds me of people wickedness and rape incidences on diz earth just now
.I will advice u to try and put ur self together by trusting God & meditating in his word,& pls try as much as possible to get ride of this devilish thought of suicide from ur mind,because I can say devil want to accomplish his work which he already started by using ur so called boyfriend as a tool to finish u ''kpatakpata'',plz don't yield to dat OK.
Las las by his grace u will be fine by God's infinite mercy. Pls try and draw more closer to God I believe He will definitely see u true gal.

Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.[/quote]

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

This is indeed a sad story.

To any lady out there who has passed through this. Take note.

1. Don't date an immature boy who is always interested in sex. If he keeps pestering you for it, it's only a matter of time before the inevitable happens.

2. Date only person's who are ready for marriage and who have a reputation to protect.

3. Never let your self be alone in any place with a man.

4. Any guy that tells you sex would make him love you more is a player. Don't fall for it. A guy who truly loves you would wait till you are ready.

As for the OP, don't kill yourself. Get evidence of him confirming what he has done like someone has suggested here and take the matter to the police. Go to a hospital to get DNA samples taken of the dried semen. I would say report the matter to his parents, but be prepared to have them try to cover up for their son and even threaten you (if they are rich) to keep you silent.

If you have evidence like a record of him confirming the act, then you stand a better chance of nailing the bastard.

sapphiere:
Totally different is what they always say.

Just One Bad Egg Can Not Spoil Billions of Others!You can Take it or Leave it...Life Happens.

Only fools commit suicide .
Dude gave you Don simmon laced with Valium 5+tramadol.
He had non-consented sex with you.
He did not break in.
It was your apartment.
This is not his first time of coming .
After the act ,he walked away.

YOU BOTH WORK IN THE SAME OFFICE.
. And you're here talking of suicidal thoughts.
See plz kill yourself . It serve his interest if you're dead . , After all you'll go to Hades with the evidence that would've nailed him.

Can I recommend the best sniper for you ?

Ewuuu.

If you like don't brush up yourself and move on.

Or get some hoodlums, pay them well , and exert your Revenge in a smart but deadly way

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Shelumiel:
My problem with people like you is you never want to take responsibility for your actions. The lady is responsible for what has happened to her. And nothing will change that


She threw caution to wind all in the name of following the same ideals you have on dating.

Only God knows the blame load you will put on her if this happened at her boyfriend's house.

You are simply a lost cause if you can't fault your view.

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

Sorry dear, pls don’t have suicidal thoughts. First and foremost, you need to accept reality that it has happened. The next thing to do is to report to the police, don’t even fight him yet. Let the police take it up from there. Protect your mind at all cost baby girl.

tHe problem of this generation is SEX.

(How you think say police fit judge this case, go police go police she no get evidence


Make she just live the modafucker that is if she dey talk true.)


There's need for her to visit d available police station ooo and make a basic report. U sure say d guy no snapped enough pics and even video their affairs?

cocolacec:


Shut up Mr narcissist.A man doesnt own a womans body,only narcissitic men rush intimacy with women.Imagine drugging a wiman to sleep with her is the height of his sadistic nature.The guy has no self control and soul.

Yes, all this may be true.
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A frustrated sexual expression sometimes don't read laws before acting. Sad though. Enough reason why women should stop playing funny games. cos most times when this rape issue come...getting justice is hard everywhere in the world.

don't be a coward, killing yourself shouldn't be an option at all. channel d hatred u have for him now into making a good revenge plan that he wouldn't know what hit him, a kind of revenge dat he will wish it's dangote's trailer that hit him. if you need help with the plan am available. lastly don't go to the police or telling ur parents.... it's a waste of time and energy.

chimhigher:
It's really discouraging that youths of nowadays now see rape as something normal, even girls are asking her why will she be sex starving the guy.
Woe to you all blaming this lady, for the girls, may you be raped brutally and for the guys, may your sisters experience the same. Amen

Op, please suicide is not an option, people have gone through worse, pick yourself up, go for a test, afterwards delete the guy's contact from your phone and your life and stay away from him.

The one who loves you will meet you.
Stay alive baby girl, the world still needs you

You only heard her version of what happened and concluded it was rape. What I see here are two drunk lovers that had a fun night, and one party feeling shamed when it dawned on her the next day. Probably, babe was high and wanted Baba to give it to her rough...after all she already admitted she wanted to give him the cookie.

When you die , I'll be here waiting to read your silly obituary on nairaland.
And I will also be in the same club with you living boyfriend picking home the biggest yansh olosho in lekki, while you rot in hell.

Can I recommend the best sniper for you ..

Ewwuu

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

I always tell the females of this generation to be aware of the fact that 97.7% of the males of this generation will ALWAYS want sex during the course of a relationship

ADVICE: if you as a female ain't ready nor willing to give up that kpekus, then you ain't got no business going into a relationship with the opposite sex

...forget the fact that when you say "I don't want sex in the relationship" the guys usually accept your terms.
They accept that terms & conditions just to at least kick off the relationship first
Knowing that at the long run, they're still gonna want and demand for sex

Dayzzy:

Only God knows the blame load you will put on her if this happened at her boyfriend's house.

You are simply a lost cause if you can't fault your view.

Please I do not understand the point you are making here.

Please, let me ask you a question : the precautions I listed out, would they have worked or not?

inside life

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

Take it easy. It hasn’t got to this pls

Girl9999:
Life doesn't seem worth living anymore.

He hasn't even called me to know how I am doing.

I can't believe people are insulting me and blaming me for what happened. I created this thread to get advice and comfort but I'm getting insults. I'm a very emotional person and this isn't helping.

I'm crying all over again just reading some comments. I don't have an alcohol problem and yes I planned on having sex with him soon; when I felt ready, but definitely before marriage. How can you say this is my fault?

Today might be my last day on this earth. Human beings are indeed wicked.

pls in life,challenges must come,some may have passed through a bigger one than yours, in all we have great future and we wont allow a low life like that guy to shatter it.stay strong dear,most importantly let the spirit of God direct your next relationship.you have a great future,dont allow the devil destroy it through that idiot.

Girl9999:
I created this account to hide my identity. I'm in a very emotional condition at the moment. I've been crying since morning. I've not left my house, not even for church. I've lost the will to live, all because of what happened yesterday evening.

I've been dating this guy for two months. I thought he was a great guy. He was always nice to me, smart and hard-working. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 in University and it was to someone that just wanted to have sex with me. He lied about loving me. All he wanted was sex and when he had his way he abandoned me and dated another girl in my department. Since then I've had a fear of relationships, most importantly of sex. I vowed to only have sex with someone I was going to marry; someone I was certain loved me.

When I met my boyfriend, I thought he was the one. We vibed well and we were both in the same field of work. Everything seemed to click. I opened up to him about my experience and my decision to have sex only when I was ready. He agreed and said he was going to respect my wishes.

Yesterday he visited me at my apartment. This wasn't the first time he was visiting me. We paid each other visits all the time. This time he brought a bottle of wine with him. I prepared food, we both eat and he served us some wine. The last thing I remember is taking few sips and then everything else is blurry.

Next thing I am waking up by 8am this morning with a severe headache, cramped legs and a sore feeling around my vagina. There was something that looked like dried semen on my left thigh and some around my breast. I could also perceive the scent of his perfume on my body. He raped me. The man that claimed to love me raped me. I haven't spoken to anyone since morning, all I've been doing is crying. My phone has been on silent all day.

I want to report him to the police but first I want to look at his face and ask why he would do this to me. I already planned on having sex with him soon. Why couldn't he wait? I want to involve my parents and his parents as well but I don't want this news to spread and take a hit on my reputation. I'm confused about what to do.

Why are men like this? I feel defiled and violated. My mind has been constantly flooded with suicidal thoughts all day. If I make it through this, I'm done with relationships forever.

Go for treatment immediately to protect yourself against HIV infection and take pills to prevent pregnancy. Then report the incident to the police even if you don't want to press charges now.

What happened to you is exactly what happened to my friend and she got infected with hiv from the encounter.

Be strong, it is not the end of the world.

Try and confront the guy while trying to get evidence of the rape. You can chat him up on whatsapp and ask him why he had sex with you without your consent after drugging you.

Have documentary evidence of what happened, it will come in handy if you intend to press charges in the future.

Baby don't cry
It's a dirty world we live in.
Don't kill yourself; it's a sin before God and man.
That boy is just a sex maniac not fit to be your boyfriend.
You could have been 'Aided

Girl9999:


The only two men I've loved and taken seriously have both betrayed me. I can't trust any man again.

despite that, there are extremely good men that still exist.

Please, suicide is NEVER an option your life is still precious in the sight of God...please seek counsel from psychologist. Please you must involve your parents too...

May the peace of God be with you in Jesus name.

I can swear with the birth mark on my left Ballz ,that the rapist of Girl9999 is right here walking in this thread .. and let's hope he anonymously tells his own side of the Kasala

Earthstorms:


Go for treatment immediately to protect yourself against HIV infection and take pills to prevent pregnancy. Then report the incident to the police even if you don't want to press charges now.

What happened to you is exactly what happened to my friend and she got infected with hiv from the encounter.

Be strong, it is not the end of the world.

Try and confront the guy while trying to get evidence of the rape. You can chat him up on whatsapp and ask him why he had sex with you without your consent after drugging you.

Have documentary evidence of what happened, it will come in handy if you intend to press charges in the future.

Donspicey:
You no be virgin.......


You sex starved the guyy.....


His John Thomas sufferret violence.....


U both got high and he took it as he pleased now u re here telling the whole world that you had sex last night.....


My Advice:No kill your self ooo.....

Gosh how insensitive