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Re: I Disowned My Mother by AFONJACOW(m): 6:43pm On Mar 05, 2021

If you know what is good for you, leave the two mermaid to settle their scores , in physical world they are sworn enemies but In spiritual world they are planing to drink your blood like beer ... Be warned

Re: I Disowned My Mother by grammarnazi12: 6:44pm On Mar 05, 2021

MISSCONGENIALITY:
LOL. Just tell me say you want run comot from our darling shithole before. Everyone can't think alike even where you are running to. The are stupid People everywhere and sometimes situations make people stupid. The guy might not be stupid ordinarily but if he grew up seeing his mother as a perfect human, there's nothing a mother will do that he won't look for excuses to justify the act.
His reasoning truely appauling as you said. He expects the man to treat his mother better with such statement she made about his wife who's going through the pains of losing a child after a whole nige months and labour pains. It's really bad coming from a woman.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Cryptomillion: 7:11pm On Mar 05, 2021

You have no excuse

Re: I Disowned My Mother by sajmark(m): 7:14pm On Mar 05, 2021

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

YOU'RE JUST A SIMP, NO WOMAN WILL EVER LOVE YOU LIKE YOUR MOM DOES.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by dollytino4real(f): 7:19pm On Mar 05, 2021

SporaD8:
Where is her regret? Abeg stop justifying evil.
A witch cried at night(she didn't support their union), the baby died the next morning. Who will still doubt the witch culpability?
Her fetish actually got the wrong target - the innocent baby in this case.

ur own view

Re: I Disowned My Mother by kwasoly(m): 7:28pm On Mar 05, 2021

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

You are a Big Fool, did you sit her down at least to know why she hates your wife and your here telling us u disowned the woman that suffered for u.
You get luck say you no dey near me, I swear you for regret this statement.
Nonsense

Re: I Disowned My Mother by NoToPile: 7:52pm On Mar 05, 2021

xavuv:
Yes, if it's a fact our mother said those sad words, i will support his decision. With her words, she has suceeded in dissolving the tiny fabric that held the family together. She lacks empathy.

The mother from all indications has always been a troublesome woman, even advising OP not to marry from his Father's tribe. Is that not the same tribe she herself married from? I wonder how she's been treating OP's father.

Now let's twist it a little: if your mother prefered you to die instead of your own 2day old baby, would you still be sentimental in reasoning?

The bolded is what most of the mothers supporters can't answer.

Or if it was her own daughter that the baby died, would she have wished it was the daughter that died instead?

If the OP knows what is good for him he should run far and keep his wife away from his mother, she can kill the wife.

This one is not normal mother/ daughter in law clash this is far morlre than that.

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by GodisFirst: 7:53pm On Mar 05, 2021

'Two wrongs they say never makes a right'
Your mum has her problem and that is not a reason why your younger brother had to add fuel to the fire.
You are in the position to know the details why you mum behaved the way she did, though very wrong. However, not a reason to disown your mother because it will never be a solution to the problems. Just ignore what she said and live your life like nothing happened, don't let your wife know about it. If there are issues with your wife and your mum, try resolve it amicably and reconcile them.
May the soul of the innocent baby RIP.
Good luck

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Misterone: 8:02pm On Mar 05, 2021

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

this is what we call being pussy blind. you did wrong. you took side. you went too far in disowning your mother because of your wife.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Shormiey(m): 8:19pm On Mar 05, 2021

id4sho:

I was invited to a baby dedication, when I got there the baby was sleeping, I have to leave since the celebrant is not serious....very disrespectful.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by MufasaLion: 8:36pm On Mar 05, 2021

Righteousness2:
Some Mothers can be unnecessarily Stubborn and hard hearted..
Some Could be so annoying and Wicked in their attitude.
Some could even be involved in Witchcraft!
Nevertheless, as long as she is the one that carried you 9 months, she is your mother.
Do not Disown her!
What u can do for her is to Pray for her Salvation.
Also be Prayerful and Watchful!

I Decree the Healing Hands of GOD on your wife.
I Decree affliction will not rise up the Second time in the Name of JESUS..... Amen

He should not disown her?. So he should keep nursing her ego by being a good son?. Damn!

Re: I Disowned My Mother by alexola20(m): 9:10pm On Mar 05, 2021*

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by malcom1X: 9:14pm On Mar 05, 2021

Francis609:
She hates my wife because she is from the same tribe as my dad. She wanted me to marry a lady from her tribe.

she also thinks she is ugly and will give birth to ugly kids.

Lolz, she is ugly na, you don go marry Yoruba woman hahahahaha.

She doesn't like your wife, she saw this before now that your child will die, and you didn't see it.

Talking about disowning your own mother. Lolz kids of nowadays.

Another miscarriage is coming up. Fly wey no dey hear word....

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by alexola20(m): 9:14pm On Mar 05, 2021*

Re: I Disowned My Mother by malcom1X: 9:17pm On Mar 05, 2021

alexola20:
It doesn't matter what reason. Wishing someone else's daughter death because you don't like them is EVIL.

That mother is utterly WICKED.

@op if you can,do away with her.She doesn't mean well for you.
What a mother.!

Awon iya osi.

Who were you expecting her to stand with, the wife or her grandchild?

Re: I Disowned My Mother by alexola20(m): 9:18pm On Mar 05, 2021*

Bra,maybe mine wicked pass yours,I can't say.

If she doesn't wish you well,you can also cease to call her your mother.

Francis609:
Thank you all so much for your advice.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by malcom1X: 9:22pm On Mar 05, 2021

xavuv:
Yes, if it's a fact our mother said those sad words, i will support his decision. With her words, she has suceeded in dissolving the tiny fabric that held the family together. She lacks empathy.

The mother from all indications has always been a troublesome woman, even advising OP not to marry from his Father's tribe. Is that not the same tribe she herself married from? I wonder how she's been treating OP's father.

Now let's twist it a little: if your mother prefered you to die instead of your own 2day old baby, would you still be sentimental in reasoning?

Have you wondered how that tribe has treated her as a woman to the extent that she swore her children will never marry from there?

Little kids reasoning sef.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by alexola20(m): 9:24pm On Mar 05, 2021*

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by malcom1X: 9:25pm On Mar 05, 2021

alexola20:
Many mothers are never happy with their Male sons most especially after they got married.
Reason?
Nothing.Just selfishness,greed and self centeredness.

OP if I were you,I wouldn't have called her but cut all communications with her.Dazall.

I have cut all communications with mine for about 3 years now and counting.No regret though.

Anyone that doesn't want one's happiness should be CUT OFF.

Cutting communication with your mum, guy you a biggest coward of all. I've never seen a coward such as you in my entire life. I would love to see you in person and congratulate you for your cowardice.

God should never give anyone on Nairaland a child such as you.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by phorget(m): 9:38pm On Mar 05, 2021

Acidosis:
Your point is that the woman who has in the past threatened to kill even her (own) son should be forgiven and pardoned because she's a woman and a mother?

If everyone reasons like una, no woman should be in prison.

Unfortunately I don't think the op mentioned in any part of his write-up that the mother threatened him in anyway so I wonder where you got that death threat from.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Chriskito09: 10:09pm On Mar 05, 2021

Grace001:
It’s very possible she knows about it, it’s nothing new that mother Inlaw don’t like their son’s wife
.
But wishing the wife( another woman’s daughter) dead speak volume about the mother in-law

Haba which kind mama be that.

To some shes the best in there world and she can do them no harm

Re: I Disowned My Mother by ImaIma1(f): 10:09pm On Mar 05, 2021

mutter:
First of all.. I am really sorry about you loss and the whole pain.

But do you actually realize that the real harm came from your brother!.
You ought to disown him if at all you want to disown anyone.
Your mother on receiving the news has two blows... One loosing her grandchild and two knowing the pain her son was in.
People can say allot of things in pain and shock!
I habe actually heard people say thebwishbitbwas their father that died when their mother died.
That was really very wrong of your brother.
I wonder how sorry he felt for you and how pained he was at your loss that he had the mind to tape that conversation and then go back to you to play it to you.
Was it right to confront you with that added pain?
It's obvious that your brother has no love lost for your mother!
It was very wrong of him.
When you confronted your mother on the phone what did you expect?
An apology? You know that parents aren't used to apologising and secondly her apology at that stage wouldn't have meant anything to you.
It was the will of God to take your child back home. The ways of God are not known to man.
In your pain it seems better to feel anger than hurt. I guess anger makes us feel the pain less.
But if your wife is aware of what happened she will only be hurting the more.
Please give yourself and your wife the time to heal and don't project your anger on a mother who lives you but said something stupid.
That your mother does not like your wife could have reasons..
Now you knew this all along but you omitted to correct that issue.
It is often the case that mothers are extremely jealous of loosing their sons to another woman.
May God give you the strength and wisdom to solve this issue

Not enough to wish her dead. If it were the wife that wished her MIL dead, I doubt you will make excuses for her.

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by ImaIma1(f): 10:14pm On Mar 05, 2021

aroundtheearth:
I'm sorry but none of that makes any sense. What you've done there is make the MIL out to be the victim when she isn't.

1. The brother was right to have recorded the mother because it would've been difficult for the OP to believe him without that proof. I reckon the OP is aware the mother didn't like his wife before this situation but he would've still had difficulty believing she would make such statement towards his wife, especially after losing her baby.

2. I doubt the brother set out to record the mother for any ill intention. He was probably pressing his phone at the time and for him to have gotten those words recorded meant the mother must've said them a couple of times beforehand /before he started recording.

3. He (the brother) was likely in shock himself at what he was hearing their mother say, hence the need for him to record her, kinda like, "Did she just say that?".

Idk why you're blaming the brother when he did absolutely nothing wrong. I bet if the mother had said she wanted to kill the wife, you would still blame the brother for recording her. The brother is not the problem here at all.

When I was a teenager I had an Italian neighbour who kept having miscarriages. The husband's mom would sometimes visit and I would see her embrace the wife and they would gist outside. I actually didn't know about the miscarriages until the wife told me. She ended up giving birth towards the end of that year. I'm just recalling this story because the MIL never showed any animosity towards the wife, ever, and because what any loving MIL should do in this situation or least upon hearing about the wife losing her baby, is to ask how she's doing and feeling, if she needs anything ― anything to console the woman ― not utter such hateful words. As a woman herself, she should've known better.

Yes, the mother should've apologized to OP. Idk why that's even up for debate. Her refusal to do so shows she isn't remorseful and that this was an intentional statement. It takes a hateful heart to wish someone dead, especially after such a traumatic experience. It's like kicking someone when they're down, which is no surprise because according to her own words, "she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend".

The Nigerian respect factor will come in here; parents cannot be wrong and cannot apologize to their children. That is what they will use to cover it up.

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by Acidosis(m): 10:19pm On Mar 05, 2021

phorget:
Unfortunately I don't think the op mentioned in any part of his write-up that the mother threatened him in anyway so I wonder where you got that death threat from.

His previous thread

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by ImaIma1(f): 10:26pm On Mar 05, 2021

dimugonabo:
Did your mother give her blessings to your marriage?

If no, then I'm sorry to say your marriage will not last.

Parent's blessings are very important in a marriage.

Very wrong. Especially when the parents reasons are selfish and baseless.

Re: I Disowned My Mother by spiceadole(f): 10:30pm On Mar 05, 2021

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

A son(man) disowning his mother.. the woman who suckled him .. because of a member of the gender that they insult every time with all sorts of derogatory and unprintable names on social media, especially this nairaland.

Wonders of our time.

This Op is SIMPly a SIMP!

Las Las,the future is FEMALE

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Yippeedaniel(m): 11:18pm On Mar 05, 2021

One ur bro f up and 2 ur mom got reasons.

Another episode of the ghetto soap operas

Re: I Disowned My Mother by vickydevoka(m): 11:19pm On Mar 05, 2021

Wahala be like Liverpool. E no de finish

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Sixfeetbelle: 12:07am On Mar 06, 2021

mutter:
First of all.. I am really sorry about you loss and the whole pain.

But do you actually realize that the real harm came from your brother!.
You ought to disown him if at all you want to disown anyone.
Your mother on receiving the news has two blows... One loosing her grandchild and two knowing the pain her son was in.
People can say allot of things in pain and shock!
I habe actually heard people say thebwishbitbwas their father that died when their mother died.
That was really very wrong of your brother.
I wonder how sorry he felt for you and how pained he was at your loss that he had the mind to tape that conversation and then go back to you to play it to you.
Was it right to confront you with that added pain?
It's obvious that your brother has no love lost for your mother!
It was very wrong of him.
When you confronted your mother on the phone what did you expect?
An apology? You know that parents aren't used to apologising and secondly her apology at that stage wouldn't have meant anything to you.
It was the will of God to take your child back home. The ways of God are not known to man.
In your pain it seems better to feel anger than hurt. I guess anger makes us feel the pain less.
But if your wife is aware of what happened she will only be hurting the more.
Please give yourself and your wife the time to heal and don't project your anger on a mother who lives you but said something stupid.
That your mother does not like your wife could have reasons..
Now you knew this all along but you omitted to correct that issue.
It is often the case that mothers are extremely jealous of loosing their sons to another woman.
May God give you the strength and wisdom to solve this issue

His own mother wished death on another person, and quite unapologetically too, and you're here sugar-coating it like it's nothing and blaming the brother instead?

Do you know the direction this situation would have gone peradventure if it was the wife that said it?

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by Sixfeetbelle: 12:10am On Mar 06, 2021

dollytino4real:
anger can make u say tins u will regret later

And why didn't she apologize for her words when she was confronted with it if she truly didn't mean it?

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Re: I Disowned My Mother by Sixfeetbelle: 12:11am On Mar 06, 2021

nuelyoyo:
Tell us why your mother hates your wife, give us the background story.

It doesn't matter why she hates her. Wishing someone death is extreme. Only an evil and hateful person can do that

Re: I Disowned My Mother by Sixfeetbelle: 12:12am On Mar 06, 2021

Danhoys:
Your mother has a reason for this inordinate hate toward your wife. Find out that reason, and you'll live long.

What a woman sees sitting down, you cannot see even if you climb the highest mountain.

Her only shortcoming was her bluntness, but that isn't where it should end. Find out why she hates your wife, as that will bring solace to you both.

Disowning her is like shooting yourself in the leg, she's still your mother, and very much irreplaceable no matter how gracious your stepmother is.

No woman will hate the the wife of their son without reason, except in rare cases where they have been acting "mother and son" in pornhub.

Peradventure it was the wife that gave that statement, would this have been your response to the Op?

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