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valirex:
That guy is a Legend

But for real even if you leave him the next one will still cheat only that you might find out after marriage and he is being honest.

Men will be men, we weren't built to belong to one, just like Lions

I hope you also shine your teeth when your girl tells you the same mtcheew.

Apreecauts:
I hope you also shine your teeth when your girl tells you the same mtcheew.

If you wan for go die, no dey disturb me with your obituary

valirex:
If you wan for go die, no dey disturb me with your obituary

When their brain has suddenly become empty, that's when they start spewing nonsense

Apreecauts:
When my brain has suddenly become empty, that's when I start spewing nonsense

You are right

This what you get when you depend on a boy for everything, for someone to tell you this to your face, damn!!!. I know guys cheat but at least they hide it from that girl. Your man has a very big ego and no respect for you couldn't apologise rather gave you a reason why he did it, better walk away.

Some good fella should quickly post the wandering eyes of his excellency Ex presido Barry Obama with Ex presido Sarzcosy of france , both checking out a quality ass on a walkway. If you were there wives what would you do. Call off the relationship immediately, just asking? U are a lioness, learn how to tame ur Pride. The next man you will jump on might me worse than this current cobra of yours. Nevertheless follow the inner call of your heart.

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Hmmmm

You are free to leave the relationship... But know this. Man no dey out there oo.

Leave him, but if he no gree.

Make him miserable while you are at it.

Just leave!!

He might be violent because he thinks you are his property.

Men like him feed off power, so try not to give a Bleep about him

Oluromantic:
Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.

For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.


This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.

But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment.

You are a disgusting, patriarchal and illiterate fool. How dare you try to justify cheating? What a big fool. Men in this part of the world are not only shameless, but they expect women to accept their irrational shame.
OP and other ladies here, don't you ever in your lives condone cheating. You do not only invite evil spirits into your bodies, but also STDs. Don't listen to this bloody fool here telling you that a man will always cheat. They are rare, but there are good men out there who do NOT.

How can someone sit down and type this bullshit, and no moderator on here deleted it?

I have thought deeply about problems in relationships; and i have a possible solution. It is called having a "CONTRACT OF RELATIONSHIP" To know what a C.O.R is visit my thread
https://www.nairaland.com/6450268/contract-companionship

StacyO:
DUMP HIM.

Absolutely amazing depression is not far from you continue dumping-dumping at the end of the day you get the results


What the guy in question did not cool
If 95 percent cheat then the remaining 5 not fit
Because majority carry the vote




Call me to order
If I'm making sense
Thank you

Anderson76:
see below

I self see below. Na today

See sister ..If I talked 97% is the best thing.. people way older than me are seeking for my advice..

That nigga won't change ,but he is a straight forward man..he loves you truly,marry him cuz he is a straight forward man.. happy married life..send my own rice down to abj.

You are already cohabiting with him. Sorry, you are too cheap and lose. Again, he has told you point blank that he will still continue to cheat and you are here asking what to do.

Anderson76:
see below

U self see below. Na today.

If u sure play am with your last money

AdesewaAde:
He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

When we say the truth, you think you already know.

You have been doing "acting wife" even before you are married. You don't have the tiniest respect again from him.

If you want to cry and weep in your marriage, marry him.

Use your brain!

get him arrested if you are tired of the relationship. he has to sign never to disturb or threaten your life again.
I wish you goodluck Incase you want to continue the relationship

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Marry that man. That is a man. He's fucking hoes but wants to marry you. He even get mind tell you. You are the champion that's why they called you a witch. After the marriage, trust me, he'll be better for it.

The guy is probably the one feeding you and paying your bills, hence the "are you hungry?"

Almost all men cheat but this one matter get as he be. Am not sure u are 100% safe if u go ahead to settle down with him.

* He will someday raise his filthy hands to give u d beatings of your life and later apologize

* That kind of guy who sleeps around ain't far from giving u STD's even HIV/AIDS. (U don chop am be dat)

* Might get to a stage he will stop sleeping at home and care less about your well being.

He loves cheating naturally but him village people add oil join am.

What more can I say


Just run!!!!!

I advise you to end the relationship, on the basis of what you wrote here.
That's a community penis. Soon girlfriends will beat you, he will bring diseases home, you will not be settled- HBP is looking at you in the face. Leave now before you place yourself in bondage.

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

As much i admire the guy's honesty, he went too way over the top if he actually said those things the OP claimed. I would advise you leave him to his ways. His words were very immature and kinda appear unapologetic. I guess that's his own way of putting up a defence mechanism. Let him learn the hard way that u don't act in such manner when uv done wrong! Shalom

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

babe don't allow these evening news papers on nairaland to push you on the wrong direction. From what you posted up there I can note that the guy truly loves you and ready not to let you go, stick to him and love him more with these he may change. Others chics out there do envy you that's why they referred you as a witch, most time they approach your guy and other stuff to make sure they break up your relationship, I am a guy I know how ladies of these days behaves they have been waiting for you to step out of that guy so they can occupy the space, and never you let that happen. Moreover you leave the guy the truth is you may not find any other guy who doesn't cheat, we guys do flex no matter how holy or pretend we are.

If you genuinely love him don't let him go

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

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I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Listen attentively; yeild to this advice:
Pack your "kaya" and end that ridiculous relationship before you lose your sanity and become a highly jealous, vindictive and ridiculous woman.

Just move on to another man ASAP!