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The devil � you know is better than the angel you don't know

If you love him go ahead nobody is Saint Louis

First of all, sorry for the heartbreak...

My advice for you is to end the relationship and move on with your life...

Using this sentence "ALL MEN CHEAT" is something that I hate so much... And most guys use that as an excuse to hurt the lady they claim to love... Is it wrong to be committed in a relationship? Is it wrong to love just one guy/lady? Is it wrong to respect your woman same she respects you in a relationship? The answers to all this is NO!

As a lady that is committed/faithful in a relationship, you deserve someone who is committed/faithful just like you and not someone who is unfaithful and still see nothing wrong in it...

We still have men out there that are faithful �..

You will definitely meet one along the way... But make sure you don't have sex (fornicate) with them along the way!

RUN Lady... RUN FAR FROM HIM!!!

Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Leave that guy alone else the tears u have shed will ve nothing compared to that wch u will shed wen married. He will have more justification, " u have children, u re tired, u re looking after the home and not yourself" etc .worse still he can infect you and nothing will happen.

Never too late to walk away, wen u do report to the police and get a restraining order, i do hope u re enlightened.
You dont need to be rich,just be able to take care of your bills and try not to act like a wife to any man till he has paid your bride price"e get why"

U re dealing with a man that sees cheating as his right, he is egoistic and controlling with no remorse...dangerous combination that doesn't mind killing u to make sure noone else gets you.

Forget watever he does for you, vacation, his parents, money ,charm,,,long term they wont save you .

All the best girl,....

You better use your head my dear sister, I can't advice you though but please think twice...

Make your story no go end just like Folakemi and Ojo previous post.

Oluwa a wa pelu e

Oluromantic:
Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.

For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.


This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.

But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment.

You made no sense,everything you typed is thrash,imagine the manipulation you want to instill into her brains

JidennaJason:
The handwriting was bodly written on the wall before you agreed to date him, but you neglected every sign because you were blinded by lust and swallowed up by your own fantasies.

Lemme tell you the truth AdesewaAde, 97.3% of Nigerian men are prolific cheaters including myself, but few are remorseful about their actions... Your boyfriend is not one of them that shows remorse.


I will therefore advise you to LEAVE the relationship at this stage for your own sanity. Don't even think of sitting down an unremorseful and unrepentant cheat to discuss anything cos dude is not ready to change and he's already acting too possessive.


Take care of yourself.

So a chronic cheat like you has the nerves to insult me yesterday, wasted sperm.

dairykidd:
I know its hard especially if ur the loyal type but just forgive and forget pls.. even when we meet that one woman that completes us it takes God's grace not to wander once in a while... He's been caught now u have the upper hand. Forgive this time but let him know u will not take it again if ever he cheats on u. No man be 100%. The next guy could be worse off..

Meaning you are a cheat as well and sees nothing wrong with it

-It’s boys that cheat. Real men marry as many wives as they fancy and stick with them.

-Girl, maybe you should give him a second but last chance salon.

-Like someone said up there, men no dey market now oo; thanks to Buharinomics and Covid-19. And I see no positives for Nigeria in the near future. Some single, miserable girls would come her and be shouting: DUMP HIM! They just want you to join them in their misery. Remember misery loves company.

-My heart bled earlier today when I saw that 36 years old blogger who recently passed away, and was buried in her father’s compound.

-Things are tough, just manage the young man you have but keep him in your prayers and involve his family too! But it must be on last chance salon basis.

Nairaland guys and stupid takes everywhere, would you accept a girl who does that?

Babe flee for your dear life if you dont want a future full of regrets, there are many better guys out there waiting for you. Just make sure that you work hard and build something for yourself, when you depend on anybody, you leave yourself open to anything your eye see.

For the threats, as others have said, record your calls with him and get a lawyer to help you report him and get a restraining order.

100% of the guys saying you should take him back will never take back a babe that cheated on them with only 1 guy sef.

There are some stupid people on this forum sha, imagine the silly excuses

AdesewaAde

Firstly, don’t listen to those who said 90% of men cheat because that’s a very big lie likewise with the opposite sex. We still have very good men and women and everyone deserves to be happy.
Marriages without 100% loyalty are usually unhappy ones especially for the children, and you don’t want your kids asking you why you didn’t walk away..? You don’t want to cry yourself to bed every night...do you? The fear of contacting HIV and others? The fear that one nonsense girl is busy sleeping with your husband while you are cooking for him? He might even get them pregnant!

Depression is real, and this could make you depressed and might lead to mental illness.
Yaba is filled with mostly women whose husbands cheated on them, you can go do your research yourself.

Now, not all men cheat. You can actually enjoy a marriage where you can check your husband’s phone without fear, he comes home straight to you, loves you like Christ loves the church, charming, cute, loves only you and never admires other ladies. You can have this type of man if you go straight to the CREATOR!!! God created everyone, so He knows who would give you this happiness and you are not just trusting the man, but trusting that God will give you a man who won’t cheat on you! Trust me, seek God first and you’d be happy you didn’t marry this cheat.

If a mad man takes away ur towel while bathing and you rush out from the bathroom naked chasing him on the street. What are both of you?

SpicyMimi:
AdesewaAde

Firstly, don’t listen to those who said 90% of men cheat because that’s a very big lie likewise with the opposite sex. We still have very good men and women and everyone deserves to be happy.
Marriages without 100% loyalty are usually unhappy ones especially for the children, and you don’t want your kids asking you why you didn’t walk away..? You don’t want to cry yourself to bed every night...do you? The fear of contacting HIV and others? The fear that one nonsense girl is busy sleeping with your husband while you are cooking for him? He might even get them pregnant!

Depression is real, and this could make you depressed and might lead to mental illness.
Yaba is filled with mostly women whose husbands cheated on them, you can go do your research yourself.

Now, not all men cheat. You can actually enjoy a marriage where you can check your husband’s phone without fear, he comes home straight to you, loves you like Christ loves the church, charming, cute, loves on you and never admire other ladies. You can have this type of man if you go straight to the CREATOR!!! God created everyone, so He knows who would give you this happiness and you are not just trusting the man, but trusting that God will give you a man who won’t cheat on you! Trust me, seek God first and you’d be happy you didn’t marry this cheat.

-How old is your marriage?

Get a lawyer and write a petition to the police stating threat to your life. Try to record his threat so as to have evidence against him. He doesn't love you. He's just pained because you are the one dumping him and not the other way round.

My dear, he loves you, his only challenges is the women around him.

Basically, there are 3 things most men are know for; A man will Either be addicted to smoke, drink or women. And it so happens yours fall under the women wahala.

The only way you can help him is by the following;
1. Pray for him and be patient.
2. Seize giving him money i.e if you're the rare type that gives to her guy, but i know you don't give him anything instead you're the parasite in this case. So you can only pray he doesn't get money anymore to spend on other girls or have the resources to have access to other girls.

3. You can also decide to let him spend his youthful age so that when he marries you., there'll be nothing new for him to do rather than focusing his attention on his family.

The truth is that, for a man to give you access to his belongings both material wise and otherwise, it shows he values you.

So aunty, my advice is for you be calm and pick any of those 3 options i gave u

I'm a man and I would tell you Woman RUN! for your life and for your health! Don't get trapped in this thing called love that would block your eyes to see the pictures already. I mean must be ment! Get a restraining order and move on. That man will only bring tears to you in the later run. Pele

The guy is a cheat and will forever be a cheat according to your story but he is far better than those who will pretend and act hypocritically until you marry them...I'm not trying to defend his action but even that next guy you think is honest might be a worse cheat... ''My candid advise pls be independent and secondary marriage is not a must'' take these two things to the bank.and you will never regret.

Zzor:
So a chronic cheat like you has the nerves to insult me yesterday, wasted sperm.I will always quote you at my own will get that into your skull

-Ouch! That’s too harsh, especially coming from a lady. Have you thought of settling your issues with him over a dinner date on a weekend?

Apreecauts:
[/b]Lol, immediately I finished reading OP's story, I already knew how the comment section would be. To anyone here trying to defend the fiance even in the slightest bit, shame on you. If it were to be a girl telling her bf "all girls cheat so you just have to deal with it", I'm very sure everyone single person here would rain insults and curses on her but because it's a guy, everyone wants to turn a blind eye smh. Anyways, I'm not even surprised, why would they condemn him, when they all act in the same manner[b].

To the OP, my advice for you is to record any threatening messages or words he says to you and take it to the police now, rather than waiting for him to fulfill his threats. You also have to call off the engagement, though it would be painful. Please do not listen to what his parents have to tell you, there might be some people who don't mind being with a cheating husband but if you know you're not one of them, please leave him unless you want to have an unhappy marriage. Have you even considered that fact that to contact any STDs he might have.

Well, that's the advice I have to to give you, take it if you like.

Thats why I don't pity these alfa males when they come online to wail about women cheating and paternity fraud

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Nne, the truth is that all alpha males cheat.
Who are alpha males,?
Alpha males=Good looking, intelligent, rich, talented, strong, etc.
Like playboys, musicians, dancers, artists, doctors military men, poets, lawyers etc.
One good thing with Men cheating is that men don't attach emotions to sex.
But women do.
Our feelings dies immediately after achieving orgasm.
Alpha males are desired as a good mate by the opposite sex despite the psychological issues that comes with the relationship.
My advice : move on with the relationship.
It will reduce gradually as he ages.
Men that doesn't cheat : poor men, ugly men, less confident men, religious men, sexually ddisciplined men etc.
And I am sure, most hot ladies are not attracted to these kind of men
Also remember to use your mouth � and juicy pussy to milk off his semen so as to reduce his sex drive when he is outside the house.
Good luck.

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

If you want peace of mind , leave that guy ASAP cause for him to be justifying his action shows he is not ready to change. The risk involve is far more than the benefits, and thank God you have not yet married. There are good men, pray to God for one. Life is beautiful!

I wish you all the best .

Dumb him
Immediately

I don't know whether men always think it's right to cheat on your gf/wife,but if it's the lady that cheat, nothing could talk them out of chasing the lady even me I can't tolerate a cheating partner never
My boss do this to his wife also,it is clearly obvious that he love his wife Soo much, infact I haven't seen a loving couple like them b4 he never made a mistake of calling his wife "babe"Never!but he cheat soo much, whenever his wife did not come to shop eeeh,coman see different type of girls e reach some point wey I dey pity the wife sef,it's just too obvious that he cheat and his wife is the nicest wife I've seen so far.
If I count right,he have like 4 sidechicks and the wife recently gave birth to beautiful twins oo making 4 kids they will be having together.making me wondering whether the wife knows he cheat
And it's too obvious that he love his wife oo,his wife might faint if she try to check his phone one day

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Ugly clout chasers. Fiction. Kudos it made FP.

Are u satisfied now?

I don't know whether men always think it's right to cheat on your gf/wife,but if it's the lady that cheat, nothing could talk them out of chasing the lady even me I can't tolerate a cheating partner never
My boss do this to his wife also,it is clearly obvious that he love his wife Soo much, infact I haven't seen a loving couple like them b4 he never made a mistake of calling his wife "babe"Never!but he cheat soo much, whenever his wife did not come to shop eeeh,coman see different type of girls e reach some point wey I dey pity the wife sef,it's just too obvious that he cheat and his wife is the nicest wife I've seen so far.
If I count right,he have like 4 sidechicks and the wife recently gave birth to beautiful twins oo making 4 kids they will be having together.making me wondering whether the wife knows he cheat
And it's too obvious that he love his wife oo,his wife might faint if she try to check his phone one day.

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Please don't mind all those guys supporting him, even if he wants to cheat its too early, if u finally marry him u might not have peace of mind and might even lead to high blood pressure. So please dear run for ur life this is some1 u will live the rest of ur life with.

I don't know whether men always think it's right to cheat on your gf/wife,but if it's the lady that cheat, nothing could talk them out of chasing the lady even me I can't tolerate a cheating partner never
My boss do this to his wife also,it is clearly obvious that he love his wife Soo much, infact I haven't seen a loving couple like them b4 he never made a mistake of calling his wife "babe"Never!but he cheat soo much, whenever his wife did not come to shop eeeh,coman see different type of girls e reach some point wey I dey pity the wife sef,it's just too obvious that he cheat and his wife is the nicest wife I've seen so far.
If I count right,he have like 4 sidechicks and the wife recently gave birth to beautiful twins oo making 4 kids they will be having together.making me wondering whether the wife knows he cheat
And it's too obvious that he love his wife oo,his wife might faint if she try to check his phone one day

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AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Sometimes I do wonder how children of today think and reason. You are cohabiting and committing fornication with a man, a man who has not paid your dowry. And you are here asking for advice. The wages of sin is death, and that will not change.

My advice is for you and not the man because you are not married to him. You need to first repent of your sin and weywardness. It is not about your partner but you. Learn to always do things right not minding the consequences. Don't let covetousness and gullibility alter the plan of God for your life. Come out from the web of sin and unrighteousness. Do not trade your future for mundane.