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Rule number one: "Cheat but don't be caught"

@AdesewaAde You are dealing with not just a cheat but a narcissistic one. This one is capable of harming you if you leave him( yes don't take his words lightly) and if you stay he is capable of draining you emotionally.


He even tells his numerous girlfriends about you, oh wow, when you become his wife, they will call you when they can't reach him to ask of his whereabout , he will even bring them to your matrimonial bed, that is certain.

There are cheats and there are cheats,this your financee is the latter, he can never change so you will have to decide if that is the kind of person you want to be around and raise your kid around because I tell you ,such trait is hereditary. If his mother can say that maybe you should look at his father closely ,the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Just so you know ,your fiancee is that type of man that will impregnate the maid, sleep with any female relative of yours you bring to live with you.


If you do decide to leave , make him sign an undertaking. Yes I don't see what he said as an empty threat. People like him don't make empty treats.

Oluromantic:
Lol. Nothing better is expected from an NL lady


If this one sees ur guy, she will grab him aand shower him with love and she's advicing you to...not even separate peacefully but dump. A decision you may regret later

Pls op be properly guided

And how do you handle an unrepentant and repugnant cheat, if not to dump him?

Quit the name calling and stick to your opinion. There is such a thing as "public opinion", and we're all entitle to one.

I wonder if you'd tell your daughter all those things you typed in your earlier submission.

when people say almost all men cheat, I begin to question my own manliness, cos I have never cheated. Damn! I feel cheated.

PrettyBunny:
I'm reading so many disgusting replies but I would rather not comment on them..

Cheating is not a shortcoming of anyone and should never be accepted in a relationship. It's not a mistake and neither is it part of ups and downs of any relationship.

Any man that believes every man must, should be castrated. Only a man that lacks priority in life and has no intention of treating any woman right, believes every man must cheat. It's a disgusting way of life.

I am sure you know that this man isn't your rightful partner. Whatever truly belongs you won't embarrass you.

My advise? End every pending relationship with him, take your time and heal up. Then look for what truly belongs to you. This current man is a dirty scumbag and shouldn't taint your beautiful life.

I wish you good luck in all your endeavors.

You can't find someone that doesn't cheat except by chance.

HellVictorinho:
You can't find someone that doesn't cheat except by chance.

Not this type ,this one that threatens and tells his numerous girlfriends about his fiancee to the extent they call her "his witch". He even feels entitled to cheat and possessive of her at the same time.


This kind of guy can kill her if she leaves him.


And by the way, it is better to take that chance ,this particular guy is not a cheat but a he goat. These are those kind of men that will impregnate house help,if you bring your sister to live with you ,they will sleep with them too.

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

You can't find someone that doesn't cheat except by chance.
But if you want to leave,do it after planning.
In other words,ensure that you are going to a place that is better than where you are now.
If it's not better,you will still want to go elsewhere.
You have to settle or/and be settled.

Am not wicked ooo...nobody is perfect

Hassanmaye:
Haha wickedness

Wittyduchess:
Not this type ,this one that threatens and tells his numerous girlfriends about his fiancee to the extent they call her "his witch". The even feels entitled to cheat and possessive of her at the same time.


This kind of guy can kill her if she leaves him.


And by the way, it is better to take that chance ,this particular guy is not a cheat but a he goat. These are those kind of men that will impregnate house help,if you bring your sister to live with you ,they will sleep with them too.

Then she has to plan her movement.
If she doesn't have plans for a better place, she will never be settled.

It's in their DNA...all men are cheat. Know this and have peace!

HellVictorinho:
Then she has to plan her movement.
If she doesn't have plans for a better place, she will never be settled.

That guys is borderline psychopath. When you hear "man sets lover ablaze" ,"man kills lover " na them be this .


She should relocate if possible and change all her numbers ,block him on other social media.

julietene:
It's in their DNA...all men are cheat. Know this and have peace!

But do all men threaten and bully women to stay and put up with their cheating?. You sound like his mother " the enabler".

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

See if even his mom said all guys cheat then obviously hes ben raised that its normal/acceptable n probably wont change.
If u can accept it n go on marry him n live life wondering where he is n who hes with everytimr hes out then marry him. But if u cant deal with the same stress n hurt u endured wen u went thru the phone n found him out then quit while u can. He has no choice but to accept it.

chinonyinye:
Somebody that has told her that he will always cheat. It's suprising that no one is slamming the man compared to if it was a woman. Op, the only thing i will tell you is to go ahead if you're not afraid of STDs, him having children outside or him bringing the women home or even threat afterall he has justified his cheating and isnt remorseful. As for those advising her to stay, can you take a cheating partner or advise your sister to stay in such a r/ship? Afterall, whats good for the gander is good for the goose.

Yh.... It's not right how everyone is not slamming the man for his uncouth and juvenile actions.. Most of them won't take it if it was done to there sisters, family members, etc.

Op, just jejely leave that Man before he infects you with something you'll spend the rest of your life treating.

The guy is a TOUT sis,he's told u already he will cheat,you want to strap yourself with that type of man for the rest of your life
DO NOT MAKE THAT MISTAKE..
With his audacity,he will bring them to ur matrimonial bed and still say he doesn't PLACE THEM ABOVE YOU,he feels telling them about u makes it alright,10 girls at once??RUN SIS,RUNNNNNNN!!

Godoverevery:
The issue is you at the guy mercy...... I will advise you to quit.


This is what happens when a lady depends on a man too much... Imagine him asking are you hungry.....am I not doing this and that for you.

Never depend on a man.....be financially independent to avoid a man telling you all that.

That's why I always preach women should Complete their school, get a job or start a trade in order to avoid such unwarranted disgrace!!

If you are a lady and you are reading this, your worth is beyond your barmuda triangle! Go out there and get something doing or else you'll end up been treated like Dog shit by men who will never see value in you.

valirex:
That guy is a Legend

But for real even if you leave him the next one will still cheat only that you might find out after marriage and he is being honest.

Men will be men, we weren't built to belong to one, just like Lions

But he wasnt honest. Not til he had no choice as she saw his ph

Kriss216:



I like this your boyfriend oo.


If actually you know what it takes to ask a Nigerian girl out


Your boyfriend suppose win Time's Man of the Year.

Speak for yourself. There is nothing special in asking a woman out. Its only a big deal to people like you. Ironically you will call other people SIMP meanwhile see the simping on display here.

Oluromantic:
Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.

For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.


This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.

But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment.

All this long grammar. Its simple really. She can choose to either stay or not to stay.

Kriss216:



I like this your boyfriend oo.


If actually you know what it takes to ask a Nigerian girl out


Your boyfriend suppose win Time's Man of the Year.

Lolz..

The most important thing, the guy really lover her...Maybe he will tone down after the marriage or when he gets back to his senses...Or responsibility of training kids sets in.

Apreecauts:
Lol, immediately I finished reading OP's story, I already knew how the comment section would be. To anyone here trying to defend the fiance even in the slightest bit, shame on you. If it were to be a girl telling her bf "all girls cheat so you just have to deal with it", I'm very sure everyone single person here would rain insults and curses on her but because it's a guy, everyone wants to turn a blind eye smh. Anyways, I'm not even surprised, why would they condemn him, when they all act in the same manner.

To the OP, my advice for you is to record any threatening messages or words he says to you and take it to the police now, rather than waiting for him to fulfill his threats. You also have to call off the engagement, though it would be painful. Please do not listen to what his parents have to tell you, there might be some people who don't mind being with a cheating husband but if you know you're not one of them, please leave him unless you want to have an unhappy marriage. Have you even considered that fact that you are likely to contact any STDs he might have.

Well, that's the advice I have to give you, take it if you like.

babe not all men support his actions. what he did was juvenile and disgraceful!! Saying that 95% of men enjoy cheating is a bug fat lie spread by people without purpose and priorities.. I really feel sad for the lady because it is obvious from the post that she depends on him for food, etc.

She should man up and leave that Man before he gives her a life time disease !!!!

#NotallMenareHEGOATS

99thEnemy:
Na OP boyfriend need the thunder oh! no be me

btw


These days that the new trend is setting boyfriend or girlfriend Ablaze.

OP, you should always check and make sure that there is no Jerrycan of Petrol close by..

You should also stop using gas. Abacha stove (charcoal) is the best alternative to use for cooking





OP this advice is as a result of my Philia love for you.

Men the way things are going in marriages, I don't think I'm ready o, after all the happiness they show us on wedding days all of a sudden life partners become enemies Nawawo

He is a cheat, a serial one for that matter... unremorseful,proud of his silly actions enough to tell you he's not gonna ever stop,then gave you a consolation prize of "he's not going to place any of them above you" you guys ain't married,yet he is quite possessive......I don't know how all these negative qualities can be sandwiched in a man who wants marriage, marriage isn't a must and certainly not meant for everyone, the only advice for you is to leave via all routes/means possible,but if you can endure your marriage then go ahead with the union......

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

African man like fela....

New generation african women want a man that will kneel before them to propose and later after marriage, man act like nollywood mumu washing plates and taking turns to babysit their baby.
And any small argument, lady will scream get out of my house and throw the man out and file for divorce.....

You fvking africans imitating a foreign culture.....he Is a man.....if u cant stay then get out and look for an african white boy that will kneel before u and u can take turns to babysit your baby and you can manipulate into marriage and divorce.

What am I even saying self, I know I'm saying what nobody want to say but everybody want to hear

But hear the truth babe, leave that guy and find another guy that will cheat on you more carefully while the guy finds a younger and more beautiful girl to continue with

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Why are you “confused”?

He’s told he will ALWAYS cheat...
It’s up to you to accept it or not.
>

Cheating in itself isn't the main issue here, truth is most guys cheat. But the fact that he's not remorseful about his actions despite catching him red-handed? Please, leave the relationship for the sake of your future. He'll do worse when you get married (if you eventually end up with him).

You better package and start positioning yourself to get another boyfriend. That man will cause you untold heartbreak and pains in marriage.

Let me tell you, not all Nigerian men cheat. In short a high number of married men don't cheat just that they don't make noise or brag about it. Only the cheats go around shouting "All men cheat".

Also with that kind of boldness, you haven't even seen the worst of that your fiance.

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

djon78:
At the bolded was one reason I jettisoned anything that will make me cheat on my madam

Some women totally commit with there whole heart and believe in you
Cheating on them is terrible

A woman that has genuinely given you herself and shunned others.

That many women are turning into bad eggs is caused by guys

But karma has a way of paying back
They always get there own payback somehow

Exactly. I dont think ppl(male or female) realise how much hurt cheating can cause wen u love someone n put into them all ur hopes n dreams aswell as ur heart.

[quote author=AdesewaAde post=99711904]I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys.
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This is a red light!!! An addiction to cheating....he is a player pure and simple. You may not enjoy that marriage. he is only placing you above them because he may have chosen you to be his wife. Once he marries you.. his worries are over and you will be seen as his subject who doesn't have any right to challenge him on whatever he does. Then he will place the girls above you.

Beware!!!

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AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Both some men are plain bad. Imagine the boldness. I just pity his wife.

BestAccessories:
AdesewaAde, you have a BIG problem not a problem.

He his a cheat, he his proud to be one and his mother actually supported his son to be a cheat, your present predicament is too large to carry.

If he actually asked you, what's your problem with him been a cheat and he will not allowed you leave him for someone's else, walahi your present predicament is even worse than anticipated.

The time to start a conversation is now. Not after you finally commit to a lifetime journey with him by getting married to him.

If he doesn't care about his own health safety, he shouldn't jeopardize yours by bringing STDs outside to your doorstep because he his not content or satisfied with what he currently have with you.

Except he his a Muslim and permitted to have more than a wife if he has capacity to take care of them.

Getting married to him, means you will not be the only one and should be ready to have other women share your man and matrimonial bed with you.

You get yourself into this mess and only you probably know how to get yourself out if this mess.

If you're my sister or friend, I will never allow you proceed with this relationship/courtship with him but you're not and you should know what's best for you.

He will not stop cheating, at least he has make that known to you now and his mother also approved of his son to be wayward with women which only means she didn't really think you're good enough for his son.

If his mother thinks you're good enough for him, she will never ever support his child waywardness towards you except you too are wayward but left that part out of your story.

If he cheats and happy to be wayward while dating you,it only means you're not good enough for him. He his indeed obsessed with you at the moment or doesn't want his ego crashed or see you as his personal property when he said he will not allowed you be with someone else except him.

You need to make a stand,fight your battle and make your feelings known.

He his is Public Property (PLC) who want a Private Property (LTD). Except he his ready to change and you're ready to delay any engagement or marriage rite until you're truly satisfied that he his actually a changed man, you're getting into a lifetime challenge you can't win because you already know what is on the table and you have choice now.

It's either you make use of your choice now or get yourself into a lifetime of regrets with him.

The choice and decision is in your hand to make. Please make good use of your power now or live a life of regret later in life.

Ciao

He his is Public Property (PLC) who want a Private Property (LTD).