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columbus007:
Which kind talk be that,feeling butterfly in your stomach? Does it now mean that you guys have fcvked?

No

StacyO:
Please read through.


I'm actually in my early twenties,not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.


I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause,I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but,I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.
The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it,I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.


I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end,we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.

So even you dey fall in love with man

Nazgul:
Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

I didn't really like him from the onset but,you know as you get to speak and spend time with someone,you might start getting attached to them.

The problem is that he is already way into the whole fairytale but,I'm not.

He might not want an end to this which I do. Worst off,I've tried before and it didn't work out.

I seriously dont want to continue leading him on since I don't like him at all.


Very mature input anyway,thank you.

SILENTandSMART2:
Can you please summarize everything for me


It is too long

Seriously?






Go back to kindergarten.

HellVictorinho:
You want to break up with someone that has induced butterflies in your stomach.
What does that statement mean
Are you confused??
Well, I don't think you should be in a relationship with someone that doesn't have plans for you and him.
There should be benefits for both of you.
Ultimately,you have to consider what you need/want because that's what matters.

Butterflies in my tommy.
like catching feelings small small.


No,I'm not confused. I know the kind of man I need.


Yes,you're right. I should focus on whats important.

Yusufisraelj:
Well OP it depends on what you want in a partner, does he meet your criteria for a man? Even though the event was arranged, it's not a bad idea, but of importance is what do you want in a partner, the minimum criteria that without it you would not consider that union.

Equally making a lifetime decision based on a soft spot for him is not enough, marriage involves an unprecedented level of commitment, bkos feelings will go away.

Cautiously examine your intentions also about your investor, are you feeling guilty of breaking off bkos you will lose the investment coming from him, if that's having a place in your decision making, then it's high time you call yourself into order, bkos time will reveal your true commitment. You should be able to disagree personally and do business professionally.

But of core importance are you putting God ahead of your plans, and can you carry your parents along with that decision?

[color=TEAN] Equally making a lifetime decision based on a soft spot for him is not enough, marriage involves an unprecedented level of commitment, bkos feelings will go away[/color]




#fact

Chriskito09:
So even you dey fall in love with man

It takes time


Besides,I'm not in love with the guy. It's just infatuation.

StacyO:
It takes time



Besides,I'm not in love with the guy. It's just infatuation.

Women una mata weak me.u dont love the man then wat are u doing with him and the both of would have had sex multiple times abi.sister na only u sabi wetin u dey do with the man,I don comot my hand for una matter

It doesn't matter whether someone arranged the relationship or not.

Don't waste your time and his own time.

StacyO:
Seriously?






Go back to kindergarten.

Hmmmm on top wetin , summarize or lemme alone

Truvel:
4 Ur Now, Na Wetin I Want Abi?

Yes nah

Oya wetin you want ?

StacyO you better see me as soon as possible lets iron things out....

I believe you know why.....

SILENTandSMART2:
Yes nah

Oya wetin you want ?

U No Hear When I Say Contract? E Get To Do With Money Na.

StacyO:
Please read through.


I'm actually in my early twenties,not that I'm too old for marriage anyway...................

This your story reminds me of one of my cousins.

When she was in her early twenties, she was so fine. Guys were showering her with love and attention. We advised her to marry, she said she wanted to enjoy her life. Fast-foward to now, several years after. Her amazing beauty has faded, she has gained weight, she is an age or two away from Thirty.

Now she has joined us full-time to look for who will marry her. Fickle world

PS: Marriage is a life time commitment, if you don’t think he is the one for you. Just be plain about it but have it at the back of your mind, an opportunity you allow to slip through your hand may never be recovered.

Harddiskng:
This your story reminds me of one of my cousins.

When she was in her early twenties, she was so fine. Guys were showering her with love and attention. We advised her to marry, she said she wanted to enjoy her life. Fast-foward to now, several years after. Her amazing beauty has faded, she has gained weight, she is an age or two away from Thirty.

Now she has joined us full-time to look for who will marry her. Fickle world

PS: Marriage is a life time commitment, if you don’t think he is the one for you. Just be plain about it but have it at the back of your mind, an opportunity you allow to slip through your hand may never be recovered.

You get bad mouth.



Please oooooo
I don't want to make mistakes cause I'm afraid of being an evening newspaper


When that time comes,I would've been married with a kid or two.

Donspicey:
StacyO you better see me as soon as possible lets iron things out....


I believe you know why.....

Not really.


Why please?

evil1:
It doesn't matter whether someone arranged the relationship or not.

Don't waste your time and his own time.

You grab.

Chriskito09:
Women una mata weak me.u dont love the man then wat are u doing with him and the both of would have had sex multiple times abi.sister na only u sabi wetin u dey do with the man,I don comot my hand for una matter

A virgin.



Thanks for your input anyway and you might consider reading my writeup again.

StacyO:
Not really.

Why please?

Not everything can be said online....

It's a very serious issue dear...

StacyO:
A virgin.



Thanks for your input anyway and you might consider reading my writeup again.

No go smell wetin u know go chop

Nazgul:
Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

How did you know the relationship is promising? Can your colleague arrange a lady for you to date without your consent?

You be thieve sha, las las. karma is a bitch o, u neva liked him and u accepted to date me. for benefitial reasons.

StacyO:
Please read through.


I'm actually in my early twenties,not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.


I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause,I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but,I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.
The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it,I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.


I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end,we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.






Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly,I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but,I'm sure with time,he'll move on.


PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

You ve done the right thing. You ve defined the relationship, It's now left for him to stop deceiving himself or continue dating himself

StacyO:
Please read through.


I'm actually in my early twenties,not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.


I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause,I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but,I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.
The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it,I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.


I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end,we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.






Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly,I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but,I'm sure with time,he'll move on.


PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Na Which Guilt Won Finish U? Abi U Chop D Guy?

StacyO:
You get bad mouth.

Please oooooo
I don't want to make mistakes cause I'm afraid of being an evening newspaper

When that time comes,I would've been married to a handsome loving man with a beautiful kid or two.

Amen

Funny thing is you'd miss him if you break up with him. You'd get jealous when you see him with another girl for sure.

After break up you're going back to being single, that's for sure.

How does one enter into a relationship without her consent?


I mean... how did an introductory meeting become a relationship that you need to break away from?

This one is relationship by denial.
Deny it until belle enter.

You have butterflies in your stomach and you want to break up??

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

So in short, you want to eat your cake, still have that very same cake and put that very same cake in the microwave........


NO WAY......... SELECT ONLY ONE........

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Has he fvcked u yet?