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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Csami(m): 10:05pm On Mar 09, 2021
Come let's cheat on him jor! He will leave by force
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Firstorderwizard(m): 10:05pm On Mar 09, 2021
Another prospective Shiloh candidate

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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Draslo(m): 10:06pm On Mar 09, 2021
Xenry:
After chopping and cleaning mouth, you wan zoom commot? By the way, Which kain butterfly be that?
I swear she dey whine us. She don dey get butterflies and to women these days that means she don dey chop some money. She come dey form I no wan chop him money. Just imagine! grin baba fit even don shine her congo this one she's saying he's attached, I no understand. If na me, I no go give am shingbain contract. Make everything spoil.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by bizhop01: 10:10pm On Mar 09, 2021
Carry your cross
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by jaxxy(m): 10:12pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.


From the bolded I’m trying to either reconcile or perhaps under what u mean by butterflies in ur belle.

How does a guy u don’t like give u butterflies in ur belly? Or are u confused

Now to the contract, if Ure not getting the contract on merit then that is ur condition for getting an unmerited contract. It may have come with terms and conditions.

As for me if the conditions are against my core principles it has to go. It’s Non negotiable.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Cti28(m): 10:12pm On Mar 09, 2021
Remove those butterflies in your belly - that is the way to go about it.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by shadeyinka(m): 10:13pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Most young ladies do not know what they want in a man. They will reject the man who loves them for the one who treat them like trash. Your problem is your age. You think that you are still young and have the time to find a "prince charming"!

Wake up to reality, life isn't like that o!

Sit down and count the cost.
1. Is this man responsible?
2. Is he trustworthy?
3. Is he dependable?
4. Is he cultured?
5. Is he independent?
6. Is he hard working?
7. Is he gentle?
8. Is he of good report?
9. Is he respected by others?
10. Is he God-fearing
11. Does he love you?

Don't throw out these for butterflies in the stomach, tall and dark in complexion, six packs and MacLean smiles.

Marriage is more than these. Your true peace is what you should crave for!
Do you know what you really want in a husband?
Thanks

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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Penguin2: 10:14pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Madam, calm down until the end of the contract.

Don't be irrational.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by doxijaw: 10:15pm On Mar 09, 2021
If he was totally useless you won't need any advice.

You're gaining something you ain't ready to part with.

Also (butterflies) and (i don't like him) under the same story.

I smell mago mago on your part grin.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Mar 09, 2021
One has to go, but knowing women with their love for money you go marry monkey before you lose out on cool cash

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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by bignero: 10:15pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Correct me if am wrong...

These butterflies in the tummy.. Isnt that what wr all want?.. If their butterflies in your tummy.. What else is the issue?.. Please am confused.. Butterflies means great vibes.. Abi not?
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Mar 09, 2021
grin Madam Chop Clean Mouth lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Leave English for English pipo dem !
Butterfly ko Butterflies Ni ? undecided undecided undecided
Don't worry em go use em Dickson comot those Butterflies from your tummy grin grin grin

Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Charx122: 10:18pm On Mar 09, 2021
Xenry:
What if he's your future hubby, your final Bus stop? Abi you wan turn to evening newspaper? tongue
Abeg calm down, what exactly is the problem, is he ugly or poor? Or abi you wan big D*ck?

Is it that most Nigerian ladies don't even have an atom of common sense...Are you sure you not using you future husband for boy friend because ..you want to scatter you pussy before you settle down ....Fyi men that are looking for wife are few..Men that want finish your destiny plenty ..So my advise is to dump him ASAP ...Don't be up set when someone else has taken you place .all these happens like a flick of your fingers..

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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Machinegun91(m): 10:22pm On Mar 09, 2021
o dear Lord in heaven, send anything, I mean anything that will connect me with any girl that resemble this kind of girl away from my life. God Am your son and Am ready to serve you without committing murder of any type at all. This girl in particular is evil and heartless, in fact she's a skillful deceiver and betrayal feelings and emotions. As the matter of fact she's the most wicked girl of the year. Father I also prayed for all my fellow God fearing Nairaland members not to come close or across this kind of Jezebel girl in Nigeria. I prayed in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of Holy SPIRIT. AMEN

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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Len234: 10:23pm On Mar 09, 2021
I think Stacy didnt like the guy previously and now she is having some feelings. The problem with Stacy is dat she is not ready to settle and the much older guy obviously may be having thought sof settling with her. There is no answer to this dilemma. The best thing for Stacy is to follow her heart. But every action taken must have its consequences.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by DavidTariq96(m): 10:26pm On Mar 09, 2021
Jeon:


Think over what you want and why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision
Think about what you'll say and how the other person might react
Have good intentions
Be honest
Say it in person
If it helps, confide in someone you trust.
If u like no follow this advice, later on una go go marry that boy because e get pink lips and he's handsome, kon dey disturb person ears for yard with cry due to beating from husband undecided


Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Eriokanmi: 10:26pm On Mar 09, 2021
Xenry:
After chopping and cleaning mouth, you wan zoom commot? By the way, Which kain butterfly be that?
...but she said she welcomes comments from mature minds. This your comment get 'k' leg oo
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StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by espn(m): 10:31pm On Mar 09, 2021
Imagine stupid talk...greedy as fk...
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by LastProphet: 10:31pm On Mar 09, 2021
Nazgul:
Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

Don't advise her leave her, she's very lucky is not someone like me that full the world others her name would have been evening newspaper. Leave her let her serve fuckboys for some more years. How I wish the morooon of a guy can see this post and man up and terminate the yeye courtship
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by TimmyTen(m): 10:31pm On Mar 09, 2021
In the long run you will realize the contract can not replace spending the rest of your life with som1 you don’t love.... I’d suggest you make the uncle see reasons with you since the union is not tied to the contract. He should understand if he has pure intentions to help

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Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by LandMann: 10:35pm On Mar 09, 2021
In my early twenties..

Hoeing phase proper... She wants to hop around before she deceives one SIMP into wifying her when she is around 30..

Good luck aunty. I'm sure it will end in premium tears
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Splitmind: 10:35pm On Mar 09, 2021
Are you a mumu, how will someone draw up a contract without your knowledge and you just accept it like that?

Don't you have a family at all?

If you don't want to marry him then don't marry, they can't force you to do it.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Rawhumper(m): 10:36pm On Mar 09, 2021
In this your case, love is not by force.

Your happiness mstters in any relationship you be in so i support you quit the relationship if you truly dont love or have feelings for him.

How you go about it, tell him that you dont really want to hurt him by pretending to love him and later break his heart suddenly.

Take your stand, he will soon get over it.

I understand your plight....just keep cool. It will all be sorted out.










StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Germi9: 10:37pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.
igbos
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by thesolutions(m): 10:39pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.
concerned about him? Yes. You can't break up with him.
Love doesn't give butterflies but raises your level of concerns about someone.

If you are not ready for marriage, it is is because you are not ready to make a life long commitment to the relationship.
Which ever, you fsil
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by Splitmind: 10:39pm On Mar 09, 2021
Wittyglam:
I have a well detailed video on this, check it out and thank me later.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y41O1SVyybc

No need for all this long talk just say you don't want to be in a relationship anymore and if pressed explain why.

Playing all these silly games and being indirect is why men get so angry with women for wasting their time.

Honestly the previous generation really failed us because basic human communication has become so difficult for some people.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by emmnprince(m): 10:40pm On Mar 09, 2021
The issue now is that I have no advice for you!

Just do what your mind tells you to do even though you offend those wey you dey fear to offend. After all we no come this life to dey please people because they help us with something at the expense of our peace and happiness.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by ekerintee: 10:45pm On Mar 09, 2021
I will advice you to Tell the Guy to hold on a while,that you are Not yet ready for a
Strong relationshipp and you can still be Friends.Friends with nothing attached ,dont buy me Gift .And you self ,dont ASK for Gift or Accept Gift .IT amazes me when Girls dont Like a Guy and keep accepting Gift .Or going Out with the Guy and raising the Guys Hope .its good you seperate Business from your marital Life .so that in Future ,you dont hear the Guy saying He Made you WHO you are or my Uncle Made you .If the Guy No fit wait or Accept your terms.make u na seperate ,No Strings attached,do what is right ,dont feel Bad for doing the right Thing






StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by dalass(f): 10:46pm On Mar 09, 2021
Nazgul:
Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

Exactly.... She resents the manner of the arranged relationship

A lot of such works better than most "Lori iro ' You're the butterflies in my belly" something" Love at first sight relationships
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by AfroKnight: 10:47pm On Mar 09, 2021
The truth is the contract you want to get is tied to that relationship. Lol. That’s bad. Will you continue to pretend just so you can get the business you want? Or will you risk losing business by being honest with yourself?
Re: How Do I End This Relationship?? by AwesomeStormy00(m): 10:47pm On Mar 09, 2021
StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.


You don't want to chop his money?? Must every relationship focus on the girl chopping his money ni? Just being curious ni o. You don't like bros but butterflies in your stomach isn't that contradicting your statement you already know what you want. Follow your heart

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