Dating or marrying sb out of pity is like eating stones because you feel you'll become a chief cornerstone.

Stephenmoka4:
Sometimes having a close male friend or best guy friend is a red flag to some guys.

CC StacyO

You're always posting shit. Forming holier than thou

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

the person way get head no get cap, person way get cap no get head life can never get balance even on a beam balance no good guy again na ritualist full street ooooooo

[size=8pt][/size] You just have to let him know. Coz time is running and let him know you mean it

This babe way nor pure. You just want to chew the guy jingles and off the green light.. Anyway put your number 6 to work before you take any decision.. You are old enough to do things.

StacyO:


You all type out of context though.

Is that how you lead people on?


Relationships isn't about saying yes all the time.
Sometimes,you have to make decisions that'ld be beneficial to both parties.

That I choose to open the young man's eyes doesnt necessarily mean I won't find a husband or I'm deceiving myself.

It means I love him and I dont want him to fall into false love.
A relationship where only one invest so much both emotionally and otherwise, is sure going to end in premium tears.

Most people don't know that true love is a CHOICE and not an EMOTION!

Usually, people think they know what a successful marriage relationship is expected to look like until they get married and discover for themselves that they are stuck with the shadows that shouldn't have been their's!

Whatever you can physically see is temporal, things not seen abide forever!

Some beautiful people actually don't deserve us. It is highly noble to release them to go away on-time that they might not be stuck to horridness at our expense

Nazgul:
Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

You are a real erring couples' mediator, you really and systematically put it to her as fit unlike those putting salt on the op sour.You seem to be a relationship counselor and if you are not then you'll be good at it if you give it a trial.

Well I found this video on-line is about a woman who burnt her school certificate because of a poor decisions she took in her Early 20's[url][/url]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jXMNJQG6jII

Xenry:
After chopping and cleaning mouth, you wan zoom commot? By the way, Which kain butterfly be that?

after she don chop monkey peppersoup nkwobi and isi ewu is that wat u call butterflies

nonsense and ingredient.

ShackWes:
Anything for attention sha

When will you all keep your shît together and save us all these foolish stories

There's life outside NL abeg, just get a life

Hypocrite of the highest order...pot calling kettle black.

You register this moniker this year and we are still in early period of the year yet you've used almost three days and here you are bashing and telling people that life still exist outside here... what a systematic way of shaming oneself

StacyO:


His personality and aura

Then, you have no option than to let go, a forced relationship is a disaster pending.

Even those that truly love themselves still go through hard times, not to talk of forced lovers.

Tactically let go, by withdrawing yourself from him gradually, its better that way.

Best of luck.

Selfish and self centred person ,you are standing at the middle because of the contract the guy uncle gave to your company.It doesn't take you anything to say you are not interested,your fear is losing the contract at hand.If you tell them you cant date him that's not the end of the world,why saying yes and no at the same time.

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

No lady under 35 must comment on this post

We want to hear raw truth from experience

StacyO:
Please read through.



The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

You also need to be realistic to yourself. You technically ageed to go into the relationship because you dont want to loose the contract.

Bear it in mind also that your client's returns on the contract awarded to you is that relationship you are into. Quit the relationship, the contract is gone. Its a function of each other .There is no way he will not tell his brother.

If you really dont want to loose the contract, since you've let him know you are not really into him.. just be very casual in the relationship till the end of the contract duration (provided its a short term contract).You dont need to formally end it when you still have the contract going.

After the contract period... ending a relationship is not a problem for ladies, you people are experts on that. And if you have fallen in love by then... ..just carry go..and continue. The Lord is your Shepherd.

StacyO:


**As for me if the conditions are against my core principles it has to go. It’s Non negotiable**




You get.



PS: Butterflies doesn't mean anything,they're just feelings that go away with time.

Even married couples feelings can go away if they don’t work at it. So to me that’s not much of an issue bt u don’t think the feelings are real or mutual enough from ur end? Do u feel ambushed, caged or forced into the relationship? Then that’s not good.

Do what’s right and best for “U” not Smtn u will have too many or certain regrets over ur decision. Money isn’t everything and other contracts can still come. That’s how i see it.

Nigerians can be very stupid , reading through this thread you can see everyone pressuring the OP into enduring a relationship or calling her terrible names cos she chose to remain single rather than date who she has no feelings for .. OP no mind the clowns on this thread , politely do your job and still let the guy know your stand and understand that you are not interested for any relationship yet, let him no he isn’t the reason but for now you just want to focus on yourself , tell him to give you time and to remain focused on the job at hand.. if he still remains stubborn, then strain him along and do the job, once the job is done , dump his sorry stubborn ass..

Catfishing:
You're always posting shit. Forming holier than thou

Nothing holy about the post, anyways shit post attract shit response.

Stacy,
I don't if I will say that you are confused or still acting your age.
Let me be frank to you. I hate match making.
Most times, it fail to work out at the end and by then, you may have gone far.
By then, you will start blaming the Match Maker.
Please, chose ur partner by urself.

You said u don't like the guy and also said u are feeling butterfly inside ur stomach.
How possible can this be?
You said you don't want to make the match maker feel bad.
So the sacrifice for that is mortgaging your married life.
You want to keep the contract at the expense of ur future happiness?
I beliv you have all the solutions u needed in ur palms.
Use them wisely or regret it in future.
Don't marry out of sympathy.

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

You still don't get it? You were given the contract so you would date him.
You either drop him and lose the contract, or date him and keep the contract.
And you asking him not to tell his uncle that you've broken up with him, shows desperation, selfishness, weakness and wickedness on your part.
You're dumping him because you don't want him, allow them terminate your contract if they want to. So, they can seek another lady (who may likely end up marrying their brother) that they would give the contract to.

That's my opinion.

femi4:
You ve done the right thing. You ve defined the relationship, It's now left for him to stop deceiving himself or continue dating himself

I honestly do not think Stacy is telling the whole story here. Its really not about how they "bethroded" the guy to her. I think Stacy felt after getting to know the guy well, his personality became an issue. So many things must have happened whilst knowing him, be it material, emotional (the small small butterflies) and maybe physical that is making difficult to let go. Trust me the problem in this case is the personality of the guy, if it were to be physical, Stacy wouldn't have started the relationship regardless of the contract involved with the guy's uncle.

Solution to Stacy: The best advice is to clarify the situation with the guy and let him know your stand "finally". Don't be afraid of losing the contract with his uncle because that seem to be the Hercules heel here. Continue to source for other clients out there and God will crown your hard work.

Cheers!!!

Why are you blaming someone for a relationship you dived in?

Them point you gun to date the guy?

You carry yourself enter abeg.

lagusboyyy:
Then, you have no option than to let go, a forced relationship is a disaster pending.

Even those that truly love themselves still go through hard times, not to talk of forced lovers.

Tactically let go, by withdrawing yourself from him gradually, its better that way.

Best of luck.

I didn't even see this Stacy's comment before my post earlier to deduce that the problem here is about personality.

Kingluqman:
Pitifully tell him you are HIV (God forbid) positive and you wouldn’t want him to contract it.



He will run oo

That's a very lame excuse.
Go and Google "Sero discordant" couples.
What If he goes about stigmatizing her for something she is not?

Wittyglam:
I have a well detailed video on this, check it out and thank me later.

This is the MOST USELESS thing I have watched today.

StacyO:
Please read through.

I'm actually in my early twenties, not that I'm too old for marriage anyway. One of my top clients who I'm trying to polish out a business with, went ahead to arrange a mini impromptu by fire by force relationship for me and his brother.

Like bethrothing someone to someone else without their full consent.

It was a men's arrangement cause, I was surprised how they all came to that agreement.

I tried breaking up with him the first time and he told his brothers about it. Guilt almost finished me cause, I was blamed for the excuse I brought up. His uncle who is in charge of the contract brought us back together again.

The main issue now is that I want to break up with the guy once and for all but, I don't want to hurt him and I still have to save the contract at hand.

The guy is very much attached to me already and I won't fake it, I'm equally beginning to feel butterflies in my stomach.

I want to go about it in a very simple way. So that at the end, we all go our separate ways happy.

Any idea is highly welcomed. Serious and mature minds please.

Thank you.


Modified:: I told him my own part of the story and my reasons of not wanting to be in a relationship with him.
I'm not ready for any relationship now and I dont like him. Most importantly, I dont want to chop his money while deceiving him.

He is still not accepting reality but, I'm sure with time, he'll move on.

PS: His uncle isn't aware of this yet and I begged him not to tell anyone.

One probability of life is that, it never gives us what we want. You don't like the guy and wants a break up.

Talk one on one with him and cut off the ties but definitely, don't expect your contract to go on smooth sail.


You are young and that's your confidence. Note that a time will come when you will need a man and the man will not need you. That's life for you.

Your decisions, your consequences

StacyO:


Doesn't mean anything.


I can feel butterflies(crush) for any guy.

Issokay! Continue.

Politely tell him you are interested in him and the relationship. There's no spark or chemistry between you two to make the union grow.

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I didn't really like him from the onset but,you know as you get to speak and spend time with someone,you might start getting attached to them.

The problem is that he is already way into the whole fairytale but,I'm not.

He might not want an end to this which I do. Worst off,I've tried before and it didn't work out.

I seriously dont want to continue leading him on since I don't like him at all.


Hmm.
you didn't like him at all....yet in another statement, you're already feeling a butterfly in the stomach. It's like you said you're still in early twenties, wait till you're in your thirties and you'll learn the hard way.

Dear Poster,
firstly, saying you are twenties doesn't justify your reason that you cant marry, you are old enough to get marry, please don't make mistake those in their thirties made when they were twenties an today they cant find a better man to marry, if you take you time to commit yourself in this relationship you will surely fall in love, this man you said is rich and an take care of you, though i don't know if he is handsome to your taste but my advise for you is, don't ignore a caring heart so that you wont regret it later in future, if becos you are twenties and you still want to explore that is why you don't want to accept him, my sister you are deceiving your self ,it will surely come back to you.

I wish you all the best in your decision.

iamdapsyj:


I didn't even see this Stacy's comment before my post earlier to deduce that the problem here is about personality.

There are some individuals like that, no matter how good looking, nice and great they are, people might not really like their personality.

And there are some awful folks, that are still likeable, i think its natural.

ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv



My dear I stand with you in this..
Do your wish..
I wonder when all this little boys would learn coz he is not a man.. How on earth would you try to force someone to be with you... It beats my imagination..
Personally, I have up to 5 different girlfriends and they are into me like Mad..not the other way round..
I shake my head in disgust when people ain't got self respect, class , self worth and esteem..
Such a pity .
Op .. Do away with that dummy weakling..

lol, i stop reading when i got to where she said she is in are early twenties. girls in this age bracket struggles with great confusion...dey only attached to looks and pocket and dey hate simps with passion.
the guy is simping toooo much while she's still waiting for prince charming.;