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TheLordIsGr8:
Inukwa....

Shebi u say u open the door and you saw mount Ararat on top of mount Sinai. Na busted oyibo dey call am na. Abi I no get am?

TheLordIsGr8:
Good. But two things.
1. Don't put all your hope into everything called *school*. Imagine now that JAMB hasn't released cut-off mark. So you're JAMBITES are flying blind. No clear aim. In my time (first POST-UME), it was 200 to qualify, and 100 to gain admission. That way you know what you're aiming for. But now? hmmmmm. Like the Qoheleth will say, "time and chance happeneth to them all"

2. As you're there with your mom, re-align your consciousness of why you're there. Don't just go there as a way to pass time. Have it in mind that some day you may want to do that business. You can take it a step further than what your mom presently is doing.

3. If you don't see yourself doing that, search your soul well and see if there's any handiwork you can learn.

Thank me years later.

Celestinhoo:
My dear.pls keep him off if he want u and sex.let him come nd see ur family for marriage.so he wil enjoy him self as he want

TheLordIsGr8:
You're welcome.

I see you mentioned that you're waiting for admission.

My dear, while you wait for admission, look for a handiwork you can learn. Hairdressing, Tailoring...whatever. They're not beneath you. A lot of these people employ graduates. Nigeria now no be where you go dey sidon for house dey wait for anything.

But you quick wake up sha. Already up and on NL at 7am. Hmmmm.
Dat right pinsure un ur dp, its like you took it after you busted your guy.....

TheLordIsGr8:
You're welcome.

I see you mentioned that you're waiting for admission.

My dear, while you wait for admission, look for a handiwork you can learn. Hairdressing, Tailoring...whatever. They're not beneath you. A lot of these people employ graduates. Nigeria now no be where you go dey sidon for house dey wait for anything.

But you quick wake up sha. Already up and on NL at 7am. Hmmmm.
Dat right pinsure un ur dp, its like you took it after you busted your guy.....

michaelbelgium:
at the age of 19?...i was the best in Waec,post-ume, and had very good focus on my career. now, the cash don dey...ladies dey trip.....preccy or whatever your name is...you should be thinking of how to effect positive change in the world, make your parents and country proud through hardwork academically. you are still a small girl....get yourself busy with God and shun unnecessary associations that would dent your future goals and prospects....my advice

MrBrownJay1:
Hey, just as it is impossible to confirm that a man is virgin, is the same way an intact hymen is the ONLY way to confirm a lady is a "virgin".... So they can have as much anal sex as they desire, and they will technically still be Virgins.

It is a well used technique in Arab countries

TheLordIsGr8:
Well, well, well. I think you've heard it all. But I'd like to do a quick summary in case you were feeling bamboozled with the barrage of advice you got here

1. Its not all about s**
2. Expect to be heartbroken a lot if you wish to be in a s**less relationship in this day and age
3. The guy lied to you. How dare he? But my dear, welcome to the real world. This is not Hollywood or Mills and Boons. Betrayal is part of everyday life. You just have to learn how to manage it. You hear me? Manage, not eliminate.
4. Your heart is still tender. You made a point about taking an oath. Hmmmm. If you try it, I will send mountain of fire brigade to your house. What were you thinking? The guy backed out in the end. So that should have been instructive enough for you.
5. There are good men. The problem you're gonna face in life is this: When you meet a man who genuinely wants to keep you till you're ready, you may complain that he's not "romantic". Well, I must tell you, if you want a man who is romantic, then, I wonder where you think being romantic will lead. You don't just get romantic just for the sake of it. One thing often leads to another.
6. Have faith in life. Yeah, as someone said, God's children still walk the earth.
7. Face your future. You're a hot cake now. Sample 10 years time. God forbid you have no education. Your own don be be that.

Stevengerd:
Good. Are Yo In Skul?

kennykendo:
Preccy the thing is this, you have been together for 1yr And 6months, yeah?
1. You told him no sex till after marriage... he didn't ask for it because he felt you might turn him down which some men find it painful because it hurts their ego. And he didn't ask you for it again because he thought you might think he's into you for sex.

2. To be frank not every man is a celibate, I am not that's the truth. If his libido is active and number one has occurred, he might look for someone to help him out.. Even in women too, when the guys want to celibate and the women can't take it, they look outside. It is everywhere.

3. If you want a no sex before marriage thing, then you need to be single till you want to settle down. It is hard to find a guy now, even if you do, along the line he might ask for it.

Generally speaking, any girl that tells her man no sex till marriage, is risking him to do this elsewhere, unless the dude is really going to hold on.


The joy of virginity especially for a lady with a good and pure heart is to give it to someone she loves and someone who loves her too.. You shouldn't because of this bow to pressure.

I believe sex is something that comes from within for both man and woman. It has to be something deep that they believe yes we need to. it mustn't be one sided.....

my advice though....open to criticism

Stevengerd:
There's No Biggie, Bt Is Seeing U As Sumone He Can Use And Dump. Pls Never Toy With Oath

pocohantas:
These are the same guys that claim Nigerian ladies offer nothing but sex, see them fighting for the sex.
The same guys littering NL with pictures of fish, depicting UNIPORT girls vagina.
The same guys that claim every Nigerian girl has had an abortion.
Same guys calling non-virgins second hand.

OP, don't drop your standards for any nigga.
There are guys out there that will love you for you,as long as you don't blackmail him with your 'virginity'. It shouldn't be all about your virginity, be a virtuous one first.

The advise they give here about sex,they'll never give it to their sisters. You're 19, how many more guys will you date, how many more will you have sex with? Jmoore, abeg come put mouth.

A guy that loves you will stay, sex or no sex.

marvin902:
you harsh

marvin902:
you harsh

Stevengerd:
When He Eventually Cal U Soon Ehn! Pm Me. Even The Age Diff. Btw The Two Of U Sef, I Dnt Buy It

Stevengerd:
He's Gonna Cal U Soon. Jez Look Toward That Day. Even The Gal Giving Him Sex, Am Sure He's Gonna Hit And Run When Its Time

Stevengerd:
He Wil Cum Begging. Mark My Words. Hez Only After The Material Benefit.

Stevengerd:
Move On. Dnt Let Im Sugar Coat Thing For U. I Knw He Wil Stil Cum Beggin. Na Wash Oh!

Stevengerd:
I Grab. Obviously He Has Someone He Loves. He Was Only Fooling You, & U that love has blinded was giving, and he was recieving. playing with ur heart

FvckShiT:
[color=#F535AA] Fûçking wait till marriage!? Fúçkíñg hilarious you are [/color]

Stevengerd:
Oops!!! Dat Means U Were The One In Love Den

Stevengerd:
Preccy Ur Are An Adult, Since U're Above 18. Move On With Ur Life, Dnt Let Any Man Stand As A Setback Towards Ur Future. The Reason Ur Bf Snitched On U, Was Because Of Sex. And U were'nt giving him. once a guy starts giving a gal material gift. there is a motive behind it. This is just an eye opener for u. Be smart dnt let the sweet words of men get u. just stay outta relationship for now, focus on ur studies.

marvin902:
buh seriously can I pm you

marvin902:
that moment your spirit just died with the word k

marvin902:
that moment your spirit just died with the word k

trilobite:
you are 19, haven't had sex?. believable...a bit.

you are 19, you will not have sex till you get married?. not believable. impossible.

Look, I have seen this a dozen times, and know how it ends. my advice:

Learn to earn respect from the opposite sex, stay grounded no matter what you hear or see and always maintain a good name. These should be your goals for now. Because when the serious man finally comes, these are the qualities that will make him take you seriously.

good luck with your choices.

CreamyMoltenLar:
Its not all about sex for guys, but we crave physical intimacy. Even if you don't want to have sex, you have to be physically intimate with him, because love and intimacy goes hand in hand for us. There are ways to be intimate without having sex. 19 years is too young in my opinion though, I think you should wait for a few years before entering another relationship.

marvin902:
not joking... like to apply for the position of Gm

marvin902:
for this girl mind I dey joke ..

Stevengerd:
gimme Me A Mention Else Where. Wanna Tel U Sumtin

marvin902:
abeg where the application form make I apply

Stevengerd:
Hian!! No Wonder He Cheated. How Wil An Individual Give U All Dis, U Sef No Wan Gbefun!!!