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A man’s sexuality is an integral part of who he is. When his sexuality is appreciated and satisfied, he feels genuinely loved and deeply satisfied. Lori Byerly

I wrote that a few years back in a series of posts about what men need from their wife. I had asked men following The Generous Husband to give me a peek into their world. Their words were so gracious and helpful. I thought I would reshare some of the recurring themes in their comments about sexuality. (The rest of the series is here ~ What Men Want)

♥ desire me sexually / please initiate s*x
♥ validate my sexuality as normal and good
♥ appreciate my sexuality and sexual ability
♥ be bold, be specific (we often miss those subtle hints)
♥ surprise me!
♥ flirt with me, dress up for me, be confident in your sexuality
♥ please don’t tease me and then not follow through
♥ when you need to say no, say no kindly
♥ please be willing to be creative in the bedroom (this was everything from “please don’t think I’m into p0** because I want to try something new,” to desiring creativity to deal with physical problems and limitations), for many men creativity is a normal, good part of sex, not a comment about dissatisfaction

Read through the list of sexual perspectives and think back to what your husband has asked for in the past. Plan a little something for this weekend.

How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! Song of Songs 1:16a NIV

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Prayer Prompt ♥ Ask God to show you how to affirm your husband’s masculinity and sexuality.

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To Love, Honor and Vacuum: When s*x Seems Like a Chore Great guest post from a man with gently crafted words.

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Encourage Your Spouse: Who is the ideal person to encourage your spouse? Hint: that would be you!
http://www.familyparliament.com/288/his-sexuality

By Bisi Adewale


1. Living with a man who has not paid your bride price or Married you.
2: Sending their nude pictures to guys in the name of Love.
3: Sharing all their secrets with a man they barely know.
4: Stealing their Parents money to finance a guy.
5: Giving their School fees to a guy to celebrate his birthday
6: Accepting to be a second wife because of so called love.
7: Wearing the engagement rings of men who doesn't even know their homes nor meet their parents or received their consent.
8: Fighting all their friends and family members who oppose their love affairs.
9: Giving your BRIDE PRIDE (virginity) to a man who has not paid your BRIDE PRICE.
10: Turning themselves to a Man's s*x toy and slave in the name of love.
11: Bathing naked with their Guys, who may secretly snap the picture and post it on the internet.
12: Turning themselves to a guy's cook.
13: Turning themselves to launderer washing clothes for guys they say they love.
14: Public show of romance with your boyfriend who is only deceiving you.
15: Abusing all other guys around because they feel they are already hooked.
16: Disobeying their parents for the sake of a man who their parents don't even know or accept
17: Disobeying God because of a guy. Some girls would say, I know it's wrong to have s*x with him before marriage, but I love him and don't want to lose him. It shows how cheap and stupid such a girl is to choose to please a man rather than God.
18: Giving a man s*x simply because he promised them marriage.
19: Leaving a Church because their pastors insist on Pre marital Training.
20: Continuing relationship with guys who kept on beating them in the name of love. One of them said,'' I know he is not a good guy, he is wicked but I love him''.
21: Going out with a guy who is criminally minded in the name of love.
How can you describe a decent girl who discovers that her guy is an armed robber but stays with him in the name of love? That is madness.
22: Stealing from the office to help a guy pay his bills. What a stupid thing to do for love!
23: Swearing to a blood oath with a guy in the name of love.
24: Fighting another girl in the house of a guy until they torn their blouse and skirt to shred as they fight dirty. Is the guy the only guy in the world?
25: Continuing a relationship with a guy you cannot trust is very foolish.
26: Continuing a relationship with a man you know has three other women in his life.
27: Going out with a single man who is dating married women is a very stupid thing you can do.
28: Going out with married men for love or money is foolish
29: You are 23, you are going out with 57 year old, pot belly, bald headed, married man. This is an error.
30: You know he does not love you, his mind is with someone else, but you continue the relationship, doing everything to win him, believing he will change his mind.
31: Going out with a man who abuses his mother, beat his sisters, terrorize every woman around him except you is foolish, whatever he is doing to women today he will do to you later.
32: Wearing engagement ring of a guy who is not faithful to you
33. Spending for a man who does not love you,just to win him.
34. Forsaking God because of a man.
36. Leaving campus to party with guys, missing classes in the name of love.
37. Crying and begging a man to marry them
38. Moving into the house of men who is not married to them,thinking that the man will love them in the process.
39. Telling everybody they are going out with a man,who had never spoken to them,just to win the man.
40. Becoming pregnant for a man,to tie him down.
41. Going diabolical to win a guy.
http://www.familyparliament.com/258/41-foolish-things-girls-do-in-the-name-of-love

8 WEBSITES YOU MUST VISIT DAILY
IN NIGERIA
If you want to be up-to-date or you want to be empowered or you want life to be easy for you,then there are some websites you must visit daily if you live in Nigeria or are you a Nigerian living abroad,or you just love the beautiful country call Nigeria?
Here I will mention eight important sites you must visit daily.
1) NAIRALAND.COM
Nairaland is the undisputed number one forum in Nigeria with more than 1.3 Million members. It has been there consistently since 2005. It can be seen as the melting point of Nigeria and Nigerians.If you are not visiting nairaland, you are definitely missing something. Visit it Now!!!!!

2) NAIJ.COM
Naij is Nigeria's number one news portal,Naij is ranked number 17 on Alexa in Nigeria,It is dynamic,has dynamic staff working 24/7 to update the site,naij.com has definitely made a point of how a news portal should be, if hot news from Nigeria that you can not find in regular newspapers and sites is what you want,then Naij.com is the place to visit everyday

3) FAMILYPARLIAMENT.COM
Familyparliament.com Forum is the best place to be if news,teachings,stories,discussions that affects the family is what you really want.
Though relatively new, Familyparliament.com has pride itself as Nigeria's best Family and relationship Forum,it is very good on the issues of love,romance,marriage,relationship,parenting,family health and other things that affects the Family.
If deep knowledge in family and relationship is what you want,I recommend you visit Familyparliament.com daily.

4) VANGUARDNGR.COM
Vanguardngr.com is Nigeria Leading sites among regular newspaper in Nigeria
It is ranked number 27 on alexa in Nigeria. Visit the site daily to get unbiased and balance news from Nigeria.

5) KONGA.COM
Konga is an Online Shopping Mall
It claim to be number one online shopping destination in Nigeria. I think they are. You can now Forget all the long queues, staying long hours in traffic and crowded malls as you can now buy just anything online and at the best price in Nigeria just for you to have the best shopping experience with the option of pay on delivery either by cash or with the use of your debit card. You can also make use of your KongaPay as a more convenient and secure payment method.
I advise you to visit Konga daily.

6)

Jobberman is Nigeria's No. 1 Job Website, keeping you in the loop on the latest jobs in Nigeria, recent vacancies and current Nigerian job recruitment opportunities. You can easily get a job you love on jobberman,so visit it daily.


7) MAMALETTE.COM
This is Nigeria number one website on Motherhood,Mamalette is Nigeria’s most inspiring community for mothers and mothers-to-be. Founder Anike Lawal, a mum herself, set up Mamalette in 2013 and today Mamalette has recorded over 300,000 unique readers and 1,500,000 page views. If you are a mother,your day is not complete until you visit Mamalette.

COMPLETESPORTSNIGERIA.COM
This site is own by Nigeria's Premier Sports paper.If current News about sports,transfer,result and sporting activities is what you want,completesportsnigeria is the best place
http://www.familyparliament.com/242/8-websites-you-must-visit-daily-in-nigeria

http://www.familyparliament.com/236/5-techniques-to-reduce-stress-and-enjoy-your-spouse
Stress is not only a difficult thing to deal with mentally, but it also has a lot of physical detriments.

Poor body image
Decreased libido
Increased blood pressure
Impacts fertility and menstrual cycle
Premature ejaculation
And more
When you let stress take over your life, you won’t have the opportunity to enjoy the many moments you have with your spouse and those closest to you.

You would be surprised at how elevated levels of stress affect you, your spouse and your children in negative ways.

Using the following 5 techniques below will help you to reduce the stress that may be overwhelming you and hindering you from fully enjoying your marriage.

5 Techniques to Reduce Stress and Enjoy Your Spouse

Diaphragmatic Breathing (Abdominal Breathing)

If you’ve ever heard someone give you the advice to “take a deep breath” it truly is a great way to reduce stress.

When the human body is under stress, its breathing pattern changes as a result of the flight-or-fight response.

What you need to do when you are hit with a stressful moment is to deliberately slow your breathing down, it will help you to manage your stress and any conditions that are making you feel stressed out.

In fact, breath control is used in many stress reducing exercises including prayer, yoga, and tai chi.

Tai Chi

Tai chi was actually originally developed as a method of self-defense but it has evolved into a peaceful form of exercise that many people use to reduce stress.

Many people often refer to tai chi as meditation in motion as if gives you the opportunity to relax your body, mind, and soul, through flowing movements that are gentle on the muscles and bones.

One at-home tai chi program that we have enjoyed is Tai Cheng. By far this is the easiest to follow and the neuro-reboot at the beginning helps to release any stress through a number of different movements.

When you are looking at tai chi there are many different styles that may emphasize different methods and principles. Check them out and go with the one that best fits your personality.

Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)

Progressive muscle relaxation pertains to tensing and tightening specific muscle groups that is followed by a relaxation phase that helps to release all of the tension.

Your medical practitioner will tense the muscle groups one at a time in a specific order. Generally they will start with the lower half of your body and finish with your face.

They will instruct you to either sit or lie down, whichever is more comfortable for you.

Massage

Visiting a massage therapist is a great way to get rid of stress in your mind and any stress that is put on different areas of your body from an injury or even by overworking yourself.

It is advised that you seek the assistance of a registered massage therapist as they will know all of the important muscles to pay attention to in order to give you a clear mind and a healthier attitude.

When seeking out a massage therapist make sure that you are clear in what your expectations are for the session.

Having been to many different massage therapists over the years we have had times where what we were expecting didn’t match what happened.

Acupuncture

This method to reduce stress pertains to an acupuncturist using delicate needles on the skin of your body at precise areas (this can be from your face to your feet) – the thin needles are inserted at various depths to allow an increased blood flow throughout your body.

We’ve done this many of times for many different ailments we have had as well as a way to decrease stress in our bodies.

This is by far the one that took the most time to go and try. To think you are going to have needles all over your body can be a bit intimidating.

After the initial fear of these needles we have both have benefited from the stress that was released during these sessions.

Release the stress that is holding you back in your marriage. It does you and your marriage no good.

Pick one of these to begin a journey of decreasing stress from your life. It’s worth it in the long run.

By Tony & Alisa

It was a warm fall afternoon and my wife had walked into our home for lunch. She wasn’t her normal self and I could tell that something was on her mind. We walked around each other as we prepared lunch.

As we sat down at our kitchen table she blurted out, “I’m frustrated with you, our marriage, and us. I’ve been looking through the yellow pages for a divorce lawyer.”

Whoa, I was taken aback. I had no idea that there was anything wrong with us. As I caught my breath and tears filled my eyes I wondered if I could save my marriage.

In your marriage there may have been a moment in time or a specific reason why the love you once had for your spouse deteriorated to the point where your spouse is now asking for a divorce. It could have been:

an emotional or physical affair
continued fighting and conflict
being separated due to work, ailing parents, or personal choice
mental or behavioral issues
pornography, alcohol, or drug abuse
You now find yourselves creeping to the edge of divorce when there is little to no:

emotional intimacy
spiritual connectedness
and physical/sexual intimacy
in your marriage any longer.

Developing great communication skills and rekindling your commitment to one another can help you overcome these issues in your marriage. Unfortunately, there may come a point where your spouse already has one foot out the door. When this is happening how can you save your marriage?

If your marriage is at this point you may be asking yourself, “what can I do?”

First you need to realize that, YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE.

When a crisis hits, you often find yourself backed into a corner, living in fear, with no options to consider. What can you do during this crisis when it involves your spouses feelings and decisions?

At no point should you belittle, threaten, ridicule, or manipulate your spouse into changing their mind. What you can do is decide on how you will react to the situation. You may not be able to control the situation or your spouse, but you do have control over your words and actions.

This is your opportunity to look at the person you see in the mirror and step up to the plate as you take personally accountable for your actions and feelings.

What can you do that will foster change in your marriage?

You have two choices at this moment when your spouse wants a divorce. You can choose to be angry as you wallow in self-pity or you can choose to love your spouse.

But, your spouse is thick headed, aloof, and unresponsive. That’s OK. You still can grow and be a bright light in the darkness during this time in your marriage. Begin to reminisce about when you first got together, how you meet, where you hung out together, and what you enjoyed doing.

Capture those days again.

Then begin to share the good times you have had together since your wedding day. The two of you have made many good memories along the way. By focusing on your behavior as well as your emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy you refocus on what is important in your marriage.

There will come a time when an open dialoge with your spouse will be available to both of you. It is during this time that the two of you discuss the possible divorce and all that comes with one.

Do you both realize the toll, both mentally and physically, a divorce entails? Does your spouse understand the financial, spiritual, physical, and emotional consequences?

A divorce brings CHANGE. This should not be taken lightly at any time. Is your spouse ready for this change?

Lastly, you should involve a third party mediator, counselor, therapist, or trusted church elder to help the two of you through this situation. Any one of these individuals can help put your situation into perspective and help shed light on deep rooted issues and/or concerns.

If the situation is truly serious then by all means, get help.

It has been 12 years since that day when Alisa mentioned divorce in our marriage. Everything you have read above has been implemented to save our marriage.

It all started when each of us took responsibility for our actions and took the first step to make a change.

http://www.familyparliament.com/237/how-to-save-my-marriage-when-my-spouse-wants-a-divorce

By Benjamin Hardy
Morning routines are all the buzz these days. Everyone has one, good or bad. Few people have considered a night routine. If you don’t have a night routine, you are missing out on the most rewarding and meaningful part of your day.

If you’re like most people, your nights are probably spent vegging out on social media, Netflix, drinking, and snacking.

Scientifically, these behaviors are not surprising. According to psychologist Roy Baumeister, we all have a limited amount of willpower we can expend each day—mental energy is depleted by every decision we have to make, whether small or large. Baumeister calls this decision fatigue.

So, by the end of our day, we’ve made countless decisions and exhausted our willpower. Is it any wonder we waste away our most precious time, struggle to be present with our loved ones, and ignore the resolves we made that morning?

This is a huge problem.

Fortunately, routines are the antidote to decision fatigue. When something is routine, it’s requires minimal mental energy. The decision has already been made. Willpower is no longer required. Life is on autopilot. You stop self-sabotaging. Unfortunately, evening routines are much harder to master than morning routines.

In his book, The Compound Effect, Darren Hardy argues that a person’s morning and evening routines are the “bookends” of a prosperous life. Without these bookends, your life will always be a disorganized mess. With them, you’ll create tremendous momentum towards the life of your dreams.

If Your Nights Are Bad, The Rest Of Your Life Will Suffer

As I recently wrote, morning routings are critically important. But your morning routine will always suffer if you can’t master your evenings. The hours before bed dramatically affect how well we sleep. And how we sleep makes or breaks our day.

Even more, how we spend the hours before we go to bed reflects the value we place on the most important things in life. Yes, our work matters. But work is a means to a much higher end—the people in our lives.

Our loved ones deserve more from us. Not only do they deserve better, but we deserve better. If we can take control of our nights, we will quickly change the entire course of our lives. We will also experience the rejuvenation and joy that evenings are meant to provide.

Are you ready to change the way you spend your evenings? Are you ready to change your entire life?

Let’s begin:

Unplug 1-2 Hours Before Sleep
“In this media-drenched, multitasking, always-on age, many of us have forgotten how to unplug and immerse ourselves completely in the moment. We have forgotten how to slow down. Not surprisingly, this fast-forward culture is taking a toll on everything from our diet and health to our work and the environment.”—Carl Honore

The line between work and home is becoming increasingly hazy. Between phone calls, email, texting, and social media, it can be extremely difficult to unplug. More often than not, we bring our work home with us. Consequently, we rarely give our full attention to those we love.

Not only do we fail to live in the present, but study after study have found that electronic devices harm our sleep cycles. Dr. Verma advises turning off electronics at least 1-2 hours before bedtime (even e-ink devices like Kindle or Nook). Two hours is best, even though impractical for many people.

Mariana Figueiro and her team of the Lighting Research Center at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute have shown that two hours of iPad use at maximum brightness can suppress people’s regular nighttime release of melatonin—a hormone in the circadian system which is the body’s clock.

Melatonin signals to your body that it is night, helping you become sleepy. When that signal is delayed you could delay sleep. Doing this frequently over a long period of time can disrupt the circadian system often inflicting serious health consequences.

Eat The Right Foods, Sparingly
You’ve been told eating before bed will make you fat. That’s not exactly true. On the contrary, a light snack before bed can help you sleep more soundly without gaining weight—if you eat the right foods. Of course, if you regularly eat the wrong foods (like chips, cookies, or anything sugary) before bed, you will likely gain fat weight.

Stephanie Maxson, senior clinical dietician at the University of Texas’s MD Anderson Cancer Center, explains that if you eat dinner a few hours before bedtime and/or are physically active, snacking before bed will help stabilize your blood sugar levels during the long, meal-less night. Blood sugar and its related hormones can either boost or deflate your appetite and energy levels. Moreover, they can confuse your body’s efforts to store or burn fat. If you have low blood sugar when you wake up in the morning, you will likely feel lethargic. Furthermore, low blood sugar can disrupt your sleep in the middle of the night causing you to be in and out of sleep.

Cassie Bjork, a registered dietician and founder of HealthySimpleLife.com says it’s a myth that the body doesn’t need fuel before sleep. The right bedtime snack provides fuel your body needs to burn calories while you sleep in addition to releasing hunger hormones that cause your body to store fat.

Recommended night time snacks include:

Complex carbohydrates like whole wheat bread
Non-starchy vegetables
Popcorn
Fruit
Maxson explains that these foods break down slowly, which stops blood sugar spikes or crashes that disturb sleep and appetite.

For athletes, lean protein, such as turkey and chicken, facilitate muscle repair during the night while also providing tryptophan, an essential amino acid which promotes healthy sleep.

Additionally, healthy fats before bed can also slow the absorption of carbohydrates into your system. If you commonly wake up tired or hungry, eat some avocado, a spoon full of peanut butter, or some melted butter on your popcorn.

Account, Report, And Prepare For Tomorrow
At the end of each day, it is good to spend 5-10 minutes reviewing your day, briefly recording what happened, and making proper plans for tomorrow.

Reviewing your day keeps you accountable to yourself. Did you do all you planned to do? If you can’t be accountable to yourself, who can you be accountable to?

Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism, writes in his journal daily to record his experiences, insights, and memories. He recommends writing far less than you want to—only a few sentences or paragraphs at most. Like most people who regularly journal, you’ll be tempted to write down every detail. This could take several minutes or even over an hour. If you do this, you’ll burn out quickly and stop after a day or two. It’s much better to jot down the key things every day. Before you know it, you’ll have several journals filled recording each day of your life.

Lastly, you quickly assess your planner and to-do list for tomorrow. This includes visualizing how your day will go. Olympic swimmer, Michael Phelps claims that visualization is the key to his athletic success. He often speaks of his intense mental visualizations of a perfect swim the night before a race as being intimately tied to the wins that follow.

Have Moments With The People You Love
“The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.”—Harriet Beecher Stowe

Happiness comes from embracing the now. Not letting those moments pass you by. Nothing in life is permanent. Kids grow up. Friends move away. Our loved ones pass on from this life. Let’s live in the present and appreciate the most important things in our lives before it’s too late.

For most of us, it is our evenings that we get to spend with the people we love. If we don’t make that a priority, and guard it from other things (including our own exhaustion and distraction), we won’t do it.

It has been said that you can know a person’s priorities by looking at their planner. We plan our meetings, our lunches, and our workouts. Yet, most of us have never taken the time to put our loved ones into our planners.

Enjoy Your Hobbies
Most of our day is spent working. It can be difficult to spend time doing things that provide joy and variety to our lives. It’s easy to brush these things off in our increasingly busy lives. Often, it is touted and praised to not have hobbies and to work ceaselessly. Yet, balance is key to happiness and success. Being serious all the time can increase stress and ultimately lead to depression.

Making time for playful relaxation can facilitate inspiration, gratitude, and even flow. Consequently, spending 30 or so minutes at night on a hobby can rejuvenate you and add some fun into your life.

Tidy Up Your House
A common practice among successful business people is tidying up their workspace before they leave the office. That’s because nobody enjoys the feeling of walking into a mess.

Similarly, taking a few minutes to tidy up your house before going to bed allows you to sleep in a clean space and wake up to a clean environment. This will reduce stress and decision fatigue. It also facilities positive energy in the morning, which is essential for maintaining happiness and balance throughout the day.......................
http://www.familyparliament.com/222/8-things-every-person-should-do-after-8-p-m

Hmmnn!time will tell

feaz:
"your humility is infectious... " that line is
everything.

God bless Dr. GEJ

Amen,God will save more celebrities in Jesus name

DuchessLily:
Halleluyah!!!!!!!!

If its true, I'm so happy for him! Congrats sir. There is rejoicing in heaven

that is why I always advise women to get better marriage knowledge at www.familyparliament.com

dovelike:
O chukwu. Herbalist denies giving her a poison. Lol that's hilarious.

Seriously parents need to stop getting too involved in their children lives. Give them the basics,nurture them and watch them grow. Don't make decisions for them,it's no longer their lives if you do that.

Seventeen year old bride? "Slow" man kwa?

Adewale Ayuba, a renowned Fuji music artiste, is not only a born-again Christian but the day he decided to follow Jesus Christ remains the happiest day of his entire life. Speaking with News of the People during an interview in honour of his 50th birthday, Ayuba said he had since realised that the essence of life is to worship God. “I will not lie to you. When I remember the day I gave my life to the Lord Jesus Christ, I am happy, the day I became a born again, that was my happiest day. Now I realise this life is to worship God,” he said. Asked how he came about the decision, he said he could not precisely state how it happened: “It’s what brought me to Fuji music. I don’t know. I remember I had a lot of Islamic clerics who came to pray for me and when they left, I would still go to my room to read the Bible. “I think my conviction was in the Bible. It got to a stage that my children would be laughing. They would say, ‘Daddy, choose one’. But I did not want to pick like you said, because of Fuji. It has Islamic origin, my background, how would my family feel? “I didn’t want to offend this; I didn’t want to offend that but I discovered that religion or belief has nothing to do with your musical life and no one says we are listening to your music because of your personal life or so.” On the significance of his golden jubilee, he said life now has a different meaning to him, as he now takes each day as it comes, focuses on God and takes things easy. “I thank God because it’s a big opportunity. It’s only God that can make one get to that age. I thank God for His mercy over my life and I am grateful to God for the door of understanding that He opened to me. I am always conscious of the fact that we did not come to this world with anything and we are not going with anything,” he said. “I see life as a very simple thing now; I am not in a haste or say I must have this, I must have that. The important thing to me is that I need to enjoy myself. That is key. If care is not taken, you will just keep on looking for this, you want to become that, till you get to your old age and just die or you begin to regret when you get to 70 or 80 that I have never been to Dubai for holiday, I only go there to perform or I have never been to London for two weeks holiday, I only go there to perform. When you go to a place to perform, it’s your work, so you must arrange a date that oh, I am going to London for holiday. I take my children on holiday and it’s not work, work, and work. Now that I am 50, I will do more of that.” He also spoke on the choice of his wife, a south-easterner whom he met in the United States, and how his parents accepted her without prejudice to her ethnic origin. “God connected me with my wife. I saw my wife in New York at my school’s Cafeteria, and I told my friend who was beside me, that is my wife,” he said. “We returned to eating our food and by the time we raised our heads, it was the lady who was standing in front of us. She asked if we were Nigerians, and we answered in the affirmative. Then she asked us to go to room 202 that we were trying to gather and all that. Eventually, we introduced ourselves and I discovered she lived two buildings from my house and that was how God did it. “I thank God because, my parents didn’t care [that she is Igbo]. When I took her to my mother, she greeted her but she could not respond, then I told my mum that my wife did not understand Yoruba. She held her head and prayed for her. That was all.” On managing advances from female fans, he said: “Let me tell you, it takes two to tango. Everything comes with a compliment. Things that will take you down start with a compliment and things that will take you up come with a compliment; it’s for you to decide which one you want to do. “Okay, you see a lady telling you Mr. Johnson, I love the way you dress and so on. You say ‘thank you’ and you did not even wait. I have not seen a man that was raped. If you don’t take a woman to a corner, nothing can happen. Some people would say because I am a public figure, they want to date me and there is nothing I can do. It’s a pure lie. It takes two to tango.
http://www.familyparliament.com/201/adewale-ayuba-now-a-born-again-christian

http://www.familyparliament.com/195/help-my-husband-is-hooked-on-porn
A lady sent this to me,please lets help her,

I have been married for 4 years and I recently noticed that my hubby has been asking for some bizarre s*x styles but he never seems to get satisfied until he began to ask us to watch p0** together. I was forced to oblige but even at that things have not gotten better and at the moment he spends several hours doing p0** and soliciting for nude pictures from unknown girls. Please what do I need to do to save my marriage because I am afraid for my 3-year-old girl.
http://www.familyparliament.com/195/help-my-husband-is-hooked-on-porn

Job-related stress is unavoidable in any line of work. The effects of too much stress buildup, however, can be detrimental to you and your career.

The average workweek has increased to about 47 hours, and with that comes increased stress. Workplace stress can have a significant impact on your work performance, quality of work, and relationships with coworkers and superiors
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Stress expert Kathleen Hall, founder and CEO of The Stress Institute and Mindful Living Network, helps people manage their physical and mental stress. She offers science-backed tips on creating balance and reducing stress.

Hall says "people are so overbooked, overworked, and overwhelmed they can only remember simple, quick tips."

To make it easy, she says to remember ACE: Awareness. Choice. Experience.

Awareness
"Become aware of your stress triggers," Hall says. "Each person is different, and we respond to different stress triggers."

It's important to complete this first step and acknowledge the roots of your stress. Hall suggests writing down three situations that bring you the most stress, like deadlines, a relationship, or a job task.

Choice
The next step is "choosing one stress of the above stressors that you would like to alleviate," Hall says.

This will help you segue into the final phase and can provide you with an in-depth look at one of your stress triggers.

Experience
Once you have chosen one of your stress triggers, Hall offers four tips (and another acronym) to help you get through it.


You should "experience SELF-care," she says.

1. Serenity: There are multiple ways to create self-serenity, starting with your breathing.

"Clear your mind by focusing on your breath," Hall says. "Inhale to the count of 1-2-3-4, and exhale to 1-2-3-4. This reduces the production of stress hormones."

A short-term option is downloading an app to help you, perhaps one that plays nature or ocean sounds, Hall says. A long-term solution can be meditation or yoga.

2. Exercise: "Any form of exercise reduces your stress right away," Hall says. "Go for a short walk or stand up at your desk and do some stretches."

3. Love: "Connecting with other people reduces your stress," Hall says. She suggests you go to lunch or spend other time with your coworkers, friends, or neighbors.

4. Food: Food choice can play a major role in your stress levels. Consuming things like sugar, salt, and alcohol can increase your stress levels, she says.

Hall advises eating foods rich in vitamin B6, such as bananas, nuts, turkey, or tuna. She also recommends opting for whole grains, blueberries, and oatmeal.
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Even if she say so,that will only be for the first night on your wedding day.

Cutehector:
I just pray my future wife won't be telln me to close my eyes wen she wants to change or go hide in d bathroom to wear her cloth...

Anybody who tells you that life won't change after you get married is lying... or they've never been married. Even if you've been living together for a couple of years, things change after the honeymoon. The first year of marriage can be hard, but if you know what to expect and you're prepared for it, it's a lot easier to tackle and enjoy. Here are a few changes you can definitely expect:
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1. Your friendships
You relationships with your girlfriends will change — especially if you're first in your crew to get married.



2. Your privacy expectations
You may have to ask some friends to give you back their copies of your keys and tell your besties not to flop on your bed or dig through your drawers, even if they've been doing it for 15 years.

3. Holiday season
Holiday plans are no longer assumed and may become more of a negotiation. You'll probably find yourself hosting more of them at your house in order to include everyone and keep the peace. For many couples, the first Thanksgiving and Christmas are political quagmires.

4. Your spending habits
No more shopping on a whim for expensive items, you'll have to coordinate all of your financial matters as a couple. There will have to be a budget (hopefully a somewhat flexible one) and you have to be completely honest about your spending with each other.

5. Your bank accounts
You're not financially "independent" anymore — you're half of a couple. You need to create a joint checking account and put each other on all of each other's accounts, not forgetting to change beneficiaries on existing paperwork at your office and financial institutions. You have to establish a savings plan and financial goals.

6. Your schedule
Hopefully, the two of you are sharing household chores and responsibilities, but whether it's work or play, you'll be spending more time together. And you have two families you're obligated to spend time with and professional obligations you must attend as a couple. Even if you've been together awhile, how much time these things consume will double.

Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.
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Satoru Iwata, the president of Nintendo, has passed away. He was 55.

Nintendo announced the tragic news in a brief statement, listing his cause of death as “a bile duct growth.”

Iwata’s health had been declining for some time. In 2014, he missed the E3 conference in Los Angeles on advice of his physician. He underwent what was believed to have been successful surgery shortly thereafter.
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Iwata’s career began as a developer with Nintendo subsidiary HAL Laboratories, where he worked on popular Nintendo games such as Balloon Fight and Earthbound. He became president of HAL in 1993. Seven years later he became the head of corporate planning at Nintendo proper, a title he held for only two years. In 2002, Iwata succeeded longtime company president Hiroshi Yamauchi to become only the fourth president in Nintendo’s history.
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Greatly admired by gamers and peers, Iwata steered Nintendo through some of its brightest days. During his tenure, Nintendo released the DS line of handhelds — the best-selling video game system of all-time — as well as the wildly popular Wii console.

Iwata's friendly demeanor endeared him to countless players. In 2011 he launched a series of Nintendo Direct online events in which he would speak directly to fans and announce new games and updates. His "Iwata Asks" interview series lent fantastic inight into the minds of Nintendo's own game developers.

Iwata's many admirers took to Twitter to share memories and condolences.
Source:Yahoo

Snake is very dangerous ooooooooo! Abegi,make una follow me as I dey get family security from familyparliament.com every day

Eberex:
I was just seated in my office when my colleague came in told me some dude is outside in the street selling a huge snake (as if i'm interested in eating snakes ) Trust me na, seeing is believing and so i zoomed off to check for myself.

This is somewhere around opebi/toyin Round-about. And he was selling like its normal.

I wanted to approach him and suggest he take it to Chinese Restaurant not too far from there, but i said to myself ''wtf...who knows, someone who needed it more might come along and buy it.

Lagos: Is there anything that is unsaleable?

Because I want my children to be great,that is why I don't miss familyparliament.com daily

sud12:
Hmmmm....May God bless us...so dat dey will also refer to our Children in dat manner!!!